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hi i am yoda. if you realy need help you should email me at heeroyue@yahoo.com, (my name is not heero yue) yes i am a starwars fan. i have a dog named kado, i am proble the most sensable guy you will ever meet. i am very smart( trust me i have been alive for 928 years i think i can be a good person to ask advice), even though my spelling sucks. if any one needs help you can email me.( you know liveing on a dagoba gets very lonly out here :(, feel free to email me please:) if i ansewr a quastionlaghtat night it may not be good advice because i am treid all though it could be fun:)

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ok so my problem is that i dont know where to find a boyfriend. its not that i want one that bad its just that i hate all the guys at my school. the facts are im 15, ive had 2 boyfriends so far, and id like hooked up with a guy once when i was in europe. Now that i started highschool, i guess i had expected the guys to be cuter, and a bit more mature. well my question is where could i find cute guys to go out with, other than at school or the boring movies or the internet!? guys that arent sleezy and are boyfirend material.

well if your looking for good boy friend you might want to join a good club(like a cooking club) that you are inturested in and find some person that you like and have things in comen

how do i get a guy to like me when they already think im annoying?
what flirting should i do?

well it might help to find out what they think is annoying about you and try to stop. next is the hard part (i also have this propbly to becase i was the teachers pet at one time) this will take a bit of luck and placement. now the way i would do it is find something you both like (i know this is hard since he think your annoying) you might want to do some investgating (don't ask people other wise they might tell him your asking about him, so my advice essdrop on conversations or just learn about him through the internet via my space) and try to get involed in it and try to get to talk to him and let him see what your really like. this work for me but unfortunily the same year she had to move so i have no idea how this would work in the long run
note it also help if you really actualy like what your doing together

So I've always been really mature for my age, and sometimes I feel like I'm one of the only people in my school who actually is mature. But now it's really starting to get to me. I mean, I'm sitting there in English class trying to get work done while all of the obnoxious people in my class are yelling and talking about how drunk or high they were last weekend and I just get so angry! I want to turn around and scream "shut the hell up" to them but I know this will just make matters worse and I'd probably just get picked on or something.
Also, when i was in middle school, I was really excited to go to high school to get a nice, unannoying boyfriend, but in fact, all of the guys seem to go after all of the ditzy, slutty, obnoxious girls that crave attention in high school. Well, I always used to think that in high school, people would be more mature, but in reality, they are just as obnoxious. I sometimes think that things are going to be so much better when I'm in college, but I really dont know, college could actually turn out with even more immature people who are even more obssesed with getting drunk.
So, my question is, will I, a person whose felt like she was too old for her age, fit in more in college? Or am I just too mature and serious, and I'll have to be less responsible and less mature to ever really fit in? I know this is really long and I appreciate anyone who took the time to read it.

just because your much more mutrue then the others around you doesn't mean you need to stoop to their level just to fit in. and really if you find that most if not all of the guys in your school are too imature then your looking in the wrong place. try joining a few good clubs thats your intrested in( like for me it would be cooking class) and you might meet people more like you and mature. and don't every stoop to being one of those girl, your to good for that. and if your worryed about fiting in at collage, don't worry it about it, don't pay attention to them, you need to be the better person and don't go off on them. and if you feel like your not fitting in then suround your self with people you do fit in with, ok.

so thats my advice to you

your well come

Yoda

Ok, So I am 13 years old and since May 2005, I have found myself madly in love with no other than a 20 year old McDonalds worker. He has started to open up a little more in the past couple of months, and he gives me lots of hugs, flirts, and shows all the "signs" of love back. Yet he has never told me. This week we are supposed to go to the movies. My question is, Should I open up and tell him I love him or should I just wait until he does?

are you kidding, he's 20, your 13, the is no love here buddy, he probly only wants sex, he probly a petafile. you should be involed at less with some who is your own age. so please be smart. he is way to old for you, so do the smart thing and not date him, and be on your guard, amd may the force be with you.

