Heyy im tara, I'm a pretty cool kid if you get to meet me. I love going to the beach, even though i HARDLEY ever get to go. I was born and raised on Long Island, stuck in a little city and if i dont get out of here soon im gonna explode. I always wanted to move to california so hopefully i'll go to collage there. But for now im here and trying to enjoy it. I love my friends. I'm a really nice girl. I'm starting to become a little classy girl. Me? Classy? Of course. I love getting my nails done. Makes me feel extra girlie. Any music really turns me on. I love it when a guy can sing & play something hot, aww so adorable, don`tcha think?! ;] I have a boyfriend his name is Paul. He's gorgeous. He makes me really happy && he surprises me alot. He makes me feel all like..warm and soft inside.Shut up. Your jealous. I know. Our love is anything but average. We have the weirdest relationship, but I wouldn`t trade it for the world.. So ask me anything you want im here and will take all of your questions seriously! xoxo.
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which part of a guy physically do you like the most.....eyes? abs? arm muscles? cheekbones? hair? lips?
thanks for reading (link)
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it depends but lips and eyes
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16/f
so this guy, let's call him Max, has been one of my best guy friends for a while. We text all the time and we both work together every weekend. I've always had a thing for him, and we kind of flirt back and forth a little, but he has a g/f that he's been with for almost a year. A week ago he told me that he really likes his g/f (let's call her Sam), but he also has "feelings" for me. We kissed once, but we both felt bad about him cheating on Sam so we decided to just be friends. But now he's starting to flirt with me again. We're gonna be hanging out with Sam and some other friends next week, and I'm kind of afraid of seeing them together, when he and I are kinda going behind her back. And I feel so so so so bad about it, so please don't say I'm being a slut. But I really like him. He's so awesome.
So what should I do? Wait for them to break up? Make a move? If I talk to him, what should I say/ how should I bring it up?
I'm so lost and caught up in him, and it really sucks. Please help.
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ok i would really take it slow with him maybe even not see him as much. you dont want to do something you will regret. try talking to him to see where he is going with this whole mess, you are never gunna know what he is thinking if you dont ask him. it sounds like you really like himn so give it time sometimes things need to work themselves out on their own
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My boyfriend and I went to breakfast today and he kissed the waitress on the lips and she had a nickname for her. He insists she is is like a sis to him. They have known each other before I even met him. Am I too jealous, how should I react? (link)
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omg i would be extremely jealous. There is a very good chance he isnt as faithful as you think. confront him about it, b/c it really isnt right to do that
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does it sound like this guy likes me as more than a friend?
Well he had moved a couple of weeks ago. Before he moved we were usually in regular contact. He gave me his old computer before he left. He just got his internet hooked up. He gave me his private cell number, and also wanted to talk on msn messanger with me. In my experience, a guy won't volunteerly give out his private cell phone to a girl unless he's interested.
Well we started messanging each other a couple of days ago. When we talk it's usually for quite a long time; atleast an hour. He has been saying things like that he really missed me (with a crying face), and that he thought I was funny. I told him that I had a dream about the two of us a week ago and then asked if he ever did, and then he said he couldnt recall; but put a picture of a smiley face blushing. He also kept sending me winks and nudges. I also told him after my long shift last night that I wanted to soak in the tub and he sent me a smiley face with a huge grin and he said "GO FOR IT"! I also asked him if he liked talking to me on messanger and he said "for sure; you're a great person to know and talk to".
We talked for about an hour last night; and then he asked me what time I worked today because he wants to talk to me again.
So does it sound like there is something there more than a friendship? Or am I reading too much into it? (link)
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yea i think it does sound like he likes you more than a friend but its still alittle hard to tell. I mean its like a 75% chance that he does. If he keeps up the flirting then its deffiant. So just keep rolling with it and let him figure out what he wants, if he likes u hell make a move or something. Good luck, have fun!!
