I live in Central Wisconsin. I am married and we have two daughters. In 1997 I earned my degree in psychology from the University of Wisconsin-Stevens Point. In my spare time I study psychology and philosophy.
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I was having a really hard time two months ago and my mom took me to see a psychiatrist. He diagnosed me with a mood disorder NOS (not otherwise specified). My mom took me to have some blood drawn to check if maybe the way I was feeling was because my hormones were out of balance. We got the results back and the doctor said it was all entirely hormonal (mainly thyroid). So I really don't want what the psychiatrist wrote down on my report or record or whatever it's called to stay there for the rest of my life. Should I call him and tell him what was really wrong so I can get that off my record or will it just go away if I stop seeing him? Will anyone else ever be able to see what he wrote down(like whenever I go to apply for a job or something)? (link)
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You can go to medical records and have them send a copy of your lab results and your doctor's notes ("dictation") to your psychiatrist. Trust that he will evaluate the results fairly. He is perfectly able to change the diagnosis he put in your medical record. Also, your medical record is protected by the HIPAA legislation of 1995 (Health Information Portability and Accountability Act). No employer will ever have access to it.
Dr. Chad
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I will start by saying that I am self diagnosed. as a child as young as 5 i remember staying up crying in bed because i thought I was dying and in the 80s when AIDs was becoming more known I was positive I had it (I was only 8).I am in my twenties now and I still go through periods of extreme paranoia and obsession with some life-threatening problem I believe I have. it most often starts out with something that actually is physically wrong but it escalates in my head a lot. (i.e cyst on my chest becomes cancer, chronic sore throat is throat cancer, heart palpitations is heart attack.) sometimes i get so paranoid that i convince myself i am going to die that night or by the time my son is five or whatever. Its ridiculous. the only things that can ease my mind is telling my boyfriend or bestfriend about whatever problems i have and then having them tell me they have had it or know that it is going to be okay. thing is, they are at the point they do not want to hear it anymore, and i don't blame them because oh man I am crazy. i love my life, i do not want to die, and i try every day to convince my brain that i am in good health and will live a long time. i need some advice on how to overcome this myself, because I cannot see a doctor for financial reasons (although i would love someone to talk to) and i am absoulutely against medication for any kind of mental disorder. (just for myself, i do not judge others), thanks (link)
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It sounds to me like obsessive-compulsive disorder. Not everyone exhibits the classic signs of obsessing about germs. There is medicine to treat this. It is no different than if you were diagnosed with cancer. You would want to treat it with the best available treatments--you wouldn't refuse effective treatment just because of what other people would think of you. For example, you wouldn't refuse chemo just because your hair is going to fall out. Which is more important to you, your health or the dreaded stereotype of mental disorder?
Dr. Chad
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I'm crying pretty damn hard right now, i keep thinking about bush getting on that helicopter to texas. it's seriously so, so sad i can't stop crying
i didn't even know him or pay attention to the politics
but i love him
and i miss him :( (link)
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You probably should have paid attention to the politics.
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How can you Love Yourself....but NOT be conceited? (link)
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It's the difference between loving yourself as you are and loving yourself for who other people thing you are.
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okay so i am 14 years old and a girl.
I know that im a teenager and im going to feel sad and angry for no reason, but it seems like it might be more than that.
and i cant be depressed for attention because when im around people i just put on a smile.
My parents are going through a lot right now (my mother is in full time nursing school) and its kind of my job to keep the house running. I do the chores and just kind of stay out of her way.
But i feel like im sad 99.999% of the time. I smile and act happy around other people because they all expect me to be the glue that keeps everything together.
I feel angry because id say my life is pretty good, i have a decent amount of money and i live in a good town and everything and i feel like i should be happy but im not.
I joined theater and track, but i cant do my best in those either because i feel my sadness is weighing me down.
I think im just feeling neglected by everyone. I do cut myself, but not the way you see in movies. I just do it because i like the after effect if that makes sense.
