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My name is Becca. I wish that I could live in a eutopic world where nothing ever went wrong and smiles could brighten up everyone's day. But life isn't always rainbows and sunshine. All good comes with bad. What makes or breaks a person is their strength through those tough times. I am a simple person with simple ambitions, simple pleasures, and a simple life. I usually try to find the best in people, ergo, I can be a very forgiving person. Show me respect and treat me nicely, and I can be one of the nicest people you'll ever meet. I am worth $2,886,158 on humanforsale. I change my mind more than I change my underwear, so don't set what I say in stone. I am the biggest procrastinator in the world. I have horrible spelling and typing skills. The person who has changed my life the most would have to be my two year old cousin, Chelsea. She is the most amazing person ever, and I've been blessed to be a part of her life since March 23, 2005. I want to be a positive influence in her life, and guide her to grow up and make a difference in the world. This little girl means the world to me. She is my best friend.
I love to feel loved. Ian makes me feel loved. He is one amazing person. We have been dating since June 28, 2006, and we will stay together for the rest of our lives. We were made for eachother. He calls me his Bibbles and his lady bug and makes me smile my biggest smiles ever. He tickles me until I almost cry. I love every second I am with him.
I am done things in my life that I regret. I wish I was a better person. I am currently trying to find myself and what I want from life. I am currently trying to become who I want to be. Let's just see where that takes me.
The end..
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16 f
okay so me and my ex boyfriend went out for 10 months. and in the begining he cheated on me. i had no idea until he told me. he said that he loves me and that he doesnt deserve me and that he really is sorry hes been feeling gulty since he did that to me. so i broke up with him. i miss him so much everything reminds me of him. i love him so much. i cant find anyone like him and lately ive just been depressed. so he called me at 5 in the morning yesterday and he told me that he was really sorry that he misses me that he loves me that it will never happen again. he said he loves me and cant live without me. i cant either he was even crying threw the phone. i miss him too and i want to go back out with him but i just dont trust him im afraid he might o it again. i love him so much and i need him with me i dont know what to do please help me.
honestly, how often do guys cry? my experience tells not that often. if this guy is crying over you, he's being serious. i would give him another chance. at the beginning of the relationship, he might not've known how much he cares for you yet. i say get your man back sweetie. this guy is for real.
14/f
well ok, my bf and i have been going out for 10-11 months. Neither of us know what day it was. he thought it was november 5, but i know it wasnt b/c that was a sunday and he asked me out at school. i Know that it was in october. well anyway, we dont kiss much, and we've really only held hands once. so anyway, im going to start holding his hand and kissing him more this school year. (school starts this thursday). well anyway, hes not good at getting me presents... like my christmas present was from the dollar store, so was my easter and valentines presents. my b-day was just a week ago, and he said hes going to get me something, and i guess he will give it to me when school starts, (we dont see each other much in the summer, but we talk on the phone.) well anyway most of that is off subject, what should i get or make him for our year anniversary? and b/c i dont know the exact date, when should i give it to him? like the middle, beggining or end of october??? and i know its a bit early, but i like to plan ahead of everything!
please tell me what you think, and thanks in advance!
well, i have a few ideas for you.
going with the whole dollar store thing, you could get him one present form there a day for the month.
another monthly thing out be favors of the day, like, make him "love coupons" available for one free kiss or a cuddle session.
also, the best way to a man's heart is through his stomache. plan a picnic lunch with your boyfriend any time during the month. i'd suggest the middle of the month. this can be so cute, especially if you do it at night, in the dark, by candlelight. :D
if y'all have pictures together, make him a scrapbook of sutff special to you two. i made one for my boyfriend for valentines day with copies of old movie stubs, concert tickets, tickets from football games we went to together.
there's a lot of stuff you two can do together that'll hopefully bring you two closer together. if they dont, just tell your boyfriend how you feel. if he cares for you, he'd understand.
would most guys rather be called baby or babe??
baby
Okay so ive been dating the same guy for two months and everything is great, we rarely fight and if we do its a stupid little arguement. But anyways hes a sweetheart and he does anything for me. Well, to the point we've done "things" and i feel like he does things for me but i dont really do it in return. I would i just dont know what to do. Im new with this kind of stuff i havent really done it before and hes really experienced(hes 2.5 years older than me.) I dont want him to think that im a little kid and not ready for it. But then again he hasnt said anything to me really or asked for anything.
