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Ok so, my crush asked me out last night so of course I said yes. I'm new to the whole dating experience, im only 14. I like him a lot, but whenever the thought of going to the movies or something comes up, I automatically make up an excuse to not go. I don't know why. I'm very co-dependant and I would be too scared to go anywhere unless it was a double date or something. He says hes okay with that but I dont know whats wrong with me. I think my main fear is making out. Yea yea laugh, but I guess im just scared to do it. I dont know whats wrong with me and why im so scared to go anywhere with him. I'll rate you high. Thx a bunch

Hmm maybe you just arent ready to date. But remember having a boyfriend means having some one on one time, not to just make out and stuff but you talk and learn about eachothers lives and really get to know one another. So if you dont want to hang out with him without lots of people around then maybe yeah you just arent ready? hope i've helped.. =)


love ;;
samantha

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ok there is this guy on myspace thats wants me to hang out with him. i don't know if i should. i know my mother wouldn't agree with it, so what should i do?? is it good to meet someone from online??

well first of all, its never good to meet someone online alone.. maybe you should get a group of friends and tell your mom that you are going to the mall and just all hang out together and tell him to describe what hes wearing, so you can spot him first so if hes disgustingly ugly, or old.. you can pretend like you never even showed up =) hope this helpss..

but if you do this.. DEFINANTLY go with a bunch of friends.. maybe include some guy friends just in case!


love ;;
samantha

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Hey guys!! Okay I have a really confusing conflict! I am going out with this guy and I like him a lot and he is a great kisser! but I just found out he cheated on me. and he is the kinda guy that doesnt seem like he cares so I dont know if he cares about me. ok I like his friend, we have talked a lot and I know he cares and I know he wouldnt cheat on me....I dont know if I want to break up with My boyfriend and go out with his friend or if I should stay with my boyfriend and see how things go?! PLEASE HELP!! I need all the help I can get!!

first off ; break up with him right away hes a cheater girl, and you definantly dont need him..and he doesnt deserve you..

second ; talk to his friend, tell him how much your ex hurt you by cheating on you and see what he says, if you really like him and think that he wont cheat, then go for it! you might get a really wonderful boyfriend and a little revenge on your ex ;]

thirdd of all ; what if your boyfriend and his friend have a pact or something that constricts them from going out with eachothers ex's .. make sure that your ex isnt really close with this friend or you might ruin their friendship..

hope i've helped =)


love ;;
samantha

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I have this ex-girlfriend, ok? And see what happened is she just broke up with the guy that she broke up with me for. And I'm kinda worried that she might try to go back out with me just because I'm their and I'm familiar. Plus we also were lightly flirting last time we were together, which was about a month ago so I think I'm safe. What should I do to let her know, without a doubt, that I won't get back with her now, but do it lightly so it's not really noticeable?

Well since you don't know for suree if shes even going to ask you back out then maybe you should just wait, but if you hang out with her try to be less flirty, not mean, just not at flirtatious.. then maybe she'll get it from that but if not, wait until she asks you out and use the classic line, i just want to be friends.. should work.. hope i've helped

love ;;
samantha

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ok well im 14 and ive been going out with my b/f 9 months today. during the school year id see him every day and we would allways talk alot so we rarely talked on the phone and when we did we talked form like 8 till 2 in the morning...he liked me for allmost a year before me and him started going out and everyone says how cute we are and everything, my birthday was recently and he gave this bear that when u scweze it it says i love you and we went out to dinner, i ran out of room in my year book this year so me and him decided we would write each other letters insted and the one he wrote me was soo cute i wanted to cry i could tell that it came from his heart after i read it i thought that this summer would be amazing but now that its summer it makes me soo sad b/c i never see him as much as im use to and im the one who useally calls him and i dont useally do it alot b/c i dont want to be the girl who allways calls boys or anyoingg idk what to do like when ever i talk to him and im with him he acts like he loves me but i dont know what to do it makes me soo sad
helppp i ratee!!

