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Ok, you answered my question about the guy i like, and how i can start being friends with him and stuff like that. Well..i liked your advice so i wanted to fill you in on some other stuff that has been going on. Also, i "talked" to him for about a week over the summer. Well, he is one of those guys who hug a lot of girls and flirt with a lot of girls. My friend has that personality that is really flirty and at first i thought she was flirting with him and now she gets so mad when people say that she is flirting with him so i don't really bring it up. Well, since she is flirty and he is flirty, they both kind of flirt together. I know he is a big flirt but he always goes and talks to her and sits by her whenever he gets the chance. She talks to him back because she told me and all my friends that they were best friends and he tells her secrets that he dosen't tell anyone else. She was like "I'm not telling anyone the secrets he tells me and the girls that he likes...etc." They are always talking and around eachother. I thought that since i was one of her best friends that she would tell me who he likes because she knows i like him. It makes me sorta jealous. I confronted her about it and she said she dosen't like him except for a like a brother. (Looks to me like she really likes talking and hanging out with her "brother"). This girl in my class asked him if he liked her and he said "Um....(long pause!) We are just really good friends." He is popular around the school and he dosen't just pick anybody to be his best friend (thats a girl.).He must really like her if he considers her as his best friend. Also, i just want to be in her position where they are really good friends and talk about everything. I want to but do you think because he knows i like him, he's not?? He also knows that i have never kissed a guy and i am 15 so do you think that that might have something to do with it? What should i do?
I don't think the fact that you've never kissed a guy would really matter. Well, maybe he likes your friend and finds it awkward that you like him and he's trying to be nice and ignore it, which just saying it doesnt sound to nice but Thats how guys think. [[CONFUSING I KNOWW]]
But if you really cant be friends with him, how do you expect to date him? Thats what I don't get. Sorry just wondering...
I really wanna be able to help.
Heres my Myspace-- http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=41915905
And My AIM- xLimewireJunkiex
Im fourteen and female not some freaky 40yo living in his parents basement ;]]. Thought you might wanna know. Im going through a similar issue and if you can make it through then I might be able to-to. hah if that makes sence.
You never know he really could like your friend.
And then again you never know she could like him to and get mad because shes a really good friend and doesnt wanna hurt your feelings. You gotta think of both sides. Maybe you gotta think this whole liking him through... I know you can't just shut the feelings off but i donno.
Hmm. Maybe if I heard more of the story because I have the habit of exagerating-- like was it a REALLY REALLY long awkward silence, or a this isn't the time to be duscussing this silence.
Theres diffrences. x]
Sorry, I hate these questions too but please bear with me.
So this guy that I work with and I have been flirting for like the past 3 months. He’s one of those guys that flirts with pretty much every girl so I didn’t think much of it at first. But then it started to get a little more personal and I really started to have a crush on him.
However when I first met him, I had a boyfriend. Then a month ago he broke up with me. Like 2 weeks after we broke up I was talking to the guy I work with and he told me that he really likes me and that he wanted to start hanging out more and on a different level. And I told him that I liked him too but I wasn’t really over my ex so I wasn’t at a point where I wanted to start another relationship. We haven’t really talked about it since then, which was like 2 weeks ago.
But now, I’m definitely over my ex and I really want to try things out with this other guy. But I don’t really know how to let him know.
We’ve talked about it before so I guess I feel awkward or something because I don’t wanna be like “Oh yeah, I changed my mind I do want to go out with you.” haha I need a better way to bring it up.
So my question is, how would you start that conversation? Basically what I want to get across is that I like him a lot, I’m over my ex now, I want to give this new relationship a try, but also that I want to take things slow. (Just because I don’t want this to ruin our friendship)
Any ideas?
Invite him out to the movies or something. Just start hanging out with him a lot after work and inbetween and wait for him to bring up your ex. If he doesn't [which would be shocking considering I know a lot of guys and you say you just wanna be friends and they don't take a hint] then just ask him out.
You seem pretty sure he likes you so =]
ok, so within the past year 1/2 i've become best friends with this kid Chris. lately, we've been talking everyday on the comp. and every night on the phone. however, yesterday a girl from my school IMed me and asked me if i liked him because someone told her i did. but i told her i like him as a friend. . .then I told him what happened, and all he said was "oh"...but now he's been saying he has to go a lot, and he hasn't called me, and he gives me 1 word answers, or none at all. but he has a GIRLFRIEND who he does not talk about. so im not sure if he likes me or not. and it's been on my mind since it happened, so i don't know if i like him too.
but his friend (& my friend) likes me too...
maybe he feels awkward about it?
maybe i shouldn't have told him?
maybe he likes me?
idk. help!