So advice please.....
if your talking about oral sex then i have advice for you. my boyfriend is 3 years older and i was a virgin when i met him. he was cool and understanding about it, considering he was highly experienced. test things out and see what he likes. if it helps, watch porn. these are some things tha my boyfriend likes:
1. Get as much in your mouth as you can without gagging and suck him only to that point. Beat him off with the rest.
2. Instead of moving your head just up and down, move it at different angles while going down on him. My boyfriend REALLY loves this.
3. While giving him head, massage his balls. This can make it really pleasurable for him and he might cum faster because of this. this drives my boyfriend wild.
4. Use your tounge. When you get as much as you can in your mouth, lick him.or if your jaw starts to get tired, give it a break by licking his shaft or even just the tip of the head. the area that connects the sfaft to the head is the area is the place that will give him the most pleasure.
5. two numbers- 6 and 9. 69 with him. this will make it more enjoyable for you and might get your sexual energy going to give better head. 69ing is very fun.
hope i helped at all.need any more, my AIM is xaskkmechabeccax don't hesitate to IM.
try some of those things, look up some others. relax and have fun with it.
17/f
My 1 year anniversary is coming up and I have no idea what to get/make my boyfriend. I can't make a scrapbook because we really don't like taking pictures. I've already written reasons why I love him for our 7 month anniversary, there was 1 reason for every day we we've been together. I'm really good with making things, but I hav a bit of a mental block right now.
So... what should I make him? Or should I buy him something? A list of ideas would be awesome.
(a little about him- he doesn't drink or do drugs, he's really into his car, and he's a "computer nerd")
HELP!
i can help you with this one. my boyfriend and i celebrated out 1 year anniversary in june, and my boyfriend sounds like yours, no alcohol, no drugs, computer nerd, loves music.
i put together a gift basket with tons of small things that i knew that he'd love and some stuff i thought were cute. i got him a new cd that he wanted, time for world of warcraft, a framed picture of us, love coupons, and a man necklace. i laminated the love coupons to make them look cute and last. you can find some http://cards.lovingyou.com/gallery.cgi?mdb=gallery&cat=coupons or make your own.
other gifts i have givin him were gift cards to game stores, a viking build-a-bear with customized sound box that says "i love you ian" in my voice, i made a scrapbook with pictures of us, copies of old movie stubs from our first date and concert tickets and other stuff like that, i've made him a romantic candle light dinner.
lovingyou.com has other amazing gift ideas. i go there so much.
k well ive been going out with this guy since 6/19. so not that long, weve like kissed goodnight 2 times because i dont see him alot.
the 1st kiss was bad, cos i wasant expecting it so i didnt turn, the 2nd was better cos i kissed back.
i want to like go faster, like i wanna make it long, so if were still going out in sept when school starts it might be easier.
but like i get nervous like to make the 1st move so i need like tips and advice on what to doo.
pleasee help i rly like him&thankss.
dont worry about it, and relax. my first kiss with my boyfriend of over a year now ws HORRIBLE! i eneded up headbutting himrihgt in the face. after that, i was nervous to kiss him at all. i just had to relax and realise that he cared about me enough and wanted to kiss me even if i was a hazard. lol.
i made the first move to kiss again with him, because he knew i was nervous and respected i wanted to go at me own pace.
when you two are along, like sitting on a couch cuddling together while watching tv, sitting together on a beach watching the ocean, or even in line to pay at a store, just plant him one on his cheek. he'll smile and hint at him that you want to kiss him. if he doesnt take the hint, kiss him. he will want you to, so dont be nervous.
okay. so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about a year now. and i really really love him. infact we talk about getting married one day. heres the problem, im young. 15. same for him. is it odd for us to be thinking that far ahead even when we are so young? i mean i can't doubt us being in love, and we just feel that connection. and its been there from the start. there are no dull moments. yes we have been through alot, but it was my fault(i was diagnosed with a brain disorder about halfway though everything and had to spend alot of time in the hospital). but i honestly think that we have a future together. does anyone think this is odd?
nothing at all is wrong with this. my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now and we talk about marriage all of he time. i'm 15, he just turned 19. it's quite adorable. we plan out our future together and have lovey dovey time.
honey, this is cute, not odd. most girls dream of guys like the ones we have.