if he is as sweet at you say he is and you two are that close then you could tell him without any worry.. but i just read the additional info about trying to talk to him and even though you dont want to you really should..and if not then you're just going to have to plan dates and sort of MAKE him go :)

=) samantha

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13f. i went out with a friend of mine, tom for 4th of july. just us. he was super-polite, introduced himself to my parents, they loved him. we went walking around town together, and we were laughing and talking the whole time. but it kinda started to feel like a date, and i dont like him that way. he puts his arm around me, and asks if he can kiss me. i say no. it was only akward for a minute or so, then we pretty much forgot about it. then we were sitting alone together watching fireworks and he puts his arm around me. we argue for a minute. (cuz i dont mind, i just dont want to lead him on cuz there's no way i'm making out with this guy). so he promises he wont try to kiss me, and we end up holding hands and putting our arms around each other, and my heads on his shoulder, but thats it. he called me the next day and left a message on my cellphone saying he wanted to say hi and to call him back. i dont really feel like talking to him and i dont know if we would have anything to talk about and it could be kinda akward, so, do i have to call him back? if i dont will he think i'm weird about the other night and am avoiding him?

You dont have to call him back..and if you want to avoid him do it! and remember he can NEVER blame you for leading him on because you TOLD him straight out that you didnt want him so all you have to do is do whatever you want and dont worry about him :)

=) samantha

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hey me and my boyfriend have only seen eachother once. We talk a lot but we never see eachother that much, and i really like him. All my friends say to break up with him but i really like him, i dont know what to do? I always ask him when can you hangout he says i dont know. But when my friend asks him he gives a day. We were supposed to hangout this weekend but he never called me back. He always says he loves me one day we stayed on the phone till one in the morning! Hes so sweet but i never see him. I dont know what to do anymore.
Julia xox

if you NEVER see him, sorry to say but he could be doing so many other things / girls.. thats why when you have a boyfriend you make sure you know what hes doing and when hes not doing anything.. you are with him..or when he goes to parties you go with him.. and if you have a boyfriend that you never see when do you kiss him and hugg him and cuddle with him? just break it off if you're not gonna see him a lot.. on the other hand you could take control and make sure you guys hang out ALOT if that doesnt work than yeah.. just break it off i guess

=) samantha

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Here’s the thing I am 15/f and I’ve never had a boyfriend. Now there is a guy who is 2 years older than me and I see him every summer and I’ve liked him for the last 5 years and I was really crazy about him last year. The thing is we’ve never talked and we live on the same street during the summer. Now, last summer I took a picture of him from his cousin (my best friend who is 15/f too) and I drew a portrait of him (I am very good at art). He wouldn’t think I am a stalker because their whole family knows I am good at art and I come up with some crazy projects every now and then. The thing is he is really shy around people he doesn’t know well and he will be really embarrassed when I show him the picture and then I will be embarrassed because I am really shy around guys and especially around guys I like. I’ve also asked his cousin to help me but she wants to stay out of it and doesn’t want to get involved in any way even thought I’ve begged her to help me, because she doesn’t like the whole matchmaking thing, but she does give me information about him when I ask. I can’t pick up a conversation with him because he never hangs out with us and the only way I can talk to him is if I run up to him when I see him on the street which is out of the question because it will be too weird plus you can’t really start a casual conversation this way. The other thing is that I am pretty (at least that’s what many guys have said about me) but the guy I like is very attractive and he has had girls chasing him since 3rd grade so he is used to that, but he is not a player and as I said he is shy (I know all these things from my friend). So I don’t know how to get his attention, we don’t talk, we both act really cold when we are around people we don’t know. What should I do to make him notice me and pick up a conversation without letting him know I like him or at least without letting him know I’m crazy about him.

well..get to know him better.. maybe just hang around his house for a day or two.. then you're probably garunteed to see him and maybe even strike up a conversation :)

=) samantha

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I'm really worried about my girl friend her grandpa is in the hospital. Well she's sad and streesed out. I'm sad for her, but I don't know what to do for her. So my question is... What should I do for her? Or should I do anything at all?

