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Q: Okay i asked your guy's help once before about my girlfriend. But I have a serious situation, one of my ex-boyfriends called and asked me out. I haven't came out with this yet so nobody knows except my best friend and my gurlfriend and her aunt. I couldn't turn him down cause he's driving three hours just to see me. I wanna go but I don't think he would like the fact that i'm a 15 year old Bisexual and I have a girlfriend. And I don't think me girlfriend would like me going out with some guy!!!!!!!! Should I tell them????????

Yes, it would be better then losing both of them.

Q: Well my neighbor who is like my best friend is throwin' hints that he likes me or whateva, but he won't come out and say it. When I ask him questions to kinda "trap" him into tellin' me he always comes out with something for us either to start arguing or to get off the phone. How can I get him to tell me how he really feel?

You should tell him how you feel, && Ask him how he feels. just be straight up, good luck

Q: I have a small note I want to send to my boyfriend, and I only know the basics of Italian and French, so I can't really translate the whole thing. I know Spanish, but of course that's not too romantic. Anyways, this is for our 3 month anniversary note, please translate it in Italian, if you can't do Italian, French pleaseee?! I need it to be special. Thanks!

Here's the note:

Wow, I can't believe it's been three months already. It seems like we've been together for so much longer! I can't imagine if you and I weren't together; you're definitely the most important person in my life. I love you, always and forever.

Thanks! I'll rate if you actually translate it for me! Thank youuuu.

Wow, non posso credere che sia stato tre mesi già. Sembra come siamo stati insieme per cosí molto più lungo! Non posso immaginare se non eravamo insieme; lei è definitivamente la persona più importante della mia vita. L'amo, sempre e per sempre.

Q: I like my bestfriend Jeff people say that me and him will get married but im sure he dont like me like that....do u think i should try to ask him out in risk are friend ship?

well, before you do anything ask him how he feels, just talk to him. his answer will determine everything. Good luck hun

Q: In the last week or so, my one guy friend started flirting with me. And on Friday he sat with me and my friend at lunch. He sat by me and kept flirting by me, but I wasn't really thinking of it as flirting cause I didn't think he liked me. Turns out that night when we were IMing each other I said something like who do you think I should go out with and he said me. And i was just like...? And he was like you know I'm serious didn't you notice me flirting with you at lunch today. Then he asked me out and I said yes. Like an hour later he IMs me right when I came back from being away and said hey (my name) i was thinking and I like another girl too. And I don't wanna be going out with you when I like another girl too. So sorry but i guess its over. Does anyone have any idea why he did that in the first place? Or if it was just a joke? Or what?

I'll rate for good answers!

hes immature.. forget about him.

Q: kayy well i was going out with a really cool guy and this girl that used to be my best friend asked him out when we just broke up and she told him she asked me that it was ok to go out with him but she never asked me. so im really mad at her. but now the guy wants to go out with me again but he doesnt like to say no to people like the other girl but i hate her now so i feel like getting back at her so this is the best thing i can think of. is it ok???

well, that girl obviously wasnt a very good friend. and if you still like this boy.. then go ahead.. but if you dont have feelings for him anymore.. dont go down to her level, and seek revenge.. just show her that your a nice better person then her. and you respect your self.. and your real friends.

Q: ok so my b/f and i broke up cause me moved....and i really cant get over him!! and i dont no how like i jus really really want to be w/him but i cant be w/him.....and i me and him were sooo in love at least i was....he was everything i wanted in a man or boy or whatever u want to call it....and i jus feel rite in love w/him we were sooo alike and i could get along w/him sooo well....and i wanted to marry him cuz i really think that i could live w/him for the rest of my life!! but the only problem was that he was 13 and kinda had the rest of his life ahead of him and i am 16 and i kinda wanted a serious relationship and he didnt.....but i still cant get over him and now he has a g/f!!! and i dont no how to get over him????please help me?!?!?!

iight look imma tell you straight up, tha same stuff happend to me.. about 3 months ago. my boyfriend and i had been together for more then a year.. i had to move and hour away. i loved him more than anything, and everything you said reminded me of him and i. except we were both 16 after i moved. we tried to have a long distance relationship.. everything was working out fine.. i would drive up to see him twice a week. untill school started.. i had made new friends, started having less time for him.. you know.. i would talk to him on the fone every chance we got. which was alot seeing how we have cell phones.

homecoming was coming up.. and he asked me to go.. the week before. that whole week he hadnt called me or answered my calls. i was devistated. he had told my bestfriend that he didnt wanna be with me anymore because he couldnt trust me. ive never cheated on any of my boyfriends. so i dont know why he would say that.

about 1 week after. i found out he liked a 13 year old and i was madd.. i threatened this girl.. so many times.. she finally got the clue and backed off.. but then he was mad at me.

i realized that even though i loved him with all my heart, and always will. things will move on.. were 16 i have partying to do .. and experinces to go through, im not going to find my husband at this age. nor do i want to.. im in highschool.. i want to have fun.. i recently found a new boyfriend, who makes me happy.. every once in a while i will find myself thinking about him and wondering what he is doing.

basically you need to move on, your still young and you still have alot of other things and boys ahead of you.

good luck. xOox Kristina

Q: If a guy touches your arm a lot as hes talking to you, is this a good sign?

yeah, he wants you.

