Although I am only 18 I have been through more than most adults have. If you have any questions about drugs, suicide, or family problems then I can help you out a lot. I've had to deal with all of that and I want to try and help people before they get as involved in it as I was. I will try to understand your situation the best that I can and give the best advice that I can. So ask me anything and I will answer you.
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I had NO idea. Over the last few years, since my family moved to where we are now (it's been 5 years), my sister hasn't been making the greatest friends and gets in fights with them a lot, but I didn't know she was turning into such a bad kid. I'm 15 years old, I've never touched alcohol and neither have most of my friends, never even thought about smoking or drugs or anything.
My sister is 12. I know it's wrong to snoop but I looked at her journal thing cause she left it out and every single line is something bad she did. She drinks beer when no one is home or when she is with friends. She steals cigarettes from my mom, gives them to her friends, and she has tried one. Apparently she cut herself once.
What the hell do I do? I have never really had anything bad happen to me before and I feel like it's all my fault. I have tried to just not pay attention to her ever since she started annoying me a few years ago so we rarely talked. And now that I realize how much this has come to I'm shaking. I'm scared and confused and sad and guilty and just shocked at everything. How could she be this screwed up? I can't imagine ANYONE having that many problems and still no one would know for this long, let alone a TWELVE YEAR OLD. This is unbelievable and I don't know what to do. I will feel so weird going to my parents with this because all along they've been saying I need to be the one to straighten her out (just because her friends were mean, they have no idea about the rest), and I tend to push away problems and convince myself they aren't there, to let other people deal with them. So now it all boils down to me and I have no clue what I'm going to do. This is the most bizarre feeling I have ever had.
How could she? I don't even know how to phrase anything I want to break down and cry. Who corrupts their life like that at 12 years old? She's in SIXTH GRADE!
Please help me! I am so confused I don't know what to do!!!! (link)
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You need to talk to her. Tell her that you know what she's been doing and that you are concerned. She is going to be upset that you went through her things but she will get over it. You also need to talk to your parents. It is not your responsibility to "straighten her out" it is theirs. She will be mad at you for talking to them but you have to. She is obviously going through something or trying too desperately to fit in and she needs help before it is too late. She is walking down a dangerous patha and if you ignore it and let it escalate then it could become VERY dangerous. She obviously has someone who loves and cares about her very much and you need to show her that. It won't be easy she will most likely be upset with you and your parents for a little while but it will be worth it when things get better and you know that your sister is safe.
Good luck hope thing work out
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me and my mom dont have a very good relationship! i am 13! i want to tell her so many things but i am usually too embarrassed to tell her! there isnt really anybody else to talk to about stuff! i want to be able to tell her what happens at school and who i am going out with! i would also like to get her to let me go to the movies on friday nights! dont say jsut talk to her about it bc i cant! its not that easy! thanx! (link)
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There are other ways of communicating other than just talking. If you are uncomfortable talking to your mom. Try writing her a note. Tell her that you would like to start a new relationship with her. You want to start from scratch. Tell her that you want to be able to communicate with her without being embarrassed or feeling uncomfortable. You are going to need to talk to her eventually and this will probably be easier than talking to her face to face if you are uncomfortable. It will help you break the ice. I'm sure that she went through a lot of the things that you are going through and will want to hear what you have to say and wont to give you advice on things. She's probably just as uncomfortable as you are and just doesn't know how to start a convo with you. You should really try writing a letter tell her something small at first. Maybe tell her about something that happened in school. Once she sees that you want to talk to her she will open up more too.
