okay. i like this guy alot! And my friend asked him if he likes me. He he said "no.....just as a friend". but she says he said it funny (like he was lieing)
And, i dunno 2 move on. or keep flirting. *because when he flirts-i flirt/when i flirt-he flirts.
Do i give up or what?
def dont give up! you both are flirting with eachother, so if your gonna flirt wit someone then you must be attracted to the person! but i would continue to do what your doing, but if you really like him, then have your friend tell this guy your feelings and then see where it takes you, he may just be to shy to tell you! hope i helped, ask me anytime!!
**JoElen**
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Okay, usually advice on my relationship is the last thing I need, but you know what, I want/need advice.
Here's the situation.
My guy and I have been together for about a year and a half. I'm 17, he's 18, if it matters. This year (senior year for both of us), I'm going to a prom at my old school with one of my guyfriends. In the beginning, my boyfriend didn't have a problem with it, but he just called me and we talked for like half an hour about it. Apparently, he doesn't like the way my guyfriends look at me.
Now here's where half the problem lies. I have a LOT of guyfriends. I mean I have like 5 female friends and the rest are guys. I always felt more comfy around guys than I did with girls. The thing is, I know he's right. There are a lot of my guyfriends that I know like me, but the thing is - They know they could never get anywhere with me because I'm utterly devoted to my one and only.
But he's said he's gritted his teeth and not kicked their asses because he wanted me to be happy.
First of all, how the hell do I get him to stop hating my guyfriends so much? They like him, and they think he's good for me - I agree, he is, which is why I accepted his proposal.
(Don't freak out, it's gonna be a looooong engagement.)
Secondly, what can I do to make him feel better about the whole going-to-another-prom-with-another-guy thing?
There was another situation earlier this year when I had to kiss someone onstage, and he was kind of disgruntled about it in the beginning, but he turned out to be okay with it. When I brought this up, he told me he was okay because he was there to see it, and when he was there, the guy I had to kiss acted like he had no interest in me whatsoever (offstage).
I told him it sounded like he didn't trust me, and he said he did, he just didn't trust my guyfriends.
My guyfriends are like my brothers. Yes, okay, I know a few of them like me, but they're not getting anywhere, and their feelings for me are becoming a long running joke.
So what I do about my boyfriend's issues? He's not a jealous guy, really, and this is the first time I've ever had this issue with him.
So basically, help me out. What do I tell my guy? How do I fix the tension between my boyfriend and my guyfriends? Help me out, please.
I don't mean to be discriminatory, however, I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. Thanks in advance!
ook, i got it! i wasnt sure, and im glad i helped you and i hope all goes well! ask me anytime!!!
**JoELen**
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just got out of a bad relationship, verbally and sorta physically abused. known him all my life, devestated that hes ruining his life with drugs, going threw bad depression, being forced to see doctors... all the advice is the same from everyone, theres not much else i can do, was hoping to hear some different views... ?
-one sad girl
i know how you feel, well sorta..and i know about hearing the same advice, but im going to give it a try anyway...i know how hard it must be to be in that kind of a relationship, but the good thing is that your out of it, as hard as it seems the best thing is that your out it, and hopefully you are ok, and its good that you care about him and his life, but if he abused you then he obviously doesnt care about you, and thats a hard thing to get over and seeing doctors can be annoying, and they are their to helpful, blah blah, but forget all that...just worry about yourself, your not happy, so work on it, and keep your head up high, and remember the people who surround themselves around you only do that because the care about you!! so just remember that! hope i helped, ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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i went to my boyfriends hometown (arkansas) last weekend and he was all over me and then one day i snapped at him (yelling) on accident and i think he took it defensive because now he is snapping at me and he isn't all touchy feely with me these past two days now that we are back in missouri! and he noticed that i yelled at him cuz he told his mom that i did! and he hasnt really been himself around me these past two days and i dont know what to do! should i apologize for what i did? or what? i am a 14 year old young lady and i dont know what to do!
first of all, i gotta say i admire you! im 14 too, and you live in missouri and your bf lives in arkansas, and right off the bat thats a big committment. but you should definetly apologize because if you did it on accident and he is snapping at you most likely because he is mad at you, and he aint acting like himself because you aint apoligize, so you should definetly apologize and then if that dont work, then talk to him about it and see where it takes you. hope i helped!! ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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ok so my boyfriend and me have been going out for about a month and a half or so.. he goes to a different school and hes 16, im 13.. i loved him sooo much! last night i was talking to him online and i asked if he was gonna come and meet me at the ice skating rink (where i always meet him) and he said "maybe, i might go to the mall with some friends instead but if we dont go then ill come see you." i felt kind of offended by this that he wanted to go see his friends instead of me. i can only see him on friday nights so if he didnt come i wouldnt see him till next friday (if he decided to come) and so i was like oh, alright i guess. then later that night i was talking to one of his friends... (not a very good friend tho) i only met him last weekend when my boyfriend wasnt at the ice skating rink... we talked for like 5 minutes... then when we were talking online last night he asked if i was goin ice skating.. i said probably not, he asked why and i told him about me being kinda mad about john not going. so then i ask what jake has said about me to him. chris, (the guy im talkin to online) says he wont tell me what john said about me because he doesnt want to hurt me. i finally get him to tell me what jake does on the nights when he doesnt go to the rink with me. he tells me that john has been seeing another girl and goes to hook up with her and only comes and sees me if shes not availiable. im so upset when i hear this... but i think his friend likes me so i dont know if hes telling the truth... but john never tells me where he goes when he doesnt come.. it all makes sence... both stories do... i dont know what to do...