Q: What do you do if your friend tells you to find someone new, because they like the same person you do and say they like them back? I believe it to be a bit harsh. If your friend cared for you, wouldn't they just leave it alone instead of saying something like that?

Yes, your friend... IS NOT a friend if he/she would do that. PLAY TO WIN. dont let him/her think they have control over you. And yes thats rude, if they cared for you they wouldnt do that.

Q: I thought i was over this kid that i liked for a while (we were close and dated a couple of times) but then he started to get over me to but i started gettin jealouse because he was getting over me...hes still not completly over me (I think)but im still jealouse...i dont think im over him what should i do?

[ Play hard to get ]

Be really nice to him, then when you think u have him where you want him, suddenly become unavailable.

Hope i helped

Q: I had moved to Cancun for like 4 months from aug.- december.. now im back in the states.. I have been with my BF for 11 months and when I was living in mex. in november he cheated on me ( meaning had sex!!) with a girl at our school.. I finally moved back when I found out.. I didnt break up with him or anything because I kind of understood since I was in another country and he didnt know when I was coming back.. he was so sorry and cried to me and told me that im the only girl he wants to be with for the rest of his life.. he also told me that they were drunk and that it was a big mistake.. I asked his best friend about it and he didnt know about it.. he told me that he must have been really ashamed of it because he didnt even tell his bestfriend... I know that if I was going to break up with him or anything like that that its a little too late.. but what can I do.. I already talked to him about it.. its just that everytime I walk by the girl he had sex with I get so disgusted and dont even want to look at my BF.. I sometimes cry because of what he did hurt me so bad..anyone have some advice?

Just remember your the only girl he wants to be with for the rest of his life! So when you see the girl, Remember what he said bkuz her slutty actions arent getting her any where except a worse reputation. You have it better then it could be, what if he broke up with you for her? that would be worse, and atleast he admittited it to you. Just stay with him, your better then that skanky girl anyway!!

Hope it helped

Q: Okay heres the thing. There's this guy I really like. His name is Eugene. I've liked him since 5th grade. Right now I'm in 8th. Well, me and him have been really good friends. We talk alot on the phone, and talk to each other in school. Well, my friend Jamie, she likes Eugene too. In her journal she writes how much she loves him and everything. I get really jealous. I tend to cry. See, what I don't get is why does he hug her, and like kiss her on the cheek. But like yet he's only known her for this whole month. He doesn't do anything with me and we've known eachother for about 3 - 4 years. He flirts with her so much. I asked him if he likes her or anything, and he says no he doesn't.. just as a friend. I really don't know what to do. Right now I'm kinnda' upset, 'cause Jamie asked this girl from my class to come up to Eugene and ask him if he'd go out with her. He said "I'll think about it." God, I felt like crying. I really don't know what to do anymore. Help me please?? Thanks.

Okay... Well 1. Jamie obviously isnt a real friend if she still continues to flirt with him and stuff.. 2. maybe you should go up to Eugene and hug and kiss him? i think that you should have a serious conversation with him... tell him how you feel.. he should understand.. and if he doesnt .. then he isnt worth it.. you seem to good for him anyway!

hope i helped

Q: Ok, this weekend was the homecoming game & dance. A good guy friend of mine, let’s call him “Bob”, ok, now me and “Bob” have a history together, and recently, things have happened (mostly he stood me up for a dance) and I know that he is not that great of a person (he’s a stoner) and yet I still love him, but, he has messed up so many times in the past, but I know things will turn out ok, because we both really care about one another. And I know this for a fact, but his mom died about 3 yrs ago, and eh was really close to his mom, and her death made him hate relationships, and hate love. Is there anyway that I can convince him the\at not all relationships are bad and that love can be a great thing? And to let him know htat I am here for him always. I tell him that I am always here, and I tell him a lot, but I think he is afraid to lose me like he did his mom…what can I do to help him?

Well "Bob" has been through alot, And i think its his time to get into a serious relationship... If you like him.. like that then i think you should totally open up to him and prove to him that its okay to be afraid but.. if you only wanna be good friends..then talk to him as a friend and explain to him that you know how he feels and u think he should give it a try

h0pe i helped..