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Okay so my one friend keeps telling me that my other friends ( who doesn'treally get along with me anyway ) is calling me a whore behind my back. My one friend is standing up for me but she says that my other friend is saying that im a whore because my boyfriend of 7 months and i make out during movies - i understand yeah maybe she doesn't want to see it but the thing is his dad hates me and we can NEVER see each other and thats pretty much the only time i can do that with him its getting really hard ! i just want to know if i really am a whore for this or is she just being lsfijsdlf ? (link)
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shes just being retarted.
shes jealous.
just about every couple makes out in the movies.
wtf. dont listen to her. she obviously has nothing else better to do with her time than come up with ways to be retarted.
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I'm 18 and a male. I have an Aadvicenators account that I've been using for years, but sometimes I just need to reach out to my fellow advicenators for help.
Well, theres this girl that I like named Katrina. We've been friends for a long time, and lately we've been getting really flirtatious, and I've found that she likes me also. The only problem is that we live in two different counties. Even though shes only about a 45 minute drive away we've yet to stay in physical contact with each other over a long period of time. My question is, what should I do? I'd like to leave, 'cause I don't like to wait around for things that aren't going to happen, but her friends all tell me that if I leave she'll be devastated. Not that I wouldn't be hurt too, it's just that I'd like to spare myself some unneeded pain ya know? So, what should I do? Stay or go? I really need some help here... (link)
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17/f im in the same situation. just the distance for me is 1200 miles and 21 hours not just 45 minutes. I tried my hardest to get over him. but it tore me up inside, so i went back.
some of the questions i asked myself before determining if i should let go:
-why am i "in love" with him?
-is it worth it? will it all work out in the end?
-is it more than just physical attraction?
-is it both ways, does he love me as much as i love him?
i only got to see him twice a year- if that. and it was tough for me to hold on because i didnt think there was anything there. but in the end, i found out i was wrong. (and i was happy to be wrong this time) well, now, we try to make it work. we talk quite a bit and we try to see eachother all that we can.
i know this answer is going to sound typical, but i think that if it is true love, it will work out. but its not just going to happen. you have to work at it. which is what im doing. its easier to keep the relationship going when you see eachother more than twice a year.
the question is: do you want it to work out?
i found out that its hard to hold on, but even harder to let go. letting go might not be the answer. and you might find that out if you try it (like i did).
things will always work out in the end. if it is meant to be, it will. if its not, then it wont. typical, i know. but its true.
any other questions, just put them in my inbox.
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I guess I probably just need someone to tell me I'm being an idiot for this, but I'm really pissed off right now.
19/F.
I've been living with my boyfriend for about 4 months. We're both university students. We've become really close over the time we've been dating, so it's not just a casual relationship.
Today is our six month anniversary. I wanted to do something really nice for him, because he's been really good to me. I told him about my plans, and he okayed them. I wanted to have a nice romantic evening and cook dinner for him.
He was at military training this weekend (for the reserves) and he got back about an hour ago.
He brought his brother with him. He knows I don't really like his brother at the best of times. He doesn't know when to back off and leave the two of us alone. He's loud and irritating, and he's obsessed with a certain children's card game (even though he's 20 years old).
This brother of his is staying all night. Instead of the nice dinner I had planned, we're either ordering pizza or having tacos, then they're playing video games.
I'm really hurt, because this anniversary really means a lot to me. He doesn't seem to see what the problem is (because I have a math test to study for).
Am I silly for being hurt? If I am, feel free to tell me. I really suspect that I am, and it would help if someone gave me a figurative slap across the face. If I'm not, I'll bring it up with him later tonight.
Thank you! (link)
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no. i would be hurt too.
he knew what was going on...
if you two are really as close as portrayed, then talk to him about it.
maybe he can make it up to you.
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I am a 17 y/o male. My "love" is not talking to me because she wants someone taller and heavier than herself. I am 5'10", 130 lbs, and she is 5'9", 130 lbs. She feels that i must be heavier, not just the same weight. Since my weight is distributed throughout muscle, she is insecure. I have trouble gaining weight, so what should i do? (link)
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you shouldnt have to change for someone who "loves" you. if she really loves you, then she will take you as you are.
if she fails to realize this, then its not true love and you are wasting your time.
sorry. but its the truth.