you should definetly believe chris, or whoever told you what jake or john was doing, now its not totally true, like its not definete i mean, but it john or jake isnt telling you thats alittle suspicious i mean come on, so i think you should believe chris, he said he didnt want to hurt you, he wouldnt lie from what it seems, and john or jake seems like it, so follow your heart, but my advice would be to like further find out more about the situation, before making your final decision,hope i helped, ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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lately, ive been thinking a lot about my first love. thes this other boy and we're pretty into eachother, but i havnt been able to stop thinking about my first love lately. its gonna be a year now that met and we fell in love over the summer. is this normal? is it just cuz he was my first love? or do i still have feelings 4 him? i really like this new guy. its just that i've been thinking about the first one. maybe, its b/c he represents a happy time in my life or hes very special to me or something. i dunno. do i still like him in a way?
it's obvious, i wish i could answer if you still like him or not, but i cant! only you can! but i can tell you that the reason why your thinking about him if cause he was your first love! but i can understand you still like your first love, and you also like this new guy, but you have to get over your ex, and if it is meant to be, then it'll happen,. but you shouldnt wait around for something that isnt gonna happen! :) you'll be fine, and i hope i helped, ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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My mom wants me to be a total conformist: make-up, trendy clothes, dumb girl for a regular guy: you know. I really don't want to because it is so not me but she doesn't care. What do I do?
15/f
well you dont not seem the girly girl type, like i need to have to have the cutest clothes and get my nails done and oh my gosh i broke a nail type girl, but you need to ask yourself, who am i? and what do i want to be? and there's a difference between you being happy and making your mother happy, because in the longrun, what makes you happy, makes your mom happy too, so ask yourself that question, and then all you have to do is follow your heart, and you'll be fine, i promise. hope i helped, ask me anytime
-JoElen
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hey girl,
(i just asked the question bout what to do with my nieghbor with the 4wheeler) ok, he seemed interested in me. and i was always going over to his house and like everytime he would drop me off at my house, i would be like ok, come by and pick me up the next time you are here please and he would be like ok.but he would never come. i would always be the one gettin togther with him. and that monday that i thought everything was going so great with, the next day he was here, wednseday, i went over and he was working on his 4wheeler and he brealy talked to me. i felt like such an ass! and then like i stopped goin over there hoping and prayin he would come by to see if I was available. but that never happened....and its not like i totally ignore him, the last time i saw him, last thursday night, i was outside on my cell and he came out and got into his car and just sat there(it looked like)for the whole time i was out there and when he left i yelled Cya. but i guess the question is; do i make another move again? do i go over to his house again? do i see whats up even though he has a girlfriend? or is his no anwser really an answer?
female 14
hes male 15
hey gurl!
ook total different perspective now! umm my advice is or my question is do you really like him? and wanna get to kno him, and if yes, then i think you should jus make conversation, i kinda think your movin to fast, and he is either to scared to make another move, or he isnt sure what you want! so jus make conversation, take things slow, and see where it takes you, ask anytime ya want, ill try to answer within 24 hours
-JoElen
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Ok, so there is this guy that I met online a few years ago. But we didn't really talk until around last Thanksgiving. He lives in North Carolina and I live in Minnesota. We've talked every single day on the computer and on the phone since Thanksgiving. I want to be with him so bad. But im only 15 and I have school right now. And there's like no possible way I can see him. It's getting to the point, where it's like hurting me. I'm aching to see him. I love him so much and have never had these kind of feelings for somebody before. I lay in bed every single night for hours thinking about him and crying. Somebody help. I really need it.
ook, i totally understand, have you ever talked to him on the fone? if yes then good if no then he most likely is someone totally different and you never saw him, and if you never talked to him on the fone then you dont exactly know him well enough to love him, so instead of thinkin about him, think about you, and think do i really kno him, do i really love him, and is it best to just talk as friends, and not try to take it to the next step, ask n e time! im here
~JoElen
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we were having foreplay..n wen i blowjobin he suddenly couldn resist it n he splashed around..n while he was cleaning up his sperm he got it some to his hands n soon he wiped off wit his handkerchief..then after a while he finger penetrated my vagina..will tis cause pregnancy..im 20 n his 19..
ok, wow i am literally blown away, but im only 14, but i can tell you from taking a class about this that his finger can not make you pregnant! because its like you fingering yourself, your not pregnant so why is his finger different, i cant believe i just dicussed that, but random questions
~JoElen
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Help guys,
ok, i like my neighbor alot..but he has a girl friend. I have started talkin to him and hes taken me on his 4wheeler before and i really thought he liked me cause monday over spring break(when it rained)and he took me down to the landing in our town and we just sat and talked lookin at the water and then he taught me how to drive his 4wheeler and it was really really nice. haha and i really thought he was into me cause he kept looking at me evrytime i looked at him. but the thing is, ive told his sis i like him and like he has never made and effort to contact me, im doin all the givin, i havnt talked to him in about two weeks and when ive seen him, i act like hes not there. but i dont know what to do now, i really want to talk to him but....its so complicated. can anyone help?*
14 female:.
ook, i know what one of the things your doing wrong! first of all, you like him right? ill answer that and its yes, so when you act like he isnt there your giving him the signal your not interested in him! bad thing! so its up to you to give him the right signal and not the wrong one! ~JoElen
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