about

name's chelsey.
i'm 16,i'll be 17 in a little over 3 months.
i've been through a lot,and i have a lot of wisdom in different areas.
i'll try my best to help you in any way i can.
just ask :]

advice

So the other night my friend was planning to set me up with her boyfriend's friend. I already knew the guy a little bit but i was excited to get to know him more because i heard he was a good guy. So the night of date..my friend totally didnt say one word about meeting up or anything..she either forgot or she didnt want to do it anymore. Well comes to find out..she broke up with her boyfriend soo thats why we didnt go on the double date. I was soo hurt because i was looking forward to it. Should i contact the guy and ask him out myself..what should i do?

don't ask him out.
i agree with the other person when they said to get to know him better and become better friends first.
but i do think you should contact him and ask if he still wanted to get to know each other.
see if ya'll maybe can hang out one night or something

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hi,therez this girl she likes me i like her im going to ask her out..just wondering how 2 be a good boyfriend what do girls like in a boy or boyfriend??..thanks

i would be like everyone else and give you a lest of things to do,but honestly i think that you should just be you.
yes,it helps to do some of those sweet things.
but just in general,treat her good.
treat her like a lady.
don't be too sappy,or not yourself,because it'll get old to both of you after awhile,and it won't work out.
just be real.
hope i helped.

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i have this guy i been with for 8 months and he broke up with me and i gave him a letter begging him to take me back telling him i love him and i need him and i cant live without him.. and he just read it and ripped it up...and i left crying and he cursed and yelled at me..when i came back i sat by myself and cried for like 2 hours and he was all over my friends hugging them and stuff like that and i got so uppset and he didnt even care..this happend like 20 minutes ago and he isnt calling ...he never calls when we break up...i always call and beg for him back what should i do to make him want me back?

it sounds like he's being a jerk.
i think he realizes how much you love him,and he knows that you're always gonna call and beg,so he doesnt even consider that ya'll might be through.
i think this time you should let him do the worrying,& instead of calling and begging,wait it out and let him get worried.
it might not work, but you dont need to keep letting him think he's got you wrapped around his little finger.
you deserve better than for some guy to be a jerk to you.
i hope i helped, and good luck.
:]]

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15 Female

Last night I was at a party and made out with this guy (hes 18) four times. The thing is, that was my first kiss.. but I think I did pretty well. Anyways, he started with his mouth open which was sooo awkward, but then again we were both kinda drunk. Is it normal to begin with fullout french kissing.. no closed mouth kiss before?

Thanksss.. :)

there's not really a certain way a first kiss should be.
my first kiss was a full-out makeout session.
so it doesn't make a difference either way.
except you probably had more fun that way :]]

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I used to go out with this guy named Josh. I loved him so much, & when he broke up with me -- I thought EVERYTHING would change. & I never thought I'd find myself in this position.

But now I met this new guy named Ralph, and whenever we go out on dates, or if we just talk on the phone, I always unfortunetly find myself comparing Josh to him. & How great Josh was, and the little things he did that Ralph doesn't do.

I don't want to do that anymore & it's really getting on my nerves. I won't be going back out with Josh again, but I can't help but think about how perfect he treated me, and then I just compare which really sucks.

Is it wrong to compare?
Does anyone else do it? I don't want to feel like soo horrible about it, but I just think I'm trying to get over Josh.

Thanksss.

no;it's not wrong at all.
i've been comparing a guy i'm going out with to one of my exes for the past week.
the problem is,it fills you with doubt,and makes you miserable.
just start trying to focus on all the stuff he DOES do for you,instead of what he doesn't do.
and if it isnt working out,don't drag it on,it'll just make it worse.
hope i helped.:]

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lately ive just been so FED UP with my appearance i hate looking in the mirror because its not what i want to see =( everyone else is so much prettier than me or thats what i think. my hair bugs me it never stays right i wish i was tanner i wish i was everything else..

i know im not DEPRESSED or i dont think so but maybe just jealous of every other girl. and i really like this kid but he has a girlfriend and it kills me everytime i hear her name because i know that i cant have him

also my parents have been telling me that i need to go do other things rather than come home go on the computer go to my cousins (my best friends house) and then when i get home get back on the computer! they are telling me i need to get out of the house and go with my other friends but the only problem is i dont have many OTHER close friends i can hangout with..

my life just seems to be going completely wrong.

ahh! what do i do? i cant live like this anymore..

i'm right there with you about the appearance.
you have to learn to love yourself for who you are and what you look like though.
i'm working on it too.
you will find a guy.
even if its not him,someone will come along at some point.
i cant really tell you exactly what to do,cause i can relate with you about the parent thing too.
just try to do a few extra things around the house before you get on the computer,so you can have a defense when they get upset.
:]
hope i helped.

