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there are girls in my school who pretend to be depressed/cut/have eating disorders. it drives me crazy! But i don't want to just assume that it is simply attention seeking. what do you think are signs of attention seeking?

um first off i will start off by saying NOT ALL CUTTERS ARE SEEKING ATTENTION! this goes for the depressed and have eating disorders i know you probably know this but wanted to make sure. Being a recovering cutter i hid it never wanted any one to know. its those idiots that show it off that want the attention! I HATE THOSE PEOPLE! If any of you attention seekers are out there i will say stop now while you can! but you will know. i mean i have had eating disorders before i have been through alot and will say some just dont tell the world. but there certainly are the ones that do and u will know them when you see them

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Please do not judge me.
I have been Bulimic for
a year or so now,
and its become so that
i have to do it, its like in my
head, i feel horrible if i eat something
and dont throw it up...
i only do it once a day but
anyways...
my real question is
does it effect your birth control???
started taking it 3 weeks ago and i take it at like 1 in the afterrnoon
and i throw up after dinner which could be anywhere from 6-9 at night...
so does this effect the pill?
like is it still affective???

ok i will sooo not judge oyu been there done that! Um docs say it takes 4-6 hrs to absorb. so honestly just watch the time. if take it at say 1 you should be safe or even safer take it at 11 12 ish. Just be careful its hard and addicting i know but just be careful

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Ive been experimenting with weed and i have these weird panic/anxiety attacks... what can i do to prevent that from happening???

um not to be a bitch but dont do weed and that wouldnt happen! o my god use your brain! dont waste your life!

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I've been cutting for a couple years now but lately it has been getting worse. I told a teacher, who is my friends mom on terms that she wouldn't report me or tell anyone because she isn't a teacher 24/7 so I was talking to her as my friend's mom. Well that was fine but I told her I would try to stop and if it got worse we could get me help. So I was wondering how your mom / dad or parent reacted when they found out. Or what happens when you go to a school consulor. Thanks.

well the school they have to tell someone they with me told these pro counslers and made a huge deal out of it and well it sucked and made it worse and well id would just tell your mom mine freaked but then she totally wanted to help so it really depends on how u tell her be calm.
hope it helped

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hey,
would you classify this as depression or something else.
*Wanting to be alone most of the time.
*getting really upset over nothing.
*self harming(cutting etc).
*not talking much when normally really social.
*pushing away friends.
*feeling excluded from people.
Etc. Etc.
Thanks heaps.

ok i have depression and yes these are symtoms and there are more like headaches and just hating everything anger and modesawings so dependings on the age you can get meds but there highly addictive and i do not advise it there are many other ways to help urself


allie

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how do i bring up to my family and friends that ive been lieing to them about not self-injurying anymore?

Well think about it the same way you did the last time. If who ever is the closest you, you should tell first. Like for me it was my mom so just tell them the same way you did the first time. G2g srry
Allie

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so okay, i cut. and well i dont see anything wrong with that. i mean its not like its that serious. its just like getting a tattoo. or getting a peircing so why is it so "bad". people always say dont do it blah blah blah. its not hurting them so why should they care? i just dont get why its like considered so "bad" doing drugs and drinking is a wholee lot worse. so does anyone know why people think its so bad? any other opinions?

Ok they care about you and they dont want youto die! Cutting yourself can kill you. My best freind was taken to the E.R. because she had cut to deep and almost blead to death. I used to cut i still do sometimes so i understand. but listening to them will make it better. So hey try and heal yourself. But they care about you.

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Ok Take Me Serious..I May Sound Selfish But I Dont Care..
Im relaly considering giving up life, ive nearly died so many times. Someone wants me dead..
My ex tried to kill me..
Everyone walks over me..Hurts me once comes back for more and hruts me again
I cant handle life any longer Its killing slowly id rather get it over and done with :'(

OK never neer never never give up they get what they want! And just try to forget about them they are jerks. I will be alright. I know that what your going thruogh is only tempely. and there is always something positvie in something negitve. So hang in there and maybe those that have hurt you will regret it. I know that you do't think that they wont but trust me never never give in. Keep fighting!!!! Life is the greatest gift God has givi you and you should keep it yuntill he wants it. He needs you for something and I think that this is it.

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I didn't know which catagory to put this in so I just placed it here...I'm 14/f and i feel everyday like i'm making everyone's life miserable. Everyone says I'm a crybaby and too dramatic and that no one wants to hang around with someone like me. I feel useless and I'm wondering if I should just quit...leave...whatever way you wanna put it. I just dont want to bug anyone anymore...that's my question. Should I quit?...plz and thnx

no

never quit its normal to feel this way most people do.

But think about the future and what it has in store for you.

the people that say stuff like that are just tring to put up dawn anyway.

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I'm seeing a counselor on Friday. I'm not used to being open with other people, or strangers. What should I do to make it easier for me to talk about what is on my mind and my feelings. I don't want it to be a waste of time because I have half an hour. Thanks in advance.

seeing a counselor is not that bad i see one every day. but talk to yourself. it may help.

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So for the past 3 weeks my life has been very stressful. My dad was sick and was in the hospital for 10 days. I might fail one of my classes for the year. My boyfriend and I of 15 months are fighting and I don't know what we are anymore. My friend called me a slut today and asked my other friend to uninvite me to a party tomarrow night. Which she did to "keep the tension away from the party" Its werid I'll be happy and confident one minute then the next I'll be crying my eyes out. i don't know what's wrong and its stressing me out because I don;t when I'll gret into one of my extremely sad moods. Do you know what is causing this and any ways I could help to get this is stop any help is very welcomed

well thats what just rensonly happened to me. I talked to teachers I trust and a coulserlor. My mom just had a blood clot in her lung. and my dad has been sick for a while so i cant talk to them. so id just talk to some one you trust,

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kay well heres the problem

i feel like im living a lie! Im not tyring to brag or anything but my social life at school is good! i have the greatest friend and i laugh all the time and stuff.. im pretty well knownd specially for being happy and laughing all the time!!

but the lie is that im not.. I HATE myself! i go home a cry myself to sleep almost everynight! its because of what my brother did to me! i have flashbacks and he still bothers me and when he touches me and when i think about it i break down and cry!

i mean i used to cut myself! I DONT ANYMORE! and the thing is like it gets soo bad at home that i wanna comit suiced BUT I DONT WANT TO DIE! i just want the pain of what im going threw at home to stop!

it makes my stomach feel all weird and makes me sick to my stomach and its feels hard to breath!

am i depressed?? should i see like a therpist??

because like suiced I DONT BELIEVE IN but its on my mind alll the time!

and there is no way at school people could no about this! it would be like the BIGGEST SHOCKER are school well the people who know me has seen

what do i doo!!

please i need some advice!!

go to the school counsler talk to her if ur bro did what i think he did tell the counsler she can talk to him to. go over to ur friends alot to. spend the night. stay a way from them but not so much that thell notic but enough they wont hurt u.

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Is it normal to feel like cutting, or drinking or using self-destructive behavior after a break-up? I can't get over someone I've been with for over two years and he broke it off. I feel like hurting myself, is there something wrong?

not realy but if u can talk to a pro coulser and get help it would stop u from doing horable stuff.

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I am always getting the hiccups. Always! Sometimes when I hiccup its only just once then i get them again and then its just once. Then at different times when i get the hiccups i get several and they dont go away for quite sometime. I know this sounds stupid.. but could this be a bad thing?

not bad but it could be stress. so try to sovle all probs. it should help.

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