Good luck and I hope everything works out
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My brother died a week ago and at first I didn't do anything it was like I couldn't think or function at all. Then I just cried for like a day. Now it's like he's all I can think about. I lived with him. My parents died when I was really little and my brother basically raised me. I've always cut but not as bad as I have been lately. It's like I can't stop everday when I get home from school I cut all day in school I think about my brother and it makes me want to cut. My friend knows about my brother but she doesn't know about the cutting. I'm scared to tell her because I dont' want to be put somewhere or have to go to a shrink. I really like cutting. I've heard some bad stuff about it but I just don't see why it's so bad. I know that she'll see the bad side of it and try to stop me or get me "help" but I don't need it or want it. I know my friend and I feel about not telling her the truth so should I tell my friend what I've been doing or should I just keep it a secret? (link)
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First of all I'm soo sorry that you've had to go through all of this and I know what's it's like to want to cut. But listen you need to stop. I know it makes you feel better and I know you think that it's helping you but it's not. There are better ways to deal with the pain that you are feeling. Cutting is not the solution. If you tell your friend she will probably try to help you or get you proffesional and it sounds to me like that's exactly what you need. You need help. You may not want to admit it but you do. Think about your friend. What happens if you accidently cut yourself too deep and you end up in a hospital or dead? How do you think that will make her feel? If she cares about you which I think she does then it will hurt her. If you had a friend who was hurting themselves would you want to get them help? These are questions that you have to answer for yourself. Once you know what you would do if you were in her shoes then you can make this situation better for yourself. You need to tell you friend and you need to let her help you.
Good luck and I hope things get better for you
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my dad recently died and i cried a lot when it happened but the day after i didnt really cry but i think about it a lot. I was wondering if if it is wrong not to be crying and should be. (link)
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It's not wrong that you're not crying. People deal with these types of things in their own ways. Just because you don't cry for him all the time doesn't mean that you're doing anything wrong. You cried for him the day it happened and you probably will cry for him again. You loved your dad and don't worry about crying for him. It will happen when it happens just don't hold it in if you need to cry then let it out. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope things get better for you.
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I'm 14, and a girl. We just found out that my grandpa had cancer about a month and a half ago. We knew something was wrong but we weren't sure what. It was too bad when we found out so the medicine didn't do anyghing. Hes slowly getting worse and can die any day now. My whole family is devestated and sometimes i just can't take the feeling i get inside. =( My boyfriends grandma had an anurism and then 3 strokes, and now she's dying too, and it's going to happen the same way (go into a comma and stop breathing) and around the same time. We live in jersey but his grandmas in florida so he just went down there. I don't have him with me when i need him most and im just really upset. My cousin on my other side of the family doesn't care about anything that's happening to me, and he's hated me for the past 9 monthes because im going out with his friend! He won't even talk to me now, and he even has my step-sister on his side. I'm just really upset and i don't know what to do. Sometimes i just break down and cry which sort of helps, but is there anything else? Please help me, Im soo upset! Thank you (link)
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First I am so sorry that this is happening to you.
Try to just be near your grandfather as much as you can. Talk to him and tell him that you love him. Even if he doesn't remember you it will help you to just talk to him and it will be good for him too. Is there anyway that you can call your boyfriend so that you can at least talk to each other and get your feelings out that way? That will probably help you get through this too. This is going to be hard for you and your family and the best way to get through it is to talk about how you're feeling and cry. If your cousin wants to be an ass then don't have anything to do with him for right now. Try not to even think about him. You have enough things to worry about right now and you don't need to be worrying your childish cousin. Again I'm soo sorry that this is happening and it will be tough and I know how hard it is to lose someone you love but you CAN get through it.
Good luck and I hope things get better for you.
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Im a 14 year old girl and last year, my cousin broght his best friend to one of my family pool partys. My cousins a year younger than me, but his friend/neighbor was my age. We talked all night and had a great time. We hung out other times too and became best friends. We've been going out for 9 monthes now but my cousin HATES it! At first he was makin fun of us, but he's been trying to break us up ever since. I'm not trying to take my bf away from my cousin, but my cousin thinks i am. I love my bf soo much and i want to spend as much time with him as i can, but i do let them hang out alone sometimes. My bf is getting kinda pissed at my cuz and he'd rather b with my sometimes, but my cuz is soo pissed and he like treats my bf like shit when hes soo nice to him. My cousin thinks i treat him bad, by going out with his friend and it really upsets me, is there anything i can do? Thanks! (link)
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Talk to your cousin. Ask him why he's being such an ass about this. He needs to know that you love your bf and that he loves you and that neither of you have a problem with that fact that your bf is friends with your cousin. He needs to know that you don't care if they spend time together and that you understand that sometimes they want to hang out without you around. He also needs to know what your bf thinks of this. If he continues to treat your bf like shit and acts like an ass then he won't want to hang out with him. You are not doing anything by going out with his friend. You're not keeping them from being friends you give them time to hang out without you around so you are doing absolutely nothing wrong. Talk to your cousin and have your bf do it too.
