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im 17/f. so i've been in a relationship for a year and i just got out of it like a few weeks ago...i went to a college party last night and i started hooking up with this really hott guy but i felt so dirty and slutty so i stopped and told him that i couldn't do this. when i was with my boyfriend i was like a sex maniac haha but i never felt slutty at all because we had that really strong connection you know? i thought being single and meeting guys and hooking up is suppose to be fun? i don't understand. i'm young and i'm suppose to like this....i guess all i want is someone who cares...idk what should i do...
like if thats what college is like then i'm not that excited..i don't just want to be another pointless girl he's hooked up with...i want to mean something.
You need a good solid relationship with set bounderies. You should find a guy who will love you and respect that you want a relationship and not just for sex. You want something that will last. so before you hook up get to know the person. Let them like you for you first, not what you have under your clothes. And if they like you they can wait til you want to and they'll still want to be with you afterwards.
when my boyfriend and i (both 17) make out, sometimes i sit backwards in his lap. like with my legs spread and his legs together so our 'privates' are usually touching. we never remove clothes. that's one of our rules. we make out and usually grind while kissing. i let him run his hands up under my shirt, but not touch my boobs. he never has and we've agreed not to go that far. this is very satisfying for both of us, but sometimes the same old making out gets kind of old. does anybody have any tips for making this a little hotter? we're not giving handjobs, blowjobs, or taking off clothes just to clarify.. are there any sexy kissing tips? like what can i do with my hips to turn him on more while sitting like this? or where do i kiss to turn him on? he really likes this, and i just don't want him getting bored. any suggestions help. thank you! :)
Yeah licking his ear and and sucking on it a bit. Also neck kisses. You could just kiss him all over his face haha.
So I'm ready to ask this girl out, we're friends, and we've been talking a lot lately. Here is more or less what I plan to say, is this good at all? Give me specific suggestions please.
"I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you better over the past couple months, and I feel like we’ve become pretty close since we’ve been talking everyday. To be honest, I am realizing that I’m starting to fall for you and your awesome personality. Basically I would like to know where you think you see this going between us, because I know where I would like to see it go."
I think this is great. It's very sweet and honest and she will know that you took the time and put a lot of thought into making it special. It's great and I'm sure she'll love it.
My ex-boyfriend and I lived together for a year and a half in NY before moving to CA together and then breaking up a few months later. We've been working on maintaining our friendship since then and it has it's ups and downs. Recently he has been talking about moving back to NY and I have looked at it as an opportunity to move on with my life without him around confusing me. Since we broke up I have hung out with other guys from time to time casually, but haven't really felt anything for anyone else.
Recently I met a guy at work and I like him and was eager to start dating again and see how things progressed. However, now my ex (without knowing about the other guy) is telling me he loves me and wants me back. I told him we'll talk about it this weekend because I need some time to think, but I'm really confused. I love him and want to be with him but am afraid that our problems run too deep, I think we have fundamental differences in our personalities and behaviors that make it a bad idea to be together. But we did fine when we were more open and trusting with each other, we were able to discuss the little ways we hurt each other and understand that it was unintentional. I don't want to start dating someone else only to run off with my ex later, and I don't want to blow this new guy off only to realize that I would have been happier with him if things don't work out with my ex.
I think the main problem I'm having is that I used to trust my ex completely and we never had any major problems but that trust is gone and since that happened we fight a lot, even just as friends. I have the best time with him and I care about him so much, but I don't know if it's worth it to give it another try. I'm afraid to get my heart broken again, but he knows me better than anyone and I don't know if I want to open myself up to someone new. Please if you have any advice help me. I can't go to family and friends because they have a horrible opinion of my ex and had a lot to do with our break up in the first place. This is about me and what makes me happy not them so I don't really want their skewed opinions.
