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ok so im in college and i really liked being single n all...liie going to parties and meeting new guys...no nothaving sex with them. Anyways i also really like this guy I know who Ive actually be dating for 4 days now. The point is i think i need to breakup with him cuz i have already cheated onhim and made out with other guys. but, its so hard to do because i really like him a lot. I know i cant stop cheating on him and partying and stuff...So, i do need to break up with him right?.....my second question is how. I think iwanna say that I cant commit myself to one person right now because that is the truth, but I dont want him to think I have already cheated on him eventhough i did. so maybe i should say something else?...like I just dont want a boyfriend?
this is really troubling me badly so sorry its long and please help me (link)
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Well you can't say you really like him if you cheated on him! That doesn't make sense. That's a good idea to say you can't be committed to one person, because it seems like thats the truth. Good luck!
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i have a quick question. and i really want opinions.
ok so im just wondering, but would it be totally wrong to go out with your friend's ex boyfriend? i mean its happened to me a couple of times. I would go out with a guy, we would break up, and then he would go out with my friend. it hurt me a lot, but im over it now. Some people tell me its wrong to go out with a friend's ex, and some people tell me its alright to do it. aand im not sure. (link)
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Well, if it happened to you, then you know how bad it hurts whena friend does that to you. And do you really want to be like that? I didn't think so...
It's an unwritten law anyway that you NEVER, under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, so you date your friends ex. Sorry, but this boy is off limits.
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my ex and I started to text each other for about 2weeks now after an ugly breakup. Right after the breakup she was texting me some nasty comments and calling me all types of names. I finally got sick of it and texted her back asking her to please stop and to say goodbye for good. Well the next night she texted me back saying goodbye. I replied saying goodbye again and said that if she really needed to talk to someone I would be around. Well she textes me back immeditely asking me all these questions about why did I cheat on her and this and that. Even though I never did, she had heard I did and just reacted without ever asking me. Well we went back and forth all night and finally hashed some things out. Well the next morning she texts me good morning and tells me that she has missed me and basically wants to start again but really take are time this time. i said ok and we started texting each other back and forth. Well one night I was telling her about my new job and she said that I would be able to buy her a pricie wedding band, or take her shopping.I thought she was joking but the next day she says the same thing. I told her I would not be taking her shopping anytime soon and she said she didnt want to go with me anywhere at all. Ok fine, well last night she texts me late asking me to go by her house because she was scared, apparently in the last month she has had her car stolen in front of her house, gone to court for something, had to buy a gun, and has a cop go by her house a couple times of week. I asked her what was going on but she wouldnt say. When we broke up she went around telling people that I wouldnt leave her alone and that we had never gone out, now I question why she wanted me to go by her house last night. Apart of me thinks she is trying to set me up? Plus one minute were texting each other back and forth and next she ignores me. What should i do I dont know whether to cut all ties or not.
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I agree with you. It really seems like she's setting you up for something. Maybe she truly believes you cheated on her when you didn't, and she wants that cop to see you around her house. I think you should ask her straight up what going on. Ask her straight-foreward if she's trying to set you up. If she says no, doesnt give you a straight answer, or says she doesn't know what you're talking about, I'sd stop talking to her until you got some real answers, and THEN consider having a friends-only relationship. Hope I helped. Good luck!
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sorry this is long, last night i dumped my bf, john, after 9 months of going out and i said that i didnt want to go out with anyone for a while, later that night i was with my friends and they called the hottest guy in school and he said he wanted to go out with me so now im going out with a hottie but i love john so much i dont know what to do i want to go out with john but im already going out with the hottest guy in school, i think im having a problem with letting go
please tell me what i should do i rate 5s for any answer (link)
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Well if you love John that much, you shouldn't have lied to him. You said you didnt want to date anyone for a while, yet you jump at the first hot guy that comes you way? That doesn't make sence. You really need to decide if you want to date or not, and if you do, go out with john, because you're being VERY dishonest.
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what is the difference between being a couple and just dating? (link)
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There isn't much of a difference. There can be a couple that doesn't date, just are boyfriend and girlfriend, but dating is basically what couples do.
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Okay tonight there was a dance and the boy i seriously fell in love with (we went out 3 times before) was there because he told me to go. When he got there he said hi and gave me a hug and we talked for like 3 minutes. Then a girl he was recently with came and then she was ALL over him and the girl hates me. So whenever i looked over toward them she'd like hold onto him and start makin out with him! it was totally rude and after I saw them holding hands and stuff I got really dizzy, i stared into space half the time, i was mopey, and ididnt wanna talk to anyone and i felt like i was gonna throw up. I dont know what to do now because I seriously love this kid. 5 for answer to what i should do (but 1's for queer ones.) k thanks (link)
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I think you should talk to him. Why did he ask you to go if he wasn't going with you? He should know that if he's going to ask you to go, not to be rude and make out with another girl there. Just try talking to him and see if you can work something out. If you went out 3 times, then you both must have some attraction towards each other.
