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My boyfriend and I met in 8th grade and we're both going to be seniors in high school last night. We never worked out in 8th or 9th grade, we were always on and off. We never offically dated but we are now. We started going out June 6th. He means everything to me. He takes words very seriously. Last night he came over and he saw on my phone that a guy cause love u and i said it back. He took it so seriously and broke up with me. I don't know what to do. He ended up forgiving me but then today he told me I broke his heart. I'm even looking at colleges in philly because that's where he wants to go to school. Upenn. Idk what to do anymore. Im 16 but i believe in forever and i believe in highschool love. He's never hurt me. I just want to make it last. he's everything to me. How can you hurt someone you love so much
I'm just wondering why you said I love you to another boy? He might be confused as to why you said that, because he felt that you loved him instead. You should sit down and talk about how you feel about your boyfriend and apologize for what happened. Just a side note though, you're only in high school and there's a whole life out there ahead of you and so many people that you're going to meet. If you guys are meant to be, it'll happen. Don't force it. Sometimes people hurt one another accidentally without meaning to, but you just have to grow from them. There's a saying that I believe is so true. People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. No matter what happens with this boy, you'll take something out of it and he'll always be close to your heart. I had an ex who I cared about more than anything. In the end, it didn't last but he helped show me how to love. Communication is the best thing in this situation.
I hope the best for you!
xx
So, me & my boyfriend have a long distance relationship. & since I told him I don't want to loose my virginity for awhile, I don't wanna bore him, so I wanna try to spice our relationship up. I wanna try phone sex, because it seems fun but I'm not sure how to & I DON'T wanna make a fool of myself. But anyways I just need the basics of it! Someone who actually has experience please help me! & how to enteratin him. Thank you (:
I haven't had phone sex, but I've sexted. Basically the point is to tell him with detail what you want to do to him, or vice versa. This paints a picture in their mind so they can imagine it. For instance, "I slowly unbutton your shirt, trailing my fingers down your chest...." and so on. Sexting is an easy way to start so you can think about what you want to say. You just want to make him picture it.
Hope this helps!
xx
Is it possible to end up with someone if it started out with sex?
I know it's always better and relationships work out better when you take it slow. But what if it was the total opposite? Do you think it could still work?
You should try talking to them or hinting that you have feelings for them. If you're too nervous to take that step, try suggesting that you go out and do something, like go out to eat or to a movie, as friends. Then, you could get to actually know one another outside of the bedroom and you might be able to start a relationship if his feelings are the same.
Hope this helps!
xx
Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for a month and a half and we've already gotten to second base. I am completely comfortable with how far we have gone, but what I wanted to know if we are moving too fast physically. I’m 16 and he’s 17, he doesn’t push me about any of it, it’s all on my terms. So are we moving to fast?
This varies from person to person. I've had many friends who all move at different paces. What it comes down to are the individual people. If you feel okay and comfortable, then don't even worry about it. Make sure you have open communication with your boyfriend to make sure that you're on the same page. Nobody should define how you and your boyfriend act in the relationship, just have respect and communication and that's all that matters.
Hope this helps!
xx
Hello im 18, female. well me and my ex boyfriend dated for around 1 year, and we had a break like 2 weeks ago, then we got back. but he finished it with me :(
Basically i always tell my boyfriend everything, and on saturday night he found out something about me from when i was 14, (sexual) and well i didnt tell him, he got really put off and told me that im a liar, he said that he dont trust me.
Yet i tried to explain myself and nothing, he said that it 'grim' being with a liar :( how without any trust we wont work. But honestly theres just certain things i cant always tell people.
I love him, im his first love our break up has been so hard when he said 'were finished' :'( i dont know whether he regrets it or not. But it hurts like hell, i have no idea if we'll ever get back, i have lied to him before , but i always fight for this rs to make it right, i know i committed a mistake but il do anything to make it right.
we aint spoken since he ended it... do u think it hurts him that he ended it? like i know he loves me, everything was going so amazing when we got back :'(
i miss him, please tell me what i can do?
thankyouu
appreciate it
You should explain your side of things. Tell him that you're usually closed off about certain intimate details about your life and that it's difficult to share them with people. You didn't necessarily lie, you just didn't tell him every single detail. He can't expect you to list off every detail about your life, it should just come up in conversation and you mention it. Anyway, I'm sure it hurts him inside, and you both feel upset. Sit down and talk to him, and see how it ends up. In the end, if you don't end up together, you have to learn from it and move on. It will hurt, a lot, but he might not be who you end up with, and that's okay. Just be honest, and see if you can work it out.
Hope this helps, keep me updated!
xx
Why when you love someone so much and you and this person have been through just about everything together do they just expect for you to just give up so easy bc they did? How do you give up on the one person you love most?