It seems to me like you really care about your ex but you do have a lot of problems. You have to think long term if you didn't work out before and you have even more problems and fights now then it may not work out again and you might lose your chance with the other guy. But then again, it seems that you have some unfinished business with your ex and you still have deep feelings for him. If you still love him I think you should try to work it out with him. Be open and tell him that you want all honesty with him. Then again if your personalities and priorities are different maybe you shouldn't try again. It all comes down to this.. do you think you and your ex can work through the differences? Does he love you as much as you love him? Do you think toy will ever feel this way or even stronger about the other guy because if not then maybe you shouldn't even go for him. Listen to your heart and keep these things in mind. I hope this helps you.
me and this guy, we say were "best friends" but we flirt NONSTOP everytime we're together, and i just don't know if its us being comofortable with each other, or if we both want to be more, if we're just really attracted to each other or if its just a best friend kinda thing. i'll give you a couple examples of what we do and i'll get your opinion!(:
i took a shower, and i came out with only a towel on and he was like "daaaaaaang, i'll dry you off;)!" and i started laughing and he took my water and i was like give me my water! and he sat down on a chair and he was like come sit on me. and i shyly was like "noooo:)" and i bent over and he like lifted my towel up, but it wasnt embarassing because we do things like that to each other.
he always knows when something's wrong, and he is always looking out for me and is like "you don't smoke do you, you better not linds i'm serious!" or if i ask him a question and i feel like he's not telling me the truth he'll be like "you know you can trust me, we tell each other everything" and when i'm sad, he does everything he can to make me laugh.
everytime we hangout, and one of us leaves the other, he'll always give me a hug and won't let go for a long time, its so cute:)
he's seen me naked, i've seen him naked. we haven't done anything though not even kissed BUT doing that, was a dare kind of thing and we were totally comfortable with it.
one time i was making food and he came up from behind me, and like put his chin on my shoulder and his arms around me and i like leaned back, if you can picture that and i was like do i smell all sweaty! hahaaa because i just got done running, and he was like noo not at all you smell like your perfume!
we do things like that all the time. i can wear whatever i want around him! hes seen me with no makeup, my hair not done and grubby clothes on and he doesnt care.
i just don't know what to think about our friendship. everyone always asks me if we like each other because they say we flirt all the time but i'm just like "we're just best friends:)"
even though he is really hot! and i know he thinks i am, i just don't know about us!
You two flirt a lot. It does seem like you are more than friends and that is also the reason everyone keeps asking if you like each other. It's pretty clear that you do. I suggest you talk to him about it. I'm sure he wants to date you and it seems you like him too. Why not go on a date? I hope this helps and good luck to ya.
I really want to tell my boyfriend how much he means to me but I'm really nervous about it. I suck at expressing my feelings and I don't want it to come off as something forced, you know? I just want to let him know that he means a lot to me and that I, well, love him.
I mean, I know he might not feel as strongly about me as I do about him but that's okay with me right now. We haven't been going out too long so I don't expect him to say, "I feel the same way about you!" I just feel like I should tell him what I think about our relationship and how I feel about him...
Is it a bad idea since I'm not good at talking about my feelings or is it something that is ok?
I think you should tell him how you feel but just be careful not to say something that you aren't trying to say. Just let him know you love him and really care about him. Let him know exactly how you feel. Maybe you could even write down what you want to say and practice it or if you want write it in a note but I think it'll be sweeter coming from you.
Firstly thanks for taking the time to read my question :-) Sorry if this is too long! There's quite a few people involved in this so i'll explain now ha ha:
Jordan - One of my friends (he used to have a crush on me for a long time but we're just friends now)
Joe - A guy I met through Jordan who I now like.
Nate - One of my guy friends who has a crush on me.
Rachael - Me, ha ha
To start with, I have had feelings for Joe since around May. We've been friends for a few months before then, we met through one of our close friends, Jordan.
I've always had troubles believing that someone actually likes me, I'm not the most confident person ever, and although people tell me a lot that i'm beautiful, I don't really believe them. Once I started to have feelings for Joe, I told him that I liked him. He admitted that he liked me too. A couple of weeks later, our friend Jordan told me that Joe said to him "Would you mind if I asked Rachael out? I know you had feelings for her and I want to check that this won't hurt you" Jordan explained that he didn't have a crush on me any more and we're just friends.