I want to get help because im afraid ill turn to drugs and sex to deal with my problems but im scared if i tell my mom she will think she failed with me and i would hate that.
what should i do??? (link)
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Ok, so it's not hormones/adolescense.
Perhaps you're not happy because you resent the burden of pretending to be happy all the time.
Perhaps you resent the burden of keeping the house running and filling your mother's shoes while she goes to school (ostensibly filling your shoes as a student).
I can't help noticing that in your message, first you say you can't be depressed for attention, but later on you say you feel neglected by everyone. Am I misunderstanding you? People you feel neglected also feel the need for attention. And by the way, the desire for attention is normal. Everyone wants to be interesting, or important, to other people.
The type of people who "turn to drugs and sex to deal with their problems" don't premeditate these actions. If you're concerned you might take this destructive path to get the attention you deserve, chances are you will only do it as a last resort, ie. if all other attempts to get people to realize you're hurting fail.
I really don't know what advice to give you, so these are just some thoughts and reactions. Please feel welcome to submit another question if we're on the right track.
Dr. Chad
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Good-Day Dr_Chad
Of course I've come to you with a question, a question I didn't want to ask anyone I knew personally.
You see, I'm 19 going on 20 soon and I babysit 5 boys, who are all brothers of one another and I adore them and they love having me watch them. I've watched them for about a year and a half. The Family is wonderful. They've came to my past HS Graduation party, came to my grandfather's funeral and I've gone to funerals of their relatives. They've become very close. The mother(Christine), is a stay at home mom, but is out a lot. She's very nice, we talk about a lot, what's going on in my life, etc. and the Father(Justin), is a Doctor, very nice too, he's taught me pool, let me borrow books many, helped me study for exams, we talk a lot, we joke around and laugh and also on Thursday's I meet him at the Pool Hall. Justin's NEVER bothered me(harass or such things), I enjoy every time we hangout. He's one of the only people who really acknowledges my "intelligence", not that I'm trying to seem conceded, but I know I'm smart in my own way, that I'm more mature than a good percent of people who are older than me.
For the passed year(or more) I've had Dreams about Justin. I've never had an intimate sexual thing in the dreams, but they were flirtatious in a way, we're hanging out "closer". Only once has Christine been in the dream, but in that one dream she was with us (me and Justin) but she ended up just leaving and getting drunk.
the passed 2 weeeks, He's appeared in my dreams 3 times. and each time I've woken up in a good mood. and I wanted to remember my dream.
Is this bad? That I'm dreaming of a married man (A lot)?
I really hope you can clear this up for me.
Thank You So Much.
_Melissa
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Dear Melissa,
You enjoy your time with Justin, and you like the way you feel about yourself when you're with him. You clearly also like him for the person he is. I find it perfectly natural that you are having some intimate feelings for him. You may have denied yourself those feelings--not acknowledged them or addressed them inwardly--so that these unexamined, unresolved feelings are surfacing in your dreams. If you awaken and remember the dream and are in a good mood, that's all the motivation your dreams need to produce another Justin dream. Hence the increase in frequency of those dreams.
Your question at the end--Is this bad--perplexes me. It doesn't have the ring of authenticity . . . I don't think it's the question you wanted to ask. You don't need someone to tell you whether a dream is good or bad. Dreams aren't judged moral or immoral, because we don't have any control over them. Unless you meant bad as in your dream indicates your subconsious adulterous intentions towards him, and if that's the case, you're reading way too much into your dreams. People are judged by their actions, not their dreams. Unless you're thinking of seducing him, nothing bad can come of your harmless and pleasurable dreams of him.
My advice is that you continue to honor the good friendship that you have with this doctor and father of the five wonderful boys you babysit. And, hopefully, you continue to have dreams that leave you in a good mood the next morning. ;)
Dr. Chad
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How can i relax? I've tried breathing exercises and stuff like that and writing down all the things that stress me out (which isn't much), but they don't really help. the only time i really feel relaxed is when im by myself at a park or someplace like on vacation =) but who doesn't?
