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I don't know what to do....
Ok, so there is this guy that I met online a few years ago. But we didn't really talk until around last Thanksgiving. He lives in North Carolina and I live in Minnesota. We've talked every single day on the computer and on the phone since Thanksgiving. I want to be with him so bad. But im only 15 and I have school right now. And there's like no possible way I can see him. It's getting to the point, where it's like hurting me. I'm aching to see him. I love him so much and have never had these kind of feelings for somebody before. I lay in bed every single night for hours thinking about him and crying. Somebody help. I really need it.
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About all you can be at this point is friends. He is just to far away. At 15 you just can't stop living and wait for him. Keep in touch and stay friends. Who knows what will happen when you get older. Sorry.
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visit him over the summer when school is out. or have him visit you. thats the only way i can think of you 2 seeing each other without missing school for both of you. hope i helped!!
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First thing's first. You need to STOP cutting yourself. You won't get anywhere if you don't love yourself first. I have had a few friends that were cutters. Please take this seriously when I say, Get Professional Help. Counselors, therapists, whatever. It really did help them stop cutting. I know you're hurting a lot, but hurting yourself physically will not make you any better. Getting help will help you heal emotionally and physically. It's not stupid, it's what real people get in order to get better. I'm sure there are teen support groups you could join.
Now on to your online guy. You have not met him in person yet? Hmm...Before you make ANY big decisions MEET the guy. People lie about themselves everyday. It's even a bigger risk when you can't SEE the person. I would understand why your father does not want you to move in with him. You are only fifteen. But not only that, it's a dangerous decision for anyone of ANY age, not just a 15 year old. I know you won't believe me, but you can't be sure it's love.
Wanting someone so badly and crying over them is not irregular...many girls experience it. This doesn't mean it is love. I think you are just lonely, really in need of someone to just...be there for you. I think your needs are getting in the way of your mind. And that's why you think you love this guy.
Don't think you are alone...everyone has pain. And believe it or not there are millions of people that have it worse than you. There are so many people who never got to experience life and had their life end. We need to enjoy life for the people that will never get to experience it.
I'm not saying you 100% don't love this guy. I'm saying that there is a 50 percent chance you love him and you don't. Just for now, look at him as a FRIEND. Work it up for there. Don't jump a cliff and declare it's love and move in with the guy. You said things are too bad right now for you to meet up with him...well, there's nothing you can do about that. You either need to get over him, or realize that this is not the best time and you need to wait until the timing is right and you are older.
One way to get out of your depression and want for seeing him is to get BUSY. Some things you can do are volunteer, do community service, help the elderly, go out to the park, join some clubs, meet new friends, cook, clean, read, watch movies, etc. Getting busy will leave no time for you to cut yourself and feel sorry for yourself and feel sad. You'll feel good doing something and helping others. You'll meet some new people and friends on the way. It'll keep your mind off of that guy. Focus on school and get those straight A's. They're definitely make you feel good, but also you'll be on your way to scholarships and awesome careers. Happiness doesn't come right away, we have to work for it.
Life is hard, but we gotta keep moving. Haven't you ever wondered what your future would be like? Haven't you ever wondered what life is all about? You won't ever find the answers unless you get out there and do something about it.
I know when you are depressed and hurt, you don't want to listen to others. But I really do hope you try at least one thing I mentioned. I really did try to help you, so please don't think I'm trying to put you down or I'm full of crap. The only way to help yourself is to admit you have a problem and are open to fixing it.
Your online guy does not have to be THE ONE. There are millions of guys out there and you might find your soul mate. The truth is though, some people find true love later and some never find it. The only thing we can do about that is accept it, and not wait for a man to arrive. We gotta live life. Men do not have to be the center of our worlds. Find some new friends you can click with and are there for you the whole way. With excellent friends you don't need a man to make you happy. Enjoy life, make your dreams come true.
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I talk to him on the phone every single night. And we webcam together all of the time. I love him so much. I just don't know what to do. I don't think that we can meet up this summer. Because my life is so fucked up right now. And he's like the other one that actually cares for me. My friends just ignore me. My parents just got divorced, and i had to move. and now my dad doesn't want me to live with him. so i have to move in another month with a friend for awhile. It's crazy how much I love him. Nobody will ever understand. Ever. I cut myself all of the time because its making me that depressed. I don't know what to do. I hate this.
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ook, i totally understand, have you ever talked to him on the fone? if yes then good if no then he most likely is someone totally different and you never saw him, and if you never talked to him on the fone then you dont exactly know him well enough to love him, so instead of thinkin about him, think about you, and think do i really kno him, do i really love him, and is it best to just talk as friends, and not try to take it to the next step, ask n e time! im here
~JoElen <33
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during the summer meet up somewhere i had this problem and we met up at six flags in between. but just realize he might not be the perfect guy he seems to be.
ask again {im always on}
<3 britt
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