ok so I have this friend who is over weight. all of my freinds and I are as skinny as a rail. I'm sure it's hard for her but she doesn't show it. So, the other day her and I went to the mall and we saw these ah-dorable string bikinis. Here is the other thing my freinds and I are all 32 As and 34 As. We don't have big chest so we can wear any bathing suit we want and not look like we are "falling out". Well my freind is a 36 B and she always wears string bikinis. Summer is coming fast and I see people look at her at the pool. She seriously looks like she is falling out and she alwasy crosses her arms over her stomach until we get into the pool. I have talked to my mom about this before but it's embaressing to me and my other freinds. We are so comfortable about our shape and it's awkward a lot. Is there a way i can talk to my freind about getting a better bathing suit without her getting mad at me? It's hard for all of us.
Vikki27 answered Tuesday February 21 2006, 4:09 pm: You could take her to a shop to look for swimming costumes/bikinis and try to pick out something that would look flattering on her. Vertical stripes are meant to be very slimming.
However, if she is comfortable with her appearence then perhaps you don't want to be challenging that? Most people who are overweight refuse to even go to a swimming pool for fear of people laughing at them, whereas your friend has the dignity and self confidence to go in spite of this and wear what she wants. She may not look the same as you and your friends but perhaps rather than criticise and try to change her, you should be proud of her for not caring what other people think and doing what she feels comfortable with. If only more people in the world could be the same, a lot less people would suffer unnecessarily at the hands of others. [ Vikki27's advice column | Ask Vikki27 A Question ]
Nallie answered Monday February 20 2006, 11:59 pm: I personally believe that if you are quite comfortable with your own appearance it shouldn't matter how anyone else looks. Accept your friend just like she is and for who she is in spite of how she looks in a bathing suit. If she isn't embarrassed why should you be? Don't say anything and let her wear what she wants. [ Nallie's advice column | Ask Nallie A Question ]
fish34 answered Monday February 20 2006, 10:39 pm: Instead of telling her that string bikinis look bad on her, pick out something that you think would look good on her and tell her "I think that this would look SOO adorable on you!" and when she tries it on give her compliments, etc. This'll make her feel good about herself and she'll be more willing to try something new. ^_^ [ fish34's advice column | Ask fish34 A Question ]
BRUNETTE__BABiE__CAKESZ answered Monday February 20 2006, 9:48 pm: hey well what i would do is have you and your other skinny friends try on tankinis. even tho you dont like them. just make her think its the " in " thing to do. after she leaves just return the tankinis and then have her wear them and you can go back to string. but if it helps her maybe you guys could wear tankinis. also a black bathing suit would prob. be the most flattering on her. also to avoid all this you could just tell her that maybe she would look more attractive in a tankini. cait ♥ [ BRUNETTE__BABiE__CAKESZ's advice column | Ask BRUNETTE__BABiE__CAKESZ A Question ]
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