I would just apoligise for bringing it up.
Be like I didn't know that it would cause an issue between us and I'm sorry... and see what he says. If you never thought you liked him before someone mentioned that you did then you probably don't like him, ust the idea of dating.
Which doesnt sound far to him at all.
Well just see what he says, and if you figure out you do like him make sure you mention the friend that likes you and suttely tell Chris that your not interested in this kid.
Just say sorry and see where it goes.
If you need anymore helpp Im always on drop some in my inbox and ill be sure to help you =]]
Good Luck.
so this guy moved to new york from colorado and he's really cute and funny, i'm kinda falling for him. the thing is he has a girl back in colorado, i guess they're pretty serious, but long distance relationships hardly ever work, so do you think i have a chance with him? i mean i definitely don't want to come in between them ..but idk. help please! :/
Probably.
But at the moment just get in with him to become really good friends. Wait till he starts talking to you more about this girl, to see how serious they really are.
Long distance relationships hardly ever work. Expecially still in highschool, or whatever grade your in. Colledge some try to do it, but they usually do not work out because we do find other people.
Keep flirting with him to a minimal as possible, considering he is still dating someone and you might really scare him off. But make sure he knows that your 'somewhat' into him. Or atleast interested, and don't become like REALLY good friends with him because from experience dating really good guy friends tend to be awkward because even though you might think there hot, and really fun to be around-- when it comes to the actual Boyfriend Girlfriend part.. it doesn't work out. So make sure you flirt but not to much. Dont be all touchy because Ive seen girls be all touchy and then the guy\\and other guys realise that she might be 'easy'.--sorry i have a friend going through this whole "She's a slut" thing right now and you just wanna avoid that.
I hope everything works out the way you want, and if you need anymore help from this guy my Inbox is always open.
Feel Free.
this will probably get a bit lengthy. I got a summer job at a small store, and there's a guy who works there who's about my age (he's 16, i'm 15) and he told me he liked me a few weeks ago. I told him that i liked him too, but i didn't really want to date anyone. As we got to know each other, i realized i didn't like him very much as anything but a friend. I figured he was getting over me and we could be friends, but then yesterday he told me that he was waiting until i felt ready to date. I don't want him to be waiting for me! I'm not gonna change my mind, and i don't want to deal with the pressure of knowing he won't date anyone but me.
What should I tell him? should i tell him that i don't like him anymore??? how do i do that without being mean? What can I do that hurts him as little as possible? lots of questions...
You should just tell him the truth. Your not being mean, your letting him off easily by coming forward immediatly by telling him how you really feel.
I would tell him you stopped liking him, Id tell him that getting to know him better has told you that you like him more as a friend then anything else and that you really don't want him to be waiting for you. Because you honestly think that your both better off as friends.
It's really nice of you to be letting him off gently and all you can really do is hope that he takes it like your doing him a favor because you are.
=] Just tell him everything your feeling, but put yourself in his shoes Kinda like he was telling you that he didnt like you, but you still did. It always seems to help peoples judgement.
I really hope I helped and if you have any questions Im on here daily.
My girlfriend ask me a question like this
" Baby you know that i love being in love with you but sometimes i get a little nervous that one day you'll fall out of love with me so just be honest with me and tell me something."
How can i keep your attention and interest?
Then she imply's " You say you will always
love me but what will keep you in love with
me? So tell me and i'll leason.
We've been together for seven years now. Don't
get me wrong we've had our up's and down's when
didn't see each other for a year. Doing the
years of break up's and makes up's she dated
another guy while i was single.
I just want to knoe what would make her ask
this question wheni tell here almost everday that i love her.
Thats what girls do. We can't help it, it just happens. Atleast she wants to keep your interest. My friend Olivias been off and on dating the same guy for like 5 years Steven and he's like IN LOVE with her but she's always dating someone new. She's been the same person for so long... she doesn't care what Steven thinks about her.
I donno we like to be reassured that were loved. It's just like being called pretty we REALLY like it =D
Hope I Helped.
