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"Now pull the knife from my ever bleeding heart.
Tell me now your words never meant me harm."

I'm Allison.
I don't really care too much about ratings. Either you want my advice or you don't.

I've pretty much been through it all. From internet relationships to broken hearts to divorces to bad friends.

Ask me questions in my inbox, and please leave me feedback :] Numbers can only help me so much.

Here's a little about me non-advice related;
-I'm from Texas. Where the heat never ends.
-I love music from the indie/emo/alternative rock genre.
-Reading and swimming are two of my passions.
-Music is number one
I guess you could say I'm a very artistic person.

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okay soo my birthday is cominq up in three weeks and i have NO idea on how ima spend my birthday weekend ! im qonna be 19 soo its not that biq of a deal like a sweet 16 or anythinq but i want to do some excitinq ! any ideas ???

A rave.
A normal house party with like a band and lots of food.
A pool party.
A bbq.
A movie night. Make a movie room of sorts.
A road trip.
Amusment park.
Black tie party.
Scavenger hunt.
Mardi Gras.
Girls night out.
A casino theme.
Dance party.
Murder mystery.
Any theme like Alice in Wonderland, Pirates, Luau, etc.
And a masquerade.

That's all I got haha.
-LoveSucks

does anyone know where i can get a gag gift

its like a human remote

thanks

http://www.spencersonline.com

so im getting a new kitten on friday! she is 5 weeks old and is adorable! Problem is...I don't know what to name her! Ive searched cat names on the internet but haven't really liked anything.

http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j212/Moodymare55/kitty.jpg

above is a picture link. She is the kitten all the way at the bottom =] she's so cute and i want a good name for her.

And also, I have another 7year old cat in my house. Do you think she would run away or not get along with a kitten? She is also a girl.

And is there anything I should teach my kitten to do while its still little? Like for example, when you get a dog, you teach him when hes little, the rights and wrongs, like only going to the bathroom outside...is there anything you would teach a cat? just wondering.
thanks!
15/f/usa

Oh God she's so cute! :D

These are the names that she strikes me as;
-Jenna
-Lucy
-Olivia
-Emma
-Fluffy - haha just kidding.
-Sophie

Hmm. What's your other cats name haha. That usually helps me a lot.

Now, cat's are already very intelligent. You just have to make sure you watch her to see if she has to go to the bathroom. Generally after a few times of you showing her the liter box, she'll understand and use it. Oh and if you want her to go outside, you must wait a really long time, so that she can adapt to her new surroundings and she won't get lost. Also, it helps if you put the liter box outside so she gets the idea that she's supposed to go outside. Make sure you watch her while she goes if you do that though.

Now. Cat's will adapt to "No!" very quickly, so that shouldn't be a problem.

I personally, have never been able to train a cat for tricks haha. But kittens are extra playful, so make sure you play with her :D

When I got my cat, my other cat just got really jealous and grumpy. She won't run away or anything like that. She may hiss at the kitten, but soon the other cat will learn to tolerate and/or like the kitten. :]

My ex boyfriend moved to Sweden for two years, and we've talked on msn every day and stuff, and now he's moved back to our town.
I was so fucking happy when he called me and said ''I'm back in town, let's meet at Starbucks at 12''
So I go there to meet him, and I didn't see him anywhere.
I look around and there's a guy waving at me.
And I did a double take.
Before he left, he had blonde hair, messy, some piercings, and gauged ears.
Now, he has black long hair, more piercings and something that makes me want to cry, he's gauged his center lip piering to a 00g
( like this guy's lip:
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/05-lips/A80502/high/npqe-rafa-e-dessa-9829.jpg)

Meanwhile I've had some boyfriends, and he's had some girlfriends, but I wanted to start dating him again.
But now...I feel so unattracted to him :(
I mean, I can't even kiss him. And he talks all weird.
And he's changed too. He's obsessed with gauging his lip now, and he thinks I should gauge my lip too.

What do I do now?
I still love him, but I feel like I love him as a friend, and he wants to get back together.

Help?

I'm sorry but that's just gross. And painful. And I thought gauged ears were bad.

If he's changed and isn't the same person that you fell in love with, and you can't even kiss him, then it's probably not going to work out.

And based on your feelings, you may have gotten over him while he was gone. Seeing as you had some boyfriends etc.

This relationship will probably be better as you two being friends and keeping a bond. But not a romantic one.

