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I am a 14 year old girl and in the 8th grade. My family is very religious. My sister got straight A+'s in every year of school and college. I am trying to do my best but my mom says that im not trying at all. Whenever I ask her if she wants to do something with me she says she is busy but when my sister asks she says ok.
One more thing is my mom doesnt let me do anything!!
I wanted to watch a movie called Hocus Pocus, and my mom said it has witches and magic, and the bible says to stay away from it. (She also got mad at me because I started singing the spell/song, from the movie. When i was 5!!
I wanted to watch Harry Potter but she said no because the bible says to stay away from wizards and magic, and vampires and wolves. I looked and it only said evil!
Today, I drew a charachters name from Harry potter and my brothers And my mom got mad at me.
They also moniter my Fb account and made me give them the password to my email and FB account.
I feel like my family hates me!!! What do i do??!!
Any and all advice is appreciated. Thank you! (link)
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your mum and family want the best for you this is what they believe and you need to respecu that.your mum might spend more time with your older sister because shes older her and your mum maybe more similiar in their views.ask your mum what shd was like when she was your age what her interests were.its not that harry potter is neccessarly evil your mums putting down firm guidepost and you need to respect that.harry potter seems harmless enough thou its going into a territory that directly opposes god and what he stands for your mum only wants the best.
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my sister who is 22 went to jail for a year for fraud related charges. If I commit the same crime what is the likelihood I will be sent to the same place? I don't want her to be all alone in there. I am 18 year old and female as well. Also, it is a non violent crime and only a year so it doesn't seem too bad (link)
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first she might be in the youth wing and thats not so bad..your sister did something wrong shes doing the time so maybe shel learn.girl if u did go to jail theres a big chance theyl separate you so u wont be in same win.prisons not so bad as long. as sge keeps her head down.send her letters and money for sm6kes and visit her !be glad shes not from down here in nz where smoking was taken as a right from prisoners that sucks!
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She threatened me with it yesterday. I don't know if she was serious but I'm a bit nervous about it.
Tom (link)
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LOL thanks mate that funny!no seriously maybe u cld take it up too.!or talk to her..very embarrasing let her know thereSERIOUS consequences if she abuse thiis tel mum and ask if both cld talk to her...
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my mum never cares about me she pretends i'm not there and she only cares about my brother so i ran away all the way to the big shops i walked home again and my mum was on the computer what do i do (link)
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first off how old are you?
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I am in my early 80's and in fairly good health. My husband died 5 years ago. WE had a good marriage and had two children. My daughter has been living with me for almost ten months due to a change in jobs and some monetary problems.She is a single mother whose daughter(my granddaughter)has just finished her first year of college, and is now living with me as well. I have a good sized house so that they each have their own rooms. Here is the problem. I have been extremely independent even after my husband died. Now I find that I am cooking, changing much of my routine and lacking my privacy. In addition, while I am NOT a cleaning 'freak' I do resent their rooms looking like pig sties. My computer is in one of the rooms so I have to use the room at times.My daughter is very generous, paying for theater,movies and dinners out, but, the stress is definitely raising my blood pressure. I love both my girls and want to help them out, but I feel really stressed. They don't understand how big a change this is for me and they don't see anything wrong with using the floor and bed as dresser, desk and kitchen table. I DO NOT want to fight with them. What do I do> (link)
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maybe u cld leave this on the computer for them too see. do they have anything to put there stuff in? talk to your daughter tel her your not used to cleaning up after people and you need help.set up a cleaning roster..or everyday someone has their own routine,call it "the ___family routine" and stick it on fridge?that wld be cute
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I am seventeen and a girl. I live with my mom, stepdad, and brother and sister. I have a boyfriend of ten months who is absolutely perfect. We decided last night to make a very big decision to have protected sex. Little did I know my stepdad installed cameras into the entire house. He did not tell my mom he found out but he has labeled me as a slut and that it's his decision to decide if I am ready to have sex or not. I am upset that all of this happened but I honestly don't care. Even if I did want to tell them, I wouldn't. My parents never praise me for being honest and I am too scared to talk to them about anything anyway. I'm thinking my stepdad used the camera tactic to scare me into telling him but the same time he said I should be honest because he has the tapes to back it up. I am going about my day very calmly because I know I was ready and responsible. I am not a slut or a hoe or anything because I was responsible and I will make my own decisions. I just find it so stupid how they disown me and ignore me. I bust my ass for them honestly. I watch my baby brother everyday on top of schoolwork and chores. I make good grades. I'm not a bad kid and I am entitled to my own decisions. If I screw up, it's my fault...but I was so responsible and careful... So what does it matter? What do you think about all this? (link)
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your stepdad an ahole if your going to do it wait til your out of there or stay outof his way can you talk to your mum?what dose she think of cameras?