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Okay, so my boyfriend, Reed, and I have been going out for 3 months this tuesday. I know its not that long, but still, i'm in love with him. Before we even started going out, we would always say "I love you" or "your the best". Once he even said to me "I can't live with out you Cici." Well, i do truely love him, with all my heart, but the problem is, i never see him. He goes to a different school, and is 2 years older then me (hes in 10th, I'm in 8th) So he is in high school, im still in junior high, so he is always busy, the last time i was him was over a week ago. WE didn't even get to see each other on valentine's day. Well anyways, I was at the Panic! At The Disco concert with my best friend Lenah, and one of her friends, Way, was said to her "You're friend, Cici, is really gorgeous." So like, him and I were flirting with each other at the concert. Then during Hellogoodbye, he was standing behind me, and was holding my hips, holding me close to him. Then all of the sudden, when i was dancing to P!ATD, i turned around to look for a friend that had gotten lost from me in the mosh pit, and he kissed me. Well we ended up leaving the mosh pit, and made out, outside of the building. And like asked for my number and all and i gave it to him, but like, he hasn't called (which im glad) But i want to tell my boyfriend, but i have no idea how. What can i do and/or say to my boyfriend to tell him and to make it up to him. I didn't want to hurt him. I have never loved him more then i do right now, and I'm shure he feels the same so... Please help
I RATE 5'S FOR GOOD ADVICE. (link)
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umm this is really hard. i think you should tell him, brake it to him gentely, and deffiantly say that, the experince has only made you relise that you dont want to be with anyone with him and it has made you feel closer to him.
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This weekend has been totally fucked up. I broke up with my boyfriend, but I can't take it. Saturday night I drove to my friends house crying my eyes out and nearly wrecked. I got so fucking wasted it was unbeliveable. I only got 2 hours of sleep that night and it didn't help at all because all I did was cry. I didn't go to school today because I am so depressed. I don't know what to do really because I miss him yet I had my reasons for breaking up with him. At work last night everytime he passed I would cry and eventualy they told me to go step outside for awhile. When I left he took me to my car and I started crying again. He said that he would always love me and he kissed me.Through all my tears I told him that I was so sorry he ever had to meet me. God i seriously don't know what to do and it's eatin me up.... what should i do? (link)
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aww it seems like u really loved him it takes awhile for a heart to heal beacuse you let yourself open up that much. honestly every girl crys over something like that, its wat we do best, and its really all you can do. But like anything your heart will heal and things will be fine agian, promise. sometimes you just have to tuff it out. And there will be many boys in the future. Sorry i dont have any like real adive or anything, but i felt bad noone answered you. good luck!!!
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well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and we're always messing around but lately we haven't it feels like our realationship isn't the same anymore.i told him i didn't feel like it was the same and he told me he was feeling the same way so he suggested that could be the problem that we haven't been messing around with each other and he thinks we should start again,but i feel that why should we mess around juss so we can feel that spark between us again.shouldn't it juss be like we don't have to do anything like that juss so our relationship could be the same.i don't like the fact that i always have to satisfy him juss so he can be happy with us.i feel like if i don't do it our relationship will not be the same.wat should i do?should i do it or not.he's not pressuring me to do it he was saying that as a suggestion but i don't know i juss need some advice i guess and i will rate a five for juss sum good advice o and i don't mean messing around like having sex with him i haven't done that yet and we love each other alot it's just that we want the love to be on a high level right now. we don't want it on medium i guess u can say but he's like my best friend.i really care about him and i know he feels the same about me.
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i think you should try messing around, sometimes it takes that to make a relitionship work because its an intamate level that talking cant get too. Your never gonna no what works in relasionships and what doesnt unless u try. Hope i help! good luck!
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15/f
i've been going out with this guy for about 9 months. we're totally different and hang out with completely different people.
Me = the drama nerds, and preps.