Good luck and I hope things work out.
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Ok. First, my sister is graduating this year. Second, im getting ignored a lot lately. Its been really bugging me and i cant stand it. All my parents talk about is my sister and how shes growing up. Im not jelous but it would be nice for my family to acknowledge me once and awhile. I love my sister and im gonna miss her when she goes to college but shes not the only one on the planet right now... should i talk to my sister and parents about it or what??? UGH! (link)
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First it's not your sisters fault so don't be mad at her, but you should talk to her about how you've been feeling lately. Tell her that you are going to miss her and you love her and also tell her that lately you've been feeling ignored and that it's getting to you. She can probably help encourage your parents to pay more attention to you. You should also talk to your parents. Tell them that you understand why they are spending soo much time with her and why they are always talking about her. Then tell them how you've been feeling ignored and how you would like it if they would start to pay a little morea attention to you. Hopefully they will understand where you're coming from and talk to you about it then they will start to pay more attention to you.
Good luck and I hope things work out for you.
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Ever since I was in first grade my mother made me take piano, which I hated so I dropped it in the 5th grade. Since the third grade, I have taken viola, and I am so-so about it, (I'm in seventh grade) because I have played it for so long I don't want to let it go. My mother wants me to quit strings and take chorus next year, because she thinks I have potential there, but I don't want to do that because I feel like I let too many things I could have been good at go. I recently gave my mother a deal- let me start guitar lessons, and then I will totally drop strings and take chorus next year. My mother refused, and I think she did that because she thinks I can't be committed to anything, even though I love guitar to death and I would truly love it instead of being so-so about it like strings. Guitar is just such a lovely instrument that I would be so extremely happy to learn to play it. I love chorus too, but I don't want to make my mother think I'm not committed by jumping out of strings. What can I do? How can I prove I'm worthy of guitar and that I'm actually committed to it? (link)
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Show her that you're commited to it. Start doing research on guitars. What I mean is try to start learning about it before you start taking lessons. If you have a guitar then work on playing it. Practice with it and look things up online and see if you acn do some of the basic things with it. Maybe if your mom sees that you are really willing to learn and that you really want to go through with learning on the guitar she will give you a chance. If your mom doesn't let you get guitar lessons then take chorus but continue to look things up on guitars to show that are truly dedicated to learning. This should show her that you are not going to give up on guitar and you be able to stay involved with music at the same time.
Good luck and I hope things work out for you
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I know this is going to sound really stupid but how do you know if you are REALLY being abused. I mean sometimes parents hit their kids but they don't beat them. So what's the difference between a parent who abuses their kid and one who just hits them sometimes? (link)
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It sounds like you pretty already know the answer to this question but basically any parent who hits their kid is abusive. It's true that sometimes a parent my loose their temper and hit their child once. The kery word there is once. If a kid is being abused it means that their parent(s) is hitting them all the time. Abuse doesn't always have to be physical either sometimes kids are emotionally abused. Their parents will always tell them that they are worthless or are just plain mean to them.
I hope I helped and just in case this is a question that relates to your life...I am here is you ever need to talk.
I hope I helped
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My dad died a month ago and ever since then my mom's been really happy. They used to fight all the time and they were going to get divorced because of it. But ever since he died she's been soo happy and she's been going out with all of these different guys most of which hit me or her. If I ever even mention my dad or I cry about it she starts screaming at me and telling me that I'm a pathetic baby. I loved my dad he was soo good to my mom he tried so hard to make it work between the two of them for me and my older sister (she moved out before he died). I hate my mom she's put us through so much and I just can't stand her. So recently I've been staying with some of my friends a lot and I tried LSD. It was really great and it helped me a lot just to get away from everything that's been going on. I've heard all the horror stories about drugs but I just can't believe that they would be true. Well my question is is there anyway for me to get away from my mom so I don't have to deal with her always being a bitch to me and hitting me? And are drugs really as bad as people make them out to be or are the stories just bullshit like they are for LSD?