Just tell him that a lot has happened while he was gone, and you just don't feel like it's going to work out and you'd rather have him as a good friend.
If he cares about you, he'll understand and wont feel too hurt.

Oh and, how does he eat with that thing? Wouldn't food go everywhere? (Morbid curiosity.)

Hope I helped. Good luck.
-LoveSucks

i'm 15 and i really need a job. i live in ohio, do you know of any places that would hire me?

p.s. i've tried mcdonalds

thanks!

I don't know specifics, but this is a really great site.

http://www.snagajob.com
When you click on a job, it'll have the minimum age requirement etc.

Also many grocery stores hire at 15.

-LoveSucks

PS- Don't go into fast food. Your face will start to break out from the sweat and grease. Ick.

I used to do Jazz, and now I want to do it again. I started at 3 and I did Jazz,Balet, and Gymnastics. I quit balet at 8. I did Jazz and Gymnastics until my parents made me chose one at 10, I chose gymnastics. I did gymnastics until the age of 14 when my parents made me quit because of health issues. I got to level 7. After that I gained about 30 pounds, but I lost it within the year.

I'm 15 now. Do you think I'll be able to pick up Jazz again? I'm really flexible, I have all my splits, all my jumps, I don't really remember a lot about it but I'm a quick learner. I really do want to dance again, but I can only do it during the summer. My parents won't let me during the school year. So I was thinking I could start back up this summer, practice on my own during the school year and maybe start studio dancing when I'm 18. Do you think that's realsitic if I want to be a dancer?

That sounds completely reasonable. Since you have the will power to do it, it shows potential.

And since you already have experience in it, it shouldn't be too hard. It will probably come back to you in no time. But it won't be easy. You may be sore, and wanna quit. But don't.

And I think the dancing classes at the university sounds great :] Not all universitys have them, so I would check on their website.

If you keep practicing during the school year, you should be ready by the summer.

So yes, it is completely reasonable. :]

-LoveSucks♥

you know all the phones were made from samsung or motorola and stuff like that well wat is a sidekick made of

The Sidekick is made by Sharp and only T-Mobile carries it.

-LoveSucks♥

string like for sewing is made of what?
where did it come from?
how about cotton and a button?

when you wear a blue polo shirt, how do they get it blue?

answer even just one and ill give you good feedback

Sounds like someone needs free homework answers.

what is this british term:

oo-er

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=oo-er

It means gross :P

whats the best ddr to buy? i went on different store websites and there's a lot to choose from. what do you recommend?

I recommend DDR Supernova :]

-LoveSucks♥

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=176423191
kay like this is my myspace.. um do i look cute? check the pictures

This isn't really a question wanting advice :)
But yes you are very pretty.

I am so annoyed. I always have acne. It is like..constant break outs, and it never stops. I dont know what else to do. I have tried everything from clearasil, neutrogena, clean and clear, differin, duac, tea tree oil, clinique 3 step skin care, olay, and alot more. I usually break out around the T zone, my chin, and forehead..basically everywhere. Please dont give me amateur advice. Like..drink plenty of water and get a lot of sleep ( I do anyways. ) Also please dont recommend products that you have never tried. Please recommend what you think will REALLY work for me. And also please don't tell me not to wear makeup because I cant stand to see myself without the acne covered up. I need a moisturizer also because if I dont use it before I put makeup on, than it looks cakey. But that may be because I have big pores in the spots that it looks cakey. Any help for big pores? I would really appreciate your advice
Thanks

Your best bet is to go to the dermatologist, but they are very `spensive.

I deal with bad T-zone acne and huge pores.
What I do, if mash out the zits and blackheads
then I take a really hot shower and wash my face with Phisoderm. It's wonderful. I use the soap bar. Then when I get out, I rub Hydrogen Peroxide all over the zits until they turn white with a cotton ball. And then apply rubbing alochol to dry them up and tighten your pores.

Your skin may flake a bit, but just rub it off and pretty soon it will clear up marvelously.

Btw, the mashing can be quite painful, but it's worth it.

