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my mum not careing about me
my mum never cares about me she pretends i'm not there and she only cares about my brother so i ran away all the way to the big shops i walked home again and my mum was on the computer what do i do
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First of all, don't you ever, ever run away from your home again. That's your home too and it should be filled with love and sweetness from the family but unfortunately, you're not getting the attention you deserve from your own mother (based on what you've written. I don't know about everything going on over there and i need to know your mother too to get deep in this matter and i'm not trying to humiliate you or her.) To be honest with you, i can't even tell the real cause of this mess because the answer varies, it really does. What i can say is, this problem is not a small matter and you need to get help from the people around you i.e friends, counsellors, teachers and so on. Get help from the people whom you can trust and are able to guide you in this life. Anyway, you can try talking to your mother but remember, do respect her because she's your mother. Try asking her for honest answers about what's actually going on between the both of you but when doing this, please be strong because the answers might hurt you. However, i do believe that your relationship with her can flourish eventually. Help her if she needs it. Be there for her. Still, if she still doesn't care about you for a long period of time, then it's time for you to solidify yourself. YOU NEED TO HELP YOURSELF IN THIS WITH FULL COURAGE but please be on the right side of the track. One day, if God permits it, she'll realise her mistakes. In the meantime, keep control of yourself, please do. Listen to me, no one (including your parents) can break you down into someone who's filled with negative emotions. It's never easy to change someone's attitude towards you and that's why you need to face challenges in life. Pray for the best in your life and yes, be close to helpful friends. They'll help you. Remember, the future is so abstract that no one can predict whether your mother will change completely or not, but i do hope she will because from what i believe in, no mother dislikes her own child. Keep control of yourself and learn from life. See and observe on what's going on. Hope for the best :)
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Wow -- so you ran away, came home, and your mom never even noticed that you were gone?
No wonder you're hurt!
Have you tried talking to her about how you feel? Telling her that you're lonely for her, that you want to talk to her, spend time with her when she's not on the computer?
If you try to talk to her, but she really does shut you out, then maybe you should find another adult to connect with -- your father, a school counselor or teacher, or someone from your church.
One of the things I've learned during my long and lovely life is that we have TWO families: the one that we're born into, and the one that we create. It sounds like your mom may be a dud. But that just means that you are going to have to build your second family and start relying on them earlier than most people. Where do you find this second family? Well, you create it from your bestest friends! They are the people who have your back, who remember your birthday, and who will notice if you leave the house for an extended length of time and don't come home. And THEY are the people who will go looking for you. <3 <3 <3
Good luck!
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first off how old are you?
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