I am 4teen years old, and I attend Voorhees High School, which makes me a freshman. I do not drink or smoke. I do it by choice; unlike most of you who do it because you think it makes you look hxc. I am a cheerleader. Go ahead laugh. You have no idea what we do, or how much effort we put into what we do until you try and fail. So don't talk shit about something you have never even attempted. I have a pretty decent life. I have two best friends. Caroline Korba and Casey Scarlets. I could sit here and blab on about how much my friends are my [everything] unfortunently I'm not one of those people who opens up to the world and makes close friends at first glance. These people who claim that they would die without their friend sicken me. Are you that dependent on the feelings of others? I have my close friends, and I'll always be here for them. But I'll also give them a cold shoulder when I know they need to take the situation in their own hands. Its not mean its facing reality. We all need to learn to find our own self reliance.
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i'm a sophmore in high school and have been going out with my gf since september. we go to different schools but they are pretty close only like 20 minutes awayy. she said shae doesnt want me to talk to her friends from skool which is weird, cuz i actually introduced her to friends from my skool. her friends are never around or with us when we hang out but i've met them a few times. is it wrong for her to do that, tellm e i cant talk to her friends? (link)
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thats really wrong. shes either ashamed of you. or is playing you. talk to her about it. tell her you dont think its right. be straight.
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I really like this guy, my really good friend, who is taken but he doesn't know it. I got him something for Valentine's Day, but obviously, I haven't given it to him yet... I'm wondering if I still should. I'm giving things to other people (both ladies and guys). It's nothing big, I mean what I got for him. Maybe I shouldn't give it to him... or? I don't know... I really want to but it might seem a little wrong. Should I? Or I shouldn't? (link)
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Do it.
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i had some drama within my group of friends. me and my 2 bffls told some of our other friends how it annoyed us that they always talk about their amazing sleepovers infront of us and we're never invited. They all hate me now, and they really dislike my 2 friends, but since i did most of the talking, they especially hate me. They said some really mean stuff about me and even said they "never liked me." i know i shouldn't care about girls who pretended to be my friends for 3 years, but it really makes me so mad! i have friends on my side too, but i feel so crummy about the things that said about me, calling me a b*tch and a hoe and annoying and stuck up. what should i do? i'm so mad at them!!!
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Tell them that that was how you felt, and you had the right to say that because that is actual fact that they did that to you, [ha sorry i am using a lot of 'thats'] but ask them how they would feel if you did that to them.
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Ok, I'm a 13/f who LOVES helping out the community. I do community work all of the time and I mean I make brownies and other deserts for the hospitals and nursing homes, I do all of my chores and get good grades. BUT I'm not a dork or anything. I mean I go out with my friends on weekends that I'm not helping out with a commuity service project or something. And I have a million friends. And I mean I'm never really happy. But is being too happy, and too helpful a turn off for guys? Because I'm not ugly (I'm a model I can't be ugly) but I still have only had 2 boyfriends in my life. When like EVERYBODY else who I'm friends with has had like at least 10. I rate 5 to any answer. thanks, Samm (link)
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You probably intimidate people, and from what i see, maybe you are to cocky and they might be afraid of not having enough time to hang out with you because you are so buisy.
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ok my friend and i been best friends for 4 years and i dont wanna ruin our friendship but now in middle school shes waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay popular and im not....and i feel like her secertary because people treat me like it eeryday "oh where is ____" or "hows _____?" never a how r u to me and she hardly spends time with me shes always with her popular friends and i feel left out i hav other friends but shes my BEST i feel like im jealouse.. plz help!!! (link)
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Tell her, tell them to stop talking to you if they are going to just use you. Stop letting people walk all over you.
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I really like this girl at school but she is my best friend. I'm scared that if I tell her and she says yes, I know we'll break up. Everyone knows that if you break up with someone you basically aren't friends anymore. Does anyone know what I should do? HELP ME!!! (link)
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Well, just give it a try. If you aren't friends anymore than I am sure in the future you two will start talking again. It's better that she knows though, or ask her friends shes close to ask. Even though thats a little lame, but it won't get you caught into a really bad situation if she doesn't like you back and gets weirded out.
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alright well me and my friend got into some trouble at the mall cause she convinced me to steal a shirt and i did and got caught and they asked her if she had anything and she did but she lied and said no then they asked her if she had anything to do with me and she lied and said no so i got into trouble for her. and ever since then which was on Tuesday - last week, we have been fighting but like i made this modeling thing and we were talking about it and i kinda miss being friends with her. but i promised my mom and my friends not to be friends with her because she got me into trouble. i need help. i dont know whether to not fight with her and have people dissapointed in me or to just give up on her.. ahh please help =[ (link)
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Well, if she was a real friend she wouldn't have gotten you into trouble and gotten herself uninvolved when she was involved. Maybe she will mature when she gets older, just wait it out until she confronts you.
