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Is it normal to feel like cutting, or drinking or using self-destructive behavior after a break-up? I can't get over someone I've been with for over two years and he broke it off. I feel like hurting myself, is there something wrong?
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not realy but if u can talk to a pro coulser and get help it would stop u from doing horable stuff.
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About this boy for two years this is along time and yes it may seem like the end of the world but theres other fish in the sea and you will find someone new and maybe better.and about the cutting alot of people cut yet doenst make it right.i wouldnt start so DONT.you need to get over this boy think its not my fault he lost the best thing that ahs ever came in his life.its not your fault so dont blame you.its only a boy and even though you think you cnat live without him trust me you can.
be strong dont hurt yourslef for his stupiditly.
hope i helped
katie
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Hi
After a bad breakup it is completely normal to feel a bit blue/depressed. It's normal to cry, it's normal to feel hurt, it's normal to be angry.
It is NOT normal to become self-destructive. Cutting yourself, or hurting yourself in ANY way is a crystal clear sign that you are not coping well and need help. You need someone to talk to...to cry to, to spill out all your feelings. This could be a friend, a parent, an older sibling, or it could be a therapist.
Alot of times the therapist/councellor is the one to go to because they can help you from an outside standpoint. They don't know you, they don't know your ex-boyfriend. They can give you an un-biased opinion, and truly help you through this.
I know when you lose someone that you loved dearly it is very hard to move on. They were such an important part of your life for a long period of time and then to all of a sudden have to continue on without them is rough.
You will get through it, you will move on, you will find someone else. Please get help before you hurt yourself any further. Take care.
Brenda
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I'm sorry to tell you, but there is not much people can do to help you once you try cutting. I have many friends that cut and I have tried to get them to kick the habit (and yes, it is a habit; it's very hard to stop cutting), but it they eventually do it again because of either: family, friends, bf/gf relationships. You should try to to never cut because you may get hooked even though you won't like it. Once your hooked, not even you can help yourself. Even some of my friends that have cut for well over a year hurt themselves without realizing it. He sometimes lightly stabbs himself during class with a pen and doesn't notice or feel any pain.
Here's what you should do when you feel urges to cut or drink. Call an ALWAYS POSITIVE friend and talk to him/her on the phone for a while. Also go out to a party and (if you want to, or if your old enough) makeout with lots of guys. Beleive me, this will get your mind off that other guy.
Sorry that I'm not the like the little angels on this website, but I tend to say what's not the most obvious things that would be more dificult for people. (such as getting a phycologist, many people don't want their parents to find out they cut so they just keep cutting. You could totally do a psycologist if you want, don't let me stop you.) ;)
Good luck, let me know what you think your gunna do.
Ex's and Oh's,
brittany
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