Well comfort her.. maybe go with her to see her grandpa that would mean a lot to her.. and when she says she needs her space.. give it to her.. and when shes crying ; let her cry on your shoulder..just mainly be there for her.

=) samantha

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er... well. here goes.

theres a guy I like. He goes to my school. Is in my grade, two of my classes, ect. ect.

I talk to him on AIM, we kinda talk at school, and best of all, he doesn't think I'm fat. (long story. Let's just say I wasn't eating anything and my friends are odd)

But, he knows I like him, and doesn't like me back. He's told me multiple times. (again, my friends are odd) But lately, he's been acting like I'm okay. Usually he acts like he hates me. He even IMed me first on AIM (I know its odd, but hey, I guess I blend in with my friends) which is like, a first. Ever. We've been able to talk more, and we're getting along pretty well.

The bad side is, well, I've liked him for so long, now that he's finally maybe liking me, I don't feel exactly the same. I'm in this odd stage where, I do and don't like him. I mean, he's hurt me so much, but I feel like I love him. I can't control my feelings.

So what I want to know is:
Do you think he likes me?
What should I do if he asks me out?
and
Should I take action?(ME asking him out)

I have NO idea what to do.
(13/f)

well.. it seems like he might like you..
if he asks you out.. say yes if you like him! :)
well.. try to see if he drops more hints of him liking you then try it

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i have a car and someone keyed it... also, they egged it and put ketchup and sweet n sour sauce on it! ugh! i cant believe someone would do such a thing! also, they put a used pad on it. it had blood on it and everything. SO GROSS! Also, they put a used tampon on top of it. My windows are broken and everything. What should i do?

call the police try to figure out who did it.. that is really nasty though, i'm so sorry!
=) samantha

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Hey guys. Well.. tonight I went to a club for the first time, and met this really great guy. He asked to dance with me, and we did for a while, and attempted to talk a bit (but the music was so loud, so we went and sat down) He introduced me to some of his friends too. Anyway, I had to leave early.. and out of nowhere I asked for his number. This is TOTALLY out of character for me. I'm usually shy around guys, but hey. He gave it to me and then I gave him mine, and then he walked me to the door. I may be being paranoid, but was this coming across a little too eager or forward? I had a feeling he wanted to ask, but I could be wrong. Also, should I contact him first or let him contact me? I'm just totally new to this kinda thing and lost.

Thank you!

No thats perfectly normal.. I think since you made the first move for the phone number he expects you to call first so do it girl

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I went to a friend's camp this last weekend. She told me that there was this guys a few years olded then us but he was annoying, stupid, and ugly.Then we went out onto the lake and he came along. He had this really big tube and we were all just chillin on it and pushing each other off. then one time it was just me and him and i justed to like him but kept myself from liking him because of what my friend said. i know it doens't matter because i probably won't see him again but should i of let what my friend say keep me from liking this guy?? please help!

hmm well if you arent going to see him again then just forget about him though, but if you dont find him annoying stupid or ugly and you have the chance to see him again or talk to him, go for it girl

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I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 16(I'm 14), because he didn't want a relationship and I did. All he wants is friends with bennefits. I told him I wasn't going to do that with him, and he said that was ok. He asked if we could hang out today, just hang out. so I said yeah, and I told myself that I wasn't going to do anything with him and then he came over, and the next thing I know, im straddling him (fully clothed) and making out with him. It got carried away and I ended up giving him a hand job. He thinks it was just friends with bennefits and I'm a piece of ass. I don't want that, and I want to know if I should just cut off all relations with him and stop talking to him, I dont need him as a friend. or a boyfriend. what do I do!?

well no offence but he seems like a jackass.. so like you said you DONT need him.. so just leave him dont talk to him anymore.. and make sure he doesnt start spreading stuff about you being his friend with benefits.. hope i helped! IM me at brunettex5o

=) samantha

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