Katie.
ok, so i am a virgin but i think i am ready and so i want to have sex with my boyfriend... the problem is, i dont know much about it, i am scared about the bleeding part, and how much will i bleed. and i am not on the pill but will i get pregnant, even though he wears a condom??
i just need like basic information on sex for the first time, any tips would be great, and apparently its VERY painful, is it??
thank you so much.... any info would be appreciated!
I know that this probably wont help you, but I'm going to say it anyway.
I donno how old you are and It would be helpfull with this kind've questions but Don't have sex.
Don't.Im not trying to scare you, but this guys only your boyfriend.. Maybe you've gone out for 20 years or 1 I donno [[this is where age comes in]] If your able to get married and have gone out for a long time and by the way sex is a commetment its not a one time shot. If this guy isnt into marrying you-- no sex.
Why give him the milk for free when he can buy the cow?
and if your like 15 or underage why are you even thinking about having sex.
Thinking and actually being ready are two VERY diffrent things.
I wouldnt but thats me...
Sorry If I Didn't Help.
i just wanted to open your eyes slightly.
Ok, so the guy i mentioned before, Jim, and i have been getting closer and closer. We talk all the time online, and he calls me, and we text each other all night. I told my best friend that i like him and she got mad at me for a few days, but got over it. About jen, shes still his bff, but shes been getting so jealous about me and jim.
he tells her about us, and shes always like, "Shes desperate, Dont hang out with her" and stuff. Well, i was too afraid to tell jim i like him because he said that he doesnt want a girlfriend until he can drive, i mean its 2 years! so now i have new troubles. What do i do about jen? and how can i get jim wanting a girlfriend?
Sorry its so long, and thanks in advance for listening!
Wow Jen sounds like a good friend huh.. You need to tell him that what she's saying isn't true and that Jens just being a cunt.
And about his girlfriend problem.. if he likes you he deffinetly wont wait 2 years! Tell him, take a deep breath and just say it. I know it seems huge but you never know.
It's kindalike if you take Door One- Wait two years to tell Jim you like him and through those two years indore everything Jen hasto say OR Door Two- Tell him, take a risk and possibly find out he has the same feelings for you and be able to tell Jen off which any girl would want to do =D
Its big I know I like someone and telling him I like him sounds like death, but it's sooo much easier to tell someone to then actually do it. So maybe tell your best friend to tell Jim kinda not flat out say but mention and see what he says. that sounds SO much better!
and if he says he doesnt like you he's def SOL! ans wil be wishing in the near future he'd actually been truthfull ;)
alright ok sorry for one of these "does he like me" questions lol.
alright so i like this guy and he's in one of my classes and lunch.
my friends say he's really quiet;;;which i could totally see...except for when he's in my cultural geography class...he kinda talks a lot.
except see we've never talked before
i have a MAJOR problem talking to guys i like.
i overanalyze EVERYTHING i say and get sooo self-conscious
my friends say he always looks at me & it seems like he likes me even though we;ve never talked lol. i even sometimes catch him staring.
ok so the problem;;what should i do to get my confidence to talk to him or whatever?
thank you :]
Don't worry I lovee this question =D
Okay.
You think he likes you, along with a lot of your friends. So if you concer your fear with talking to guys you like and tell him how you feel and he feels the same.... =) Both would be hapy.
If you never concer your fear and dont tell him how you feel and he feels the same way.. both would be sad!
When your about to talk with him take a deep breath.. not like hyperventilate. In through the nose out through the mouth and walk over with your head held high. Guys love a confident girl. If you have long hair fling it over your shoulder or something cute you can do and tell him.
Just nonchalontly be like "Hey (his name here)I like you and... because your the lucky guy LOL smile with that like a joke. i was wondering if you'd wanna go out out Saturday night?
Make the last part sound shy, but smile sweetly =D
Good luck
My boyfriend tells me that he can't go take me places to do stuff because he is strapped on cash... hes "strapped on cash" but i find like 5 new porn videos and a new 15 dollar porn magazine.. and he tells me he can't do take me out to do stuff cuz he doesn't have money. He thinks im overreacting when i get pissed... what do you think? isn't there something wrong here?
I'd be asking him why can't you be those models or something.. Isn't it obvious he shouldn't need new porn videos he has a girlfriend... I'd be pissed. You should tell him "If your so straped to cash and can't take me anywhere nice where the hell did these come from??" and see what he says.. He shouldn't need those, it discusting and I would be hurt knowing he's not happy with me.
Punch him in the face or something lol because your not overreacting.. he's addicted!