Any way, it was my friend Nate's party one Saturday night and I went and Joe was there. He didn't really know Nate, but his friends did. So Joe took me outside and said he wanted to speak to me (so I thought he was going to ask me out like Jordan had told me) and just as we went outside, my friend Nate came over to us and said he had feelings for me and asked me out - right infront of Joe (he knew I liked Joe - his friends told him days before) I was so angry that he did this. I told Nate I didn't want to go out with him. Joe looked quite annoyed but he told me to go out with Nate if I wanted to. This has been an on-going thing now. It's kinda like they're fighting for me, only Nate is fighting more. I don't like Nate in that way and I have told him so many times. I have also told Joe that I like him and not Nate. But Joe doesn't seem to believe me. His friends say it's because he's insecure.
A few weeks later Nate had another party, I was there with my friends and so was Joe. I was speaking to Nate (just like I speak to all of my friends) and Joe wouldn't speak to me because of it. When I tried to talk to him he said "it's obvious you like him and not me, please don't talk to me" I gave him some space and hung out with my friends. Joe got really drunk and said to me "I really wanted to be with you, but it p*ssed me off when I saw you with Nate" And he said he didn't want to speak to me again (Even though he called me the next day) Nate told me that Joe said to him that night "If you even try and get with Rachael i'm seriously gonna punch you"
Does Joe even like me? I can't tell! His friends say he really likes me. I'm so useless at times :-( I saw him again at my other friend's party and he came over to me and apoligised to me, kissed me and started saying he was really sorry that he really likes me and that he hates Nate...BUT he isn't ready for a relationship.
What do I do?! I really like this guy, I know it isn't love - i'm not so naive. But I know that I have feelings for him, do you think he likes me too? What should I say? What should I do? I need help guys!
Hey does like you, he's just very jealous. A lot of people are like that about people they like. If you saw a girl ask him out in front of you wouldn't you be too? Make him believe you. Prove it to him somehow. Maybe blow off Nate just once for Joe.. just to prove it to him. And make sure not to flirt with Nate too. I hope this helps you.
ok so there's this boy that i was obsessd with this year because over the summer we broke up after 8 months, but i still wanted him back because he was the best thing that happened to be in a while. Now, i have a new boyfriend and we're completely happy but i keep on thikning about the old guy when im with my new boyfriend. i don't want to have these feelings, but sometimes when i think of the memories it makes me feel guilty of my boyfriend.
Hm.. do you still like your ex? If so maybe you should take a break and explain to your boyfriend why. He should understand if he really cares. If not, then you should continue on with your new boyfriend. You can't change the past. You might want to tell him that you still think about your ex though but you don't want to get with him. I hope this helps.
So lately my friends are telling me I'm flirting, but I'm thinking their meaning of flirting is different than mine. Plus I have a boyfriend, so I have no intention of actually flirting or taking anything anywhere. Anyways, do you think having a conversation with someone and laughing and what not is flirting. Maybe I'm just blindsided and don't realize I'm doing it or something but yeah. Also, if I AM flirting and have a boyfriend, is there anything wrong with innocent flirting, either knowing you are or not?
If you are just talking with someone and you laugh it's not flirting. I agree that you shouldn't talk about sexual things with a guy friend.. maybe not even a girl friend unless your boyfriend is okay with it. It can lead to trouble. He will feel like you are too comfortable around that guy and may think something is going on even if there is nothing there. Anyway, you aren't flirting most likely. If you think you are though you may want to tone it down. Maybe you should start hanging more with girls than guys. I'm sure your boyfriend would like that. Hope this helps.
So me and this guy met and had a thing for about 1-2 monthes,we didn't date but we "talked" and he said he liked me and i liked him.after a while,he told me he loves me "as a friend" since we started hanging out alot.he knew i still liked him,so he stopped talking to me for like a week .then i had a talk with him and told him "i only liked him as a friend too now".things went back to normal and we started talking alot again ,but as "best friends".