I also can never 'be in the moment.' like.. I'm just not IN it. i don't really know how to explain it but once i heard soemone say they felt that way too and it was like "watching yourself in 3rd person." or whatever. I don't feel completely like that but sometimes it does.. & it feels like i just can't focus.
It's not terribly bad, but I was wondering what can I do to stop feeling that way? (link)
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You're trying to achieve a mental state that no one can describe for you. Since you think that someone else's description of this experience is something you can strive to accomplish, you have failed before you've begun.
Instead of trying to match some one else's mental state, just simplify, simplify, and sit still, listen to your breath, in, out, . . . in . . . out . . . . . . in . . . . . . . . out . . . . . . . slowly, regulary, . . . . . . . . in . . . . . out, follow your breath . . . .. . allow your breath to become your state of mind. That's key. Your present experience, your state of mind, is all about your breath, and nothing but your breath. The breath is not important, but if you follow it with concentration, you aren't following anything else.
Of course, now I'm describing a state of mind you can't obtain because it's a state of mind that I've obtained.
Meditation is as personal as thought.
The only guideline I can give you is to sit still, and sit regularly, and I know the rest will come. It will be authentic, as all mental states are. Stop trying to obtain something that someone else has described. Write your own script.
Dr. Chad
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I'm 15/f.
I have no friends.
I had a tight group of friends last year, but for some reason they started to distance themselves from me & all became really close just the three of them, & I don't have anyone else that I hang out with.
I talk to a lot of people at school, but no one would just randomly ask me to hang out--most of them assume I'm still friends with the same people I was last year.
I've never had a boyfriend, or a guy show any interest in me.
I hate my body & the way I look.
Ever since school started, I have been crying myself to sleep every night. Especially because it's hard to see my old friends acting like nothing's wrong, saying hello to me but nothing else.
My mom and dad keep telling me to try to make friends, or tell my old friends that I'd like to hang out with them again, but it's too hard. Not to mention embarassing.
I messaged two of those friends on myspace saying basically, anytime you're free if you want to call me, I'm always available.
One said oh yeah, we will.
& the other didn't respond.
So now I think they probably talk about it & laugh at me.
& I know those aren't the friends you want to have but, they really were good friends & we had a good time.
I don't know how to get through three years of high school with no friends.
I've started cutting myself.
I think about killing myself a lot, but I can't do it because it would crush my parents.
That's the only thing keeping me going, is that my mom would blame herself or something & I couldn't do that to her.
I don't know what to do.
But I can't take this anymore. (link)
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Your friends are your world.
And they've rejected you.
There is nothing anyone can say
that will dampen the pain you feel.
They have treated you like crap.
What do parents know, right?
They aren't sophomores.
Listen.
I'm not a sophomore either.
I'm thirty-three years old.
But I know this...
You're new friends will be
you're new world.
It hurts that the friends
you cared for last year
have ignored you this year
But you must
find
the
strength
To ask some of the people
you talk to
to hang out with you.
Why should you wait for
other people to ask you
to hang out?
You are cool,
and when you know that,
other people want to hang with you.
Go for it!!!!!
Dr. Chad
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okay this is like somethingg i really need advice on and the more the better..
story:
okay so my grandmas neighbors who my whole family is really close with and have been my whole life. okay well the sonn has been getting in alot of trouble recentaly. for DWI, overdosing on pills and the whole nine. well today when i was over my grandma's the police brought him home bc he has aniexty pills and had taken an entire bottle in one day adn left the house to go to a friends house, and his mom called the cops to find him and stuff. bc they were worryed bc he has been threating sucide and everything. like today when he got home his mom was telling him that hes gonna die if he keeps doing this and he goes death is what im hoping for he alway had taken 120 pills in a matter of 5 dayss. its badd.
