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Q: Hey everyone.. well i'm kinda worried.. i don't kow what is wrong with me! i feel really guilty whenever i eat. i'm pretty sure it's not anorexia but i just dont know what it is. i've gradually started eating less and less because the guilt is just overwhelming. im 99 pounds and 5'2" and i know that's liek average or whatever but when i look in the mirror i always just see myself as HUGE. i have been getting really bad headaches lately from not eating as much as i usually do but its not enough to make me eat more because i just keep thinking about what my thighs would look like if i ate say a cheeseburger. at first i just started eating healthy foods but now im even afradi that THOSE foods will make me fat. help!!!!

well i hate to say but i have felt those axact feelings before. i almost helped myself so i thought i might try to help you. obviously if im writing this. anyway 99lbs is underweight babe for only being 5 2. im the same height and i way 115. you know you need to stop this now. you are falling into an eating disorder. if might not be full blown but really what it is deosnt matter. theres all different forms of eating disorders. whats more important is what you do to yourself, not what its called. anyway keeping eating. try to eat a little more each day. eating healthy foods cant hurt you one bit. now the guilt. i hate that part. its the absolute worst. but after you eat anything, do something to get the fact that you just ate off your mind. exercise or take a walk or a jog or do some sit ups. what ever it takes. and it helped me control some of the guilt. i just had to keep myself busy. fix this now before your addicted. it also helps some to tell a best friend or someone to help you through it a bit. youre okay. you'll be alrite.

Q: I'm not sure why, but latley I haven't been so happy lately. I mean I'm so sick of being me. I don't like my hair, im not as pretty as Miss popular. I dont dress as great as them and I've been alone alot latley cause none of my friends have been invitin me over anymore. I've been on a no sode low sugar diet and I lost my baby fat (im 13 and i weigh 105 lbs) so im noT like fat or anything but I somehow got off my diet and I just feel soo crappy I havent gotten back on. I hate me right now, what should I do?

well i know that a lot of people have already answered but i figured i would chip in anyway. i think every girl goes thruogh this at least once.i mean i have gone through this sort of phase about ten or fifteen times so i figure it averages out to one or two times for everyone else. anyway that doesnt really help but what i do when i feel really bad about about how i look i avoid mirrors, i dont touch myself in any way, do things that make me forget like read or take a walk or exercise some. i hate being lonely, you and me both know it sucks. i live in a plave where there is absolutely nothing to do and yea im not the miss popular either. i have quite a few friends but not many that i hang out with a lot. so idk just call them and maybe invite them to see a movie or something like that. maybe go shopping or get a hair cut that you like. basically, GET OUT AND DO SOMETHING. its hard to get a little motivation sometimes but find some. it helps.

SArAH....

Q: what can happen if you consume more then 4 advil at a time? i jusy had 5 advil at a time, can i puke or what, i need an answer asap

well youre not gonna die. your head or whatever isnt feeling that great should feel better. i would recomend only taking the correct dosage on the label. that way you dont have to worry and your pain goes away. taking more is dangerous. you sound like you know that. you could pass out, get sicker, and so on. so next time think before you take more than you should. unless you wanna die and are attempting suicide. thats not good either. so dont worry me and take like two instead of five. you will still feel better with the right amount.

~*~Sarie~*~

Q: a lot of people keep coming up to me and asking me if i'm anorexic. i'm starting to thing i am now. people always tell me how skinny i am, but i think i'm fat. and i'm obsessive over what i eat, and i always weigh myself.

it's my stomach i don't like. when i stand up and squeeze my stomach there's like 2 inches of fat! is that normal?! =(.. i feel so fat. i want to try to have NO fat there. does anyone know any good exercises to get rid of that fat?

so i have 3 questions:
-do you think i might be anorexic?
-is all that fat normal? you can compare me to a normalish stomach or whatever, i don't care.
-what are some good exercises to get rid of that fat?

i know its hard to overcome these feelings. Whenever you eat get up and do something, whether its a household chore or riding your bike or roller bladeing or something. this should help you feel less guilty. situps and crunches help tone down tummy fat. that fat you described is normal and healthy though. as for how much you should wiegh depends on how tall you are. AVOID SCALES. i know that part is hard too but you really need to do that. if you decide to eat right and healthy and just cut out junk and sugars then maybe weigh yourself every other week. at first with exercising and eating more you should gain weight so dont worry about that. drink lots of water. it helps fill you up and lose weight if youre still bothered. youll have to pee like a racehorse but thats okay. Dont sqeeze your stomach either. it will make you feel bad. You can get through this. i know you can.