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When I was about 13, I decided that I never want to get married and I still feel this way and believe that I will always feel this way. I guess it does kind of reflect on my family because both my parents have been married multiple times but it isn't just because of that. It seems as if married means nothing anymore to most people (not all people, I know). So I don't know, people are always telling me that not all marriages end and that mine doesn't have to be all bad like my parents and I know that but I just dont see myself getting married. Does anyone else feel this is way or am I alone? Please don't tell me reason why marriage is so great and how if it's the right person it'll work because I've heard it all before. 17/f


i'm in the same boat as you.
except for i want to get married,it's just scary because both of my parents had many failed marriages,and they aren't together anymore.
&yea,christianity sets good standards for marriage,but that still doesnt assure you that it won't fail.
some people don't ever get married,and that's okay.
it's your choice.
i advise that you pray about it,& ask God to shine some light.
hope i helped. :]]

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How can you tell if the person you're kissing and/or making out with is truthfully enjoying it and not just faking satisfaction in order to continue getting more lip action?

if they're not into,they're more than likely going to find an excuse to stop.
but,if you just want to make sure,
while you're making out,you can kinda back off for a second,and if they start coming in for another session,you know they were liking it.
lol.
hope i helped.
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ok..

so theres this guy whos liked me since 7th grade or w/e. and he wants to go out. but just today he said " well im only 16, i wanna experience a little more before i go out with you because i have a feelings we'd go out a long time, we have that chemistry" i said ok fine like a dumbass.. then i said id wait for him and give him time..

SHOULD I WAIT!?!?!??! or just be like either me or not.

he probably just got scared because he realizes that if he goes out with you now,then he's lost his "freedom" for awhile.
he probably jsut wants to be able to flirt around,so i think you should do the same.
just have some fun,and get to know other people.
if/when the time comes for you two to go out,you will both feel like you have looked at all the choices.
hope i helped.
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My wife and I have been married for 13 years. I'm 39 and she's 40 and we've been together since i was 22 and she was 23. Lately, she's been down and I'd like to put a letter from a "secret admirer(me)" in her car and see if that perks her up. Ideally, I'd put an email address in it and see if she would contact me at it. Does anyone here have any good ideas for a secret admirer letter or can someone draft one up for me? I wanted to make it seem like it's from a local man that thinks she's beautiful. I can be reached at ericmsdw2005@yahoo.com

thank you!

i dont think that is a good idea either.
when she found out that it was really you,it would probably make her feel like you were testing her.
i agree that it would make her feel a lot better,if you just stuck a little note in her car or her purse for her to find,telling her how much you love her,and you hopes she has a good day.
good luck & i hope i helped.
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i recentcly went out with the guy this past summer but we broke up and we didnt talk then now we have started talking agian and we still have feelings for each ohter but he has a gf...but she lives an hour away and he keeps saying hes going to dump her but idk.... hes playing mind games with me and leading me on and i dont know what to do...i don't know if hes being serious or a manwhore and i need help asap! thanks aleah

Well, it kinda sounds like he might be trying to play you..like a two for one deal.
Maybe not, but just make sure you are cautious in going back out with him.
Good Luck and I hope I helped!
♥

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hi!
i am havin a hard time with this in my life right now! i like this guy from my old school alot and i don't av any idea if he likes me or not! what do i do?

signed,
CONFUSED

Well, first of all, does he have a s/n? or, do you have his phone number? If so, I think you should just IM him, or call him, and just be like "I haven't talked to you in awhile!" so ya'll can catch up. Otherwise, you could get one of your friends at your old school to talk to him! Hope I helped! Good Luck!

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ok so theres this guy that i really wanna get over but i cant. he likes one of my best friends but only thinks i'm "hot." i really want to get over him but i still like him even when i try to forget about it. and even if i do still like him...he doesnt like me. help!?!

