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okay so i am 14 years old and a girl.
I know that im a teenager and im going to feel sad and angry for no reason, but it seems like it might be more than that.
and i cant be depressed for attention because when im around people i just put on a smile.
My parents are going through a lot right now (my mother is in full time nursing school) and its kind of my job to keep the house running. I do the chores and just kind of stay out of her way.
But i feel like im sad 99.999% of the time. I smile and act happy around other people because they all expect me to be the glue that keeps everything together.
I feel angry because id say my life is pretty good, i have a decent amount of money and i live in a good town and everything and i feel like i should be happy but im not.
I joined theater and track, but i cant do my best in those either because i feel my sadness is weighing me down.
I think im just feeling neglected by everyone. I do cut myself, but not the way you see in movies. I just do it because i like the after effect if that makes sense.
I want to get help because im afraid ill turn to drugs and sex to deal with my problems but im scared if i tell my mom she will think she failed with me and i would hate that.
what should i do???
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Ok, so it's not hormones/adolescense.
Perhaps you're not happy because you resent the burden of pretending to be happy all the time.
Perhaps you resent the burden of keeping the house running and filling your mother's shoes while she goes to school (ostensibly filling your shoes as a student).
I can't help noticing that in your message, first you say you can't be depressed for attention, but later on you say you feel neglected by everyone. Am I misunderstanding you? People you feel neglected also feel the need for attention. And by the way, the desire for attention is normal. Everyone wants to be interesting, or important, to other people.
The type of people who "turn to drugs and sex to deal with their problems" don't premeditate these actions. If you're concerned you might take this destructive path to get the attention you deserve, chances are you will only do it as a last resort, ie. if all other attempts to get people to realize you're hurting fail.
I really don't know what advice to give you, so these are just some thoughts and reactions. Please feel welcome to submit another question if we're on the right track.
Dr. Chad
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