now a little background on the kid
he was adoptedd. bc his parents didnt think they'd be able to have kids. but a few years later they did they had 2 girls. his dads a police officer so he was rarely ever home. and being that the 2 girls were her actual kids his mom paid a little more attention to her daughters then to him. but he never new he was adopted adn to this day im not 100% sure if he nos for sure. bc his parents never told him. when he was younger he had a hell of alot going for him he was a crazy good runner he could of went to any college he wanted, but he ended up getting mixed in with some bad ppl andd all that went down the drain. his mom also is having an affair. nobodyyy really noes about it but my grandma and like my family. but i think he might have found out about it. but idk
now what i need advice on..
okay soo i think all he really needs is someone to talk to bc one when you wanna comit sucide you dont keep saying your gonna do it you just do it. and his whole life hes never really had some there to talk to. like he just doesnt need someone theree saying DONT DO IT DONT DO IT. he just needs someone to sit there and listen to what he has to say, not a physcitrist or anything like that. like a real normal kid. and like honestly i would and i want to bc thats what he needs but the issue is hes 22. im 15. butt mature for my age the problem is im never aroudn him just me and him its always with his family and mine. and like id never have opprountiy to. so does any one have any idea on how i can go about thiss.
thankk you soo much in advance and for readingg all thiss. (link)
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Actually he needs a counselor/therapist/psychiatrist. You're taking too much on. Your friend needs so much more guidance than you or I could give. Please just be patient and hope he seeks/gets the help he needs. I'm sorry I couldn't offer you the magical advice that would allow you to help him. Believe me, I know the rewarding feeling that comes from helping someone, and you care about him. If anything, do what you can to promote the idea of him obtaining professional help.
Dr. Chad
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for a while now i have been feeling very tired all the time. I am a very talkative person and i act happy around most people. however i have no interest to do a lot of things except watch TV. Everything makes me sad and like i will get really sad about absolutely nothing. i mean im happy sometimes but lately i have been even sadder. I cry at night but i dont really know why. I kind of cut my wrists but i dont actually make them bleed i just kind of irritate them with scissors because i like the feeling after, it makes the sadness kind of go away temporarily. Nothing that could hurt me though.
Am i depressed or not?
14/f btw. (link)
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You aren't depressed. One of the problems with our present culture is that kids are exposed to so much information that it causes them to have adult expectations of themselves.
There once was a psychologist who lost her license for three months because she administered the adult version of a personality test to a kid, and concluded from is answers that he needed to be hospitalized. Turns out, if she had administered the children's version of the test, this guy would have been deemed normal. Moral of the story: teenagers undergo an extraordinary physical and hormonal developmental change for three years or so, and during this time, their minds are subjected to a barrage of new neurochemical information for which they just aren't prepared. Simply put, you are normal.
Crying is normal. Being talkative and happy is normal. Being sad, feigning wrist slashing is...well...not standard behavior, but explainable in terms of your attempt to "work through" your turbulent, foreign emotions.
As for feeling tired, I don't want to "explain it away" or marginalize your concern. Teenagers need 7-9 hours of sleep every night to avoid signs of sleep deprivation. And EVERYONE needs exercise to feel energetic. I've always thought exercise is paradoxical...one would think that exercise would tire you out, but the opposite is true: Apathy, or a lack of exercise, is what causes chronic fatigue.
Consider joining an activity like volleyball or softball or anything that gets you involved with other people and gets you moving.
Dr. Chad
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14/f
I'm positive that I have OCD and I'm almost positive that I had SAD, but I haven't told anyone yet and even though my parents see my compulsions they dont make the connection or anything and I don't know how to go about telling them or asking them to take me to a psychiatrist. Any advice?
Also, if there is anyone on here who has OCD or SAD that I could ask some questions to that would be great.
