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When I have sex a lot it causes my body to hurt every time we do it.
Like sometimes in certain positions it feels like he is hitting something in there and it feels like a cramp almost. Other times (most of the time) I just cant produce enough natural lubrication.
Dry sex hurts BAD and I don't enjoy it so neither does he. I haven't been having sex with my boyfriend in almost 2 months cuz of this. We tried again recently but it still hurts.
I talked to my dr. and he said to use lube... obviously. We do and we even used one that was suposedly extra good but it still gets too dry and hurts.
Any idea whats going on since all the doctors I go to seem to be clueless. I have a mirena and I was recently diagnosed with hpv. Could these be the cause?
Has anyone else experienced this? I feel like people can just have sex whenever the hell they want. I hate that I have to wait for my body, even if I am crazy horny. Please help!! (link)
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You are right -- dry sex hurts BAD.
But it sounds to me like there are some other things going on here. It sounds like your partner's penis may be hitting your cervix when you experience that cramping sensation. Also, it's possible that your cervix may be inflamed due to a complication from the HPV. The Mirena IUD can also cause pelvic pain at any time. Yeast infections are another *really awful* cause of discomfort during intercourse.
If you are experiencing pain with penetration even while using lots of lube, you may be experiencing vulvadynia (which is basically a fancy word that means pain in your lady-parts). Here's a link for more information: http://learnpatient.nva.org/
The frustrating take-home lesson from the vulvadynia website is that there is no one answer to the problem. But it helps to learn that you're not alone and that there are solutions out there. You just have to keep looking for answers, and find a different gynecologist, if this one isn't taking your pain and concerns seriously.
Here's another idea -- sometimes when a situation isn't right, a person's body will kind of "lock down" and refuse to respond. Even if your brain is thinking "Yeah, let's get it on!" your *body* might be all "Whooaaa, I just found out that I have genital warts! I am totally freaked out!" I'm not saying that this is what's happening with you, but hey, it's a possibility. I'd say give your body a little bit of a break, masturbate if you're feeling crazy horny, and see if your body is trying to send you a message about your boyfriend.
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Female 22
I have had sex multiple times but I have never reached an orgasm from the g spot... I dont think anyway.
I learned that girls can have different types of orgasmns and the only one I have ever had is clitoral orgasms. The only time I orgasm during sex is when my clit is being stimulated but it's the clit that feels good not the inside. I would really like to have an orgasm from just the sex itself...
However... I have had sex before where it was so good that I didn't even need to orgasm. Just hitting my g spot until he came was good enough. Could that mean I did orgasm and just didn't realize it? I've been told that its something you would know and not question.
How can I reach an orgasm?
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Oh kid, I'm sorry to tell you this, but most women don't have orgasms from sex alone. Sadly. I mean, I guess it *could* happen. I have friends who've had it happen to them. But most folks I know require clitoral action during penetration to get there. You can work on your kegel exercises to strengthen your vaginal walls -- that will intensify your orgasm: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/kegel-exercises/WO00119
In terms of feeling pleasure from plain ol' penetration, though, for most gals, it's "meh".
But do not despair! Because there are ways to experience all kinds of wild and intense orgasms, if you're willing to do a little -- pardon the pun -- sexploration. Solo expeditions can teach you quite a bit about your body. There are two toys in particular that I will recommend to you in order to explore that whole "G-spot" thing. These are not cheap toys, but trust angelgalwendy, they will be the last toys you will ever need. ;)
The first is the Njoy Pure Wand, which has this angle that gets in *just* the right spot. Here's a link to the company's website, but you can get this cheaper on Amazon:
http://www.njoytoys.com/products/purewand.php
The second toy is the Erocillator. It is fun for a girl AND a boy. Fun for the whole famdamily. Trust me.
http://www.eroscillator.com/
So using these two toys together, you can discover the magic of deep stimulation -- and yes, Virginia, that *does* exist. Not only do you have a G-spot, but there are all kinds of other interesting hotspots "down there" that you can find, with a little patience and plenty of lube.
Happy hunting!
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my mum never cares about me she pretends i'm not there and she only cares about my brother so i ran away all the way to the big shops i walked home again and my mum was on the computer what do i do (link)
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Wow -- so you ran away, came home, and your mom never even noticed that you were gone?
