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My brother died a week ago and at first I didn't do anything it was like I couldn't think or function at all. Then I just cried for like a day. Now it's like he's all I can think about. I lived with him. My parents died when I was really little and my brother basically raised me. I've always cut but not as bad as I have been lately. It's like I can't stop everday when I get home from school I cut all day in school I think about my brother and it makes me want to cut. My friend knows about my brother but she doesn't know about the cutting. I'm scared to tell her because I dont' want to be put somewhere or have to go to a shrink. I really like cutting. I've heard some bad stuff about it but I just don't see why it's so bad. I know that she'll see the bad side of it and try to stop me or get me "help" but I don't need it or want it. I know my friend and I feel about not telling her the truth so should I tell my friend what I've been doing or should I just keep it a secret?
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I'm so sorry about your brother and parents and I think its really important to stop cutting because its not good for you. You should tell your friend and just stop cutting before you throw your life away. Just think of it this way your brother isn't really dead, he'll always live inside your heart forever and ever. I'm sure your brother wouldn't want you to do what you're doing to yourself. Please take my advice and stop cutting. I mean I know you don't see the bad side and that's only because you're depressed right now. Talk to someone and let it all out. If you ever want to talk to me you can always ask for my advice no matter what.
PS: Please stop cutting and remember your brother isn't really dead beacuse he'll always be in your heart.
Taniqua's-teen-advice
Illinois, 13(almost 14)
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I would tell your friend because i know someone who used to cut and they came and talked to me and then she stopped. if you tell her and talk to her about your problem it may help you. if she is a good friend she will try to get you to stop and talk to you. most friends will want to get you help but dont. she will probably start off by sayin something like "since when, how long, why, omg, you should stop." just listen because she may help you a lot more than you think she will.
hope i helped and hope everything goes well.
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Sorry to hear about your brother. I am sure it is going to take a while to get over losing him.
I don't think that cutting is going to help. I do think you should tell your friend and talk to her. I also believe you need to get medical help with the problem if you can't overcome it on your own. You need to think about how your brother would react if he knew what you were doing. I really don't think he would like you using his death as a reason to do it. :)
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I know what it's like to cut and want to cut and be so depressed that nothing seems like its worth it. I've attempted suicide and had to be taken to the hospital because my cuts were so deep. I was placed in a psych ward for observation and i ended up there for 2 weeks. It was scary at first but i knew i needed to be there. It took a lot of guts to say that i needed help. Being in the hospital was a wake up call for me. I'm definately NOT saying attempting suicide is the answer, it's not. Therapy does work for many people, and it's not such a bad thing. It really can help, not so much by convincing you cutting is wrong but that you can be happy and by being happy you won't want to cut. It's hard at first but after the first week or so it'll start to get easier.They might prescribe you something to help alleviate the symptoms of depression and the side effects can be weird but the happiness afterwards is so incredibly worth it. I haven't cut for 2 years and i can't be happier to be alive. I am so glad I didn't die that night, i have a whole life ahead of me and i've barely begun to experiance it. I've learned to accept that pain is a part of life and that it's ok to feel sad or depressed but those moments are so worth the joy that is felt afterwards. You have a whole life ahead of you and a friend who really cares, if you can't ask for help yourself having your friend say something to a counselor/etc. can really help. I really hope you can get the help you need and become happy again. Good luck!
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NO do not keep it secret but trust your friend. Please do not cut,god usually has good things in store for you!! Just remember this,its how i get by --gods going to throw you a bunch of wild cards weather they are good or bad,but he dose this to see how strong you are,test you but it all ends up better in the end if you can face things. Im sorry for everything that happend but do not cut and dont think you have a bad luck,you'll be having good wild cards,trust me. I also like to think --for every soul taken a new soul is born,because my grandfather died a few years ago,but one year later[[exactly one year]],my two baby cousins were born. Who knows what could happen do what you do just keep on laughing im telling you theres always a brand new day --another quote.
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First of all I'm soo sorry that you've had to go through all of this and I know what's it's like to want to cut. But listen you need to stop. I know it makes you feel better and I know you think that it's helping you but it's not. There are better ways to deal with the pain that you are feeling. Cutting is not the solution. If you tell your friend she will probably try to help you or get you proffesional and it sounds to me like that's exactly what you need. You need help. You may not want to admit it but you do. Think about your friend. What happens if you accidently cut yourself too deep and you end up in a hospital or dead? How do you think that will make her feel? If she cares about you which I think she does then it will hurt her. If you had a friend who was hurting themselves would you want to get them help? These are questions that you have to answer for yourself. Once you know what you would do if you were in her shoes then you can make this situation better for yourself. You need to tell you friend and you need to let her help you.
Good luck and I hope things get better for you
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