Hi everyone! I'm andi...better known as sparkle26. im a female in my teens. here's some things about me...i love music...especially rock n roll and i play guitar. i'm also an artist-in-training. ive been painting at an art studio since i was 4 or 5.i'm also a runner. my philosophy is to always look at life at a bright, lively perspective. feel free to ask me a question any time!
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Im 15 and there's this boy at my school. Im starting to like him and I dont know if hes interested or not. I have a class with him and we talk alot in the class we have together. But I usually catch him looking at me and when I look he looks away. And when we talk he smiles andblushes. During passing periods we dont really talk but acasionally we will or he'll walk me to class. We play flirt alot . Like he'll make fun of me or be mean to in a playful way.l I was gone for a week of school and when i got back my friends said they were all talking about a movie date night thing. One of my friends told him hd be my other friends date and he said he had a gf. But then she suggested me and he said " Oh okay then yeah Ill go :) " But normally we dont talk IDK WHAT TO THINK! Please help me :( (link)
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the only way to answer this question is to talk to him yourself. if you don't talk to him yourself, there will be so many rumors going around, you won't know which one to believe and which one is the truth...and this leads to confusion and misunderstanding. no matter how awkward or scary it may be to ask him how he feels and tell him how you feel, it will be worse if you are always wondering how he feels about you and if you and him could of been. the biggest risk of all is not taking one, and no matter what happens, everything happens for a reason. you have to have confidence in yourself and talk to that boy and go get him girl! or else you will never know.
good luck:)
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So recently, there's this really cute guy (14) that I've been interested in. His names Sam and he seems cool and all his friends keeps on saying that he likes me.
But then there's this other guy (15) that I've been friends with for longer and known him longer than Sam.
It's kinda starting to sound like the Hunger Games...
I don't know who to choose. This second guy, Will and I have shared our feelings for each other, and he doesn't mind waiting, but if he knows that I have feelings for Sam, he'll freak out and wouldn't want to be my friend anymore. Should I risk a friendship or just stay single for now?
BTW, I'm 14 (link)
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who first comes to your mind? what boy makes you feel happy? don't do this for them, do this for you. think about who makes you happy. NEVER SECOND GUESS yourself. if you are thinking about one of those boys in the back of your mind, but then you deny it and keep going back and forth between the two, i can guarantee the one that first comes to mind and stays in mind is the one you should choose. however, if you over think the answer every time you ask yourself which one, i would take some time figuring things out and being single for now. if you are constantly going back and forth between them and second guessing yourself every time you make a decision, it's not fair to the two guys to be changing your mind left and right. don't force the decision. let it come naturally. if it doesn't come naturally right away, take some time to figure things out, don't rush, be patient, and then when you're certain you can make up your mind. you have plenty of time to decide. you have your whole life ahead of you and this is just the beginning bottom line: do what feels right. don't force your decision.
good luck:)
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hi im 13 and i really like this guy;ive know him for a very long time because our mums were friends when they were in high school...he lives in france so i dont get to see him much even if he comes to see us(in england) at least twice a year.
i really like him and i want to ask him out but i dont know if he has already got a girlfriend...we've lots in common and i think he really likes me but i dont know if he like,likes me or if he just likes me as a friend.
he once invited me to the cinema and we went but would that like a date?we've never kissed or anything though...
should i ask him out?if so how?does he love me?how can i be sure?!
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the biggest risk of all is not taking one. be honest, and tell him how you feel. if he doesn't like you back, it's his loss and there are plenty of fish in the sea. everything happens for a reason. p.s. take your time to fall in love..you have your whole life ahead of you! now, there's only one way for you to find out if he feels the same way about you...so go get him girl!
good luck:)
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This guy. Goodness, this guy.