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First I just want to say that I am soo sorry about your dad and if you ever need to talk just let me know and I'll be there to talk.
Now, you need to get away from your mom. If she wants to be happy about your father that's her mistake but she has no right to hit you or not consider your feelings. He was your father and no matter what she says you have the right to cry for him and want to talk about it. You need to get out of that house. It's good that you have been staying with a friend but if that friend is the one that got you started with the drugs then you really need to find somewhere else to stay. I know from experience that drugs are as bad as people make them out to be. You obviously had a good trip and I'm not going to lie to you I know what it's like it's an incredible experience but it is not worth it. Once you get caught up in drugs it is extremely hard to get away from it. I've been clean for a year now and it is still extremely hard for me to resist them. If you think drugs will make things better for you you are wrong. They only make things worse.
The stories are not bullshit. Like you the first drug I tried was LSD and it turned me on to other drugs. Pretty soon drugs were my life. I was putting my life and the lives of the people that I loved in danger. If you get caught up in this (which you will if you continue to use) it will not help you it will make your life a living hell. Again if you ever need to talk let me know and I will be there for you.
Good luck and things will get better if you stay away from the drugs.
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sorry is this is long but I really need help so please don't skip over it
Ok my parents have been divorced my whole life I don't even know who my dad is. Well my mom has serious problems with finding guys. They usually beat her or cheat on her. I've had about a dozen stepfathers and all of them treat her like shit and she doesn't deserve that. Well my newest stepfather Richie has been with my mother for 2 years now and she is really happy with him. I've never seen my mom this happy before. He is soo nice to her. But the thing is he has a son (my stepbrother) who is constantly hitting me and raping me. I tried talking to my mom about it and she said that she would talk to my stepdad and my stepbrother. She did and then it stopped for a little while but then he did it again and it was even worse than it was before. He had a couple of his friends over and they thought that it would be fun to beat and rape his 14 year old step sister. I talked to my stepdad and he told me to stop making things up. He told my mother that I was making things up and they sent me to a shrink. Needless to say my stepbrother continued to do these things to me. I confronted my mother again and she told me to talk to my stepdad. I did and he told me that I was lying and that even if I wasn't I needed to get over it because we are a happy family and we all have to make sacrifices I told him that that was wrong and he hit me! Now he's been hitting me too when my mom isn't around. I don't know what to do. She is soo happy and she deserves to be. I don't want to ruin this for her. My question is should I just deal with this so that she can be happy or is there anyway that I can get help without ruining this for her? (link)
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No you shouldn't just deal with this and you should get help no matter what. I don't think that your mom would want this to be happening to you. You need to talk to her. I'm sure that she would not want this to be happening. She didn't allow the men in her life to hit her so I certainly don't think she would want them to be hitting and raping her daughter. You don't deserve that. Think about this if she stays with him and he continues to do this to you he will probably start to hurt her too. He has probably done this kind of thing before because his son is doing it to you. You need to get help ASAP. Talk to your mom and if she won't help you then you need to go to a school counselor or the police you need to get away from those guys or you are going to end up in a hospital or worse you could end up dead. Do you think your mom would want that? That would not make her happy.
Good luck and I hope things get better for you
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Ever since my grandpa died, my family started spliting apart. It's full of hate. One of my uncles is very mean and grumpy towards everyone else now because of his job. He especially takes it out on me. When he critisizes me, I have to keep quiet and agree because if I don't he will yell louder and call me disrespectful. I really do not like him telling me how to live my life and yelling at me for the littlest reasons. I can't talk to him because he is very stubborn. I can't avoid him because he lives next door to me. Someone please help..he's making me feel bad and breaking our whole family apart because of his opinions. (link)
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That's a tough situation to be in. If you talk to back to him then it is disrespectful even if he is completely wrong just for the simple fact that he's older than you. I'm sorry to say that you really can't do anything in this situation but try to ignore him. I know that sucks but I don't see any other way to deal with this. Avoid him as much as possible. You said that you really can't avoid him so that will be hard but maybe you could try to be out with your friends more or just out of the house. Even if you do that you will still probably have confrontations wih him and you really have no choice but to just take it. Depending on how old you are you will probably be able to get away from him in a few years. Until then just avoid him as much as humanly possible and try to ignore him when he critizes you. I'm sorry that I can't be much help but you are in a touch situation.
