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Q: okay so basically i like this guy a lot.
and i think he likes me but im not sure.
and i wanna tell him that i like him back, but i'm scared that im going to get rejected and then feel like a complete loser.

anyone wanna help me?
i have no idea what to do :[

If you like him go for it. if he rejects you you could always say i was just joking or say let me know if you change your mind. or something that won't threaten your realationship for the future.

Q: okay i only have a week and a half left to get this guy to admit that he likes me and ask me on a date or something. he is in my class and i really like him and he may like e...idk though. how can i get him to notice me or something!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Tell himm to call you over break or something nd give him your number or myspace whatever you use to keep in touch. And then go up to him and say guess what I just heard. And then say "that you like ______ (insert name of random girl) and that you were going to ask her out. WHAT?! his reation. and say oh its not true so who? yeah i dont kno if itll work exactly like this lol but its worth a shot so good luck

Q: ok well i have a problem i have liked guy for almost 2 years and i cant get him out of my head...i cant to get over him i just dont know how.... all my friends have been telling me i need to but its not as easy as it looks and i feel they just dont get it. i am getting really annoyed with thm!!!!!!!pleze help me before i go crazzzzzyyyy!thanx

Ever heard the quote "If you can't get someone out of your head then maybe they're supposed to be there." So make a move. Ask him out. Or talk to him alot. Anything that way he knows your there. And it might help numb everything down a bit.

Q: This guy acted completely into me and than he does a 180 and ignores me, why?

There are numerous reasons for this.

1. If he already had had a girlfriend he decided not to cheat

2. Something you could have accidently done or said or something he could have done or said.

3. Something came up in his life and hes to busy to deal with girls

4. He was in a past realtionship and was hurt and then tried dating but was too scared to get hurt again so broke things off early

5. He thinks your too good for him

Anything could be the answer

Q: ok this is gonna be kinda long.. but i would really appreciate some advice on this =) okay so basically i went out w/ this guy for like a year.. then i broke up w/ him for a few reasons. and he kinda knew that i liked one of his best friends a little but that was only for like a few days. and i kinda just wanted to be single. andd my friends didnt really like him so i got pressured from them too. so yeah i did it. and i was really mean to him after. like i would just bitch at him for no reason.. i guess i did it because 1. i still liked him but i was like trying to push him away 2. he got over it pretty quickly..probably b/c i had done this a few other times 3. his friends were bothering me 4. he found a new girl like a week later (they werent going out though). yeah so anyways i was pretty much a bitch to him and i dont think i was the best gf either. and it kinda sucks that it took all this to realize that but i know its a lot to ask but i just want to be friends w/ him b/c like when you go out w/ someone for like a year you get kinda close w/ them and then its like a big loss in your life when theyre just gone. but the problem is he doesnt want to talk until the end of the summer.. and by then i dont think we will ever talk againn soo yeah what should i do? like i understand i was such a bitch to him but i apologized and some of the reasons were his fault. what should i do? sry its so long xoxo

I know its hard. But give him space. The entire summer seems a little extreme but at least a couple of weeks to himself to realise how much he'll miss you. Then about halfway or more through the summer call him and tell him your still so sorry and you want to make it up to him and that if maybe he'll forgive you that you guys can be just friends because tell him not only was he your boyfriend but one of your bestfriends and after the brake up you lost both and you want your best friend back. Hope I helped somehow.

Q: i have been dating this guy for over a year & i love him alot and don't want to be with any guy besides him. but, i look at other guys - i talk to them, flirt, etc... and i think it would be fun to kiss one of them, hook up with one of them.. but i don't want to be with them, i just want to be with my boyfriend. i want to be like, a slut for a day, but not a slut.. but i still want my boyfriend.

what should i do?

You need to kiss your boyfriend more lol. and put the idea that hes the one the ONLY one for you and you guys are perfect together and you need only each other.

Q: so i`ve been dating my boyfriend since july 4th of last year, so it`s almost 1 year.
i love him alot, but we fight ALOT. is that normal? we fight over stupid things and both get pissed off super easy, and it really makes me so mad sometimes. i don`t know how much of the fighting i can take, but i don`t want to break up with him. i`ve talked to hima bout it, but he thinks we`re fine. he knows i hate it, but neither of us can help getting mad.

what should i do?