:D
I've had a lot of professions in the past I DREAMED of doing. But realized I'd never be good enough to pursue them. Don't lecture me on that, that's not what I'm talking about.
Doing advicenators, and even it's as simple as just answering people's questions, I love doing it. I love helping my friends with their problems as well.
Which led me into thinking.. wow, I would LOVE to be a counselor/psychatrist(Sorry for spelling.)
Okay, and a couple days ago, I told my boyfriend one of my advice column entries, but it's one where it didn't really involve much advice, just thought, and I made it into a funny/sarcastic answer. He thought I was serious about it and didn't think it was good advice. Anyways, I told him today about my idea for the counseling/phystrist[sp] thing. And he was like "People would hate you, the ones who think they dont need help." And I was like, "Well, I'll help realize they need help and do my best to help! Haha." And then he was like, "No offense.. but you're not the best at giving advice."
Is he serious??
Or is it just because of the one entry I told him about??
He's never had problems to come to me about, so I never have given him advice.
I'm about to ask my friends if they think I'd be a good counselor/pshytrist.[sp!ack.]
Anyways, what do you think?
My advice column is Genrawks2, by the way.
Bleh, sorry for length.
And I know it's pathetic that I can't even spell the profession I wish to pursue. Lmfao.
Psyhtrist?
Phsycrist?
Oh god. >_< Maybe it's a sign that I'm not fit for it.
x SORRY FOR THE LENGTH!!VERY VERY SORRY. kasdfj
i took the time to read through your column a while ago after reading some advice you gave.
i friggen
okay so this is really important!
im not used to guys liking me
im 16 and never been on a date or kissed or anything
so this guy on myspace that lives about 20 minutes away from me added me and he didnt talk to me for like a month but he did about 40 minuts ago and we were talking and now he wants to go to a movie with me. i think hes cute, but i dont know him so im not sure if i like him. and hes 5'6 and im 5'9 and im not height shallow i just like the idea of dating a guy whos my hight but i think thats the least of my worries. my parents would freak if they thought that i was gonna go hang w/ a guy i dont know. my best friends said that they wouldnt let me go alone, just incase something happens, i dont think hes a dirty old man, but you can never be too careful. i dont want to say no and him think im not interested b/c i am, im just scared b/c things like this dont happen to girls like me. i really want some advice on this, i have no idea what to do. sorry this was so long but im like freaking out here!
i've been going out with my boyfriend for a year as of tomorrow and we met online. it can bring people together that would not have even known the other person existed without the internet.
just be careful. tere are the guys out there with no ill intentions but there are some who do have a nasty mentality. like your friends advice, don't go alone, but if you are intersted, check it out. make sure it's a public place with a lot of people.
Everyone says i need to change how i look to get a guy. But i dont know how....Even my family says that and i cant really change becuz i have no money. So i dont know what to do..... Can anyone like put some kewt outfits together and show me them or sumthing....because i want to find a new bf....But i dont know how to get a guy to like me without changing!
be yourself and flaunt that. you should be with a guy who likes the real you, the you you really are.
be confident and talk to the guy you like and dont worry about what he might think. the worst he can say is no, and then you move on.
i didnt have to change a bit to get with my boyfriend, he said i was adorable the way i was, even though he had never dated anyone like me before.
ok do any guys like chubby/fat (whatever you wanna call it) girls???i mean lets just theres a girl and she has pretty big boobs but she's kinda chubby would you ever kiss her or go out with her or anything????
I know I'm not a guy, but I used to be pretty chubby myself. My boyfriend loved me like that, but I never had big boobs. I just had a HUGE ass.
It's all a preferance thing. Some guys do, other don't. The ones that dont generally are shallow and just want a hook-up anyway.
im 14 years old and this guy i really like is 18....wut to do??? is it bad?
hi hun. My name is Becca and my boyfriend's name is Ian. We have been dating since June 28,2006. I was 15 and he had just turned 18 six days earlier.