No wonder you're hurt!
Have you tried talking to her about how you feel? Telling her that you're lonely for her, that you want to talk to her, spend time with her when she's not on the computer?
If you try to talk to her, but she really does shut you out, then maybe you should find another adult to connect with -- your father, a school counselor or teacher, or someone from your church.
One of the things I've learned during my long and lovely life is that we have TWO families: the one that we're born into, and the one that we create. It sounds like your mom may be a dud. But that just means that you are going to have to build your second family and start relying on them earlier than most people. Where do you find this second family? Well, you create it from your bestest friends! They are the people who have your back, who remember your birthday, and who will notice if you leave the house for an extended length of time and don't come home. And THEY are the people who will go looking for you.
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hi.
i am in deep trouble, i feel. i have been masturbating for the last couple of years since i was 11 and now i will be 17 in june 2013. i have masturbated almost everyday, twice a day . i have many problems now. such as mental problems. im losing my hair, my memory my concentration. i feel very week. ever bad symptom i have read about over do of masturbation . i have them all. ever single one . back pain and others as well. im trying to find all over the internet if all this is reversible. and if it means i have to stop masturbating and not have sex ever. then it fine by me. i cant study i cant do anything. please help. just reassure me that it is possible to get back on track . to become new as if i never masturbated before. plz plz help. (link)
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Hi. I am sorry to hear that you're feeling so icky. You sound really scared!
I have two things to tell you. First of all, as all of the other people have said here, playing with yourself will not cause you to experience any of these symptoms. You may feel guilt, and you may get the occasional bladder infection. But beyond that, no -- masturbation will not hurt you, physically.
My second point is important: You must talk to your parents or a trusted caregiver about the symptoms you are experiencing. While they are definitely not caused by masturbation, they are also definitely not normal. If you are weak, having back pain, losing your hair, having trouble concentrating and so on, you may be seriously ill. Please go see a doctor for a checkup. You don't even need to tell your parent/doctor/anyone that you masturbate, I promise. Just describe your symptoms, and they'll know what to do.
Hope you feel better soon!
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M/17
I can't keep doing this. I've been trying to end a porn addiction, a shemale porn addiction. It started 3 years ago while looking at normal porn. There've been times where I'd go a few days without it. At one point 5 days had me feeling great until I relapsed on a bad day. Every time I try, I start to feel better, but then any little annoyance would make me mad and I'd relapse. Well, I just broke my longest run, 18 days. I'm pissed and I feel like crap. During the 18 days, my moods were going crazy. Then there's the whole gay thing, I don't feel gay at all. I get obsessed over girls easily. I was attracted to the shemale porn because of how feminine and different they were. I really want to get out of this phase. It's really hard to stop it. Especially when nobody knows and nobody would expect it. And on this stressful senior year. I believe any porn is bad and I believe it messes me up. (link)
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Believe it or not, there are a lot of straight guys who are into things like she-male porn (and all kinds of other kink!) So if you're worried about being gay, don't worry about it. You're just experimenting.
I'm curious about why you feel like you're addicted to porn. Is it disrupting your life, somehow? If you were raised in a strict or a really religious environment that taught you that porn was bad, then heck, no wonder you're stressed out about it! You've discovered that you're turned on by something that you've been taught was bad! But part of growing up is learning that 1) whatever turns you on, turns you on, and 2) as long as you're not hurting anyone (or any animals) or breaking any laws, it's OKAY! You'll feel a lot less stress if you just learn to shrug your shoulders over these kinds of things, accept them for what they are -- your own personal kinks -- and move on. And focus on... oh, I don't know... your stressful senior year, maybe.
There are some pretty concrete signs of addiction, though, and if you truly ARE addicted, then you're smart to seek help early. Here's a link to an article written describing symptoms of addiction to pornography:
http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/135920/20_signs_your_guy_may
If you read this list and decide that you really are addicted, there is a 12-step group based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous called Porn Addicts Anonymous that has phone conference meetings that you can participate in. You may need support quitting the habit. Here's a link to that resource: http://www.pornaddictsanonymous.org/
Let us know how you're doing, okay? And cut yourself some slack! You're learning who you are, what you like, and what you want out of life, and that's no easy task. No worries.
