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Q: 16/F
So for the past 8 months I've been talking this guy on twitter. We used to roleplay as a fake couple. Well five months into talking with eachother I confessed I've grown feelings for him. He admitted the same to me. Then we started talking about real life stuff like our friends, family, school, and our past. Everyday we would talk about the most random things. Soon its been 6 months and we start saying "I love you." And I know the internet is never safe because you dont really see the person behind the screen and it could be some online predator but something felt right. I mean after seven months why hasn't he made a move if he is an "online predator?" He never asked me about my town or school or my last name. He straight up told me everything but never asked me once. So I told him everything and he put "Why did you tell me that? You didnt have to." sooo yeah. He always talks to me about school and homework and how he took his best friend to the dance for fun. And he always asks me to help with his math homework (lol) and I always do. I mean if this guy is a "predator" he's really good and sneaky and patient to meet me. I told my mom about this cause I thought she should know and she wasnt to happy about it. After everything I told her she is still uncertain..but I told Forest,the boy, that my mom knows and he did nothing...wouldn't he be scared and stop talking to me if he know my parents know?
I want to meet Forest cause its killing me inside, I live in Iowa and he lives in California. She says she will believe this when she meets him in real life and well I dont blame her. But how can I convince my mom to get us to meet him?
Sorry if this is long and makes no sense

To make sure he isnt an online old predator dude and he's who you think he is, ask him to tell you what he looks like (if he hasnt already) and then ask him to skype or ovoo or anything like that. mostly everyone has a webcam nowadays so if he rejects the idea, he may not be as trustworthy as you think. Good luck! and be safe

Q: so. i like this guy but so does this othr grl. and she is going to homecoming w/ him. but she "says" she dosnt wanna go w/ him. whts your opionion on it?

-sara

well first off did he ask her or did she ask him

if he asked her: chances are he might have a crush on her. just flaunt what you got in front of him, flirt with him and then maybe flirt with other guys in front of him. just dont do it to the point that you seem like a slut

if she asked him: that would be the best situation. he might think they are going as friends [thats what the guy i asked thought] and he might have said yes so he wouldnt hurt her feeelings.

if she says she doesnt want to go with him then it sounds like he asked her and said yes. she could be lying but thats stupid to lie about. but hey girls are stupid.

if my advice isnt clear, sorry, ask any other questions if you need to

Q: i have a problem. a guys likes me i like hima nd my friend likes him. what now? thanks in advance

you should not go out with him if your friend likes him dont pick a guy over friends. friends last forever boys are whatever. if you pick him your friend will ditch you.

Q: okay well i like this guy and i know that he likes me so how do i talk to him. i am really shy.

write him a note, talk to him over the phone, instant message him, email him, or talk to him over myspace if youre that shy

Q: me and my b/f have been datin for almost 6 months. hes means so much to me but a lot of the time she doesnt treat me that well. im a freshman thie year and was considering breakin up wit him b/c i never see him and just felt too tired dwon.but then i chagned my mind and figuared i really loved him. but today this kid who knows him and me came up ot me and said that he wasnt breakin up wit me because he wanted to move on...i was feelin the same thing but i like him so much still. i sent him a text saying that we needed to talk and he said ill pass! and i said..were over.ur friend jeff told me everything..and he said..yull get far listenin ot him...i mean i ended a really long realtionship wit this guy and im not sure if i should beg for him back or just move on....help me pleeeease =).thanks so much

hey jess (its lauren)

well you know what i think you should do. i believe jeff he would tell me he was lying. i know how hard it is going to be but honey i think you should move on. i love you so much your my best friend and i would never steer you wrong. he has like no respect for you. he didnt even talk to you when he saw you and now he wont even call you back i know you love him but does he love you back? i really dont mean that to hurt you i just never heard you say that he told you he loved you. if you do move on, it will take time, you wont feel right with other guys, hell you might not want to be with other guys, i know you said you could never feel this way about someone else but once you eventually get over him i think you can. i think there is a soul mate for everyone and he just isnt yours. i'm sorry this is probably hard to read but i'm your best friend and i just want whats best for you, i just want you to be happy and if you stay with him you wont be happy, if you move on you wont be happy for a little while, but eventully you will be. its better to end it now before its been 2 years of you going out and he ends it abrubtly if that happens you will be in much worse shape then you would be if you moved on now. i love you and whatever you do is okay but this is what i think you should do. ill see you monday...talk to you later...