Thanks (link)
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If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents, then talk to someone you do feel comfortable sharing this concern with. A peer counselor, a school nurse, a minister, a youth leader, whomever you already have a relationship or acquaintence with and can trust with your suscpicions of OCD.
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Is this some kind of personality disorder im going through?
I jump from happy to angry to sad to just about different emotion to the MAX so if i am happy, im really really happy, but if i am angered by little thing, i get so aggrevated and mad.
I act on my emotion, such as yell at people, punching walls, swearing like crazy (which i have stopped now), saying i hate someone, and then pretty soon after, I just feel so sad and bad that I had done all that and regret so much.
Is that some kind of disorder? I would love to get that checked out by some kind of therapy, but my parents thinks im lying and they are kind of in denial because I said i need some help because I am sick and tired of crazy mood swings. They basically doesnt like to think there's something wrong with me, especially mentally. (link)
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People don't go through personality disorders. Typically someone with a personality disorder isn't aware there is a problem--it's just who they are.
Let's put your parents' opinion of your behavior aside for now. That can just complicate things, and besides, you're posting this question to seek help on your own, so they don't figure into it at this moment.
I feel I need to start with a disclaimer: Of course, in these postings, the information provided is insufficient, and many assumptions must be made, so if my response isn't describing your feelings/experiences accurately, it's because I've misread you.
Teenagers struggle with a turbulent range of emotions for which nothing can prepare you. My general, topical answer to your question is that you don't have a disorder, you have normal teenage emotions, and becuase you aren't prepared to understand them, you are acting on them in the hope that someone will recognize and understand your pain, or struggle, and shed some light on it. That's why you've written this post. You're searching for an explanation of the emotions you're experiencing.
Without specific examples of the emotions you're experiencing or any "triggering events", I cannot answer your question any better.
Incidentally, you regret your behavior afterward not because you feel guilty, but because your behavior didn't get the response (reaction, explanation, INFORMATION, etc. you were trying to elicit.
I'd like to hear from you. Please consider submitting a question to me personally, and describing the emotions you feel that lead you to act on them.
Take care,
Dr. Chad
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I have problems focusing.
During class, if I am not talking to the person next to me I fall asleep. I ALWAYS talk, no matter what. All my teachers write in my comments that I talk to much, I just can't help it I get so distracted and bored easily.
Also, I can't focus on one thing at once, if I do I end up frustrated and stop working, or start like flipping out because I don't get it.
I was wondering....do I have ADHD? (link)
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Sleep deprivation has a negative affect on concentration. You may be over-tired. Are you getting enough sleep? If you are getting less than five hours on average, you might want to get to bed earlier, or, if you're having trouble sleeping, you may consider talking to your physician about a possible sleeping disorder.
Dr. Chad
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i feel awful lately and i dont know why. i'm in 10th grade and have had a really awesome time up until about a month ago. Since then i get upset easier and i never know why i feel so i upset. I've had this great boyfriend for almost 4 months now, but he's pulling away, probably because i can never tell him why i'm in such a bad mood recently. today, he pulled me into his arms, and i started crying. i tried to hide it and he didnt say anything about it, but i'm pretty sure he got that i was upset. then i started crying during my math test but stopped myself before anyone noticed. now here i am, crying again. what's wrong with me? (link)
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Since the crying doesn't seem to be triggered by an event or even a thought, my guess is that it's caused by a hormonal imbalance. When my wife was taking hormone pills to induce ovulation (we were trying to get pregnant) the hormones would cause her to cry without provocation. I'm wondering if your crying episodes coincide with your menstrual cycle. Perhaps you could meet with your school nurse.
Dr. Chad
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hi my name is jess im 13. well i constantly have these feelings that i wamt to die and i have no purpose for life. i play as many sports as u could think okso thats not really helping. i get really stressed easily and i cut myself once over a boy. I really need the best ways to handle it im getting really stressed and i cant enjoy myself. if theres any way i can handle it without having to talk to someone because i would sound stupid. please help
jess (link)
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Your thoughts are not truly suicidal.