Whenever you get mad him before you yell at him or anything rethink why your mad at him and you'll probably realise that its stupid to be mad and just forget about it.That might lessen your fights which is better for your realationship. Its good to know that he thinks your raltionship is fine because the thought of brake up is way off the maps so try to keep it this way. Compliment him and remind him how much you care about him. Good Luck

Q: okay well i have been having a problem lately. so its summer and you know how the whole fling thing goes and all. well there has been a few guys here and there but nothing major. now i tell my bff about them and she listens but now it seems like she is getting mad about it. cause i will have this one guy and then another comes along so i get to now him a little bit better and then end up liking him. this has happened a few times and now i dont know what to do, i have finally found the guy that i like but she doesnt believe me because she thinks that he is like all the others but he isnt!!! and i know that you probably think that now too but i promise you.......i really like this guy. so how do i get my friend to believe me? i have tryed talking to her but that isnt working out so well. i just want her to accept that i really like him and be there for me. pleeze help!!

Im in the same situation. Except my sister is the one who won't belive me when I tell her that I love my bf. She just says yeah and you love Steven too...and stuff like that. She eventually belived me once we were stayed going out longer than a couple weeks. (weve been going out for 1 month and 3 weeks) and so shes pretty convinced. But in the meantime tell your friend that whenever you look at him you don't feel a crush you feel a love. You said talking to her doesn't work so make something happen. Say you think he might brake up with you or something and be VERY sad about it and then she'll be like WOW you must really like him and then that might convince her. Much Luck.

Q: 17/f. So there's this guy that I've liked for awhile now, and I just want to get over him. I mean, he's a good guy and all, but I just don't really feel like I have a reason to like him anymore.
This whole summer, I've been making an effort to hang out with him, but we haven't hung out once, so obviously he doesn't like me back.
Whenever we talk online, he talks about himself alot and always takes a long time to respond whenever I'm talking, and sometimes when I talk to him I feel like I don't like him.
I'm probably not going to see him school next year, and I'm sick of being upset that I haven't seen him in a really long time and that he most likely does not feel the same way about me.
So why can't I get over him? Any ideas on how to get over him? =/

I think that you don't like him you just want a boyfriend so bad that your telling yourself that you like him. You should slowly stop talking to him. Instead of talking to him every few days. Talk to him once a week and then less and less until hes completely off your mind and then don't talk to him and youll forget about him. Good Luck.

Q: my life is going go so good right now. everythings perfect, ive got the perfect bestfriend, and i have the perfect kid.

but, hes not mine. hes someone elses, and they fight constantly, i dont even think he likes her anymore. and him and i have always liked eachother, and he came over yesterday, and we were having like, 45345x of fun. we went to the park, and well, when he said goodbye, he said "i love you" and gave me a big hug, that like picked me off the ground. :P

and wouldnt ya know it... his girlfriends brother was there to pick him up. :[
they are fighting again, but becuase of me.. and well, i dont know. he always says sorry to me, and says he does love me.

but, he wont break up with his girlfirned, becuase his friends are her friends, and her brothers are his bestfriends. :P

:[ should i stick around, or just give up on all of it togehter. ?

I think you should tell him to brake up with her but to do it gently. Tell him to say that he still loves her but not in the same way anymore. And if he argrees to all this and brakes up with her don't go out with him right away give it some time max would be about 3 weeks but at least 1 week. I hope everything works out for you.

Q: ok my friend likes these 2 guys can she CANT pick who to choose so would u please help me. 1 man is evan- whos 2 years younger, hes a cutie and he asked her out twice and she denined him and wishes she didnt and ever since then she loved him for like a year but hes in florida now but hes coming back in middle of july. the only thing is she hasnt seen him in a year and she doesnt kno if he likes her. ok next guy is kevin- who just met her and hes in LOVE with her and obsessed. he cares about her alot and hes a year older. hes a cutie and they just started hanging out. shes torn between both of them and i doesnt know what to do. please help! any advice!? ill love you forever

I would choose the second guy, Kevin because he seems very sweet and I used to have someone like him and my someone was perfect he never did anything to hurt my feelings always was there for me the perfect boyfriend and then turned into the boy of my dreams. I would most definatly recomend that to anyone because it feels so great just to be with them, but anyway kevin is my answer. Much luck.

Q: i want to get my boyfriend a really good present for his bday. hes turning 15 and i can spend up to $100. so, any ideas?

It depends on what hes in to. My bf loves skateboarding and for his birtday Im planning on getting him something to do with skateboarding. A classic is a watch. But thats more along the lines of adult dating in my eyes so maybe a gift card at one of his favorite stores.

Q: would you consider slow dancing with another girl cheating?

Did your girl no about it? If she did was she ok with it? If she didn't know I wouldnt exactly call it cheating but I wouldn't make this a habit. You could have just trying to be polite and agreed to dance but if you asked her to dance then your starting down the path of cheating so I would stop before things get bad. Overall I don't consider it cheating because nothing happened but I wouldn't do it again just to be sure.

Q: M/15- I'm in the middle of nowhere and i can't find any girls to meet. Only the ppl in my neiborhood and it is small and it seems like no1 here is my age. I want to meet some1 but i feel like there is nobody here 2 meet. What do i do?