Him = the ghettofabulous people.
for this whole time, i only hang out with a few of his friends, the ones i can stand. but tonight, he invited me to go to the roller rink with him. i said yes, thinking it was only me and him. but apparantly a few of his friends are going. ones that i've talked to, but never really wanted to be associated with. i guess i feel pretty obligated to eventually hang out with his friends since he hangs out with mine all the time.
any tips on how to get along with them and not feel like a total outcast?
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just try to be a social as possible, sometimes you get misconseptions from the first couple imprestions, hopefully his friends are as nice as him! chances are they are! good luck
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hi
well i appologize now fore making my question so long!
i really like this guy named ned! and he's in 9th grade i'm in 8th grade and i dont see him very often but he's often in the same bus when i drive home and well i think he likes me 2 because he is smyling at me very often and he also is looking at me all the time! but i kinda am a shy person (with boys normaly i'm everything but shy) so i never smile back even if i like him so i think ji'm kinda confusing him cause once he was in the same bus than me and i was just sittin there looking out the window and than he comes next to me and he was like:
ned:hi
me: uhm hi?
ned: how are you?
me: uhm i dont know
ned: you dont know how you are?
me: thats what i'm saying
ned: well ok..anyways are you good in school?
me: uhm i'm ok but not the best
ned: do you want a basketball? ( i think he said that because we were just driving next to a basketball field and he didnt know what to say :-)
me: uhm no?
ned: yeah me neather
me: 2 bad
ned: yeah seriously 2 bad
me: whatever
ned: soooo are you proud to be the new classpresident was it your dream?
me: no not really
ned: uhm ok do you like robert? (some guy in 8th grade 2)
me: NO WHY???
ned: because i hear rumors that your going out with him (which is totally not true!)
me: WHAT WHO SAID THAT???
ned: well i cant tell you that its a secred
me:whatever
ned: so who is like your best friend?
me: i dont have any friends (because i had this big fight that day but everything is fine now:-)
ned: so do youu wanna be friends with me?
me: dunno
ned: why are you being so mean to me? your not answering any of my questions!
me: uhm...
well yeah and than my busstop came so yeah well now i want to apollogize but he wasnt in school for one week now and uhm do you think he likes me? please i need some advice! (link)
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yea he deffiantaly likes u! and deff. apolyise just be like i was having a bad day sry about that. hope i helped xoxo tara
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Well , i really like this guy in 7th grade, but the thing is I'm in 8th grade. I don't really know him that well but i really like him.
I know him well enough to like ask him out, but i dont want to yet.
I know some of my friends would give me a hard time about it but i know his friends wouldn't.
Should i ask him out or not?
I rate high for help
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yea deffanitly ask him out what do you have to lose! you dont have to right away try talking to him alittle more whenever you get the chance then when you sre confident enough you should ask him out! good luck! xoxo
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A close male friend of mine broke his foot and now he can't work, he has to wait for it to heal and stays at his house all day. I've been really supportive and have offered to drive him to the hospital but he delcined. Well he has been a total jerk to me since he broke it. At first I could understand him being in a bad mood but then it started to upset me. For ex, I phoned him and was going to ask him if he wanted a visit. I started the converstation by telling him that I was bored, and he YELLED at me and said "how could you be bored"! And never invited me over.
Another time I phoned him and politly asked why he hadnt answered any of my emails, and then he replied "I don't sit around all day on my computer"!!
He normally isnt like this, I know it must be a drag to have a broken foot and be out of work, but he doesnt have to take it out on me I'm just trying to be nice.
