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fighting because im on vacation?
I am 18 years old and i have known my boyfreind for about 3 years now and he has always had a crush on me and we just started dating 3 months ago .. we dont fight much but sometimes we get aggrivated with eachother. A few days ago I went to Connecticut for the summer and i used to live here, i am having a wonderful time but it seems like everytime i talk to him i get in a bad mood and we are always finding things to argue about. He dosent call me as much as i would like him to and when i am sad or confused about something he always says he has to go but he is the one in the relationship who "loves me more" and all in all he is a very good boyfreind. He was supposed to graduate with me but he didnt and he has a month to get his work done so he can get his diploma. He needs to get his priorities straight and frankly, i dont understand him. When we talk on the phone ALL we do is fight. Thats it and when i get back home i dont want things to be bitter between us. I do everything i can to try and help him but he dosent seem to get it and he keeps telling me that i dont care, when all i want to do is talk to him. When we fight on the phone he always "has to go" or do something else and i want to make up with him then and there, but i cant seem to, ever, so when he calls back a few hours later, im STILL mad and cant have a normal conversation with him. I really dont know what to do. Please help.
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you should try one more time. the next time you talk to him on the phone you should tell him pretty much what you said in your question. and if you guys still fight you need to break it off. tell him since you cant seem to work things out it wont work at all.
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I think the next time you talk to your boyfriend you should tell him that you really want to work things out between you both without fighting over it. Tell him that you don't like fighting and then hanging up because it keeps you upset for the time being and you just want to talk it out and make up instead of later.
Let him know that you do care for him and his feelings and you try as hard as you can to make him see that you do and you want the same treatment in return. If he seems to argue it and try turning this into another fight, tell him that you're trying to settle this and let him know what your upset about and if he's not going to listen then you'll hang up. Make sure that you give him a chance to explain to you what's wrong in his mind.
It's normal for a relationship to have fights, but a lot of times you have to fight and then hang up to cool off and then say, "Ok, I'm sorry for yelling, I'm upset because I felt bad when you...." and then finish it off. And then say, "What were you upset about?" And give him a chance to explain.
Maybe there is tension between you both because you havn't seen each other a lot lately. You're on vacation and it seems like maybe he's just sitting at home with nothing to do. If you really just want this vacation to be fun for you, then just explain to him that it would be best to talk when you come back and then you can work everything out.
If you're sad or upset about something and he's always hanging up, let him know that it hurts your feelings. When you're sad, tell him you need him to comfort you and when you're confused you need him to help you figure things out. I believe that if he's constsntly running away when you get upset, he isn't a good boyfriend or a good listener. And I honestly say that if his behavior like this continues, you shouldn't tolerate it.
-TheTeenGirl
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First, next time he calls or you call him tell him you really don`t want to argue, your having a fun time and that when you get back you want to have a serious talk about things. He might be bored, lonely, and depressed your gone and the only way he can deal with it, is arguing. I think that you being gone would probally be better for the relationship because you guys are up eachothers butts and getting annoyed of eachothers. See if he can maybe come visit for like a week or so. I hope things get better. ♥
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