We're friends. He's 18, I'm 21. Our friendship started fast and escalated and we spend a ton of time together, and undoubtedly I'm attracted to him. He says he's not into girls like me (he wants the skinny perfect blonde, of course), but then he acts like he is. He'll have conversations with me about very personal, private things he's never said (or probably will say) to other people, and he gets sad if we don't get to hang out for more than a day or two. But, there's nothing specific happening between us. I'm too damn nervous to make a move, in case he's not interested despite the way he acts toward me v. other people... so what do you think he wants? How do I find out, short of an awkward conversation where I just have to ask? He makes me feel like a nervous 12 year old girl. (link)
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first off, no guy is better than you. chances are, if he makes you feel bad about yourself, he's a jerk and doesn't deserve you. especially if he's rude enough to tell you you're not "his kind of girl". and...
second off, if you feel like you can't be without him, i would talk to him about it, no matter how awkward it is. you need to stand up to him, be honest and straight forward. the biggest risk of all is not taking one, and if he ends up not wanting you back, it's his loss, and there are plenty of fish in the sea.
*so, to sum it all up, what i would do, is i would not loose your dignity over a guy who doesn't even deserve you.
*but, if you can't help but needing him, be honest and tell him how you feel.
good luck:)
p.s. it doesn't seem like he makes you feel happy and beautiful. that's the way a guy should make you feel. go and find your true love who treats you right and makes you feel happy:)
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So I'm 13 and a girl. A couple of weeks ago, I found out that the guy I liked was going to ask me to dance at the march break dance but chickened out. Ever since then I haven't been the same. I get REALLY jealous when he talks to other girls or hugs them. I want to start out as friends but how do I do that if I'm socially awkward and really shy? (link)
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don't over think how to act around him. just be confident, relaxed and be yourself. the more you socialize with him, the more comfortable you will become around him. just treat him like you would an average friend. when you meet someone for the first time and don't know them that well, it feels awkward at first, right? and the more time you spend with them, and the more you get to know them, you feel more comfortable around them right? it takes time to build a close relationship, and sometimes it takes more time w/ the boy you like.get to know him more, and being around him will be easier for you.
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Okay do I like this guy, he doesn't know. He likes me, he doesn't know I know. He doesn't want to date me because he said to my friend "I don't want to bring her into my crap right now." We talk all the time and I really like him. I don't care if he has crap going on right now. How do I like him know with out saying so? And what else can I do because he moves on quick and I want to keep him interested. (link)
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talk to him. tell him how you feel. the biggest risk of all is not taking one. if you don't take that risk, you'll never know if you could of been together. if he doesn't want to be with you, it's his loss. either way, at least you won't always wonder if it could of been. he may just be saying that because he is scared that you don't like him back.
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Dating older men was not zomethibg i planned on in life, however once i started dating i seemed to only find older men attractive.
My boyfriend Jorge and i have been dating since October 2010. We met exercising around our neigborhood. He waz a recent dicorced father of a 2 (now 3) year old. I was a university student who just moved to Florida.
When i moved to Miami we still saw each other 4x a month. Recently he asked me to move back to central Florida to advance our relationship. After much debate, i decided to leave Miami. Now ive been back for 4-5 months and if anything i see him less or the same as i did when i lived ib Miami. Thjngs have not even attempted to advance. I questioned him about it and he acted like i was speaking another language! I told him i am fed up and we need to go our separate ways, but thats not what i really want.
My question is this:
Why do you think he did not want to advance the relationship?
Do you think he just wanted me closer and more convienent for gim (possibly even control)?
Do you think my responce to this event was appropriate?
If we speak again what should i say to get my point across?
* he is also a cardiologist with his own pratice, ill be il school for 2 more years. Our families know about each other, i have met his son, etc.
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who knows...that's strange why he all the sudden didn't want to advance in your relationship. it is his loss. it may of very well been to control you, but it could of been for another reason. all i know is that a major necessity for a healthy relationship is trust. if you have this many questions about what's going on, there is no trust in your relationship. this was very well the appropriate reaction to what was happening. he disrespected you by not being understanding to your questioning. he should appreciate your honesty. second, what he did was wrong. he left you hanging..so he was disrespectful by leaving you hanging, and by not appreciating and understanding your honesty. you should be firm and get the facts straight with him. tell him how you're sick of him disrespecting you and avoiding you. if he tries to ignore you or change the subject, tell him you need to talk about this, no matter if he likes it or not. tell him what he did wasn't right.
you don't need an older guy messing with your head. you have your whole life ahead of you. don't live too fast. take your time finding the right guy. someone who treats you the right way. he will come to you.