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i have the worst jealous problem ever and my boyfriend knows it. i think it's starting to affect our relationship. are arguments are only about that, and i'm the one that starts them because i ask stupid questions. then after the fight we are all better. but i need to know what i can do that will help me get over this, because he has no idea what to do anymore to prove to me that nothing is going to happen between me and him, and i'm scared that if things don't get fixed soon i'll lose him...what can i do so get me self over this jealous problem i have?? (link)
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just accept the fact that he loves you and hes obviously picked you over all the other girls.
has he done something to make you believe that he's cheating? If so, then forgive him and move on.
its all in your mind. convince yourself that he loves you because he does. spend time with him so you can see this.
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theres this girl that i reeeaally like a hell of a load. she recently broke up with her bf who i am ferinds with they both know that i love her and i kept thinkin i was part of the reason that they broke up although they said it wasnt me, anyways she loves me ...she thinks... but she also still loves her ex bf who will take her back and shes going back to him althoguh it hurts its still her choice so i am okish with it lol and she thinks that she souldnt get back with him because of all the arguments so i asked her this simple question "what do you wan from me a best freind or a new hope of love?" and she said both... so i was a little pissed seeing as i would be jelous as hell about them both getting back and once again...leaveing me with nothing i love her to shit so much but as my question stand do i try? or say goodbye as in do i try to make her mine or do i try to just get over her even tho she was hurt when i sed i might as well stuff this then if your gonna keep going back to "mr argument machine" (ex bf lol) so please help i could do with it (link)
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i think you should wait.
if shes going back to her ex and its as bad as you say it is, then she'll end up seeing that sooner or later. just be her friend for now until she realizes how much you care about her. dont intentionally break them up because then they might get mad at you. just be there for her and she'll eventually come around.
its happened to me. and i finally realized after 3 1/2 months that my best friend is the one that i wanted to be with.
best of luck.
p.s. love is overrated
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if my boyfriend tries to put his arm around me at the movies, how do i react? do i put my arm around his shoulder or do i just sit there or do i look at him? ahhh, im so scared. (link)
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dont be scared.
look him in the eyes and kiss him
or put your head on his shoulder.
good luck
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Have you ever just had it where your head and heart are fighting to be right and you just don't know what to feel, you feel head over heels in love, but know you shouldn't be, yet your not sure if you should persue this person or just end it before you get hurt and broken again...well that's kind of how I feel. I just have no clue what to do, I wish I could have what I want and at the same time I know what I want is so stupid and that I shouldn't want it. Someone please help me....seriously.
17/f, this guy is my ex, we dated for 3 years (link)
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ive been with an amazing guy for 3 years. i thought he was [the] one. but things happened and i knew that i couldnt have him.
"Sometimes...
What may be the best thing for you to do
Sometimes its the hardest thing for you to do
And thats real
Cause i know that i love you
I know how i feel about you
But i also know that don't make everything alright
And for that reason
I gotta say goodbye"
it took me 2 years to get over him. i finally got to the point where i knew that i couldnt be with him and i was loving him for pretty much no reason. so i tried letting go. and because of it, ive gotten closer to an amazing guy who is now my best friend. and ive known him for 7 years now. it will be a long and difficult road to let go. and it will only happen if you want it to. im not going to lie to you. i spent alot of nights crying in frustration. it was difficult.
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i have known this kid for 9 years we get along great he is major cute and he liked me when we were younger but i blew it with him and now i like him...but unfortunatly he has a gf i knwo i should wait till they break up but if we go out and then break up will that jeaprodize our friendship? (link)
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ask him straight up when he breaks up with his current gf. tell him that you cherish your friendship and while you are falling for him, your friendship is super important to you. think about it first. are you willing to put your friendship on the line for a relationship? in my opinion, an amazing friendship is so much better than a relationship.
my best friend, jessica, just went out with our best friend, steven. they broke up on bad terms and now they dont talk anymore. (she cheated on him). but from the beginning he told her that it depended on what they broke up over, wheter or not they would still be friends.
but not all end like that. some work out to where they are still as good of friends.
