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Dreaming of this person fairly often. Why?
Good-Day Dr_Chad
Of course I've come to you with a question, a question I didn't want to ask anyone I knew personally.
You see, I'm 19 going on 20 soon and I babysit 5 boys, who are all brothers of one another and I adore them and they love having me watch them. I've watched them for about a year and a half. The Family is wonderful. They've came to my past HS Graduation party, came to my grandfather's funeral and I've gone to funerals of their relatives. They've become very close. The mother(Christine), is a stay at home mom, but is out a lot. She's very nice, we talk about a lot, what's going on in my life, etc. and the Father(Justin), is a Doctor, very nice too, he's taught me pool, let me borrow books many, helped me study for exams, we talk a lot, we joke around and laugh and also on Thursday's I meet him at the Pool Hall. Justin's NEVER bothered me(harass or such things), I enjoy every time we hangout. He's one of the only people who really acknowledges my "intelligence", not that I'm trying to seem conceded, but I know I'm smart in my own way, that I'm more mature than a good percent of people who are older than me.
For the passed year(or more) I've had Dreams about Justin. I've never had an intimate sexual thing in the dreams, but they were flirtatious in a way, we're hanging out "closer". Only once has Christine been in the dream, but in that one dream she was with us (me and Justin) but she ended up just leaving and getting drunk.
the passed 2 weeeks, He's appeared in my dreams 3 times. and each time I've woken up in a good mood. and I wanted to remember my dream.
Is this bad? That I'm dreaming of a married man (A lot)?
I really hope you can clear this up for me.
Thank You So Much.
_Melissa
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Dear Melissa,
You enjoy your time with Justin, and you like the way you feel about yourself when you're with him. You clearly also like him for the person he is. I find it perfectly natural that you are having some intimate feelings for him. You may have denied yourself those feelings--not acknowledged them or addressed them inwardly--so that these unexamined, unresolved feelings are surfacing in your dreams. If you awaken and remember the dream and are in a good mood, that's all the motivation your dreams need to produce another Justin dream. Hence the increase in frequency of those dreams.
Your question at the end--Is this bad--perplexes me. It doesn't have the ring of authenticity . . . I don't think it's the question you wanted to ask. You don't need someone to tell you whether a dream is good or bad. Dreams aren't judged moral or immoral, because we don't have any control over them. Unless you meant bad as in your dream indicates your subconsious adulterous intentions towards him, and if that's the case, you're reading way too much into your dreams. People are judged by their actions, not their dreams. Unless you're thinking of seducing him, nothing bad can come of your harmless and pleasurable dreams of him.
My advice is that you continue to honor the good friendship that you have with this doctor and father of the five wonderful boys you babysit. And, hopefully, you continue to have dreams that leave you in a good mood the next morning. ;)
Dr. Chad
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