There are many risks involved, but they can be worth it in the end. You just need to make sure it is with the right person and you have parental consent to the relationship.
Some 18 year olds, not all, use younger girls to try to get some so watch out. Make sure you trust this guy with your life and you have known him for awhile. If not, he make sleep with you and leave.
Parental consent is also important in this kind of relationship. Because of his age, your parents can press charges against him for stagatory rape and he gets marked as a child molestor or the rest of his life, which can prevent him from getting into certain schools or getting certain jobs.
This relationship required dedication but in the end is worth more than anything else.
Hope I helped and feel free to contact me anytime. My AIM screenname is xAskkMechaBeccax
okay so this guy that i really really really liked moved away (he liked me too) a couple months ago and we still talked since he had family up here he came around nov.the weekend of my birthday and promised wed hang out and we never did he said he "lost his phone on a train" and i kept calling his phone being worried and then on myspace hes like happy birthday never even said im sorry and it hurt.Then after that he never said sorry for like how he just treated me and for like some reason if we dont talk for like a month he gets a new gf even though i try to talk to him and while he was with this other girl he texted me and stuff saying that he missed me and that he coudlnt wait to see me again.(now the gf he has now he says that he "loves" her and that she means the world to him he said the exact same things to me)and then for xmas since we werent talking for about a month because i was just so angry he never said sorry for seeing me on my birthday i just coudlnt get over that because before he moved he was the sweetest guy (when we went out) and then so i tried talking to him all in jan like 3 times and he never answered me back,so i gave up trying to be friends with him so i deleted his numbers,his texts,and him for my myspace and everything to try to get over him and i kinda was until about a week ago.Its the first time i heard from him since about the end of dec.And he asked to be my friend on myspace so i accept him and said "so you want to talk to me again huh" and
he does haha ya..i never wanted to like not talk to you and hes like i saw you deleted me on myspace and i was like woah?" (and he starting talking to me the day of his one month with his gf)and so i said i tried talking to you like 3 times and you never answered me back and how it seems like you only talk to me when you feel like it and how i was done trying to talk to him so i deleted him and i thought he forgot about me,i thought MAYBE i would get a "im sorry" or an explaintion but he never answered me back.Im just really hurt that he keeps playing with my emotions like that,like if you said you never not wanted to talk to me then why are you not answering me you know or at least try to patch things up with me? should i just try to talk to him again or just talk to him pretend that everything is fine? or just not talk to him at all ? the thing is why would he not answer me if he wanted to talk to me again? does anyone get it? what should i do? Sorry its long lol but thank you i need advice on what to do im confused!
sorry to tell you this but my avice is to get over him. he doesnt seem to be worth this pain. he's with someone else and doesnt seem like an honest person. you deserve better than that hun.
I will be 14 in 4days! Right now i am in 8th grade. I've had a boyfriend once, in 7th grade. He was in 8th grade (not the cutest guy, but he made me laugh) He asked me out on AIM during thanksgiving break. I said yes. I told my sister and shes like "you scored an 8th grader", and im like yes. My sister is now a freshman in college. So i dont talk to her that much. About this age is when i think is good to have a boyfriend, but i can't figure out the best way to tell my mom if i get one. I never told my mom about the other guy last year, because he was an 8th grader and it didnt last long. He moved wayy to fast so i broke up with him after a week. I am not officially allowed to go on a 1 on 1 date till im 16. but i can still have a boyfriend, and he can come to my house and i can go to his. The big question im trying to ask, is how i should tell my mom when i have a boyfriend. Im nervous for when that time comes. Please help me!
I think that the best way is to sit her down, when she's in a good mood of course, and tell her.
dont be like "i have a boyfriend and you cant stop me" because she'll get mad.
just say something like "mom, i wanted to ask your permission to have a boyfriend. i am 14 years old and think i am mature enough to understand the situation. i will obide by all of your rules, tel you where i am, who im with,what time ill be home, and all that stuff. would it be ok with you if i dated?"
she would respect the fact that you are acting in a mature manner and you are willing to follow her guildlines.
hope i helped!
and happy birthday!