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hi i had an affair 8 years ago and back in november i told my husband about the affair the tricky part to my affair is that from that affair i had a child my son who is now 8 . for 8 years i let my husband raise my son as his own i also told him that our son was not his we are handling things the best that we can and my son's bio father has been seeing my son a little here and there and he calls from time to time my husband is aware of this but i still feel like i have to choose between my husband or letting my son get to know his bio father . like i said we are handling things but there still are thoes uncomfortable moments between us and im not sure what to do my husband wants this other man to just drop off the face of the earth as i can understand that but my son likes talking and seeing his bio dad and as painful as all this is i think it's important for my son to know his real dad even if it's only once every few months he sees him he at least sees him . or should i just let my husband raise him and let my son pursue his father when he is older . (link)
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give your hubby sme time and space the visits with the bio dad and the boy at time that suits him and let him in on things cause hes the real (first daddy)
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A lot of the time when socialising with people I don't know i can't make eye contact, i start shaking and i stutter when i speak. I'm really scared of what people will be thinking, and what they will think if they notice i'm nervous, i'm fine around family members i live with and the ones I know, but everybody else i'm really nervous around, it's not a phobia of going outside, it's just socialising.. I have family members that I'm not that close to that think I don't like them or I'm weird or something cause I dont say Hi to them. I have an uncle that asks my dad why I don't say Hi to him. I always get nervous cause I really don't know him and I am weird around people that aren't close to me. I want to have a normal conversation with my uncle but I always get nervous. A while ago I couldn't say Hi even though I wanted to. My uncle is always asking people why can't I speak to him. I'm not trying to be rude when I don't speak to people I just get nervous about what they are thinking about me. do you think i have Social anxiety disorder? what should i do? if i don't have Social anxiety disorder.. what do i have? (link)
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yes i think you do its the easiest mental ilness u can recover from,go to your doc and tel him and ask about CBT hel knowabout it. and look online for social anxiety forums and chat groups youl see alot of people like you
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I am 12 and female, and I feel like my hole life is all about pain, rejection, and trying to get through it. But I cant get through, I keep wanting to kill myself to let myself out of misery. I have tried to do it before by suffacattion and I couldn't it was to much, this is only at my moms house, but when Im at my dads house its so much easier to live, I just cant think of any thing to do but kill myself, and i just cant....Please help me. :<
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tel dad how sad you are ask to live with him.
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Okay...so I know this is like a REALLY weird question...BUT! I want to start like wearing thongs...and I'm 13(yes I'm young I know) but I have no idea what to tell my mom I can't just say "Hey mom I wanna start wearing thongs let's go buy some!" not happening! I need some advice on how to ask/tell my mom what I want to do..help? Thank youu( : (link)
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.tel her you need them because then you can see pantyline and gives bum better shape.go for the cotton ones in the young ladies department.they're really reasonable
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My brother passed away and left me some money. My sister inlaw says I should share it since her husband helped pay for funeral expenses as did I. The estate will still pay us for those expenses- is she right or wrong? (link)
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no thats your money your both helping for funeral and wil be reinbursed.why should you share it?only if you want to.
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Hello.
My cousin is going through a hard time at the moment, with his parents recently separating. He goes to school, comes home, and works in the same room until he decides to eat/sleep. He rarely goes out, which is odd because he seems to be the type that would be quite popular: good looking, good at sport, intelligent etc.
Long story short, his father made an insensitive comment the other day. My grandmother, my uncle, and my mother have asked for me to do something with him to cheer him up. This is fine, but I don't know how to ask without it sounding like a pity invite? I was thinking of just heading into the city, do abit of window shopping, grab a bite to eat, and maybe catch a movie.
The wierd thing is, never have I done anything with him apart from family meetings etc. I feel odd just randomly texting him asking if he wants to do something, because it will seem so obvious.