Your strongest source of personal identity has been playing sports. It sounds as if you haven't tried much else, and you've become bored with just being a "jock", hence your lack of a sense of purpose.
Right now you are adrift in the sea of identity formation. Who are you? Who will you become? Once upon a time you cut yourself over a boy because you wanted to try it out, see if that's who you are, a cutter. You found out it did nothing for you. So you aren't a cutter.
You play sports, perhaps well, but that isn't enough for you. There's more to you, Jess, and you are desparate to discover yourself.
Free yourself from the rigid role you have been playing. Allow yourself to pursue whatever interests you, regardless of the stereotype.
My advice is to cut back on athletics and try some other extra-curricular activities.
Keep searching, don't give up, and you will come to know yourself like never before. It's all a part of adolescence. Everyone goes through it.
Dr. Chad
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hey you guys. im wayyyy over stressed and i really cant seem to find anyway to take my mind off things and just relax? does anyone have any tips? also, i cant seem to sleep anymore are there any tricks you guys use to get to sleep? please dont say go by some sleep aid or whatever cause my mom wont buy them for me. thanks
oh and im 15/f if that means anything. thanks! (link)
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This will sound paradoxical, but one way to fall asleep is to try to stay awake. Think about it--when you can't fall asleep, you lay there concentrating on falling asleep, but your effort usually results in a level of attention that prevents your brain from reaching the hypnotic state which immediately preceeds sleep. You probably also get anxious, worried that you're not going to fall asleep. The anxiety also prevents your brain from reaching the hypnotic state.
Instead, get comfortable, breathe slowly and deeply, focus on one spot on your ceiling, or focus on your alarm clock, and try as hard as you can to stay awake. If your eyes close, open them back up and fight the urge to sleep. If your mind wanders, that's good. Let your imagination go where it wants, but you must continue to focus on your spot. When you feel your eyelids get heavy, fight it. Try to keep them open. Don't ever give in. Sleep only comes when we're not watching for it.
Dr. Chad
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I really don't like to eat -- I think it's a waste of time and I have always thought that. I eat the bare minimum to survive. Sometimes I get problems (headaches, mental confusion, memory loss, hysteria) because of my blood sugar dropping to nothing because I haven't eaten. I don't think I'm fat or anything, and my weight, which is within normal limits, has been basically the same since I was 14 (I'm 20 now, and female, incidentally). There are only about 12 foods I like and maybe another 12 I can eat but don't like -- the rest I will not touch no matter how hungry I am. Oh, and when I do eat, about half the time I get really sick later, not on purpose, very painful and embarrassing diarrhea and gas problems.
I honestly don't think it's that big a deal, I'm used to it, but my friends are disturbed by my behavior when they eat with me, or rather when they eat and I pick at my food. Do I have an eating disorder or is it just a quirk? (link)
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You might have a digestive problem that could be diagnosed and treated by a physician. If many kinds of food causes gastric distress, you would certainly feel no love for food. I can understand why your friends would misinterpret your eating behavior, but since you say you aren't obsessed with your weight or appearance, and since you have the gastric problems, I don't believe you have an eating disorder. I suggest you make an appointment with a physician. Perhaps your digestive system is intolerant of certain types of food (similar to lactose intolerace).
Get it checked out.
Dr. Chad
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I quite often wish that I am more ill than i actually am. I found myself wishing that I could be in hospital over a christmas at some point. I was always ill as a child and spent a lot of last year ill with depression and glandular fever and in a way... i miss it.
I find myself exagerating all aches and pains, I almost like the pain sometimes.
I feel so messed up, do any of you guys ever feel like this? (link)
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The following description is of the syndrome depicted on the show "House". You don't have it--yet. You sound like you're headed in that direction, though.
What is Munchausen syndrome?
