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Is it normal to fall out of love?
First of all, this is my first boyfriend. And I just finished high school. I think it's ridiculous of how people "date" from elementary school because by then girls brag about how they've had like 20 boyfriends. Which just sounds awful to me. To me having a boyfriend is like a potential husband in the VERY far future.
I never even liked anyone until I met him. It wasn't instantly but after a couple of classes I realized what a great guy he was and not like all the immature guys in school. I never dated anyone before and he hasn't either and we just grew close and I guess everyone just knew before I did and one day he asked me out and that's how its been.
It was just wonderful and its been less than a year but one I'm around him, I just don't feel anything special anymore. My heart doesn't race as it used to. Sometimes I couldn't think when I'm around him because just him being there made my mind blank. But now my head is clear and I just have nothing to say.
And he constantly expresses how much he loves me but somehow I just don't feel it. And it wasn't until my bst friend asked me if I even like him that made me really think. I feel awful. If we break up I don't even know how that is going to work and its not that I'm itnerested in anyone else. It's just that I really do not feel anything when I'm with him now and have a huge smile on my face when I know that text message is from him. What's your take on this?
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ok let me start like this...this happens to everyone. my girlfriend also experienced it. here's the thing, when you first start going out with someone, everytime you see them, everytime you hug them or kiss them you get this undiscribablly wonderful feeling. It's GREAT. it's like you want to spend every second of your life with them.
but after a while, those special feelings kind of go away. it's simple. it is basically natures way of telling you oh you've got family, friends, school, or a job. your boyfriend is not the only thing you should be thinking about.
that is how every mature love is.
this is peefectly natural. Now too much of this is not good. what will help you guys is to do exactly what you used to do the way you used to do. like go on similar dates as you did for the first date. I'm pretty sure you had butterflies during it.
Now if that doesn't work then try new stuff, stuff you never did before. like taking a trip together or etc.
I hope this helped. goodluck
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tell him the truth. you don't want to lead him on. go out there girl and find your true love! if you've fallen out of love with him, its not meant to be. when you find your true love, he should make you feel the same way you did when you first met. usually, first loves don't work out. don't get discouraged. plenty of fish in the sea. love should make you happy and make you smile. if you don't feel that anymore, go find him...your real love. you have time.
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Over time, you fall out of that fluttery, sensational, exciting feeling. That's not necessarily falling out of love. It happens to everyone. Most call it "leaving the honeymoon period".
The great thing about losing the flutters is that it allows you to take a step back from the hormones and take a real look at the relationship without all that background noise. Sometimes you look at the other person with your newly discovered clarity and realize that you could spend the rest of your life with them. Other times you realize that even though the infatuation ride was fun, the other person just isn't the one for you. Either way, it's an important step in the relationship.
If you're not feeling anything for him, you're not. He could be a perfectly nice guy, funny, smart and attractive, but not be the forever guy. Don't beat yourself up for not wanting to marry him. Sometimes it just happens that way! So rather than wasting your time and his leading him on, move along and leave yourself open to the next fantastic guy, who could be Mr. Right.
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