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So lately my life has taken a turn and three guys who I happened to all like asked me out on dates.
I've gone out with one of them a few times and I really like him. He's barely 21 and I am 18. He's a way sweet and cute guy and we have a ton in common.
On the other hand this guy who is a year or two younger asked me to his prom and I said yes. The thing is where I live people just don't go out on dates with multiple people. I want to date around and I don't want anything serious how do I tell these two guys that's what I want? The older guy will probably understand but I'm worried about the other one. The third guy has already passed it by me that he doesn't want a one on one dating experience either.
I feel a bit sleazy doing this but at this time in my life I am too young to be in a relationship.
How do I clear this up with these two lovely guys? (link)
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Tell them you would like to take it slow, and you are not ready to be in a relationship yet. tell them how you have feelings for each of them and would possibly like to commit to them later, but for now, you want to take your time and not grow up too fast. if each of them understand, then they are respectful, patient and loyal to you. if they question your honesty, and seem controlling, don't bother with them. you deserve a guy that treats you right. he will come in good time. you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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Ok so I reccently broke up with a guy and I still love him. I broke up with him because he was issolating me from my friends. He said last night that he still likes me alot and then today, I caught him wheeling my best friend. He says it was to make me jealous but I honestly was in so much pain not jealously. It is painful to see him at school all the time. I couldnt stop thinking about him last night and I fell asleep to mine and his song and everytime I hear the song, I start to cry because I love him but let him go. None of my friends likes him for issolating me and my best friend (the one hes wheeling) was talking to me today and she said that he pushed her but she kinda acted like she liked it. I love him so much and I told him this and he said that he doesnt want to have to wait for me forever. Its painful to see him and talk to him and I cry when mine and his song plays, I love him so much. What should I do? (link)
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ask yourself this question, would you rather have him, or have your friends? a guy that controls you, especially to the point when you don't have time for friends, could lead to an unhealthy relationship. it is disrespectful and bossy for a guy to deprive you from your friends. you have practically your whole life ahead of you. you will meet alot of other guys, go through a lot of bad situations...would you be willing to risk your friendship with your friends for the rest of your life and not have them, all because of one guy that may not even be your true love? there are plenty of fish in the sea, and when you find the one he should be respectful and treat you the right way. good friends are very hard to come by. you don't want to loose them.
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So i am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. we are in colleges about 1000 miles away from each other. he is such a great boyfriend and tells me every day that he loves me and makes a consistant effort to talk to me. however, lately for absolutely no reason i just have been really stressed out and paranoid about our relationship. we have been long distance for about 6 months and i think it might just be because we are so close to seeing each other this summer that i am thinking of all the possible things that could go wrong. the thing that makes me stressed is that he is drinking and going to parties with his friends (girls included) and i just dont know what he is doing or thinking while he is at them. i know i should 100% trust him because he has done nothing in the past but for some reason i cant. my family has also had a history of cheating so maybe the relationships i have been closest to have ended this way and that is why i am nervous. i still love him and know he wouldnt do anytihng to hurt me but i cant shake these unwarranted feelings. any advice? should i talk to him about it or will that just make it seem like its a problem with him, because it really is just my own issue. thanks! (link)
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you just are scared. first of all, you have every right to be worried, but you have no reason to be suspicious of your boyfriend if he has stayed loyal to you. be honest. tell him exactly what you just told me. getting this out will possibly make your bond closer and stronger if the 2 of you know you are honest with each other. if it seems like he doesn't want to talk about it and is avoiding the subject, however, he could be guilty. if this happens, let him go. trust is one of the most important things to have in a relationship. if he is understanding when you are being honest with him, you are on your way to having trust in the relationship. if he is ANYTHING less than understanding, let him go. it's not worth it to be in a relationship without trust, and you have alot of life ahead of you, don't rush finding your true love. plenty of fish in the sea.
