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I'm 15/f... Two years ago I was cast aside by my best friends for something out of my own control and I also got asked to leave the Christian school. Of course two years later I am going to a public school, have new friends and new life all that. But the people i left back at my old school that screwed me over are living the highschool life i wish I was living, it's all to easy for them. Is it because god just hates me?It doesn't make sense and it irks me to no end... it's two years I should be over this mess.
Sorry for the long question
thanks in advance
You probably won't like my answer. I'm not trying to be judgmental but it may sound that way.
From what I understand, you have nothing to complain about. So you don't have it as easy as your old friends. You still have it a lot better than most people in the world! Take a look at the big picture and be grateful for what you have.
I'm not saying that you should be totally selfless and become a Saint. Life is hard for everyone, it's just that everyone has different perspectives on what "hard" is. And sometimes life (or God, if you prefer), throws us challenges. And we have to rise to those challenges, and conquer them. Doing so will make you stronger as a person.
Isn't Christmas about the birth of Jesus and one of God's biggest miracles? So why do most atheist still celebrate it?
Well, a lot of Atheists were raised in Christian homes, and other members of their families are still Christian. Christmas is a time to spend with family, no matter what you believe.
Or, they might like the celebration of Christmas even if they don't believe in the religion. I knew a Buddhist girl who did this as well.
Also, Christmas has become so commercialized that, to many people, it's all about shopping for presents and "making the children happy".
I was raised Atheist, still am one, and we always celebrated Christmas in my home. For background, my father was raised Catholic and my mother was raised Protestant. They both changed their beliefs. I'll tell you that for us, it wasn't about presents and shopping, it was just for tradition, and to have a nice day that we would spend together, and to see family that we wouldn't ordinarily see. They did not hide the Christian meaning of the holiday from me. In fact, sometimes we would go to church on Christmas Eve. Even if you aren't religious, going to church sometimes can be nice.
History lesson time! I'll try not to rant. The 25th of December was originally a Pagan holiday, which was then made into "Christmas" by Christians trying to convert other people. This happens with all religions, as they spread, they tend to take over smaller religious groups. It is not always done forcefully, sometimes different religions simply integrate and blend their ideas.
So, when people today change their beliefs but still want to keep some things from the religion they were brought up in, it's really just blending of ideas.
I think the most important thing about Christmas is not the god you believe in, but just helping and loving people (though we should all do that year round, not just at Christmas). Yes, it is technically about the birth of Christ, but it also means different things to different people.
Also, there are no widely known Atheist holidays (or unholidays, whichever you prefer). Lately people have made attempts, but it will take a few centuries of tradition to get the ball rolling.
I am a Christian but my entire group of friends is not. I want to tell them about Jesus or my faith, but I constantly find myself afraid of their disapproval, but I need to because it won't be long before I become tempted to go against my beliefs. How do I make my stand?
Have they been picking on you because of your beliefs? Have they been trying to get you to convert from Christianity?
If they're good friends, the answer is no.
Now, I am an atheist, and some Christians that I know have tried to "tell me about their faith". But it really feels like they're telling me to change my ways! Which I don't want to do, any more than you do. Even if it's completely innocent to them, to me it is rude, and just plain hurtful. It always causes problems in my relationships.
One of my friends when I was little Christian and VERY religious. It sometimes caused minor problems, but for the most part we just accepted our differences. The only reason that friendship didn't last was because I moved away. But now, my very closest friend is Catholic, and we think of each other as sisters. We talk about religion sometimes, but because we're true friends, it never causes an argument. We disagree about some things. Oh well. And even though we spend so much time together, neither of us caused the other to change their world completely. So, it is possible to have friendships with people of different beliefs!
If your friends are really your friends, they won't disapprove. If you want, try talking about it with one friend first, the one you trust most. However, if you approach it the wrong way, you will end up insulting them and causing a fight. Do not make it seem as if your way is better. Do not make it seem like you're trying to change them. Basically, do not PREACH to them!
Honestly, the chances are, they already know all about Christianity! They might have parents who were or are Christian, they may have been Christian when they were kids but after much thought decided to take a different path. And I don't know if you are in the US or not, but it's a VERY Christian country. Non-Christians do not live under rocks! We are exposed to this religion every day, many of us have been to Church, read the Bible, etc. We also have pretty much the same morals that you do, we just believe in them for a reason other than "Jesus says...."