WOW. I am going through the EXACT same thing right now. You just have to keep in mind that what is meant to happen will happen. I'm sorry I couldn't help more. Hope I helped and Good Luck!

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Hey i like my ex girl friends best friend should i ask her out? signed confused

It's kinda hard to tell. I mean, did she break up with you, or did you break up with her? If you broke up with her, I would say no, b/c it would probably really hurt your ex, and it would hurt her relationship with her friend. But, if she broke up with you, then I would say it's her loss,and you're free to like whoever you wanna like, so go ahead. Hope that helped! Good Luck!
*-*Chelsey*-*

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This was me earlier.
14/f
i like this guy and i think he likes me. he knows that i like him, but i dont noe what to do...im not pretty like everyone else and i dont know if i should ask him if he does....whut?? help if you can thanks a TON!!!

Me and this guy are GREAT friends... and he knows alot about me and he acts like he likes me but I'm not sure if he does. thanx a lot!!

Well, then, yes, I do think you need to tell this guy how you feel. If you don't tell him you're never gonna get anywhere. I'm trying to do the exact same thing right now with a guy I like, so I know how hard it is, but you need to just sit down and tell him how you feel about him. I hope that makes sense and helped!
Good luck and God Bless!

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14/f
i like this guy and i think he likes me. he knows that i like him, but i dont noe what to do...im not pretty like everyone else and i dont know if i should ask him if he does....whut?? help if you can thanks a TON!!!

Just talk to him more and get to know him. He's not going to ask you out if you don't at least become friends. In time he will get to know you, and surely ya'll will become alot closer.
Hope I helped!

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14/m
what are ways that i can pull my girlfriend aside from all our friends and get our first kiss? like what are ideas that i can do? what are things that i can bring up the romantic event once i pull her aside?
Background: she has been getting annoyed with me for absolutly no apparent reason, sometimes just because im around-we go to the same school, and are in the same classes, and hang around the same group of friends. sometimes i get the impression that she gets annoyed whenever i pull her aside for a while just to cuddle with her, or talk by ourselves, its like she thinks i am hogging her from everyone, when really its just some of our friends are so obsessive with her (they are almost all girls, we have like 2 or 3 other guy friends) and they (a few girls) like obessess with her and shit. so how can i pull her aside without her thinking im trying to hog her to myself?? thanks for the help!

Maybe she's upset because she feels like you don't want to be affectionate in public with her. Try just grabbing her hand, even when ya'll are around your friends, and don't act ashamed to cuddle. Hope I helped and Good Luck!

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What do you do if you find yourself more and more each day, liking a guy who does not believe in God? I am a christian and I have my morals, standards and beliefs and he doesn't meet my number one standard which is believeing in God and having a relationship with him but, on the other hand, I am so drawn to him I can't help it.He's a really great guy but should we just stay friends and nothing more?

God should always be your first priority. More than likely, he would not convert to Christianity just for you, so you shouldn't give up your Christian background and morals for him. God has a plan for you, and he has a great Christian guy out there waiting for you. It says in the bible not to be associated with non-believers, so, even though you're attracted to him, you should follow the beliefs you have been taught as a Christian.
I hope I helped!Good luck & God Bless!
*x0oLoViN'iTo0x*

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Ok there is the guy i like alot and he seems to like me back and he has also told me that he likes me. I have told a couple of my friends that i like him and if they could talk to him so that he would ask me out. (I'm kinda the old fashion girl that waits for the guys to ask her out instead of the girl askin the guy out.) But this has been goin on for about 3 months and he still hasnt asked me out. so here is my question wut should i do?
Signed,
~*~Very Confused~*~
P.S 14/F

Nothing is ever going to happen if you don't take a chance and see how he really feels about you.If you are too shy to ask him in person, then maybe you could get his screenname and talk to him on the internet,if he has one.Otherwise, I don't know know what else to say, besides, just talk to him more and become friends. It's always better to be friends before you go out. Hope I helped!
Good Luck and God Bless!
*x0oLoViN'iTo0x*

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ok what exactly are guys looking for? i go to a private school and theres like 100 people in my grade... its pretty even (guys vs girls) and ive never been asked out. people always tell me im pretty and funny and i dont get it. im thinking that its just that the guys at private schools are retarded because a lot of really pretty popular girls dont get asked out.. but yea... so what are guys looking for? i rate 5s

Confidence and personality

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