Good luck and I hope that things get better for you
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I have seen my report card since 8th grade (I'm now in 11th). Ever since my sister started high school (she's a year older than me) she started throwing away both of our report cards because she doesn't want my parents to see them. My parents did notice at first and called the schools and everything and they schools told them that they don't know what's going on because they've been sending them. So, my parents kind of forgot about it. I didn't really care about it but now I do! I have no idea how I'm doing in school. I think I'm failing half my classes but I don't actually know. I have no idea what my GPA is either (we get it in about 3 weeks but I don't know what to expect). It's completely unfair that I don't get so see my report card because my sister doesn't want my parents to see hers. I've told her before to just throw hers away and not mine but she was like "No, then they'll figure it out." I've also tried asking her to at least just let me see it and then she can throw it away. She agreed at first but then "accidentally" threw it away. She already got into the college she wanted to get in and my parents are all proud of her and whatnot so I don't get it! What else should I do? And no, I won't tell my parents about it. Other than this, my sister and I are really close so I don't want to do that to her. (link)
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Go to the school and tell them that you lost or never recieved yours. They should have copies of your grades. Go to a counselor and tell them that you never got one and you would either like to see your grades or would like a copy of your report card. You don't have to show your parents and you can throw it away once you've looked at it so your sister won't get mad at you.
Good luck and I hope it works out
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hey.. i have a VERRRY bad situation. My mom and dad are getting a divorce and i dont know what to do! Is it my fault? What can i do (if possible) to get them back together? i love my mom and my dad but when they yell and scream its hard for me to love either one of them.... plz plz plz help!! Everytime i think about it it makes me cry!! (link)
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Ok first you need to calm down. It's not your fault at all you did nothing wrong so don't ever think that it's your fault. You can't get them back together they have made a decision to split up and you have no control over that. You said that they are always yelling and screaming and that it makes things hard for you. That's most likely why they are getting a divorce they can't be together anymore they don't like the argueing just like you don't like the argueing. Think of it this way would you rather see your parents unhappy together and always fighting or happy away without each other and not having to hear them fight? It's normal to be upset about this they are your parents and you love them you want them to stay together but if they are always fighting then they are better off apart. It doesn't mean that they will love you any less they just can't be together anymore. Try talking to your parents seperately and tell them how you feel. They can probably help you deal with your feelings better than anyone else can. It is going to be difficult but things will get better for you.
Good luck and things will be ok
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when i was born i lived with my grandparents becasue my mom had a bad life. she sold drugs and lived in alot of places wich we not suitable for kids. and so when i was 2 my mom came to my house drunk and kidnapped me. my grandma didnt try to get me beacue my mom was way stronger then her and so she just let me go. * i dont live with my dad becasue when i was born i was a mistiake and my dad is a player* so my mom went to jail and some lady returnded me when my mom was gone *but now me and my mom are okay* . and so when i was 4 it was the FIRST time i ever saw my dad but i couldnt really see him becasue it was like 10 o clock at night and he didnt want to come inside. and after that visit from when i was 4 i counted the days weeks months hours years miutes and seconds from the last time i saw my father. and finally i saw my dad again when i was 10 and he expected me to act like nothing happened and he was like all can i have a hug blah blah blah and my grandpa told him that if he wanted to come that day he just cant leave me again and yes he did.. he didnt come back and i didnt hear from him or anything and im 13 and i havent heard from him in 3 years but its not like i want to or anything. i just have mixed emotions. and im the "tough" one at my school because i dont open up or talk about my feelings. well at night i dream about me and my sister haveing this "Perfect" family with my mom and my dad but then something happends to me and my dream shows a picture of my dad getting killed and my mom dying ( my sister has a different dad and i have like 3 other sisters that have different moms and i dont even know them) but after my dream i wake up with tears in my eyes and me all sweaty. but heres the thing.. i want my life to be good. but i dont want anything to do with my dad and my dad is gonna try and talk to me over the summer and my other grandmaw too but i just dont want to be a part of them. my questions are.. how can i tell them i dont want anything to do with them. and what do i do about these dreams, and how can i open up and talk about my feelings
sorry its long but ill rate 5's to any good answer (link)
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I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I think that you should just talk to your dad. If he is trying to make an effort to see you then talk to him. Tell him that you don't want to see him and then not see him for years. Tell him that if he wants to be a part of your life then he has to be there all the time. About your dreams I think that you should try to talk to someone that you really trust about what you're feeling and maybe they'll stop. Maybe you have a friend that you can talk to who you know will listen to you and help you through this. Maybe evne a school counselor. I think that maybe if you talk about your feelings your dreams will stop.