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I've been dating this guy off and on for the last 5 years. I'm in college and he's already got a job in the city so were in different towns at the moment, I had my birthday last weekend and he was suppose to come visit but things happened and I told him to postpone his coming for a day because I was extremely exhausted from studying for a major exam. All I wanted to do was go home and go to sleep, well he didn't take it so well since I've cancelled on him for our past few visits because something always comes up. I honestly didn't think he would take it that badly but he did and ended up being quite mean about it, therefore, the next day I told him I rather him not come cause of the night before. Again he was mad and started calling me names and blowing up my phone, he pretty much ruined my 21st birthday. He then sincerely apologized the next day but told me I wasn't to talk/call him until I was ready to see him and he would come visit the day of rather than making plans ahead of tIme.. The problem is I'm extremely busy with school from now till may and I will never just have a day specified for him... So my question is if I should just let it go and move on and find someone more understanding or continue to try for a relationship even though he won't talk to me until were together.. I think the thing that gets me the most is he knew the only way this was going to work was long distance so he can't expect me to be okay with not talking to him until then, right? I have talked to him since he said that btw but it isn't the seem it's like he just doesn't even make an effort to sound interested in me, so why should I make an effort to make time to see him? (link)
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you should definitly break up with him. he is obviously rude, impatient and inconsiderate. you deserve a guy that treats you the right way who is respectful. second, it doesn't seem like it is the right place and time for you to be in a relationship right now. you seem very focused on your studies, and you don't need a distraction. you are young and have alot ahead of you. it's ok to take your time finding the right guy. there are plenty of fish in the sea...and frankly i don't think this guy is worth it. he seems very short-tempered and disrespectful toward you.
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I went on one date with a guy (a friend of a friend) over a year ago. I thought the date went really well, but I never heard from him. My friend says he wants to go out with me again. Should I go on a second date with him or has he lost his chance? (link)
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he has lost his chance. why would you want to go out with a guy who doesn't even have the guts or decency to call you? especially your first impression of him? if he really cared about you, he wouldn't have his friend be the messenger. he should of contacted you himself. if you agree to go out with him again, i feel that it would almost be throwing away dignity. stand your ground. be strong. it may be tempting to call him, but a guy who really cares should make a move to come to you, considering you and him went on a date and had a good time.
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A few months back, a boy from my college started talking to me on facebook. He asked my friend for my name and starting making regular conversations with me being quite flirty and complimenting my looks. He never takes his eyes off me and notices my every move. I went to a party about a month after which he also attended, i ended up having sex with him and spending the whole night together. Ever since this happened, he just gets really shy when he sees me. When we talk, we cant look eachother in the eye, he goes shy but seems like he doesnt want to leave. He only makes eye contact with me if hes far away and when he does he will stare in my face for absoloutely ages until he gets closer he'll go red and look away. Are these signs? Does he like me? i like him alot and im really curious about whether he likes me too. Please help :( (link)
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he might do this because he is trying to avoid an awkward moment, or he likes you and doesn't want to look bad in front of you. be honest with him. tell him how you feel. the biggest risk of all is not taking one. if he doesn't like you back, at least you're not wondering if it could have been. there are plenty of fish in the sea. but if he does like you, there is a chance of you being together. if you don't tell him how you feel, you'll never know if it could of been. everything happens for a reason. have confidence in yourself.
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What should i nickname my bf Bailey? Whats a good nickname for that name?