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Ok..Me and this girl I like have been friends for about a year and a half. She used to think I was weird and what not, but now she's like my sister. But the thing is...I like her. But I'm not sure if she does...She tells me how sweet I'am and that anygirl would be lucky to go out with me...But she also gives me nicknames and what not (none of them are bad) and I'm not sure if she likes me or not..You think she does? Thanks in advance... (link)
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sometimes girls just like to play around. im not saying she doesnt like you, because i dont really know you or her or the situation. since youve known her for a year and a half, i think you should talk to her. dont have someone else do it, cause it seems immature.
good luck.
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Okay. So there's this guy at school, who's in tenth grade. His name is Tyler, and I'm in ninth grade. We both know we like each other, but I only met him 2 weeks ago. And he was telling my best friend that he wants to ask me out TONIGHT! But the problem is, I like him and all but I feel like things are moving way too fast. So how do I let him down easily without shoving him away? (link)
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what i was saying is that you dont have to reject him and be like "i dont want to ever go out with you" just tell him that you want to take things slow and get to know him more before you go out with him.
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I love my boy friend tons and he told me that he has strong feelings for me i wanna kiss him but i'm afraid of what my parents and friends would say.
My friends would probably say i'm a slut but i am worried about my parents as it would be my first kiss
I really need help (link)
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he's your boyfriend.
kiss him.
its not as slutty as some of the things that you could be doing.
just do it.
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Ok, so I'm a female and I'm 16.
I've been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months now. and everybody thought we would end up together. well about a month or so ago, He moved 2 hours away. and It's been really hard to deal with this. but as he's been away for awhile, things about him have started to bug me. and i feel myself starting to fall out of love with him. also, me and him have started to fight alot lately, mostly my fault. and he asked me if i was going to break up with him.. i panicked, and said no. which i don't know if i should or not. so i seriously need help. I want to break up with him but then again, I don't... i want this to work.. even though, i know eventually it won't because of the distance. so .. should i break up with him now? ..what should i do? (link)
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sometimes stories have a way of speaking to people and inspiring them. so heres mine:
i just broke up with my boyfriend over the same thing. except he was 21 hours away. which is like 1000+ miles. I basically broke up with him because i felt that he didnt love me. But i still loved him. i was falling out of love with him. im the same age you are, but im looking for a serious relationship. one that will last a lifetime. i knew it wasnt going to work and i was tired of being confused about whether or not i should let go. i realized that things were not going to get better (and they still havent) so i let go. and im glad that i did.
however, he was and is my first love. i feel kinda bad about letting go. sometimes i wonder what i gave up. what would it be like if i was still with him.
im not telling you that you should break up with him. im not telling you that you shouldnt either. just listen to your heart. thats what i did. and my heart told me that it was tired of bleeding for him. just do what you feel is right. a little advice: dont love with all you've got. cause when everything fails, your scarred for life. that's what happened to me. best of luck. email me if you wanna talk.
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I am a little on the shy and reserved side. I am a nice person and have a big heart. My problem is that I have a really hard time finding a nice bf. It seems like all the nice guys are taken. I'm not and never have been into casuel sex and one night stands. I want to have a permanent partner. How can I find a nice guy? I'm nearing 30 and I really wish I could get married and start a family. But I need to find the right guy first! Does anyone have any suggestions? (link)
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yeah. ummm... you should try going out with some gf's and showing your face... i dont mean this in a bad way... but you should get out there. Meet new people. Plus it will let you spend time with some of your friends.
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15/f Okay, so I went out with this guy for almost 9 months. I grew really attached to him. Then suddenly he said the relationship wasn't working. So you can imagine I was crying nonstop for a few days because he was acting all happy while all I do was lay down, not eat and sleep. So 3 days after the split, I went to see him and before that, he said we shouldn't kiss but yeah...we made out. I went to see him again after that and we made out again. So a couple of days pasted by, he said we shouldn't get back together but lately he's been calling me "babe" and telling me "I love you" and similar things to that. He said he won't date other people and that he hasn't been flirting with anyone. A lot of girls found out he's single and has been flirting with him like crazy but he's avoiding it all. What am I supposed to think? He says hes single, what am I? Am I on a leash? He says he still likes me a lot. Should I still hold onto him or try to move on? (link)
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it depends... if he has a reputation of trying to "control" others then you should let go. if you both want to get back together, then maybe you should. just be on the lookout and dont put yourself in a bad situation where you will get hurt.