Can anyone shed some light on how I can ask, without it seeming like a pity invite? It is of course a pity invite (so to speak), but I don't want him to feel that it is?
Thanks a bunch folks. (link)
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ask for a family dinner and bring up a movie you like while your talking but say your mates not into it is he keen?
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Every day, this is wearing me down. I think I'm really starting to get into a depression and because of having a positive personality, I've been able to get by. But, I really need some GOOD advice. On Wednesday, I'm turning 21. Everyone in my house thinks I'm 12. Or at least treats me like I am. Let's start with my mom. She loves me a lot. She has OPENLY ADMITTED that she is obsessed with me. I'm adopted and found out when I was 18. Even the way she speaks about the adoption... she says she was OBSESSED with finding me. It's nice to have someone love you. It's not nice to have someone be obsessed with you. Not to mention that I'm like her entire life. She has no job. My parents are divorced, so she has no husband/boyfriend. She doesn't want a boyfriend either. She says that is disgusting and that it would take time away from me. She doesn't even want any friends. She says she doesn't believe in friends. The only way she goes "out" is if she goes to dinner with me or drives me to my point of destination. A lot of people who meet my mom for the first time think she's "so cool." But, her obsessive ways have caused really big problems. She determines who I date, what colors I can dye my hair, the way I wear my hair, what I wear on any given day, what I put up on facebook, what friends I should hang out with, etc. We live with my grandparents. Therefore, my grandmother encourages my mom to drive me everywhere, especially at night. Personally, I don't always enjoy being driven around. I get motion sickness, which is not so much the case when I'm driving myself. She literally yells at my mom telling her that I can't go by myself out at night, throws herself on the floor crying. If I go out with a friend, so that my mom won't have to drive me, she calls me about 100 times in one night, and that's NOT exaggerating. More than anything, it's just frustrating because I think I've proven myself to be a responsible adult. I do not drink, and CERTAINLY do not drive if there's alcohol served at a party, I do not smoke, and my mom also knows that I have never had sex. Obviously, I know how to control myself. I get good grades. I know what I want to do with my life. Yet, she still loves to control me.
No one in my house cares about my school work. I'm studying to be a teacher. Those of you who are education majors know that it's hard work. In my school, you actually have to go to an elementary school and do hours. I need to take a minimum of 15-18 credits (which is about 5 to 6 classes) in order to keep my scholarship. I also need to keep a B average. I found this to be very stressful last semester because I was working. Usually, at least in my school, education and nursing majors are recommended to not work. Experience is great on a resume, so that is why we have to do so many hours in the schools. Nursing majors do their hours in the hospital, and so on. That's why there's so many scholarships available to us. It makes sense. But, to have all this, I have to work really hard. In my house, I don't have a desk or working space. I've asked a million times if I could get a desk and there's never "enough money." When I was working last semester, I was making nothing. About $400 a month. It was really horrible. I was working at school as a work-study and they really abuse of the work-study students. However, with those $400, I was paying bills. Remember, my mom doesn't work. I decided that since there was absolutely no money at all for me to even purchase food, that I would just quit my job and focus on school for now because I graduate in like a year and a half. And it's better to get what I have to get done so that I can enjoy my career!
I live in Miami and everything here is extremely expensive. A studio starts at like $900. And that's only enough space for one person. On a part-time job, I can only make like $600-$1000 IF THAT. That's not enough money to move out and support myself. I really need to finish school, most importantly. That is my main priority. I need to be a full time student (5-6 classes) to keep my scholarship. Another reason why I can't work full time is because none of the education courses are taught online. They have to be in person. Therefore, working more is not an option. Working at all isn't really an option either. My mom rents a property and gets money from the property. So, it's not like she has NO income. But, she spends the day helping my grandmother clean the house. It takes her ALL DAY to do this, yet... she can't make a tiny space for me to do my work? What she does is use my room as a storage/garbage. She takes all the dirty clothes and throws them on my bed. She goes to my make up counter and makes a HUGE mess. I usually get to school around 10am and am there till 10pm because of class/meetings/the hours at the schools, and I see underwear on the make up table. Just sitting there. I know I didn't put it there. I have been out of the house all day. I really do try to do my own things and keep my own things in place. But if I'm not home most of the time, what can I do?