However, I also know how frustrating it is when the people you love don't understand you! If you can't talk about this with your friends without it turning ugly, you need to find some new friends. And I don't necessarily mean Christian ones, just nicer ones. I think it's great to be friends with people outside of your own faith!
I think you'll be fine if you remember that it's not all about you. If you want to share your beliefs, you need to be able to listen if they choose to share theirs! You will end up learning a lot more about each other, and understanding each other in new ways. I probably could have just told you that without typing out the rest, but oh well. :)
okay please dont answer if you cant handle this subject!Also please dont answer if your going to start preching to me because ill jus rate you a 1!!mmmk! so i was talking to my bf and he said that his mom somedays made him read the bible and he asked me do i read it and i said no.then he asked me did i go to church and i said no and he said well thats bad because your probably not going to go to heaven.then this girl who sits next to me who i am friends with who is very religious(dads a preacher)had to jump into the conversation and add her two cents.she started preachen about how if you dont beleieve in god your going to hell and blah blah blah.i simply told them i dont really beleive in jesus and that whole heaven and hell thing! then these other to girls jumped into the conversation to add some of there two cents.they said its common sence that if you dont beleive in jesus your going to hell and i said again that i just dont beleive in that stuff.then the girl sitting besid me started telling me about how she had seen and been through stuff...like she said that she knew somebody that had died and come back from the dead.i just kind of looked at her and was like,yeah sure whatever you say and tried to end the conversation there!I just want to know why people get so jumpy on the subject! why do people constantly try to convince u that jesus is real?!?i take civics and it clearly says in the 1st amendment "freedom of religion" so why are people constantly trying to get people to beleive in that stuff?!?then people start to get mad because i dont beleive in all that and i dont go to church!honestly the theory that are bodies disinigrate and become part of the earth is more logical then- there is a GOD in the sky that tells people if they diserve to go to a good place if they have been good or a bad place if they have been bad!and another thing...the bible was not written by GOD!it was written by a bunch of people who wanted to make it for whatever reason! so yeah...i dont get mad at people if they beleive in all of that but i dont understand why people get mad at me because i dont! its absolutely completely immposible to talk to these danm ignorant people about christianity!!!all they do is argue about how were going to hell!!!there is no hell to go to so it really doesnt matter!!!!i just wish some people would leave it alone!!why do they feel they are right in every way and everyone should beleive in jesus! i just would like to know a good way to deal with these kind of situations if i ever do get into one again which i probably will! i do not want to start going off at the mouth which sometimes i badly do want to because there so ignorant and stuborn but i do want to get my point across so any advice?!?!?
I definitely know where you're coming from, but I gotta say: don't even try. You will never make them see eye to eye with you. Religion is one subject that should never be discussed in public, because it will ALWAYS start a fight, and it has been starting fights for centuries. I personally hate it when people talk to me about religion and try to make me realize that their way is better--and it's very hurtful when they say I'm going to hell. I don't believe in hell, but it makes me upset that they place going to Church over actual morals and doing the right thing simply because it's right. It sucks, I know. It's like they're forcing their religion on you. But, you must also realize that you are also being ignorant. And I've been there, too. Not every Christian is like this, just the ones you know. I know a lot of wonderful Christians who do not try to force their beliefs on me. But I also know some of the sucky ones. It seems like you're pretty young, maybe they'll get over it when they get older. Or maybe not. But the best you can do right now, is to tell them that you don't want to fight over religion, so you should agree to disagree and not talk about it again. You will not be able to educate them on why it's okay to not believe in Jesus any more than they are going to convince you that you must believe. So if it's going to start a fight every time you talk about it, and it will, find something else to talk about. If they keep bugging you, just stop listening.
EDIT: Also, a person who is clinically dead CAN come back to life if they are revived immediately. And it's not as uncommon as you would think. So the girl who said that was probably telling the truth.
The other night me and my friends did a weejee board (not sure how spelt) and it really worked. It was sooo scary. We want to do it again, because these are people like my friends dads and uncles and stuff and they just wanna keep talking to them. Does anyone know if there are any risks of playing this game...or any important things i should know about it?
Ouija boards can't do anything to you. They are toys...good fun for playing pretend, but that's all they are. Look closely. They have a logo on them. They are mass-produced and made by machines. There are no spirits in them.
People tend to freak themselves out. If you start thinking, "There's a ghost in my house." you will start to hear noises and see things move. It's just your mind playing tricks on you. The only risks are in your head.
So just tell yourself that it isn't real. One of your friends is probably a trickster and moved it.
-Lili :D