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honestly i think its his male ego problems. I think he feels like helpless and i no that bothers guys alot, especilly when girls are trying to help them. So just lay-low for a while and not talk to him as much and then when you start talking agian dont give him any sympathy ( i know, weird consept). hope i helped xoxo
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I'm 13/f and I just had my first kiss. Well... Sorta. Anyways we were at the mall and he pulled me aside and said "I love you, I think your beautiful" and he started making out with me. It was the best moment of my life but after about three seconds I got really nervous and I didn't know what to do so I sort of pushed him off a little and I hugged him and he said it's still okay and he loves me. I know he isnt upset but I feel bad because I really wanted to kiss him and I probably made him feel bad although he won't admit it and he says its fine we'll try again another time. He's coming over Saturday. Is there anything I can do to not be so nervous? Or advice on your first kiss? Thanks a bunch. =) (link)
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ur gonna do great...cuz i mean he is obviously obsesed with you, so he is gonna like it no matter wat just keep telling ur self that and be toattly relaxed...god luck ull do fine..xoxo tara
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okay, i really really need help!! this guy and i, were supposidly dating... i like him so much, and he said he liked me... well last night he called and he starting fighting with me over the fact that i never give him a straightforward answer... i dunno what thats supposed to mean, but i always tell him i dont care, and i guess that bothers him... well he told me everything was over... and then told me he was getting sick and needed to take a shower, so i told him to call me back after becasue we needed to talk about this... so he called back like 15mins later and was all calm and he stopped yelling at me... but he was like i hate how you cant tell me exactly what you want, and how you only do stuff to make me happy... im so confused... if theres anybody who can help me witht his please do!! are we still broken up? how can i get him back? what are smoeways i can get over him?? anything will help... but please!! soon! thanks (link)
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no i dont think that you guys are like officaly "broken-up", just ask him to meet you somewhere so you guys can talk and settal things out. He obviosly still likes you because he wouldnt be going though this much time and effort to tell you how he feels. I hope everything works out, lots of love! xoxo Tara
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Kay well Im having some problems with boys. So I met this guy and his name is Nathan and hes like wonderful he treats me really good..but for some reason whenever im around guys i like i get like these cute little butterflies in my tummy and yeah . but when im with him i feel like NOTHING. soo i dont know what to do i dont really know how i feel about him .please help becasue all my friends want me to hook up with him and i dont want to be leading him on
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well you obivosly dont like him so just be like it will be better if we were friends, tell him that he needs someone that will like him the way he likes them and that you like him as just a friend hope i helped xoxo tara
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Well I'm dating this guy... and he's really hott and I like him SO much... but it seems like everytime we hang out all we do is makeout and other stuff like that... and once I didn't really wanta do it and when I said I didn't feel like doing that he was like whatever and left! So I feel like thats all he's in this relationship for! And of course its fun... but I don't want only that in a relationship... and I kinda want to break up with him but I just like him so much! And I don't know why and I don't know what to do! (link)
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ummm yea break up with him!!! you should never ever let somebody treat you like that!! you could find wayyy better guys theat care about you and ur feelings hope i helped xoxo tara
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I was with this kid Brendan about a year ago for about six or seven months and even though after we broke up I went out wtih other people... I'm definetly still in love with him. He has not been with anyone since but with him it's just different. Even if I wanted to just talk to him I get scared and don't know what to say. Everyone can tell and I hate it! Last night I was talking on the phone wtih his best friend and he just came up on the topic and said you and Brendan were the best couple and I think you should go out again... I don't know if that's just his opinion or if Brendan has been talking to him about me or if his friend is just trying to hook us up for the fun of it or something. Yeah so I don't know...