I still like him ! I don't know what to do!
If I hang around him alot ,maybe I'll end up liking him as a friend? I don't know what to do!
Well since he did like you and then he said he loves you as just a friend he could possibly be lying. Some guys are like that.. they try to hide their feelings and such. Maybe you should tell him how you feel. You could tell him that if he doesn't like you that way then you can continue to be friends, It may be easier getting it off of your chest. And maybe hanging with him will make you like him as just a friend but it also could make you like him more. If you are trying to get to where you don't like him make sure not to flirt as well. I think you might want to tell him though before things get more complicated. It's your choice though. I hope this helps.
Ive been wit my bf for 7 months n i need ideas for romantic things we can do we live in nor cal n i wann find some natural hot springs or places we can stay that are romantic i always make him dinner so ideas other than that would be great plz help thanx
You could go on a picnic in the park. My boyfriend and I did that once ad it was wonderful. Both of you can make a few different things and enjoy your time together under the sun or moon light. :)
me and my current boyfriend have gone out 7 other times in the past. I feally do like him, but in sum relationships it seems like he's not giving it his all, but i am. And other times it's perfect but my parents ruin it (they dont like him).We first went out wen i was 12 continuing on now at 13. it feels as if hes the only one for me. If that's true why do we keep going on and off?
I think this is a bad sign.
Relationships can be really difficult. Especially if he doesn't give it his all in try and it makes it worse with your parents not accepting him. Maybe talk to your parents about it and tell them you think you have a future with him. Thay may not listen though since yuo are young and I know that is because I'm going through it right now. Also I think you should talk to him about it. Tell him it's not okay that you are doing all the work in the realtionship.
I hope this helps.
My boyfriend and i were together 11months, we were in love and everything just seemed perfect. We were best friends before we started going together and then we did, things just started to slow down kind of, i think we wanted to see what else was out there as 11 months is a long time. Since then he's kissed other girls n tht at clubs but i've not. Thing is when we're out we still act like what we did when we were together just without the sexual part of it. At his 18th when i said goodbye to him he told me he loved me and naturally i said it back.I hate it becuase i feel like we're in love and want to be together but we're only 17 so have like live our lives. But i really do feel we're meant to be and when we are out together we just act like normal with no awkwardness.
However i don't no if its just me that feels this way or even reli what i'm feeling. I'm too scared to ask him incase he doesn't feel the same or if he does i don't want to get my hopes up about getting back together.
Any ideas what i'm thinking or whether i should talk to him and what i should find out about him?
thanks
I think first you should ask him if he is seeing somebody. If so, then wait awhile and see what happens between the two of them.
If he isn't seeing anyone, I think it'd be best if you just talked to him about it. Tell him exactly how you feel and see if he feels the same way. If he does then try for it again.
If he doesn't want to then maybe you should try moving on. If he isn't going to give you a chance again there is really nothing you can do about. If you really love him though you shouldn't give up. Show him what he is missing but don't keep asking him out because that will annoy him.
Hope this helps.
ok, so heres the rundown.. me and my girlfriend of almost a year, ill go ahead give names and ages.. (as bad as that sounds.) shelby-14 and daniel-16 (me) i konw you want to quickly judge us based on age, but we love eachother.. we do. as much as i do love "getting some" that is not why im with her. im with her because i love her, we laugh, cry, joke, and we sometimes argue a bit. anyways, we had sex, in a public bathroom, and well... her mom found out. she knows we used pretection.. but.. she wants to not let us see eachother.. i mean.. i went to cozumels for cinco de mayo (cozumels is a mexican resturant) and her family was there... they saw me and they immidiately left... (they didnt order yet).. because of me... i mean.. i have to see her. i will wait the full 4 years if i have to.. but i cannot allow that to happen.. we will both spend 4 years of misery.. and i wound like to intervene... somehow.. i sent her mom a long txt.. nothing too personal, just telling her about me loving her, and that i want a long realationship with her... didnt work. needless to say i only sent 1 txt.. i mean, i dont wanna harrass anyone.. anyways.. help plz?.. just any suggestions im up for..