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okay well my friend.. we can say sarah.. well we are pretty close. i love hanging out with her whenever its just me and her or me and her and some of our other friends that are girls. okay but heres the problem. everytime shes with boys they are constinantly grabbing her but she like flirts and acts like she wants it so they do it and then just like ignors me when they are around.. i tried to talk to her about it tonight and she got really mad.. then we got into an arguement and she told her other friend and now that girl doesnt like me now either.. i dunno what to do to make her stop being like that and to get her other friend not to hate me no more.. please help (link)
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Tell her that was really childish of her to say something like that and it was immature, and if she really wants to make other people around her seem like shes a skank then thats her life, and just leave the situation if it really bothers you.
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Last night I found out a friend of mine, whom I haven't really spoken to in awhile, has been diagnosed with cancer and might die. He's left college to live with his parents so he can get treatment and I'd like to write him a letter of support but what do I say? I don't want to make him uncomfortable and I don't want to be morbid, but I do want him to know that I care about him and wish him all the best. (link)
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My best friend has interminable cancer, send him a cute present and a cute card just telling him exactly how you feel, it helps and it won't make him feel morbid or uncomfortable, because it just shows how much people really care about you.
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ok so I have this friend who is over weight. all of my freinds and I are as skinny as a rail. I'm sure it's hard for her but she doesn't show it. So, the other day her and I went to the mall and we saw these ah-dorable string bikinis. Here is the other thing my freinds and I are all 32 As and 34 As. We don't have big chest so we can wear any bathing suit we want and not look like we are "falling out". Well my freind is a 36 B and she always wears string bikinis. Summer is coming fast and I see people look at her at the pool. She seriously looks like she is falling out and she alwasy crosses her arms over her stomach until we get into the pool. I have talked to my mom about this before but it's embaressing to me and my other freinds. We are so comfortable about our shape and it's awkward a lot. Is there a way i can talk to my freind about getting a better bathing suit without her getting mad at me? It's hard for all of us. (link)
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Try taking her shopping and try convincing her that she looks good in the ones she actually does without her 'falling out' and might feel more comfortable in.
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My best friend just found out she has a brain tumor its only 1% cancerous so thats a good thing but I dont know what to tell her I dont want to cry in front of her because Im afraid that will make it worse and I dont want to brush it off and act like I dont care either. Please help me. (link)
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Make her a really cute card!
Give her a teddy-bear or something cute.
Just do little things and remind her your always there for her, she'll be fine.
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i don't even know what i'm asking really, but i'm really upset.
today my friends had a party to watch a movie and they said they called me, but there was nothing on my caller id, no messages, and my cell phone was on and with me and never rang. i really feel forgotten by my friends and really hurt. how can i keep myself from being forgotten again? (link)
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Confront them, and just tell them you know they didn't call. And tell them how you feel, they will realize what they did and invite you next time.
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i used to be the center of attention with my friends..but ever since i started dating my boyfriend i have fallen out of the spotlight it seems. how can i get back in it? (link)
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Through a party, then a lot of people will be talking about that for a little bit. And ask you to through another if its good.
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OK...soo well i've always been pretty close with my boyfriends mom. and well now i dont know what to think. she's never really seen me and her son do anything. but last night she saw me on top of him making out in the hottub...and i dont know whatelse she saw.
is there anything i can do that would hopefully make her not think im a slut and stuff like that? becuase right now she donest think to highly of me (link)
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Well, what does she expect? You to are going out. Just if you really think it bothers her say "I'm sorry that you saw that" or something, but its not like you can hold back, he's your boyfriend and this happens everytime. So just pretend she didn't see it.
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sorry if this is long but anyone who can help me , it would be greatly apprecaited. Alright so it all started out when his boy moved away. but he moved back this year around like julyish and everyone was like curious of what would happen when there family moved back. Like would the old "groups' go back would everhthing be the same. So i made a promise to my friend that i would never ditch her for him. So everything was going good. I liked him right away when he got back and more than a friend but i didnt start hanging out with him till haloween. And as i started hanging out with him , i drifted away from everyone else. My bestfriend and everyone. And now i kinda lost all my friends at church . Oh yea by the way this is at church. and i usually bring my friend so im not like the only girl but she's not always going to be able to come and i want all my old friends back. My friend is mad cause i broke a promise to her. It would be really awkard for me to just go back to them . WHAT DO I DO . i miss them all soo much!
ill rate 5 for any help. (link)
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So basically, your friends are being retarded. They should not make you keep your promises to be friends with them.. Yeah I understand you still want to be friends with them, but just gradually hang out with them and stuff. Invite them to the mall or a movie to see with each other, just spend time with each of them, call the on the phone, talk to the on IM and stuff. Everyone will become close again, it just takes time.
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