-Katie
so we went out a year ago and recently started talking again, he replies to a bunch of my myspace bulletins and ims me on msn all the time. he recently called me to walk around with him at warped tour, but then backed out, and when i saw him at warped tour he invited me to walk with him but i walked away, and when i saw him again there he stared at me and spit water at me and threw a condom at me (jerk) and then when i ran into him a 3rd time at warped he wanted me to walk with him again but i said no again, and he was supposed to talk to some other chick and i asked him if they were going out and he said i dont know and my friend told me that was because he didnt want to tell me the real answer, and ive asked him where we stand before, but that was after him and a serious gf broke up, so he was still upset over that, and like he asks me to chill, but he always just wants to have sex, even though i always tell him no not unless its with a bf.. so i dont know, what should i do. does he like me and if so, how do i find out, and if he doesnt, how do i get him to lol
*please dont tell me hes no good for you blah blah blah, believe me, i know, save the speech, i get it from everyone else, and dont bother wasting your energy and time replying with an answer that will probably just waste my time and upset me*
REALLY REALLY BIG MiXED SIGNALS!!!
Well im sorry but truly you can do better and i didnt want to waste my time putting my opinion into the madder. Think darling.. he threw a condom at you is that telling u he likes u??Im sorry this isnt what u wanna hearbut its honesty and im sure people have told u the truth because hello.. he may just act like that about his friend to impress them but alone, would be all nice.
Thats not someone you want.
okay if you havent read about Eric than theres not enough time, we got ina fight, I told him i loved him and left, and he wouldnt stop calling or anything now he's here!! ahh what do i say to him? Im in really cute pair of jeans though, so thats all good but what do i say to him?? I mean we got ina fight over his X when I was trying to make him feel better and omgg he's in his bathrob!Wow his mom wasnt lieing..(im 14 so hes 14 too) Oh My God. umm okay umm hard to say i just minimized this and he started talking to me telling me that it isnt far that im being treated like this and that he loves me and he just kissed me. he's taking his rob off at the moment so please hurry!!!!!
Okay this is my question..
more info on the fight of me and eric
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=502942
ok well basically.. like a week ago i broke up with my boyfriend. for lots of reasons.. i wont name them all (but some of them were kinda mean). and so then i was a bitch to him.. dont ask me why.. i still liked him i just was trying to push him away for some reason b/c my friends didnt like him & stuff. so now i feel like basically hates me but i still like him a lot like i feel like i cant live without him.. we had been going out for like a year and so now idk what to do b/c i think he likes this other girl. and like i said sorry like a million times and he accepted my apology & stuff but now idk what to do b/c i feel like i dont have a chance anymore b/c of how i treated him and i know its all my fault but is there anything else i can do?
It is your fault you broke up with him. I know this is something you don't wanna hear but its true. If you liked him as much as you explain you do which I don't doubt that you don't but you would not of cared that your friend don't like him. And if there true friends they would be able to see how much you care for him.
to make an impact on your sorry to him-
Tell him you made a mistake.. and that you can't picture any happiness without him and that you hope he can exept this apoligy because you mean it with all your heart and that you were a fool to listen to anything\anyone besides your heart..
AND maybe cry a lil.. lol
hope i helped
earlier today some friends, my boyfriend, and i met up at someones house to hang out, and when we left, me and my boyfriend walked down the street because we live pretty close. on the way he had his arm around me and he was like stroking my shoulder and the sleeve of my shirt fell down like 2 inches, i hardly even noticed. he apologized and i could tell he felt like it was a big deal and felt awkward but it was nothing. on the phone just now he said it was awkward and i told him it was fine no big deal and he doesnt have to worry about it, but i could tell he still was uncomfortable. hes always been kind of shy but i mean we hug and hold hands and such all the time so hes not THAT shy. does anyone know what he means in thinking its awkward?
OO trust me your lucky. he's shy and it seems like he doesnt want to take advantage. Yeah he's the kind you can pass out drunk and wake up and not be worried because he wouldnt do anything. Okk off subject sorry dont worry about it be like really it was nothing I even kinda liked it and joke about it to make him feel better so he doesnt feel like a complete idiot.
He's a gentlemen no problem :)
&&Hearts
Katie
i need boy advice. how would i get a boy whos going into 9th and im going into 8th i no him not well were in all the same sports hes pop and im in the middle and a lot of girls like him ALOT hes funny and into sprorts track cc and basketball hes supper cute and supper nice how would i get him interested in me?
