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MAKEOUT WEIRDNESS
im a sophore in high school and i have never hooked up with anyone. This week i met a really cool guy, SENIOR guy, named John. Well out of know where, we eneded up haning out this weekend. I was really excited since I had a huge crush on John and all, so i wanted to be with him, and yes , also makeout with him too, if there was a chance. So anyway, we did makeout. it should have been perfect. it was at the beach, at night. so pretty. But the makeout felt weird. im not sure why because I really liked him, but i felt like gross and wanted to stop. like it just felt wrong. Im not sure anymore if i like him, or if theres seomthing wrong with me? like why dont i like hooking up? and am i gay or something? like what??? please help.
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There are lots of reasons that you could have been feeling that "gross" feeling. Sometimes, your intuition (your gut/your higher self/maybe your guardian angels) will tell you loud and clear that a situation is not right. When you get these signals, you feel them in your body -- a "gross" feeling, or a feeling of anxiety or fear, or you may just "know" that you have to stop whatever it is that you're doing. It's your gut's way of giving you a sign that you need to stop what you're doing and check in with yourself to find out what's wrong.
I am *so* glad to hear that you honored yourself and stopped making out with this guy!
Even though everything seemed perfect, clearly, everything *wasn't* perfect. But don't worry -- it may be someday. :)
As far as being gay, only you know whether or not you are attracted to members of the same gender. Or maybe you like both! Now is a time for patience, observation, experimentation, and fun. Don't judge yourself. Don't try to put yourself in a stereotype. Just see who you are and what you like. You'll figure it out!
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If you've never made out with someone before, then yes it might feel a little weird. When I had my first like real makeout it felt weird to me. I was turned on, it didn't feel awesome, I had literally no emotion towards it and I just wanted to pry my lips off of the guy.
BUT given I am bisexual, that might play a factor as I enjoy kissing girls more. You might be gay, or bi, but don't just jump to the conclusion because of one makeout sesh.
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Hi there. I know how you feel, the first time you do these things you might feel a little uncomfortable doing them but they take time to get used to. I dont think you have anything to worrya bout. You dont have to think you're gay either because regardless who you made out with, you would have felt a little uncomfortable. The same thing happened to me too, as you become more comfortable with the guy it gets easier. :)
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