Mecha Becca
ahh okay. i was talking to my friend at the table and he rides my boyfriend's bus. well he said that my boyfriend was begging him to show him how to make "the move" to like get me to make out with him. and i dono when he is gonna do it but i havent even had my 1st kiss yet so is there anyway you can like explain to me how to kiss? or if you cant, maybe give me some tips? thanks a bunch
im gonna agree with teacup and say, just le it come naturally. its something of pleasure and is good no matter what. just watch out about nervousness. that lead to my first kiss. lol. i accidentally headbutted my boyfriend. but i was nervous. if you arent nervous, then you can just relax and enjoy the moment.
I dont have a love life at all i'm to shy to go up to a cute boy and start talking to him. what are some tips to find out if a dude likes you or not?
well, to find out if he likes you, word of mouth can always work. you could talk to other people who talk to that person to see if they like you.
but dont worry, i used to be shy too. i was cured by my boyfriend.
you could get friends to hook you up if you're daring and trust them enough. no one knows you better than your friends and they should know your tast better than anyone.
well hope i helped any.
Mecha Becca
so I have a good boyfriend; we've been going out for a little over 6 months. well i used to have this other boyfriend; we were on and off for like 2 years. he was a jeerk and i don't even know why i liked him. we don't even talk anymore and i have no feelings left for him. but today i look at his gf's myspace and there was a picture of them together kissing. my stomach flipped and i kind of god sad. it was so weird; because i know i'm over him. why did this happen?? is it just because i used to be her? i don't want to be jealous like this ; do you have tips to not be anymoree?
i think that element might just be there because she now has something that was once yours. i used to get that way about my ex boyfriend too and sometimes still do even though i have the most loving boyfriend on the world now. he still talks about his ex girlfriend and seems to have those moments too. id say that its normal and dont worry and try not to think about your ex, look at his myspace or his girlfriend's. forgetting is a powerful healer.
Alright for the guys and girls...
Girls what do you think the most perfect place a guy could propose would be. what would be the setting.
Guys, where do you prefer not to do it. or what do you think of the whole idea
Thx.
im all about the water and i think that it'd be perect if my guy took me out into the country by a lake, then it start to rain. we'd kiss and then he'd propose to me, right there in the pouring rain.
or if he took me to the beach at night and proposed to me as we're walking along the water.
it'd be so cute. i'd just die if either of those actually happened to me.
i have a boyfriend that really does'nt treat me right he makes fun of me with his friends hardly ever spend time with me so i dumped him. but i miss him so much i feel soo empty inside. should i get back togther with him even after all he has done to me? but how bout he has moved on should i tell him i still like him?
-help me thank you
if he doesnt treat you the way you want to be treated, forget about him. he isnt worth your time hun. you can do better than him. you just need to move on and find someone else who truely loves you and treats you right. there is such a guy out there for you girl. go find him.
hope i helped.
Mecha Becca
here is my problem. I am the kind of girl everyone says is really pretty but never gets a boyfriend or one that is high enough to my standards that i would day. I can get the ugly guys but comeon who wants that.
Anyways here is my situation. I met this kid at work and i found out he went to school with me. He is a veryyy atractive kid and seems like a truely nice guy.
He seems like the guy i have always wanted to date until i found out today he is a pot smoker.
My question is does that make him worth dating? I don't know much about him and by the looks of his myspace it looks like he does not smoke very often. I am totally anti smoking and anti drugs and out of all of my friends i seem to be the most outragous when it comes to that topic (i have drank only a small handful of times). So pretty much i am a good girl.
As long as he doesn't smoke around me you know i don't care but is her serously like boyfriend material? like i don't want to get my heartbroken over a guy who was never going to be comitted or whatever.
I am very confused on what to think and how to deal with this because i believe he likes me and i sorta like him too.
it is up to you. i wouldnt date him but that's me because i am VERY much against drugs. drinking is more acceptable to me than smoking or drugs. if you want to date his is up to you but he might he high when he hangs with you which could lead to bad choices and situations. take it one step at a time and see how often he uses, if he's a pusher, and stuff. i wouldnt rush into this relationship but thats just me. you are the one who in the end has to choose.
hope i helped.
Mecha Becca