I've been in a similar situation to yours, and unfortunately, there is no happy ending. I had to sit back and assess my relationship with this boy. He was no good for me, and I had to look at the cons that happened in the relationship and move on. It's the hardest thing to move on from someone that you care about, however, it's the only thing to do if you want to move on. Stop trying to think about them, delete them out of your phone, don't keep yourself updated on their life, and busy yourself with something else. Take up a hobby, and be open to new people in your life. You WILL find someone who makes you just as happy (or even happier) and it will be a huge relief. You'll always care about them but can't live your life in their shadow.
Hope this helps!
xx
I'm a single dad with custody of two kids 8 and 9. I met a woman over the internet, let's call her Carol, and I love her very much. She has everything that I want in a woman except she has little money, and a tiny bit overweight (I can handle with the weight issue). We both want to marry. Carol is divorced, she has two daughters 14 and 5. She lives in the Caribbean and we talk almost every day on skype.
I told her many times that I cannot afford a family of six on my salary. She tells me that if we love each other it doesn't matter b/c we can solve any problem. She's willing to look for a job to make it work.
Carol is not a skilled worker, she didn't finish college, and I can't imagine how she can contribute anything significant to the cost of managing the household. I'm afraid that if marry her and try to support a family of six on my salary that we all might fall on hard times; I'll lose everything that I've worked for.
She insists that money doesn't matter and I should follow my heart. I told her that we can get married in 2013, but I have ice cold feet.
Do I follow my heart and overcome, or do I follow my brain and stay alone? I'm really torn between the two decisions because she really is good woman.
Thanks.
I'm not married, nor have I ever been. I'm currently a student. However, my personal opinion about love can be used for any age group. If you love one another, marriage is not necessary. I know many neighbors of mine who have divorced and have been with a new significant other for 5 years and counting. They are happy as ever, but they both have their own families. There is no need to get married so you have to support her. If love is there, all you need is to be with one another, and if she is insisting on marriage, she might have other motives.
Hope this helps!
xx
So there is this guy that I like. I thought he was feeling me because he used to look at me all the time and just get in my conversations all the time. We would look at each other. He would talk about me with his friends in front of me. He even playfully told me he loved me. So I thought he was interested. I was making fun of this girl saying she should date him. and she was like no. and she was like you should because he said you was cute. and she started laughing with this other girl. and i think she only said it to get back at me though. well one day I told him he had pretty eyes and he say thankyou. I asked if anybody ever told him that, he said a lil bit. So I started calling him pretty eyes. He would just look at me. During a track meet he was looking at me and I was like why are you looking at me like that? And he was like because you are staring at me. (which i really wasnt :) And i was like I can look at you all I want. He just gave me A lil sexy look and went back to getting into his block. Also at Practice he was ignoring this girl and then I was like u need to cut your hair and I rubbed his hair and he was being so mean he rubbed me off him. And then the gurl said something and was like why you acting like this and he ignored her. And then i walked to the other side of him because he was laying down. And I said something like yeah he is being mean or something and then he was like yeah because you threw a baton at me. Then I was like I'm sorry and he was like to the girl that she threw A baton at me. And then I went up to him and was like I'm sorry you made me mad and he was like nope nope. And he was walking away and I followed and was on his shoulder and asked him why he wouldn't forgive me and he kept saying no. So I would point at him and keep laughing and then he was like it's not funny and then I whispered in his ear and was like if it's not funny why you smiling?so then he left and then the gurl was like do you like him and I was like no. And then she was like you sure and I was like yeah and and she was like I don't believe you. And I was like why you say that and she said because you messing with him and I said I mess with everybody and I just started messing with him and she was like yeah that's why I think you like him. And she was like I thinking something going on. She said it seems a lol supicious. Then the next day she told a girl on our team and the was like where is my man and I was like who is my man and she was like the guy. And I was like that isn't my man and she was like that's not what he said but i knew she was just saying it just to say it because i think she liked him too. but when tracked ended he didnt seem to talk to like me. when i try to talk to him he will just look at me. and not say anything back i mean its summer time and i never see him, but i have him on facebook but he never answers me. so im thinking he doesnt want to talk to me. one of my guy friends was do you really wanna know something and i was like yeah and he was like he has a gf. so i told my friend who is his really good cousin. she asked him and he was like no i dont have a girlfriend. so im like really confused. i really like him but he wont talk to me.
(sorry if its too long)
If you began to flirt with this boy, and had positive results, then congrats, you're on the right track. However, guys don't like to be constantly clung to. Try giving him space and wait for him to come to you. Guys love a chase. Also, since it's summer the guy might not be looking for a girlfriend. If his friend told you that he did, you might want to give him some space. Flirting with a guy is like a cat and mouse game. You already chased him, now let him come to you. If that doesn't work, he's probably not even worth it.