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Bay
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So me and my boyfriend have been "together" for about 3-4 months. He used to be obsessive over me and want to hangout ALL the time. About 2.5-3 months into our relationship , I guess you could say I started to act more interested and wanting to hangout more. I could tell he wasnt as happy as he used to be so I asked him what the deal was. He told me he basically "calmed down" and isn't as excited to be with me as he used to. I suggested a few weeks of a "break" but he said he didn't want that and he wanted to stay together. Lately we have been hanging out half as much as we usually do, but he swears he still likes me and cares about me a lot. I just don't get how he could be obsessive one day and then not the next day.Is it normal for guys to get like this? I'm afraid to lose him :/ (link)
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ask yourself this...do you want a boyfriend who is playing games with your mind? do you feel alive and happy when you are with him? do you feel a strong connection? if you don't chances are he's not your true love. if it were me, i would move on. don't be afraid to lose him. there are plenty of fish in the sea, and you deserve a guy who really cares about you. don't force the right guy to come along. be patient, take it easy, and he will come to you. everything happens for a reason. don't try to force you 2 being together. from what you are saying, it seems like the love between you and him is forced and controlled and isn't natural. if it is a true love, every minute spent with each other should feel right, natural, and happy. if he doesn't like you as much but doesn't want to break up, he doesn't feel natural and right with you. he is messing with your head. it's his loss if he isn't crazy over you anymore. no guy is better than you. so ending the relationship with him would be best. let the right guy come to you.
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it's the scariest thing. i am so afraid of rejection! even when it seems like i have a chance with a guy, sometimes i'll even kind of sabotage things cause i don't want someone else to hurt me. i just wait for the guy to make an obvious move, but that has never happened. but then again, maybe that's why i've never had a boyfriend, despite not being physically unattractive, at age 18 (link)
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be confident in yourself. go up to him and b honest. tell him how you feel. ask yourself..wud u rather never take a chance and there never being a possiblity u r together or never taking the chance and always thinking if it could of been? if he doesnt like you back at least you know that for a fact and arent wondering and there are plenty of fish in the sea. his loss. the biggest risk of all is not taking one.
ihope i helped
good luck:)
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21/F
boyfriend is also 21
my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months. I know it doesn't seem long, but we were talking for 3 months before that. but officially been dating for 4 months. anyways, things were going really good we never really fought and if we did we would figure things out pretty quickly. we go to the same college and so we see each other a lot but we give each other space too so we don't get annoyed of each other. 2 weeks ago things started to get a little different and he told me that he just doesnt know anymore. he's super confused with himself and doesn't feel completely happy. i asked if i did anything to make him feel this way and he said no, that it's all him. he doesn't know whats wrong with him and he doesn't know what to do. i asked him if he wanted to break up or be single and he got all teary eyed and said that hurt really bad to hear that. he wants to work things out and wants to still be with me but he's really confused and doesn't know what to do or how to help himself. and neither do i. i have no idea how to help him. he says it's killing him inside because he knows he's hurting me. he said the only thing that bothers him with me is that my mood changes and he doesn't know if he's the one that's making my mood change or what. i've told him that it's never him. it's just school and other things. and i've been trying to change so that my mood doesn't go up and down all the time. he knows i'm trying. he would never cheat on me and i know this for a fact and i would never cheat on him. we both have been cheated on and so we both know how it feels.
the main thing is he just is so confused and doesn't know what he wants. and he just wants to be happy again. i have no idea how to help and thats what i really want to do. i'm worried that he's going to break up with me but i already asked if he wanted to and like i said, he said that he didn't want to and if he wanted to he could of done it already.
i guess what i'm asking is if anyone knows any suggestions of what i could tell him, how i could help, what i can do, or something.. (link)
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i would give him so time to think. stay with him, just keep a distance. if he is alone, maybe he'll figure things out and realize he needs you, or if he needs to go a separate way. tell him it is up to him and that you'll be supportive of his decision no matter what he decides. if after some time he hasn't decided, i think you both should go your separate ways from now and let it be. if by chance this does happen, it will be OK. you have a wonderful life a head of you and starting fresh can have a really positive impact on your life. remember everything happens for a reason and there are plenty of fish in the sea. it shouldn't JUST be based on what's best for him though, you should also take into consideration what you want and what will make you happiest. ask yourself this: "will he have a positive impact on my life?" "does he make me feel happy and free?" "despite his emotions, can i mantain a healthy relationship?" so, basically what i'm getting at is: let him and you take some time to think, keep a distance, don't break up for a little while and give it some time. when you have both come to your decisions, then you can either go your seperate ways or stay together. do what is best for yourself and what you think is best for him. if for some reason you decide to go your separate ways, you have a wonderful life ahead of you and there are plenty of fish in the sea.
