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feel dirty and slutty...
im 17/f. so i've been in a relationship for a year and i just got out of it like a few weeks ago...i went to a college party last night and i started hooking up with this really hott guy but i felt so dirty and slutty so i stopped and told him that i couldn't do this. when i was with my boyfriend i was like a sex maniac haha but i never felt slutty at all because we had that really strong connection you know? i thought being single and meeting guys and hooking up is suppose to be fun? i don't understand. i'm young and i'm suppose to like this....i guess all i want is someone who cares...idk what should i do...
like if thats what college is like then i'm not that excited..i don't just want to be another pointless girl he's hooked up with...i want to mean something.
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its okay to feel that way. sometimes hooking up isnt the best idea. Some people can do it with no problem and some cant. Your the type of person it seems that needs to know they are cared about in order to move further. Sometimes it takes love and condiseration to bring that side out in someone
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You need a good solid relationship with set bounderies. You should find a guy who will love you and respect that you want a relationship and not just for sex. You want something that will last. so before you hook up get to know the person. Let them like you for you first, not what you have under your clothes. And if they like you they can wait til you want to and they'll still want to be with you afterwards.
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Well clearly you're not into a random hook-up which is fine its normal. It might also be the fact that you ONLY broke up with your boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. Going from being in a relationship to being single can be difficult because while its fun hooking up you're also use to the meaning of why you're with the guy in the first place. For right now take it easy...I wouldn't suggest rushing into anything again...and maybe in a month or so or when you feel ready go back on the dating scene.
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with that whatsoever. In fact it's a very good thing. One night stands are okay for some people and for others they aren't. It's all a matter of opinion. If you only want to have meaningful sex then that's great. That's who you are, and it's a very respectable trait to have. College is about many things. Just because you aren't hooking up with guys doesn't mean you won't make any other relationships. I am in college and have not been to one party. It's not my thing, but I am loving life and college. You will too. :)
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