Good luck I hope I helped a little and I hope that things get better for you
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My brother died 2 weeks ago and I really don't know what to do. I lived with him because my mom died 3 years ago and my dad used to beat and rape me. He was more like a father than a brother to me and I really don't know what to do. I've been staying with my friend until I get a foster family and she is always asking me if I'm ok and I'm really not. I don't know what to do with myself. I even tried drugs and I've been drinking a lot. I just want to kill myself and I'm so scared of what's going to happen next. I love him soo much and he was pretty much all that I had and now he's gone. I haven't even cried because I just can't, does that mean that there's something wrong with me? Why can't I just cry like normal people do when something happens to them? I really think that I'm a horrible because I can't even cry for my own brother. Please help me (link)
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No, there is nothing wrong with you. Just because you can't cry doesn't make you a horrible person. People all react to things differently. You obviously cared about him. You just can't react to it yet. It will hit you eventually and you will cry. You are obviously feeling pain about this because you have been drinking and doing drugs. You need to stop doing that it's not good for you. You also need to stop thinking about killing yourself it's not worth it. You need to live your life to the fullest that's what your brother would have wanted. I know what it feels like to lose someone close to you. It's an awful feeling. But you can get through this. Your brother would have wanted you to. "Things always get better in the end and if they don't then it's not the end." Try to remember that.
I hope things get better for you and remember you can get through this
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Ok sorry that this is long but please don't pass over it I really need help.
My parents aren't divorced but they both cheat on each other they basically both get with anything that moves of the opposite sex. My dad is always drunk and is very abusive. My mom isn't physically abusive but she just tells me that I'm a waste of life and that she wishes she never had me and that I'm such a huge mistake and bla, bla, bla but her boyfriend Tom hits me all the time and even rapes me sometimes. I've gone to the police before and they took my parents side because to everyone else they look like such nice people. But at night they're druggies and alcoholics. I even went to social sevices they put me in a home for a week where I started cutting and then they put me right back with them! Lately I met a guy who uses drugs and I've been going out with him. And we were using and did some things and now I'm pregnant and I don't know what to do. He was arrested for possesion so I can't go to him. I can't go to my parents. I really don't have any friends who aren't stoners and all they care about is how they're going to get their next fix. I don't know what to do. I've already tried killing myself and it didn't work. I'm soo scared I don't know what to do. I was going to run away but I know that I'll just end up somewhere where there's drugs and I'm really trying to stop. What can I do about all of this? Please help me (link)
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First, I am ver sorry that you have to go through this. It's really aweful. You need to get away from your parents. Do you have a friend or another family member who you could stay with? You also need to get help for yourself that fact that you are doing drugs and attemptind to kill yourself is very dangerous. You are obviously going through a very difficult time and you don't know how to deal with it so you turn to drugs like your parents do. You need to get away from that and get some help. I think that you should have the baby. If you can find a place to stay where you can take care of yourself and also get support for your baby then you should keep it. I think that it will be good for you and will give you more drive to take care of yourself. If you can't get somewhere to say where you can get help then you should give the baby up for adoption it will be better for you and will be more fair for the baby. No matter what you decide to do about it you need to stop doing drugs and attempting suicide. It is not only dangerous for you now it's dangerous for the baby.