Okay so i'm dating this guy named Brett.. and all he ever does is talk about himself and i cant stand it. like i was upset one night about me missing my dad(( he passed away 2 months ago and we were close)) and hes like your life isent bad... and im like yeah okay.. and he was like what im like i miss my dad and hes like well i miss my dad too who knows where he is((he moved to a diff. state)) im sure my life is worse than yours. im like yeah thanks. w/e... and all i ever hear about is himself and it drives me insane i mean cant one thing be about me ..

drop him if all he does is talk about him self espesaliy if some from your family died and still does not try to comfert you should drop him. if i was dating you and found out your father died i would be try to make you happy, buying you a gift, lisening to you, just trying to help you though life. he's a jurk if he is not trying to help you get through this, he must not care about if he is not helping you!

may the force be with you.

hi i'm 13 years old, almost 14..and i've never been kissed before in my life. not on the cheeks or lips or ANYWHERE! and i've never even had a boyfriend in my life either. but i want one SO badly! i dont care if my first kiss isnt "real" or whatever..i just want puppy love! i dont care! i just want it to happen..i dream about it so much everynight. and i feel like such a loser because it feels as if every other 13-14 year old girl in the world has been kissed except me. even some of my more unattractive friends have...idk. i dont think i'm hideous or fat or mean or any of hte above...but i dont know ..something about me must turn guys off..just please help idk what to do. and if i'm ever going to get my first kiss soon

you should become more out there talking to guy you like, JUST soclizing( i know my spelling is horrable) i know it's hard to not be shy ( i'm not saying you are, i'm) but some times i would be easyer to sit near them at lunch and just enter there conversation at the right time. or they will get mad and tell you to mind your own buissness.

ps for long therm rlations go with more sensable ones, and if it make you feel any better i haven't ether

Ok so here's the deal....I went out with this guy Teddy and he is 19 i am 17... I went out with him for like a week....but we argued all the time and stuff and it was not working but i stuck through it because he really liked me....In the mean time my Ex boyfriend Rey wanted to get back with me and he is the love of my life so offcourse I took him back and broke up with Teddy.....Well Teddy won't leave me alone now he calls me all the time CRYING AND CRYING AND CRYING!!!!!It is driving me crazy he is writing me emails makin me feel like shit...and the point is i cant get him off my ass and he is now telling me he is going to kill himself and saying all this stuff.....what should i do and what should i tell him?? i just want him to leave us alone...i care about him but this shit is getting annoying already but i dont want him to do anything stup0id to him self either he already cut himself

Omg i need so much HELP PLEASE PLEASE ADVICE I WILL LEAVE FEED BANK AND GOOD RATINGS FOR GOOD ADVICE PLEASE HELP ME THANX

Anabel

you might want to call he's parents or tell the police, or tell him "get a life!!!!!!!!!" ok don't do that he might kill him self right then and there, but try to hook him up with some one else ( he will propble refuse and say your the only one for him) or just not pay attion to him. than there the posablity of him becomeing a stocker LOL but if he does you should call the police.

ps you could all ways look for help from your parent's. please rate this

im 15f. im falling for my best friend; weve known each other for 4 years; hes 16m

i dont knoe if he feels the same way about me n im to scared to let him no how i feel

lately hes been saying really sexual things 2 me and he wants to have sex with me; i told him maybe but im not sure

we never hang out n person becuas im always busy so we only talk on comp

do you think he just wants 2 be friends with benefits and thats all nothing more? n do you think i shuld jus give in n have sex with him if thats all hes lookin 4?

your to young to have sex. he could just be useing you for sex. and even if he is not condams don't always protect. then theres the posiblety that you get pregent, and that can ruhn your entire life. your family could throw you out becuase you had sex, or you could be a discrase to you family. there are also risks you could get std. there are also mentel side effects of doing this, you could have a bad rep and that is the lesest of your problems,you should have a program at your high school about this, i belive that it is called abssidence(meaning to watting to have sex until you are married. my little brother is haveing this program and he is in 7th grade)

okay..well i'm a 13 year old girl and i like this 17 year old guy and he liks me too. my best friend is going out with his cousin so we get to spend a lot of time together. he's a really awesome guy and i know he'd NEVER hurt me. he really cares about me..but the thing is we want to be friends with advantages before we date but it's hard cause he lives in a different town..even though he can drive i don't want him to come over cause i don't want my parents to freak about the age difference..he's the same age as my sister. how should i tell them how old and how good of a kid he is..my mom's met him before but it was only for liek 2 seconds. idk what to do..if you can help i will rate high. please and thanks to those who do help me.♥

she's right at that age thats all they think about is sex. look for some one close to your age. :(