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Hey guys. 19/f
Okay so the title is self explanatory. Tonight we were all out for one of my girl friends birthdays.
I have recently started college in September and made a bunch of new friends. One such friend is *Kevin who is gay and who I have become very close with.
Anyway we were all messing about and having a good time getting a bit tipsy etc. Then one of the girls and Kevin kissed joking around. We all said we would kiss him then just for fun because we know he is gay. I joined in not thinking anything of it at the time. The thing is I have a boyfriend!.. I know. I feel like an absolute skank. It was our three year anniversary last weekend and everything. I feel so horrible. All of my friends were trying to reassure me that because he is gay and because we are such good friends it doesn't mean anything and it's not a big deal. It would be like if I kissed one of them..etc. But for me it is a big deal. I've never kissed anyone else in the whole time i've been with my boyfriend. I feel like i've let myself down and him down. What do I do? Do I tell him about this? My friends say I shouldn't because Im causing him unnecessary hurt. I don't want to make excuses for myself or anything but I was having such a good time I completely lost my mind. That's NEVER happened to me. No matter how many guys have hit on me I've never entertained it. Am I over thinking this? Am I being too hard on myself? What would you do? Should I tell him or leave it be? I know he'd be very weird about it. Please help.
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Oh for heaven's sakes -- leave it be. Unless you are looking for a reason to break up with your boyfriend. In which case, tell your boyfriend that you kissed Kevin, tell him that Kevin was a *much* better kisser, and suggest that he call Kevin for pointers.
Seriously, though, lots of gals get drunk and make out with their gay guy friends. Have you see this College Humor video?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-YCdcnf_P8
There's a reason that they say "We will marry your girlfriends!" with such confidence.
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Ok - So i have a boyfriend. who i have been with for 6 months... (not a long time) but...
thats not the point..
I have fallen head over heels for my english teacher. and i am not gay - i have just fallen for this woman. and i have no idea what to do....
(i think about her all the time, and i feel so much for her it is unreal) :/ (link)
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If you are straight, yet have fallen head over heels for someone of the same gender, then, my dear, what you have is a "chick crush."
It means that you have found someone who is unbelievably awesome and smart and fun and cool. You want to bask in the presence of their brillance, you just want to heap upon them all of the love that you feel in your heart. And you ache to have them feel the same way.
Here is the REALLY cool secret about chick crushes: the things that we admire in our beloved are frequently traits that we have inside, that we have not yet discovered!
So what is it about this teacher that blows up your skirt? Is she hilarious? Creative? Inspirational? Stylish? Suss out *her* amazing traits, and then try to cultivate them within *yourself*!
I promise you that you are every bit as fabulous as your English teacher. Once you start to focus on these newly discovered strengths, this odd ache that you feel for her will probably calm down a bit.
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im a sophore in high school and i have never hooked up with anyone. This week i met a really cool guy, SENIOR guy, named John. Well out of know where, we eneded up haning out this weekend. I was really excited since I had a huge crush on John and all, so i wanted to be with him, and yes , also makeout with him too, if there was a chance. So anyway, we did makeout. it should have been perfect. it was at the beach, at night. so pretty. But the makeout felt weird. im not sure why because I really liked him, but i felt like gross and wanted to stop. like it just felt wrong. Im not sure anymore if i like him, or if theres seomthing wrong with me? like why dont i like hooking up? and am i gay or something? like what??? please help. (link)
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There are lots of reasons that you could have been feeling that "gross" feeling. Sometimes, your intuition (your gut/your higher self/maybe your guardian angels) will tell you loud and clear that a situation is not right. When you get these signals, you feel them in your body -- a "gross" feeling, or a feeling of anxiety or fear, or you may just "know" that you have to stop whatever it is that you're doing. It's your gut's way of giving you a sign that you need to stop what you're doing and check in with yourself to find out what's wrong.
I am *so* glad to hear that you honored yourself and stopped making out with this guy!
Even though everything seemed perfect, clearly, everything *wasn't* perfect. But don't worry -- it may be someday. :)
As far as being gay, only you know whether or not you are attracted to members of the same gender. Or maybe you like both! Now is a time for patience, observation, experimentation, and fun. Don't judge yourself. Don't try to put yourself in a stereotype. Just see who you are and what you like. You'll figure it out!
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