Q: I'm 16 and i lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 3yrs. it was just 3 days ago. we didn't use protection i'm worried i could be pregnant. i wouldn't have done it if i didn't love him. but his phones been cut off. He has a cell phone but hasn't called or anything. Should i be worried or relax?

WHAT SHOULD I DO???

you should relax and in about 2 weeks go get a pregnancy test. dont get the test now because it wont be able to tell yet. i hope everything works out

Q: So I thought I liked the guy and he sent me a note saying he wants to get to know me because he likes me and I sent him a note back saying I would like to get to know him to. Im not so sure I like him anymore because when ever hes around I feel REALLY nervouse so nervous I cant concentrate on my work or eat. When im around other guys I like im not nervous. I try to avoid him and hes always staring at me and stuff and asked for my number but im starting to think I dont like him anymore. Im in 8th grade and never had a boyfriend and im really ok with that. Actually I love being single and I dont think im ready to have a boyfriend. Is that a bad thing? I think hes going to ask me out soon but I dont want to make him feel bad and I have no clue what to do. And I like this other guy and I liked him for a long time and I still like him better than the guy thats going to ask me out. I dont feel nervous around him or anything. But I like being single because I dont feel all nervous. Is this dumb of me? Please help. I dont want to go out with the other guy now.

if you dont want to go out with him, dont go out with him. you seem like your not ready for a boyfriend yet, and you love being single so why change when you dont even want too? if and when he asks you out just say you just want to be friends, and sure he may get upset and stuff but he's probably going to get rejected again anyways, so he should get used to it. if you continue to be nervous around him maybe you should tell him to leave you alone. you dont have to tell him in person, you can do it through a note, over the phone, or on the computer. no offense but he sounds like a clinger. and as for the other guy, if you like him enough to want him to be your boyfriend, ask him out and if he says no its going to be pretty devestating (especially if you do it in person) but you have to move on. maybe ask him in a month if you still like him. if he says yes then, congratulations you got yourself your first boyfriend. however, it seems like you want to stay single. i think you should go with your gut. that might seem like a "dead-end answer" but its not you just have to search deep within yourself and see if your ready or not.

oh its definitley not dumb of you.

Q: so i'm 14/m and she's 14/f...she really likes me..and i think i like her too...i wanna go out with her...but her parents are way to strict and so are her cousins...she's not allowed to go on a date until she's 18..i can't wait 4 years...wat do i do???

that sucks. i know a couple people that cant date for a while and it really sucks, especially when i liked one of them. i've been in your situation twice =[ soo here's the advice..well there isnt much you can do. you can explain to her that you like her but since she cant date for 4 more years that you are still going to date other girls (if that's what you want to do) and tell her that once she's 18 if you two are still in touch to call you and maybe you two can go on a date. hope i helped, good luck. =]

Q: I'm 13. I have a MAJOR crush. But, according to my friends, he's not just a crush anymore. Well, I really like him. When I got ahold of his email, we started chatting online all the time. Finally some of my friends dilivered his message. He liked me too. One day while we were chatting he asked me out to the movies. I couldn't believe that I wasn't able to go. Anyways, now, according to my friends, he's my officail boyfriend. That the part I'm not so sure about. I mean, a boyfreind when you're only 13? I feel too young for that... Is he my officail boyfriend or am I really too young for that kind of thing?

you can have an official boyfriend whenever you're ready for one. but to me, an official boyfriend isnt when some guy asks you out on a date. you have to go on many dates and its something you both have to commit too. saying he's your bf before going on a date is like him telling you he loves you a week after a date or something. its too soon and doesnt really count. however, that is just my thinking. a bf to you may mean you guys are together he wont date anyone else except you.

