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my friends a whore .. sorta
okay well my friend.. we can say sarah.. well we are pretty close. i love hanging out with her whenever its just me and her or me and her and some of our other friends that are girls. okay but heres the problem. everytime shes with boys they are constinantly grabbing her but she like flirts and acts like she wants it so they do it and then just like ignors me when they are around.. i tried to talk to her about it tonight and she got really mad.. then we got into an arguement and she told her other friend and now that girl doesnt like me now either.. i dunno what to do to make her stop being like that and to get her other friend not to hate me no more.. please help <3
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Tell her that was really childish of her to say something like that and it was immature, and if she really wants to make other people around her seem like shes a skank then thats her life, and just leave the situation if it really bothers you.
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ok now this sounds like a similar situation to mine. the truth is that if a friend cant take it when you try to help her then theyre not really a friend. im not saying you should ignore her but maybe its time you tried some new people. your friend will come around. dont worry and good luck
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You can't change people, they have to choose to change and accusing them of being a slut and getting into arguments isn't a great way to persuade someone.
If you are able to talk to your friend again, apologize for hurting her feelings and explain yourself in a non-judgmental way. For instance, don't say, "You are behaving like a slut" but say "I don't like it when people call you a slut because you’re my friend." Don't say she encourages guys and teases them, try "I wish guys showed you more respect."
Can you see the huge difference there? The first lines are blaming her and insulting her, but the second lines explain your problems and your feelings much better.
But she doesn’t have to change just 'cause you wish she would, and her friend doesn’t have to like you just 'cause either. Apologize to the one who you hurt and then just go back to being your friendly self. If she wont change, then maybe you have to reconsider whether you want to be thier friend or not.
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hey..
i totally understand where your coming from...one of my friends was just like that..
what i did..was be straight forward with her..i told her she was acting like a slut and people are saying shes a slut ..and i told her EXACTLY how i felt.. and it workd, you should do the same with your friend..explain to her that your possibly worried because you dont want others to talk about her ..or something like that...
just be honest ..even if she does get pissy or mad
* as for her friend hating you..tell her straight up that she has no reason to hate you or treat you the way she does..and tell her your not going to take her shit..if she dont like you shell get over it..
you shouldnt care what others think of you as long as your a good person
-hope i helps in any way
*DESiREE*
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