Ok....I've been talkin to my boyfriend on the phone alot But he ingores me almost all the time!!!!!!...all he does is plays his football/basketball game on his x-box and ingores me!...what should i do dump him or what?!?

will if you tell him that if you don't stop palying his game then you will breack up with then he wouldn't like it and breack or you can scach the game CD a lot and then he wont be a be able to play it.PLEASE RATE

hello
my girlfriend and i have been dating for abt a month.. and she told me that she was raped two years ago i was the first guy that took the news approiately.. we had sex for the first time and halfway through she asked me to stop and i did.
and asked for me to take her home..i did..
and she asked to break up with me..
reason being that now everytime she goin to see me she thinks of her rapist...
i dont want to let her go..
i really care for her alot .
she suffers from depression alot...
i want to be a part of her life..
im one of very few people she let in ..
now she shuttin me out..
she told me she wants me to leave cos she dont want to hurt me like she hurt her ex's because of the rape always effected her relationships..
she says she cares abt me too much to hurt me..
i care abt her too much to let her go..

i need advice on this..
also i need to council her somehow.. please give me advice on how to help her get though this..
she refuses to get professional help..
please help..
even if we dont get back together, i want her to progress with her life.. and be able to have a realtionship again
please help

alright look just be by her and let her know that you care and don't keep asking her about it otherwise she will get pissed. and tell her that if she needs any thing just tell you and you'll help her. and if if i were you i would get up and see if you have a sexly treasmited dises. and rate please.

Ok guys, how do you like girls flirting with you? Like how much flirting and what kind? I would really appriciate it!

*I rAtE hIgH!!!!*

look want you tring to get a date you want to flirt. but how and how much to flirt depends on the type of guy you are flirting with. All right lets start from the bottom up, geeks aren't going to belive you like them if you flirt with them, simple because they have been tricked more then once. so it going to take a lot of flirting to convis them and don't pick on them they hate it. ( they are usily the kind and romantik type and they will stick with you even if some one pretter comes along) now the nomarl guy dosen't take alot of work to get them to date you so you don't need to flirt with them so much. note that if some one better then you comes along they will breack up with you. now for the cool people are very easy to get to date if your cool to if not well it going to be ruf. and you will need to compet with the other girls.

Hey I'm a guy and have a situation I'm embarrased about. When I'm with my girlfriend, I feel comfortable and myself...except for one part. My body sometimes responds in the wrong way, like it feels like I'm gonna stain my shorts or something. Anyways, just wondering because I don't think thats normal, doesn't feel right either, and its embarrassing. I never even think about going there or want to. So what should I do? Is this normal? Will rate, thanks.

it's puberty and it's nomal and rate

I've been with this guy for about 9 monthes now. we are not officially together because that is the way i want it. BUT we are exclusive and aren't supposed to be with other people.
I cheated on him friday night. This isn't the first time i did it, but i told him about the other times. After the last one, he told me if i cheated again then we'd be done.
Do you think i should tell him what i did? I really do like him a lot. I'm seeing him today and need advice asap.
thanks

if you liked him so much than you shouldn't cheat on him.

I am 13 Male

When my best friend (a girl a have a crush on) asks me a question about if she should go out with a certain boy whose side should i be on...
should i be on her side and say " Oh ya definitaly go out w/ him.
Or should i be on my side and be like "uh No you should stop looking at a ever other F ing boy but me.
Im sorry if this ? Seems dumb but i need advice hense me coming to this website

I rate Fives

PLEASE i am desparate

look if it all goes down hill with the other guy you should be they for her, let her know that you care for her and she will see that the guy she's been looking for was right in front of her. oh and do some reseach on the guy. if he turns out to be a jack ass you should tell her that. and one more thing don, try and get rid of him or she'll probobly get really pissed off at you.

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