Q: So there is this girl. I've seen her at this resturant for the past 2 years but never said a word to her because i'm so shy. We had a picnic this weekend and my mom's friends daughter came and with her was this girl.After the picnic I was told that she thought I was cute and such a nice person. So I was invited back to the apartment the next day of these 2 girls. We watched 2 movies and ate dinner othing big. So when I got home I text the girls friend and asked if this girl even likes me or what. I got in reply She does but wants nothing serious. How do I go about that? Do I still try to become close and hope more happens or what? Any help is thankful.

i think for now this girl just wants to be friends which is understandable because she hardly knows you still, you couldnt talk during the 2 movies..so you only talked during the dinner which isnt enough time for you guys to get together as more than friends if you got togehter as more than friends and when on a date you might not even like each other you 2 should hang out by yourselves just as friends and then see how it goes from there. good luck hope i helped..=]

Q: I am 18 years old and i have known my boyfreind for about 3 years now and he has always had a crush on me and we just started dating 3 months ago .. we dont fight much but sometimes we get aggrivated with eachother. A few days ago I went to Connecticut for the summer and i used to live here, i am having a wonderful time but it seems like everytime i talk to him i get in a bad mood and we are always finding things to argue about. He dosent call me as much as i would like him to and when i am sad or confused about something he always says he has to go but he is the one in the relationship who "loves me more" and all in all he is a very good boyfreind. He was supposed to graduate with me but he didnt and he has a month to get his work done so he can get his diploma. He needs to get his priorities straight and frankly, i dont understand him. When we talk on the phone ALL we do is fight. Thats it and when i get back home i dont want things to be bitter between us. I do everything i can to try and help him but he dosent seem to get it and he keeps telling me that i dont care, when all i want to do is talk to him. When we fight on the phone he always "has to go" or do something else and i want to make up with him then and there, but i cant seem to, ever, so when he calls back a few hours later, im STILL mad and cant have a normal conversation with him. I really dont know what to do. Please help.

you should try one more time. the next time you talk to him on the phone you should tell him pretty much what you said in your question. and if you guys still fight you need to break it off. tell him since you cant seem to work things out it wont work at all.

Q: Okay, a week ago, this guy who I barely even know (I don't even know his last name) sent me an e-mail declaring that he loves me and wants to be with me. I sent him a very polite decline, because I just do not feel that way about him at all, and now he keeps on e-mailing me with guilt trips about how he thinks he's going to be alone for the rest of his life, and he keeps telling me that he loves me. I suspect that he thinks that if he keeps doing this that I'll change my mind...I don't quite know how to deal with this. So far, I've treated him like I would want to be treated were I in his position, but he's starting to make me feel really uncomforatble. What can I do??

Thanks!

ok. you can block him. or. you can re-email him. tell him if he doesnt stop (remember say this as politley as possible) you will go to people of high authority and you have proof (the emails) tell him it makes you uncomfortable and that if he actually thinks that him trying to make you guilty thats not going to make you change your mind.. it will probably make it worse because its getting annoying which is bad. hope ihelped do write back mwaaaaa

Q: I'm a 27 year old female involved with a man of 34 years old for almost 2 years now. He was married before and have a little boy of 6 years old. I have the feeling that this guy is also lying to me regardig his ex wife in various ways. It feels as if he is always taking her side, etc. I want to know: Am I wasting my time with this guy? Will we ever get married? We were engaged for almost a year and he broke the engagement because of a incident that happened between me and his ex wife.