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I technically can't "date" until I turn 16. I've had boyfriends before but not ones you actually go on single dates with and things like that. My parents are okay with that kind of thing, but what if a guy actually asks me out? What should I do then? Thanks! (link)
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you should tell them to wait. if they really love and respect you, then they will wait.
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Hi, I am 15 and I will be 16 in March. My ex boyfriend broke up with me cause his parents were afraid he would get introuble with the law cause he is 19. We weren't doing anything sexual, is it still illegal to even date? I live in Michigan and I know the age for sex here is 16, but what about just dating?
Now he wants to wait till he moves out at the end of March or later to go back out. Cause he HAD to leave me or get kicked out of his house. Should I wait for him.. or move on? I really love him.. and he doesn't even know if we will ever get back together. I'm confused and heartbroken, any advice? (link)
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you should wait until the end of march like he said. Then, if hes not ready... move on. i know this couple who is engaged and they are 15 years apart. im going to be in their wedding. after you turn like 19 or so, age doesnt matter. if you have to... move on!
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okay.. this may be long..
I really like this guy. We are best friends to like, the fullest extent. He is also my ex-boyfriend. He is known throughout my school as "the flirt" because he flirts with EVERYONE. Well, he is always telling me about girls he thinks are hot and who he likes and how his relationships never work out and like, how he wishes he could just have a good relationship that isn't shitty. We tell eachother everything. He came over a little while ago and we were hanging out and he started kissing me. To say the least, we began to make out. He came over again a few days ago and we were hanging out in the same place and we were really close, and cuddling and stuff like we did the other time but he went in for a kiss and i told him i promised myself i wouldn't make out with him. he understood. ive been trying to get over him. so we just hung out .. cuddled and stuff still but didn't make out. we kept getting closer and i couldnt help myself..we ended up making out again. but in between that, he kept saying things like "i dont want to love you" and then he was like "i don't want to makeout with you but i can't help myself" and i was like "why" and he was like "i don't know. i don't understand myself.. but i can't stop myself from loving you" and this was basically in between breaths and he was kissing my neck and stuff. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO (link)
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run. run far away!!
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Ive got quite a tricky situation on my hands. My girlfriend (15) emailed me (15) and told me her parents were trying to get her out of their house and that she might have to move in with her best friend. The problem is her best friend is a dude. An eighteen year old dude that could easily take advantage of her. Now logic tells me I should be upset, but on the other hand I trust in her. Then I'm also worrying because the guy she's moving in with supposedly has a "sexual addiction". In my favor, however, he has a girlfriend. Do you think I should be upset or just trust that she wouldnt engage in anything with him? It's really gnawing at me. (link)
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you are right when you say you have a tricky situation! I think that you are-in a way- looking out for her. i dont think you should be upset because she probably wont lay with him. being that he is way older. But in a sense you do have a right to be upset. She is moving in with another guy. chances are, you will be upset even if you try to control it because it is another guy! You should support her and try to see her as much as possible so that she will still know that you love her and wont have any reason to lay with another guy.
SMichele
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1212.16 miles-- he is so far away, but only as far as my heart desires.
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Hey, I'm a 13 year old girl & my birthday is comming up really soon. My boyfriend wants to know what I want.. but I can't possibly think of anything, because I already have him. If you could give me some ideas that a 13 year old going on 14 would want. I'm into sports but I'm also girly. If you could give me ideas it would be greatly appreciated. I'll rate you! Thanks lots♥ (link)
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well, i am a little bit older than you, but for xmas, i told my bf that i wanted a braclet... or a necklace. jewelery is a good gift for a guy to get a girl.
Smichele
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1212.16 miles-- he is so far away, but only as far as i can imagine
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