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ok so this guy who i L-O-V-E !! found out i liked him by my friend (i wasnt mad or nething cause i KIND OF told her to). he told me he knew nd i was like yea bla bla bla. then he said i think for rite now we should b friends cause i dont kno ut hat well. so im like ok about a week l8er he told me i should kinda of get over it because he wasnt going to ask me out netime soon (that may seem harsh but im not adding EVERY single detail, so trust me it was fine ). i told him i kinda got over it that week. he said ok good bla bla bla. i rlly wasnt over him at all thou. i tried to b nd tried to like someone else, but couldnt. but now he, like a week l8er weve become real close and stuff and he flirts with me like CRAZY!!!! its sooooo much flirting! lol and i flirt back and all. were turning into "cute" friends.
so should i see if he likes me by asking him, having a mutual friend find out, leave it alone, give it more time (ahh the hardest thing ever) which?
thank you so much. c ya
btw-im a girl in 7th grade nd hes a guy in 7th grade whos 9 months younger than me (link)
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I'd say leave it alone for now because if he likes u he will make the first move. if u have a friend find out he'll thinks its obvious
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i'm not going to i'm 18 but just out of curiosity how much does it hurt when you have sex for the 1st time? does it sting sting or does it feel like a bruse? how long does it hurt for? (link)
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Well I've never done anything like that, but I heard that it totally differs for different people. Like, for some people it could be a really bad pain, but for other it might not hurt at all. I know this wasn't much help, but it's the truth.
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Whats the best way to approach a guy your wanting to ask out. I don't just wana go up to him and say " Hey ya wana go out?" Thanks in advance! (smartasses get 1's!) (link)
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I think it depends on if you're already friends or not. Is it a guy who barely knows you? A guy who you talk to sometimes, or someone who's a great friend? I believe all good relationships are based on friendship, so I'd try that first.
But if you don't want to go through all the hassle of trying to become the guy's friend...Asking one of your friends to mention something to him could help. Or you could write him a note just asking "Hey, what's up?" Then write some stuff and end like, "So what's new with you? How's it going with your girlfriend?" and if they write back they dont have one, ask him! just say "i think ur really cool. maybe we can hang sometime?" Good luck.
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OK there is this guy(lets say his name is X) who is going to ask me out. I like him a little bit but theres this other guy(name:O) I like love. I dont kno if the guy I love likes me but we are best friends...Should I say yes to X or wait for O...b/c if O doesnt like me I dont want to be alone b/c I said no to X...What should I do? (link)
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I recommend you say yes to X. If O is your best friend and you start dating X, O will TOTALLY mention something to you, but O might make try to make it un-obvious. If O gets bothered that you date X, then you'll be able to tell. Good luck!
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Ok me and my ex broke up last tuesday. yesterday me and him got into a big arguement and now he hates me. but now I miss him a lot and i dont know what to do anymore.. I dont want to miss him but its hard not to because hes my next door neighbor.... and yeah, so im lost. he has a new gf and not to sound concided but he went from a girl (me) who is rated about a 9 to a girl who is about a 4 or 5 and I picked on him for that but im just really jealous and i have to walk home with him every day!! HELP ME!! what do i do?! we used to argue everyday because i used to say he doesnt care but i realized he does!! omg im really confused!! please help and what can i do to get him back?!
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i miss him. (link)
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Dear I Miss Him,
If you have to walk home from school with him everyday, there's your opportunity to talk to him about your relationship. Just say, "Hey ____, I sorry about our fight, and I hope we can stay friends. Is that okay with you?" and if he says yes, bring up his girlfriend and try to be like "Well, I wish you two wouldn't have started going out because I really miss you." Hopefully he'll get the picture and you guys can work something out.
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I have a problem, I get feeelings for girls more then i do guys. No body knows because i've never told anyone. I just need to know am i a lesbian?
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Well, I think you should take the time to REALLY ask yourself a few questions. Do you have a feeling a lust more towards girls? Like, is it physical attraction? Or do you conncet with them more emotionally? If you like girls physically, then you probably are one. But if you like girls AND guys, you could just be bi-sexual. Hope that helped a little!
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i've liked this guy for a long time and hes really nice and one day i went to his house and at the end he kissed me twice ...well later on in school he didnt really say anything about it but we were still talking and all and then i wrote him this note and i was all so what are we just friends of what plaease write me back... so then i gave it 2 him and he like ignors me and now (today) he came up to me and is likeim so sorry for hurting you , you have been so good to me and i've treated you so bad and im so sorry .....i mean it made me feel kinda bad but he still didnt answer my question lol and i do know what to do i dont know if i should ask again cuz maybe he just wants to be my friend and not be mean about it...its just i dont know what to do im so confused but i like him so much
please help me i rate rlly high
im sorry its so long (link)
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Sorry, but I think your "friend" was just looking for someone to do something with, and since you were there, he just took advantage of you. I really don't think he wants to pursue anything with you, it was just spur of the moment. I'm sorry, but don't let it bother you.
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