xo elise (link)
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no no boys tell there best freinds everything he diffantly wants to be with you agian....so just go up to him flirty and be like i havent seen u 4 a while we should diffanly hang out! then hopefully that will spark somthing....good luck!! xoxo Tara
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I am a pretty outgoing girl, but for some reason I am a lot shyer when it comes to approaching boys. If they talk to me first, then it's all good, but I want to have more of a interaction with them then just in class. I don't know how to approach them, and it's not as easy as "just being brave and talking to them" (most people say this) because they already have other girls who are their friends, so it's tough because they already have friends. To me it sounds eaiser if I start talking online, but then I feel like it would be awkward because they'd be like "where the heck did she get my screen name" so I wouldn't know how to IM them first. Does anyone have any good tips for me on preferably starting a conversation with a boy you only know from class, or IMing someone? I would really appreciate a good thought out answer from someone who has ahad the same experiences because a lot of people say be brave but it's not so easy for some girls as it is for others! I am a 16 year old female if it helps, & I would say I am pretty (not the most gorgeous girl, but nice looking). THANK YOU! (link)
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when you are iming them be like, heyy its (your name) i got your sn from (person your got it from) your in my (subject) class, right? , that way he nos that u like him enough to talk to him but you dont sound desprate. hope i helped xoxo Tara
o0o0o, just like compliment him on his clothes or someting or talk about how dumb the teacher is or about the weather anything really but remember to always smile!! and flip your hair, not alot just a little so they notice it. and laugh at all the things they say that they are trying to be funny.
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okay, well where do I start? As always, the story begins with "there was this guy.." haha
Well, I met this guy on my vacation this summer. And we got really close and everything..so close that we decided that we'd meet again this christmas (i live in the UK, he lives in the US..he's flying here this christmas - Just to see me (aww, hehe) well, anyways..im working really hard to make sure that he'll think it's worth it when he comes here, ive lost alot of weight, whitened my teeth proffessionally, got my hair fixed, bought alot of sexy clothes, took a seductive dancing class..well, basiclly EVERYTHING! now the only problem is, how do i become sexy? i know there's no specific thing to do/say to be sexy..so i was just wondering if there's any one thing that you remember as sexy. For example, the sexiest thing mý ex-bf said was ' let's give them something to watch' and then he kissed me right infront of everyone! (This group of girls where staring at us, and i was like : what are they looking at, and then he said the wohle ' well, lets give them something to look at -thiing' and i thought that was really sexy! You know, stuff like that..like it dosnt necessarily have to be something that i can do, i wont copy whatever your gf did. I just started thinking about all this..and wanted to know the things you considered sexy. Cause i know what girls think is sexy already, for example : when a guy wears axe, or when he calls you babe/baby, when he touches your hip,when he simply givs you a kiss on the forhead..or when he carries you 'lol, makes me feel like a tiny woman, and he's my strong hero' lol..well anyways, is there anything you guys can tell me that you think is sexy? thank you =)hah sorry if it was long.. (link)
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well when your talking to him i no boys love it when you touch there arms, run your fingers threw your hair, call him babe, compliment him, when his talking bite your lower lip and if i think of anymore things ill let you no. Have fun sounds like he's really special!! good luck xoxo tara
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so like i said before i met this great guy! at my school. Im thinking will i see him again will i ever get to go out with him and get to know him? he goes my school but does not do any of my subjects. I feel all shy around him. he was chatting to me for ages like over 1 hour! so does he like me or is it 2 early to tell. someone advice me pleasee i will rate you high. (link)
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well if he was talking to you for over an hour i think he like you. If you want to you could ask him if he would want to go out but you dont have too. Just try flirting and see what he does it might be a little to early to tell though! hope i helped xoxo- Tara
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okay well me and this gurl were best frends for 7 years... we got into a few fights but nothin 2 big. but she started dating this guy who we'll call "D" and me and him became rlly good frends and could talk 2 each other about nething! well 1 nite we were talking and he asked me if she liked ne other boys and i wasnt about 2 lie.. so i said yes and well a week later she broke up with him and then called me saying how she hated me because i told him those things. well now this gurl is ruining everything! shes always saying to the guys i like not to date me because ill just brake their heart. and idk i told her to stay outa my business and we need to go separate ways but i dont think its working. so wat can i tell her to make her stop and leave me alone and move on with her life? i rate high! (link)
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tell her that she is not being very mature about the situation and tell her all you told him was the truth. And dont worry the girl must have some kind of a life and she will eventually stop butting into yours
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