I hope I helped and good luck...I hope things get better for you
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My mom gave me a pair of earrings a while ago. I wore them all the time and I loved them. The problem is, I lost one of them somewhere in school. It was a total accident and it must have came off while I was running/playing sports. I have still have one of them, but I don't know whether to tell my mom. I have alot of other earrings and the lost earring is probably already stolen. Should I just let it go or fess up to my mom? If they were expensive, I would be in deep trouble. Also, my mom would think I was very irresponsible and wouldn't trust me with anything anymore. (link)
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You should tell her. You may get in trouble but if she finds out that you lost it and didn't tell her about it then you could get into even more trouble. Explain to her what happened and apologize for it. She may be angry but she will be even angrier and trust you even less if she finds out that you lost it and didn't tell her about it.
Good luck
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My uncle (and cousins) are feeling great depression. A few months ago my aunt died. Since then many things have been going downhill from there. He forgets to pick up my cousins from various acivities and hasn't been feeding them for the past few days. My older cousins (from my aunt's first marrige) have taken taken the the ones closer to my age to their apartment for a few days (I am not sure if they are back home yet). My dad went down there for the weekend to help things out but I'm not sure how much of a difference this will make. This is because I found out today my uncle has lost his job. This means it is even harder for him to surrport his kids. We were inviting the children to spend the summer up here (we still are) but now we are woried they are going to move up here. It is not that we don't want them here is is that it is hard to move your whole live to a new state a such an age they are.
Now my question is what can I do to help? Is there any advice I could have my parents give to my uncle (it would be weird taking advice from his niece)? Intelligent answers only. If y@ typ3 lyk th!$ don't answer. THank you. (link)
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The only thing that you really can do is be there for your cousins. They are going through a really rough time and they might need to talk to someone that they can trust just try to be there for them and let them know that they can talk to you and trust you. As for your uncle he is obviously taking this very hard. All your parents can really do is try to talk to him. He needs the support of his family right now. I think that it would be a very good idea to maybe give him some time alone like your dad is trying to do that will give him some time to think about things and sort things out. It will also give your cousins a place to go where they can go and have support. Your parents just need to make sure that your uncle knows that they will be there for him when he needs it.
Good luck and I hope things get better for your uncle and your cousins
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hi well my mom has been using some drug for maybe a couple years, but i dont know what it is but i know for a fact she is. she'll stay in the bathroom for a long time and doesnt stop sniffing after or whatever and acts really weird, doesnt go to bed that night and like picks at her hair and shit and freaks out when i walk in and i love my mom and i hate the rest of my family, my sister is the biggest bitch and she is so mean to my mom and everyone.. whats my mom using? i cant help but being sad and today i was out with her and my sister called and said tell mom shes a disgrace and i want her to go back to the lake ( our house in nh where my mom goes when my sister or dads mean) and she hungup so i called back and said she was real tough and to tell her herself, so she told my mom on the phone and she was so sad.. and my mom dropped me off and started crying and said shed be back in a little... shes not home and now my dad asked wut happened and i didnt really hear but my sister said something about my mom and stuff was everywhere in the bathroom near the sink.. thanks=/ (link)
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The drug your mom is using is cocaine. Cocanine looks like a white powder and people take it by snorting/sniffing it that's why she is always sniffing when she gets out of the bathroom. The stuff in the bathroom was probably cocaine that was left spilt. I used to do cocaine and it is exctremely addictive but she can get help. You need to help her get through this though. Try to keep her from stess and it's a good idea to try and keep her away from your sister and dad if they are being mean to her because that will cause stress and make her want to use. It's very important that you help her through this she can do it it's very possible. I don't mean to scare you but if she is using cocaine, which it sounds like she is to me, then it's important that you help her cocaine is extremely dangerous and she needs help.
Good luck and I hope things get better for you and your mom
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