Munchausen syndrome is a type of factitious disorder, or mental illness, in which a person repeatedly acts as if he or she has a physical or mental disorder when, in truth, they have caused the symptoms. People with factitious disorders act this way because of an inner need to be seen as ill or injured, not to achieve a concrete benefit, such as financial gain. They are even willing to undergo painful or risky tests and operations in order to get the sympathy and special attention given to people who are truly ill. Munchausen syndrome is a mental illness associated with severe emotional difficulties.
Munchausen syndrome—named for Baron von Munchausen, an 18th century German officer who was known for embellishing the stories of his life and experiences—is the most severe type of factitious disorder. Most symptoms in people with Munchausen syndrome are related to physical illness—symptoms such as chest pain, stomach problems, or fever—rather than those of a mental disorder.
Note: Although Munchausen syndrome most properly refers to a factitious disorder with primarily physical symptoms, the term is sometimes used to refer to factitious disorders in general. In this article, Munchausen syndrome refers to factitious disorder with physical symptoms.
What are the symptoms of Munchausen syndrome?
People with this syndrome deliberately produce or exaggerate symptoms in several ways. They might lie about or fake symptoms, hurt themselves to bring on symptoms, or alter diagnostic tests (such as contaminating a urine sample). Possible warning signs of Munchausen syndrome include the following:
Dramatic but inconsistent medical history
Unclear symptoms that are not controllable and that become more severe or change once treatment has begun
Predictable relapses following improvement in the condition
Extensive knowledge of hospitals and/or medical terminology, as well the textbook descriptions of illnesses
Presence of multiple surgical scars
Appearance of new or additional symptoms following negative test results
Presence of symptoms only when the patient is alone or not being observed
Willingness or eagerness to have medical tests, operations, or other procedures
History of seeking treatment at numerous hospitals, clinics, and doctors offices, possibly even in different cities
Reluctance by the patient to allow health care professionals to meet with or talk to family, friends, or prior health care providers
Problems with identity and self-esteem
From: http://www.clevelandclinic.org/health/health-info/docs/2800/2821.asp?index=9833
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I feel so depressed. I feel as if everyone in my life is moving on. I feel as tho I have no friends I spend my saturdays doing nothing, i feel as tho everyone hates me and Ive thought about sucide.
I have an incurable skin disease its so ugly and difiguring and the only cure for it is sunlight. I live in a cold place and my mum wont let me use tanning beds even tho thats the only cure.
I havnt got a boyfriend, and I dont trust anyone. I cant teell anyine about my skin disease. I feel so ugly and gross all the time. PLEASE HELP!!
What can I do?? (link)
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You need to get treatment for your psoriasis! See this website for information on psoriasis and how it is treated:
http://www.niams.nih.gov/hi/topics/psoriasis/psoriafs.htm
Your inflamed, scaly skin is damaging your self-image, which in turn is destroying your self-confidence and lowering your self-esteem.
If the psoriasis can't be treated effectively and you must live with it, then you should get counseling. As a teenager, you are in your most formative years, and how you learn to see yourself now can have a lasting impact in your life.
Dr. Chad
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i know i am depressed,between family problems,friend problems,and being home sick from my old town.im not the same happy person i was..i just want to become something..should i ask my mom if i could get singing lessons or acting classes? i want to be one of that and im looking forward to going to a collage for singing and acting..and how can i do this how can i become a happy person again? any tips?please help..no one can tell im sad,i hide it..my friends arent good enough to tell that stuff.. (link)
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Every one gets depressed once in a while. Life can be very disappointing and frustrating, and can get the best of us down.
I find it curious that you don't trust your friends with your feelings, but that's your business.
I applaud you for having concrete ideas on how you can bring about the change you are seeking in your life. I definitely encourage you to pursue singing or acting classes. Follow your passions and dreams and you will lift yourself out of this sadness.
Dr. Chad
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