To make a long story short, I feel tired. When I'm around my family, I'm just tired. I was beginning to think there was something wrong with my health, but when I'm with other people, I'm fine. When I go to other people's houses/places, I feel like cleaning and organizing. But, with the mess that they have created in my room/house and their controlling ways, I just feel exhausted. I have attempted at getting a dorm, but I got into a huge fight with my mom because she didn't want me taking out loans. I just try to brush off everything and not even care about it anymore. But, then I feel even more depressed. I've come to the conclusion that their never going to change and I have to learn how to deal with them. But, it's very, very hard.
I try to tell myself that at least I have a roof over my head, food to eat, and so on. But, it seems that in every direction I turn, I stumble into something. Like I'm in a maze. If you have advice to give me and were generous enough to read all of this, please do so now!!! (link)
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hold out til graduation and put plans in place (job ,a place.you might just have to run,make it short andsharp and painles..its not your job to work it out for them you have to look after you.they need to look at themselves not you and if you leave youl do them a favour .you an adult you have choices.
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I'm a 14 yr old girl and the other day my dad found weed in my sisters jacket he went ballistic. He punched her several times and then choked her. All our mother did was say No, Stop,No. Like wtf is that going to do? My dad is a very big and strong man. When I do something wrong like forget to vacume my dad wraps his hands around my throat like he's about to choke me. It's been like this for me ever since I was About 5 or 6. I just can't continue to live in constant fear. The even that happened recently with my sister I just can't seem to get it out of my mind. I get drunk next day wake up have a hangover still remember. Get high still freaking remember! I just don't know what to do. Please help me (link)
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your dads a bully next time call police make an anomoynous cal(if hes loud)as a "a neighbour" thats hard.ur mums probably scared to.can u talk to anyone u trust?
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I have 2 cousins that are 11. Their names are Anthony and Jacob. We don't really get along, so lately I've been trying to leave them alone at family events. They still end up bothering me. It's worse when my friends are over. At Christmas dinner last year, Anthony made an extremely rude and racist comment to my best friend (she's black). A few hours ago, I was over at Jacob's house for his little sister's birthday thing. I was wearing a shirt that said "I belong" on the front and Anthony said what? to the devil? when he saw it. If it were any other person, I would assume it's just a joke, but he really doesn't like me no matter how I try to be the better person and be nice. I don't want to get him in trouble because my uncle lectures him forever when he does, but it's been really hard for me to sit there and have him insult me to my face. Those were only examples of what he says to me. There's a lot more that I won't get into. I'm just wondering what ya'll think would be the best thing to do about him. I don't want to end losing my temper on him and end up hurting him. (link)
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hes a young boy boys are a lot more immature than girls your 2yrs older than him 2.hel grow out of it eventually
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1m 19 years old and ever since i was young my mums drank.When i was younger i thought it was normal i was never alowed to sleep over at friends or stay out to late because i had to allways look after my younger sister, i dressed myself and took myself to school since i was 7,and ive basicly looked after myself since i can remember,then i grew up and relised my mums not the same as evryone esles. she calls me horrible names and make me feel worthless, ive been at college for 3 years doing hairdressing i stayd on at school i done evrything right but she just dosent seem to ever be happy with me.i had a job and she forced me to leave because she said i could do better, iwasnt earing much money but she said if i didnt claim for job seekers allowence she would kik meout of the house.At the moment things are worse than ever, her habbits are worse and now that my older brother has moved back home shees took sides with him and acts asif im not ther,they drink together evryday & other things, i feel like even though im related im not from the same family ther from ,she hardly works and demands money of both of us and im only claiming job seekers allowence and struggle to live its so hard to get a job now ,i have a boyfriend who has seen alot the way my mum and brother treat me and he bareley sees me now because he dosnt like comeing down to my house he cart bare the way they act, its comeing between mine and my boyfriend and i crt cope anymore ive allways been scared to be on my own since i was small because of things that have happend when i was a child , i want to get a flat of my own then i can be out of ther ways and let them get on with life but im scared to live alone , my biyfriends got the perfect family and has evrything he wants he just dosent understand my situation because hees not used ot what im used to and i feel im allways running to him with my problems , im sorry this question was sooo liong but ive been searching for someone to relate to me or help me if anyone has advice it would realy help. thankyou .xx (link)
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your mums an alcoholic shes a sick woman and with that comes HEAPS of character defects.when you leave maybe shel have to take responsibility for herselfand thats a good thing for her.can you live with your bf?
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