IM me with any questions you may have
-LoveSucks♥

Tomorrow is my first day of school and i'm really excited. But I have to get up at 5 in the morning to get ready and leave for the bus stop at 6:20ish. Problem is my shower is broken and we can't get the repairs done till 10 in the morning tomorrow.. ughh. My mom is letting me use her shower in her room but I can't until her boyfriend gets up 5:45! I really can't wait that long because it takes me an hour to get ready. It's not like I can't do some things before I take a shower like putting on my make-up, clean my ears, and stuff. I asked my mom nicely if she could get up at 5 and so could her boyfriend just for one day. And it's only a half hour difference. She started flipping out on me too. Do you honestly think I'm being selfish? and how can I convince her?, I've already cleaned the whole house! thanks for advice.

I dont' really understand the problem.

Why can't you just shower while the boyfriend sleeps?

I don't think your being selfish. I love the first day of school. And I always have to look perfect. [:

Just propose that to your mom.
The boyfriend shouldn't be more important than you.

I don't know your mom personally, so I can't help you with the convincgin part, but I thought I might suggest that idea.

Hope all goes well. nn;

Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]

I want to shave down there. I need exact instructions on how to do it. Tips on how to reduce irritation and burning.

I don't shave. I use Veet for my bikini line.

It doesn't leave those ugly ingrown hairs, and razor burns.
But you have to make sure you follow the directions exactly, because if you leave it on too long, it will burn you.

Yes you can trim with scissors.
As for the other parts, go with exactly what the person below me said; that's t he best I've seen it explained.

Hope I helped
Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]

I want to get a new digital camera. I dont want anything to fancy just a simple one thats easy to take around, and I can transfer the images I take and put them on the computer.
Does anyone have any ideas? websites would be helpful.

Wal-Mart has plenty of them.
Also look at Best Buy if you want a nice quality of a camera.
I recommend Circuit City.

Just browse their websites.

Yours Dearly,
\\♥LoveSucks♥//

What's the difference between the Army and the Marines? Does one rank higher than the other? Which would you recommend to a girl that wanted to join either or??

thanx a bunch
xoxo

Ok so Marines are first class.

But since they are in the army; I believe that they are very high ranked.

It personally depends on your point of view on which one you want to join.
If you think you can make it pass, to actually serve on the marines, then go for it.But they are very strict.

But if you would just rather
join the army; as in not top notch and as hard work.

It's personally your opinion.
I would like to be a Marine though.
But that's just me.

\\♥LoveSucks♥//

Is it possible for a 13 year old to stop growing breasts? I'm 32A, my mom is 32A, and I started growing when I was 9. They haven't grown since I was 11 or 12. My breasts are identical to my mom's, and she developed really late. Does this mean that I'm done growing?

Of course you aren't done growing!

Your body never stops growing until you are 18.
Don't worry about the whole big boob thing, it's fine.

And just because you can't tell that they are growing is because they aren't growing dramatically enough for it to be noticed.

But in a larger scheme, yes they are still growing.

\\♥LoveSucks♥//

hey! So heres my question, I am in 8th grade and my school has this "end of the year 8th grade formal"-ish thing. I just recently(as in like the last 3 days) started going out with this really great guy, and we are going to formal together. He is very nice and really sweet and isn't a perv like most 14 year old guys. So anyway, at this dance I think I might be wearing a strapless dress, and because im kinda skinny and dont have much boobs(im in like the biggest size you can be in a A cup, small I know ok geez) Do you think a strapless push up bra will make it look like i have more boobs? I know this guy wont care casue he is really nice, but I dunno I just want to look "sexy" haha. thnx so much! -marsbars

Ok
Trust me, Push-Up strapless bras suck.

It won't matter about the strapless dress[in relation with your cup size], just wear your hair down, and have really pretty jewelry.

But personally, I find halter dresses a lot more comfortable because you have to spend the whole night pulling up your strapless dress. Although halters tend to be more low cut then other dresses, which may look odd in some cases.

But if this dress looks absolutely o-mazing on you. Then forget the bra and wear that dress. It really doesn't matter whether you have boobs or not, we all came beautiful, boobs or no boobs. :]

\\♥LoveSucks♥//

i was shaving "down there" and i got an ingrown hair..does anyone know what i should do to it? should i just leave it? and is there anything i can do to prevent it further? (i do use shaving cream)
thanks.

Leave it alone and let it heal, like the person below said. I used to get those, when ever I shaved with cream, and I didn't want to use a pad because those hurt in my opinion.

So I suggest using Nair or Veet, its a cream that you leave on and it dissolves the hair.

You can get it at most drugstores, and it's not expensive. But remember not to leave it on for too long.

\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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