I want this guy to like me, and he kind of does but not enough to go out with me and I asked him out and he likes one of my friends. What do I do? I still want him to like me but I want to go out with him too but if he just wants to be friends I dont want it to be awkward.
this is a tricky situation
first of all, talk to your friend
and make sure she isnt interested in the same guy
then, continue being good friends with him
if your friend does not like him back, he will soon get over her
then, you two will still be close friends
and you can try again
its either you wait it out, or forget about him
and since you like him i dont think you'd want to
also, maybe try hanging out with him in a group
but not including the friend he likes
or just hang out one on one
hope i helped
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Thanks...
i did talk to him and were just going to be friends...but good friends...and prob have a few benefits...but it works out good :)
ok also how do you get your little advice column to look that way?????
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Alright im a senior this year :) and i just started hanging out with some old friends again, and one of them k for short, im starting to like.
Everyone in the group knows and he knows...and recently at a party we hooked up.
and Everything is still fine between us...and he's talking to me more on his own and stuff.
But he's just so confusing. I really cant tell how he feels about me, and i dont even know if its worth going for anymore.
so should i go for it, or lay off, or just wait....UGH!
Thanks in advance!
i say go for it
you can ask him by yourself
or have someone ask for you
to find out if he likes you
but if he knows you like him
and still hooked up with you
then he def. might be interested
or else he wouldn't want to lead you on
hope i helped !
update me :)
OK, I just started going out with this guy and for his birthday coming up I got him this book that I know he wants. I don't know what else to get so I was just going to leave it at that. But then the other day he gave me roses and told me that he wanted me to know how much i meant to him, so now i'm trying to think of what i could add to the gift that would say the same thing to him as the flowers did to me, if that makes any sense. :) Anyway, if anyone has any suggestions, please let me know. thanx :)
my sister has a nickname for her boyfriend
"gare-bear"
so she ended up buying him a bear
which, yes, she named gare-bear
cute little things that remind him of you
is the best present
I've only dated a couple of guys- enough to get me started I guess... anyways, now I'm more "interested" in guys I guess, than I was before because I know a little bit of how things work. There's nobody I have an ABSOLUTE crush on, but there are a few guys that have caught my eye. I was just wondering, how do you initiate something with someone? I've only been asked out by guys, and I'd like to start taking chances myself and take my own picks. But it seems awkward, like what if they don't take the hint? I don't want to make it so methodical like: flip your hair around him or, wear his favorite color and talk about his interests... I mean, I want it to flow and not seem like work. Any advice?
this is what i've done
usually on aim or whatever ill be talking to my crush
and once the convo dies down ill say
"so hows your love life :P"
and if they say
"no one at the moment you?"
make them want more info
and say something like
"i have an interestttt"
usually they get interested that your hiding something
and try to find out more
just tease and not tell
hope it works !
ok well i had a boyfriend and we broke up a year an a half ago but i still want him to be my friend. is this the right thing to do...
he was there for me through the roughest times for me. he caused me a lot of pain when we broke up but it was just because we were going to different highschool and i think he didnt want it anymore because we went out for a year.
should i try and be his friend????
absolutely
since your relationship lasted so long
you two know all about the other one
so it will be easy to help each other about tough things
and even reminisce on good times
if he seems uneasy, ask him to think it over
and try to hang with him with groups at first
until both of you feel comfortable with each other again
hope i helped :)
I have just gone into the 8th grade and so far everythings been pretty memorable. I met this boy
Cole Padula because we had like every class together, and the teachers didn't realise till like 3\4 into the school year that we don't work well together [[because he's so frkn hot I can't consintrate lmao.=]] Seriously he's like lil' emo boy amazing. Well last year we just kinda hung out, and made fun of a couple kids but this second day of school he shuves a banana down his pants and in Science I was like DONT LOOK AT ME COLE PADULA! just kinda joking around because I can't look at this kid without the banana and last year I couldn't go a day without seeing this kids boxers so he mentioned that and then in PE Floor Hockey last year I always guarded him and I kick butt in Floor Hockey so he always elbowed me in the boob so he mentioned that too. Well In Science he sat across from me, in the direction of the board so I HAD to look at him and Matt BOYTOY sat next to him, and I was next to Nikki and Matt started throwing cap erasers down my shirt, and at first Cole took it like a joke and was like let me try let me try. But then next day Matt tried again, and I was NOT in the mood so Cole like jedi master caught the cap eraser and like chucked it at Matts head and was like "Seriously stop. Im the only person that can throw anything down Katies shirt." and I was like YESSS. And i donno why but matt was being really gay talking about messing with the cops, and acting all tuff but Cole like powned his butt like a noob.