i hope my advice helps you.
good luck:)
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Wow, okay so I have alot to say! Ok so I broke up with my old boyfriend because I felt the relationshup wasnt really going anywhere and so I told him I only wanted to be friends. Now, I have a new boyfriend and he is amazing! I love him so much! We hangout really offen at lunch and inbetween classes. Online, we get into fights though but we always find a way to get through them. I could never live without him and he has told me that without me his life would be incomplete. We recently got into a fight that almost cost our relationship. =/ Worst thing ever! We got through it though but now he says that he likes my best friend a tiny bit. I told him it was okay because I love him more than anything and I know most people would be mad but Im surprisingly not.. I never want to loose him. Should I be a bit mad that he likes my best friend? I love him so much and I could never move on, he's perfect for me! Advice? (link)
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you have every right to be mad at him. i can see where you're coming from, but if he really cared about you, chances are he wouldn't have feelings for someone else. when someone loves you, they're devoted to you. you don't want him taking advantage of how patient and carefree you are of him being attracted to someone else.
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12/F Ok well I've asked a question about this before about me not wanting to have sex with my boyfriend and well I kinda took the advise until a few weeks ago:(it was his birthday and we were at his house in his bedroom and then we were playing truth or dare I got dared to have sex with him...infront of everyone!so well I said no at first but then everyone got mad so I said yes and well we did! And now I have missed my period and I'm gettin symptoms of pregnancy and I don't know what to do! Help please! I hate myself for doing it!I feel like such a slut! (link)
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Don't hate yourself. you are not a slut. you are strong and confident and you can get through this. Mistakes only teach you lessons and make you a stronger and better person because of it. be honest. talk to your doctor right away and tell a trusted adult. don't let a mistake made in the past define you as a person in the future. from now on, just promise yourself you will be responsible and don't have sex again until you're in your 20s. because you have so much to live for!!!! start fresh. turn the next page of your life. everything is going to be OK. if your boyfriend and/or your friends were forcing you in to something you didn't want to do, they don't really care about you. they should care enough to talk you out of having sex at 12, because it is putting yourself at risk and force you to grow up way too fast. if your friend or boyfriend felt it was ok to make you feel bad about yourself, unhappy, and grow up too fast, they were selfish. don't blame yourself for that. you are strong and can get through this if you reach out to your trusted friends and family.
go out there. feel the warm sunshine on your face. be brave. be strong. live the wonderful life you have ahead of you and leave the past behind you by reaching out to the people who really care about you.
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First of all, this is my first boyfriend. And I just finished high school. I think it's ridiculous of how people "date" from elementary school because by then girls brag about how they've had like 20 boyfriends. Which just sounds awful to me. To me having a boyfriend is like a potential husband in the VERY far future.
I never even liked anyone until I met him. It wasn't instantly but after a couple of classes I realized what a great guy he was and not like all the immature guys in school. I never dated anyone before and he hasn't either and we just grew close and I guess everyone just knew before I did and one day he asked me out and that's how its been.
It was just wonderful and its been less than a year but one I'm around him, I just don't feel anything special anymore. My heart doesn't race as it used to. Sometimes I couldn't think when I'm around him because just him being there made my mind blank. But now my head is clear and I just have nothing to say.
And he constantly expresses how much he loves me but somehow I just don't feel it. And it wasn't until my bst friend asked me if I even like him that made me really think. I feel awful. If we break up I don't even know how that is going to work and its not that I'm itnerested in anyone else. It's just that I really do not feel anything when I'm with him now and have a huge smile on my face when I know that text message is from him. What's your take on this? (link)
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tell him the truth. you don't want to lead him on. go out there girl and find your true love! if you've fallen out of love with him, its not meant to be. when you find your true love, he should make you feel the same way you did when you first met. usually, first loves don't work out. don't get discouraged. plenty of fish in the sea. love should make you happy and make you smile. if you don't feel that anymore, go find him...your real love. you have time.
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