Go to places that girls like to be at such as a mall or nail place and see if you can see anyone there. Or try the next town over, theres bound to be at least someone somewhere nearby for you. Good Luck.

Q: lol okay im 16/f and i like my friend whom i known since i was 4. and i talked to him in 7th grade. and then yesterday on myspace. and i like him a lot.and we might hangout at the mall. and im not sure if i should tel him yet that i like him.because im afraid he'll get scared. because i notice guys do get scared when u tell them you like them or something. what should i do?

Don't staight out say I like you but give him hints to were he can put things together himself. Say do you like anyone right now? And Find out about him and then he might ask you why your asking and smile and say no reason and keep smiling and flirting like that.

Q: hey 13/f

all my fiends that i hang out with have all kissed a guy at some stage i feel really left out and stuff sometimes and they treat me like a baby..i just want to get it over and done with but want to like the guy as well
Please help me!!!
thanx mwa

Find someone that you like and get them to like you by flirting with them and being their friend and stuff like that and then ask them out or ask them out and then get to know them better and then if everything works out you will be going out with them and will be able to get your first kiss. You said that your shy so get one of your friends to go up to a guy with you because it always helps me whenever I have someone there with me because I don't feel like im on such a spotlight. Good Luck.

Q: ok well im bestfriends with this one guy.. and we went out before and stuff and i was his 1st kiss n stuff and basically i still have a place in my heart for him and every1 said he probably does too. ok well weve been texting and stuff and he always says he that im beautiful or gorgoues and sometimes what hed like to do to me. but he also told me that i should break up with my bf cause id have a lot of guys come after me and he wont tell me who he likes.. so im confused please help! sorry this is long

Yes he likes you, I think he wants you to break up with our bf so that he can go out with you but he only said that a lot of guys would come after you becuase 1. he was flirting 2. he wants you to choose him over everyone else i think its proably a combination of 1 and 2 though so yeah he likes you.

Q: 13/f, Me and my boyfriend were talking on the phone last night and then i just randomly said, do you like another girl? Then he HUNG up!!, then i tried calling him the next morning and never got a hold of him so i messaged him saying do you like another girl or not? Then he messaged me back saying i cant believe you thought i liked susie[exgirlfriend]!! And then he goes. i guess its over then. the thing is i dont want it to be over, we have been going out for 7 months and im scared to loose him, what do i say to tell him i dont want it to be over?

THANKS :D

Tell him how much you love him and you never want to lose him you just go so afraid that you m ight lose him that you started thinking crazy thoughts like him liking someone else. Then say sorry and say you'll never let your mind wonder like that again.

Q: I told my best friend that im in love with him.
He said he only wants to be friends. but then again.. hes always " i miss you. can i call you? i miss your voicee :[ " or when i get a boyfriend and he already has a girlfriend hes all " Im so jealous. I wish I was him. " or " Is he good enough for you? I dont want you to get hurt. I love you too much for that "

We fight like every week. Over the stupidest things. But, he always gives in first. He calls me beautiful and gorgeous and i rarely hear him say those things to his girlfriend. If someone hurts me, He goes after them. He always knows how to make me feel better. And He's told me that i always make him feel better too.

I think we would make the best couple. But, he said the only reason he doesnt ask me out is because if we do break up, it'd kill him and he couldnt take not being friends with me. But, I think we'll still be friends and all if we do break up.

I just dont know how to tell him how much i love him and he understand it.

So basically he loves you but he doesn't want to mess up your friendship. If I were you I would look for ways to convice him that you would still be his friend. Tell him that youve never had such a great friend like him and youll be friends forever no matter what. And little things like that then tell him that you love him and say no matter what youll always still be friends. Just do your best to convince him that your friendship will always be there.

Q: okay so im a 16/f and i think i like my best friend that i've known since i was 4. and we use to play soccer together and we went to elementry and middle school together. lol and we might hangout soon at the mall. but im not sure what to say to him or if i should tell him that i like him. what should i do? help!!!

I had a similar problem. Ask questions like oh what do you think about her and stuff like that to see if hes in to anyone right now. And if he asks why your asking play kind of hard to get to make sure he gets that you like him without having to go out there and say it that way just in case it won't mess up your friendship. And if he is showing signs that he might like you go for it and flirt with him and then you may end up going out.

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Wow desicribing myself is hard. ive been through alot, i tried suciding and whole bunch of crap that screws up your life and i want to help you through anything. but the worst ive been through was a heartbrake a TRUE heartbrake for 9 months i cried everyday so i know what it feels like to fall in love and then be broken and i can help you through almost anything when it comes to that.