this is very hard baby. but we can do it...hopefully we'll see each other before next year. i love ya!
help! there is this guy in old my class who sometimes seems like he likes me and sometimes it seems like he ignores me. when older girls are not there we talk about like the weekend and things like that. sometimes he even asks me for things he already has. my friend admitted that she kinda likes him. i told my friend that i had his email. she told me to tell him i like him but its not that easy for me. how do i approach him. i am really confused. i am a female and i am 13
I would say he does like you but may be embarrassed by your age.
If this is the case then you need to think..is this really worth it? Is he worth it?
If he still is don't give up. Ask him why he acts this way.
Leads you on then ignores you?
Talk to him about it.
I hope this helps.
13/f
sorry to add another relationship question, but i need help. i like this guy i ski with, but he doesnnt seem interested in me. whenever i try to flirt w. him he gets uncomfortable and will never tell us about the girls hes liked or play truth or dare when me and my friends do on the chairlift. we have a lot in common. is there any way i can make him like me or tell if he does?
I think yuo might should just come out and tell him you like him. If not that get to be like best friends with him. Get closer to him and find out what he likes in a girl. Then I bet you will have a better idea of what he wants and if you would have a better chance. I would just tell him though. I hope this helps. =]
ok. so i dated this one guy forever ago and it didnt work and now were only friends. but now i have the love of my life
This is exactly what is happening to me. ou need to tell him he needs to stop being mean to your boyfriend. If he is really a good friend and cares then he will respect that. If he doesn't then you need to think about your friendship. He shouls stop doing that because it hurts your boyfriend, but also you. Hope this helps. =]
My boyfriend doesnt call me when I ask him too. He always yells at me about something. He hurts my feelings 24/7 and expects me to wait on him hand and foot. I do everything for him and yet that still isnt enough. everything he has iv bought it. I feel worthless and I get stressed out with him and we get into screaming fights because he wont let me do what I want but I have to let him do what he wants. He used to be friends with this guy and I cheated on my boyfriend with him like 2 years ago. I know it was wrong and I admitted it but this "friend" of his keeps lying to him. and everyone thinks im the liar. What should I do?
I agree with them.
If he is hurting you...you shouldn't stay with him. He has no right to do that to you. Plus he shouldn't expect you to do all of that for him. If you dump him and he asks why give him the facts. I wouldn't put up with it either.
As for his friend...he should believe you over his friend. Which is another reason you should break up with him.
Hope this helps. =]
hey i need to ask something.. my boyfriend talked to my mom and said i was beautiful and im a nice and amazzing girl.. should i believe this from him.. i really love him and he really loves me.. but like he said im a good girl for him bc he needs someone like me in his life.. please help and i will rate U.. Thanks and merry christmas=)
I think that was very sweet of him. If he would go out of his way to tell your mom this I would say that he really does love you. You said above that he loves you correct? And you love him? Well if you trust that he loves you and he said that to her I would say that he most likely does. Hope this helps and merry Christmas to you too. =]
I really need help on this one.
There is this girl i have been talking to for the past 2 or 3 months, there practically isnt a day that went by where we didnt talk, she told me how she wanted to hang out and vise versa, and all of that. well we finally decide to go to a movie the other day, and keep in mind she is a quiet girl. well i had fun, it was a good moive, and she seemed to have fun, but i am not 100 % sure she did. she is kinda short with her answers to me now, but i think it might be due to the up coming christmas holiday (tomarrow). In a couple of days, I want to know if I can just come out and ask her if she is intrested, and if she would like to go out again. is that too creepy and forward. What do you think i should do?
Rob 20 & male
I think you should come out and tell her about it. Don't make it like too awkward though. Tell her how much you like her and for how long and say something really sweet. Maybe do it in person over dinner or something. That would be nice. I hope this helps you. =]