ok so let me get this straight

2 years.....1year engagement....HE broke it off because of you and his Ex....he has kids with her....he is involved with her (meaning..he sees her quite often)... may be lying baout things with his Ex....honey..i say leave the man...if nothing has happened yet then i doubt nothing will...and anyways if he asks you and you guys do get married then what will it be like after dealing with the exwife and the kid...the ex will be in your life forever more....id dump this dipshit and move on with your life....goodluck...tell me how it goes

xo_lauren_xo

Q: hello
my girlfriend and i have been dating for abt a month.. and she told me that she was raped two years ago i was the first guy that took the news approiately.. we had sex for the first time and halfway through she asked me to stop and i did.
and asked for me to take her home..i did..
and she asked to break up with me..
reason being that now everytime she goin to see me she thinks of her rapist...
i dont want to let her go..
i really care for her alot .
she suffers from depression alot...
i want to be a part of her life..
im one of very few people she let in ..
now she shuttin me out..
she told me she wants me to leave cos she dont want to hurt me like she hurt her ex's because of the rape always effected her relationships..
she says she cares abt me too much to hurt me..
i care abt her too much to let her go..

i need advice on this..
also i need to council her somehow.. please give me advice on how to help her get though this..
she refuses to get professional help..
please help..
even if we dont get back together, i want her to progress with her life.. and be able to have a realtionship again
please help

talk to her....say you love her and that you are sry about the rape thing and that you dont want her to get hurt againa dnsay you have never been in this situation.....you should try to get into a relationship counseling thing...they wrk x33

Q: ok first of all...there is this guy and i REALLY like him...i was wit him a few nights ago n we made out...but see the thing is...he would not stop touching me!! i liked it at frist but now idk what he is gonna think if i let him do it again...and i have kissed a few other people...is that cheating? and what should i do about my b/f?

ok so this guy that keeps touching you.....is he your bf? because if hes not than your sorta cheating.....but if he his ask him to not touch you be like " i think that we should slow this down just a little, and then kiss him but if he goes to touch him grab his hand and say no or i dont like it.....it depends about who those ppl are.....if it was just like....it just happened and it wasnt supposed to then i wouldnt worry but if you plan on doing it again....its cheating

Q: is it wrong for a 17 year old guy to totally hit on you, flirt with you, invite you places,and like give you his cell number if you are 13?

yes he probably wants sex thats what nmost older guys wants when hes wayy older

Q: How do i get a guy with a girlfriend to like me and ask me out??

well he kinda likes someone else so flaunt your stuff in front of him make him hang over your every word dress hott and sexy and maybe a little slutty and wait for him to dump her, wait a month after he dumps her and ask him to hang out in the meantime....make friends with him and his friends

Q: Ok so I am 16 and I am in love with a 15 year old!!! is that wrong? I mean he really likes me as well as I like him and I cant stop thinking about him, is it wrong for a 16 year old to date a 15 year old that is about to turn 16 in 5 months???

no, god no, its totally fine itd be wrong for a 16 yr old to date like a 21 yr old but no and hes turning 16 soon so yea definitley go for it!

Q: I Was...

you were.....finsih your effing wuestion...is this jess? lol.....i dont know i was just guessing

Q: Well my boyfriend of 6 months recently went off to college and things are fine we are working that part out and are for the most part, ok with the distance. But he is always telling me about these "hott chicks" he saw or talked to. He also was telling me of how his roomates ex lets him take naked pictures of her and I replied with a "Well thank you for telling me that, I needed to know (sarcasm)" and he also told me that she was going to come over and strip for them. Then told me that he was joking. I just dont know what to do, or how to approach him about it. I really want this to work but it might put a strain on our relationship if he continues it and GAH its pissing me off!!

Thank you! I will rate high for good answers:D

well ur right for some reason ur bf is trying to make you jealous

talk to him about it say im rly uncomfortable when you talk about hot girls you see and talk to,

say it cant work if he does it more but you want it to work

good luck