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Urgent Help needed! Very tricky situation...
Ive got quite a tricky situation on my hands. My girlfriend (15) emailed me (15) and told me her parents were trying to get her out of their house and that she might have to move in with her best friend. The problem is her best friend is a dude. An eighteen year old dude that could easily take advantage of her. Now logic tells me I should be upset, but on the other hand I trust in her. Then I'm also worrying because the guy she's moving in with supposedly has a "sexual addiction". In my favor, however, he has a girlfriend. Do you think I should be upset or just trust that she wouldnt engage in anything with him? It's really gnawing at me.
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I think that you should trust her. IF she loves you, she won't do anything with that dude.
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you are right when you say you have a tricky situation! I think that you are-in a way- looking out for her. i dont think you should be upset because she probably wont lay with him. being that he is way older. But in a sense you do have a right to be upset. She is moving in with another guy. chances are, you will be upset even if you try to control it because it is another guy! You should support her and try to see her as much as possible so that she will still know that you love her and wont have any reason to lay with another guy.
SMichele
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1212.16 miles-- he is so far away, but only as far as my heart desires.
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It has nothing to do with whether or not you trust HER. You need to be able to trust HIM. Which, obviously won't be very easy. If I were you, I'd have a talk with him. Let him know that you are iffy about your girlfriend moving in with him. Ask him if you're going to be able to trust him around your girlfriend. Honestly, if I were in your position, I'd be very pissed off and VERY against it. He's an 18 year old DUDE that has (or from what it sounds like you're saying) a place of his own. He's a sex addict... Hmm. To me that just doesn't work. You might want to have a talk with BOTH of them, let her know you aren't 100% comfortable with her moving in with him, tell her what's on your mind. Also, tell HIM what's on your mind. If you trust her enough, you know that she won't be the one to start anything. But, you should know that at any given time, he may make a pass at her.
Best of luck to you and yours.
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A while back, i had a similar problem, lets just say that in the end my worst fears became reality. I dont think what im telling you will help much, however you need to be alert at all times, because the last thing you want is to get played. If you trust her enough I guess there is a chance it might work out fine, but at the same time, a sex addict dude will find away into her pants if she aint strong or respectulf enough.
Like i said i doubt my answers is what you wanted to hear, just keep in mind that i been trough what you are going through right now, so im talking from experience.
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i think you should trust her judgement...if she feels comfortable living in a house with her best friend 18 year old sex addict so shud u !
just ALWAYS be alert cuz nything cud happen. but if she is confident enough to call him her best friend everything should be fine! just trust her and be prepared for the worst. besides she might be bak with her parents after a week. a parent cant let go of a child so young ..its not in their nature
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♥ Well ... a relationship is nothing w/o trust so yea i think you should be able to trust her decision. If she really cares about you she wont let this 18 year old get in the way of you guys. I wouldn't be upset yet unless somthing leads for you to believe that you should. So stay cool for now!
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You're right, that is a tricky situation. I've got a question for you, though - how well do you know this guy?
If the answer is "not too well," maybe you should change that. Ask her for his contact information, let him know who you are, and go hang out with him sometime. Be honest, and tell him you're a little freaked by your girlfriend possibly moving in with a dude. He SHOULD understand.
You should trust your girlfriend, but you should also know this guy if this is really going to happen.
If he's her best friend he must be trustworthy, but you should discover all that for yourself. Get a feel for the guy and all that.
If the case is that you do know him pretty well, and you're just nervous about her moving in with a guy, tell her about your worries. Or arrange for a meeting with the three of you and talk about what's bothering you and see if they can't reassure you.
I hope this helps, good luck with everything.
-Siren =)
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