And todays Coles birthday, so I got him an Atreyu t-shirt [[well jacked from Jackson but whatever]] and so far schools going pretty swell, but Cole told me that because he dated Britnii last year he doesn't have a lot of friends because there mad he broke up with her so I was like aww ill be your buddy =]]
So Nikki thinks were flirting, and Matt even mentioned that we were but we both like shrugged it off but Nikki was like "You can't be so mean to Matt its obvious he's trying to impress you-- and Coles making fun of him so you notice him." and I was like "nooo. deffiently not how its working out." and Nikki was like YEh okay.
Were doing a Lab in Science and I can't focuse with Cole because he always has something to say when Matt says something, and Nikkis getting pissed. How do I stop there lil agruements.
[[I cant move seats, and I really do wanna sit next to Cole and Nikki Matt can move though lol]]
What do I say to stop there fighting?
maybe you should talk to nikki and matt
'cause it sounds like matt is trying to impress you
indicating that he might like you
and since he sees you and cole flirting
it makes him mad
and thats why he started talking about the cops
if nikki and matt are your good friends
you might want to think about telling them about cole
hope i helped*
ok, sooo I just started dating this guy and i thought maybe he would change his facebook status thing, but he didn't and I don't know if I should wait for him to do it or just go ahead and change mine or what. I haven't been in a relationship ever so I don't really know what people normally do about these things. If anyones got any advice, please let me know, thanx :)
what you can do
is change yours
and have it marked as
"in a relationship with _____"
then it will ask him to confirm it
so he'll then change it
'cause he might have forgot
hope i helped :)
14/f
me and my ex are still friends, but he tells everyone that he still likes me and isn't over me. well, his best friend also likes me, and i like him. would it be okay to date him ?? is there a way i can explain this to him without hurting him ??
well first talk to the best friend
it might be easier for the guy you like to talk to your ex because they are bffs
if you want to personally talk to your ex dont straight out ask him if you can date his bff
it is probably best to find out for sure if your ex likes you and if he does explain to him how you have feelings for his best friend and dont want to hurt him
hope i helped*
hey ok so i babysit my neighbor and she is like 9 and her older brother is like 13 and im 14 but almost 15 and her older brother always has his friends over when im babysitting.. and one of his friends is REALLY tall and kinda cute.. would that be totally weird to like a guy thats like 2 grades lower than me? im a freshman in highschool and hes in 7th grade . thanks
well this one is quite difficult.
for one, you two are in two different schools
its truly up to you
some of the problems you might encounter may be the following:
when you babysit it might be a little awkward for you and the 9 year olds brother.
another thing is this
my friend dated a 6th grader when she was in 8th
for about a couple days to a week she had guys in her grade goofing about it
however, it faded
also, the kid she dated became in love with her and started to get cocky as well
he thought he was so good that he got an older girl and the whole grade found out
lastly, when guys are two years younger than you, they might not be that mature
that includes how serious the relationship would get
and also kissing etc.
based on the advice i gave you i hope you can figure out your decision. to answer your question, it might be weird at first but it might work out. hope i helped*
Hello EVERYONE! This is my first Valentine's Day that I really cared/loved the person that was my valentine. My boyfriend is sooo sweet and I want to do something totally different. He has to work on Valentine's Day, so what i have come up with so far, is placing a cd that i've made for him with all the songs that remind me of him in the cd player, so he'll be listening to it on his way to my house, i've brought him a shirt, he jus recently got a new car, so i took a pic with him today on the car, and i have the prettiest frame that describes him with that picture in it. Now I am stuck. what else can i get him? Please help, do you think my idea is cute and different, I would really like your input, thank you!
i think your idea is very unique :]
im sure your boyfriend would enjoy it
also, if you wanted to rent a movie
you could get his favorite
or just a cute movie to cuddle through
another idea to add could be:
you could bake cupcakes or a cake
and make it in the shape of a heart
like this:
http://www.cupcakefun.com/images/ideas/jumboheartyccks/jumboheartyccks_main.jpg
or this:
http://z.about.com/d/baking/1/5/q/3/cutcake5.JPG
otherwise,is you dont want to
your idea sounds perfect just the way it is :]
my boyfriend ((my first)) just asked me to go to the movies with him. first date. i didnt answer yet because i think hes gonna "make a move" and kiss me, but im not ready for that at all. we just stareted going out on a few days ago. i want to blow it off. i dont want to tell him that im not ready to kiss him or anythingg. what do i do! i need an answer quick!
dont stress
if he tries to try and make a move at the movies just say
this isnt the right time
my first "real" boyfriend tried to make a move at the movies with me
and he's known for making out with girls in relationships
but i told him not now
and he respected me
he'll understand if you need time
hope i helped =]