Q: ok well my freinds think im like feeling deprived because i havent cried in 3 years and i like never tell anyone what im feeling and stuff like that because i dont think that kinda stuff matters all that much. i guess i have just been playing soccer too much like my most used saying is suck it up and my knee cap is displaced and the same thing is wrong w/ my freind and she like cries all the time and she is haveing surgery done and i dont know if i should to or not because we have the same thing wrong but since im so used to not shareing my feelings i dont think it is all that bad so i dont know what to do and all my freinds think that something is wrong with me because i never tell them how i feel and i also hang out with the people at my school that cut themselves but that is only because im like trying to help them because one of them asked me to and so my other freinds are questioning me

any ways i got off the subject a couple of times but oh well just tell me if you think that there is anything i can do to help anything that i talked about

alright well you just have a different way to cope with things. You sound like a little tough girl. thats fine. theres nothing wrong with you. but about the surgery. you should take care of that now before you get the "you cant play" speech. i play soccer too and ive been there. You should definately be there for your friends that cut but make sure your other friends understand what youre doing. they sound like really great friends that care about you a lot. you will eventually have to find adult help for your friends that cut. But try to wait until the best moment to speak up. your friends have to have the right additude if help is going to help them. My best friend used to cut real bad and still does it sometimes. you cant make them stop on youre own. if you do then you need to be the one giving me advice. good luck to you and all your friends.

Q: I swear I am the most paranoid, insecure person in the world. I'm constantly thinking that I'm not good enough for my amazing boyfriend, that he's forcing himself to be nice to me, and that he's gonna' cheat on me. How can I tell that he's sincere??? What can I do to make myself not so insecure???

well u could try to be a little more optimistic. Chances are really good that he wont cheat and that he really likes you if he's standing by you when youre having these low self esteem thoughts. and everyone's insecure. especially for a first time for anything. also no one would take the time and 'force' themselves to be nice all the time especially a guy. they just dotn have the patience. so no worries. relax and just have a good time with him.

Q: I'm not sure where to turn. I feel like I have run out of options and I just can't cope.

I've seen a pyschiatrist, physchologist, hypnotherapist and counseller- none helped. I recently went to my head of year when things were really too much- to the extent when it was either help or die- and she, although she said she wouldn't since she saw it wouldnt help, has just asked a counseller to speak to me. I need real help. I know it can help to talk through fears and everything but it hasn't helped me in the past and I cannot put myself through the pain of living for the date where I saw a therapist and begging them to help me. It was hell and it never really helped anything.

I need SOMETHING more now. Things are really bad at the moment. It's hard to explain but basically I have complete phobias of lots of things (certain films, accents, places, anything) that I can relate to a certain person who hurt me. I don't want to go into this since it's not overly relevent to this question.

I just want to know if there is ANYTHING else out there. I really don't know what to do. I want to die. I feel like everything is helpless and no one can help me. I'm not allowed medication as the pyschiatrist felt I was too dependant on things. I don't know where else to turn. My parents don't either.

The reason I went to my head of year was for this reason- I am totally stuck. I can't handle it. I feel like I am falling and no one can stop me. I need help so badly- I just can't see anything out there.

Please reply if you can; thankyou xxxx

hey im not going to try to diagnos what you have like some others have because im no doctor. but look you CAN make it through your fears. i wish death was onw of your phobias so we wouldnt have to worry about suicide but neither of us appears to be that lucky. look just take all the time you need to work with different doctors. keep trying. dont give up on your life. keep putting yourself with people you know love you. they will keep you from hurting yourself. have someone else keep and give you medication if your not trusted with it. look im me(secretzxXxwithin) or email me or something if you need to talk or just need someone to listen. good luck. i KNOW you will make it.

Q: ok im 13 female and i cut myself but not as much as i ust to i mean i havent in a week or 2 but my best friend betray me and my ex. bf still likes me and i dont no wat to do cuz his best friend makes me feel bad and i just tell myself not to cut becuz i dont want to but sometimes i have to like its the only thing i can count on to help me but i realli dont want to tell anyone so i dont no wat do can you help me?

hey well it'll be alright. You know you have to stop. Get away from anything you can use to cut yourself. Take it one day at a time. There are other ways to ease your pain. You dont have to inflict it on yourself. Confide in someone. If you really cant stop on your own then please find someone you trust anyone you trust and tell them. You could even admit yourself to a hospital if it goes that far.not doing it as much as you used to is a little comforting. email or im me on aim (secretzxXxwithin)if you need someone to talk to.

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Sarah Elizabeth......