Look at your similaritys.. you both love sports. First talk to him about that and then tell him something that he will think not a lot of people will know so he thinks that you think you can confide in him. And it really isnt that hard to talk to boys.. I mean not trying to sound mean just laugh loud but not obnoxus infront of him and tell him whats so funny. Anything that will start a conversation..
Hope I helped
Heart
Katie!
I'm in 8th grade and i really like this guy and he likes me too, we talk and flirt constantly but he just won't make a move. I would love to go out with him but he's kind of shy when it comes to the asking out part and i don't really want to ask him out so what do i do to give him some hints that i like him?
To give hints is to REALLY show him like flirt the same way but touch hima little more and try to hold his hand or tell him you like him and see what he says.. I usto be thes ame way and the guy i still like is wicked shy so i told him a liked him and he got all red blushing and i was like your so cute and he studdered and then said REAL quitly i lllike you too... so if i was you just say you like him and walk away.. and see if he fallows you! if he does then he likes you and then say so dont you have something to ask me?? if he says he likes you
i feel ugly and fat. i feel like guys aren't attracted to me. what can i do to make myself more attractive to guys, besides loosing some weight? i want to hook up with people and get a boyfriend. dont say "just be yourself" or "it will come in time."
only answer if your going to answer my questions.
I bet your not ugly.. but thats not what you want to hear.
Every girl finds problems with thier bodies. Wear more revealing cloths if thats the kinda guy you want or just make up to make you look really pretty and a skirt once anda while to show guys exactly what you can do and flirt! dont lean over a desk and show them something that should be covered but kinda hit on them and laugh alot. Not a HAHAHHAHAHHA but a giggle to touch there leg lol just show someone your interested and see what happens. Just buy new showy cloths and show off hair if you have good hair.. guys like hair
Hiii, I've been going out with my current boyfriend for about 3 months, and he's a year older then me, and is a Freshman, so we don't go to the same school. so, i only see him once a week. lately, things have felt weird between us, and i don't really like to talk on the phone to him, and i really like him a lot still, i just know i do. but, i like this one boy thats in my grade. and we flirt a LOT. i feel like i'm hurting my boyfriend, even though NO ONE knows, but me. i don't wanna break up with my boyfriend, but i don't wanna hurt anyone. i don't know what to doo. help?
Explain to your currant boyfriend that you dont think tings are working out and that you both should see other people..
its the nicest way ive ever broken up with someone so i donno even if you like him it isnt far to either of them so..
Okay so I'm 14/f - freshman in highschool. Grade 9
The other day me and some friends were working on a project in the hallway, and this really cute guy and his class walked by a few times. Then he walked by byhimself a few times as well. Those few times added up and every time he walked by we caught eachothers eye. His 2nd period class is across from my 2nd period class so since then whenever we walk by eachother we still catch eachothers eye. So heres the catch:
I know he's a year older than me, because that class across from me is a grade 10 class. I know NOTHING about him besides his physical appearance, I don't even know his name :( But I'd reallly realllyyy want to. What can I do or say to him? How should I approach him? Im not good in those awkward silences and im not the best at starting random conversations. I thought about winking about him when I pass him but I don't want to come on to strong.
Any Ideas?
Thanks.
Ok.. you need to be the damsel in distress and hopefully you'll play that part well. The next time you guys catch eyes trip and see if he's willing to help you up.. or like that ask jr guy said drop some books.. be casual but make sure your ferm with trying to get to know him
Coffee... icecream anything but be sweet and inocent guys love that :)
HIH
katie
So my boyfriend said I could use his computer to edit photos of the two of us. While I was doing so, I threw one away accidently and went to the recycle bin to retrieve it. I found all kinds of porn movies that he had downloaded. It literally made me sick: especially since he and I took dirty pictures and made dirty movies that he has on his computer. Why would he want to watch other girls and not me? It makes me extremely jealous.
My question is: how do I bring this up to him? I was by no means snooping, but I think it might come of that way. I have a feeling he'll get defensive as well. I just need a place to start from. Do I tell him the story of how I found it? Do I just come out and say "You looking at porn is hurtful to me"? Thank you for the advice in advance.
Ok men look at porn as gross as it is. My Dad looks at it when my Moms in the same room! I'd be like why are you looking at this and not me? And stuff, I understand why your jelouse thats GROSS though. Hopefully he doesnt Dennie all of the movies u found...