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Hey all. Im 23 and from Canada. I feel ive had kinda a tough life and have experience in almost any problem you can think of. Feel free to ask me anything!
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Okay so here's my problem...I have a lot of friends, and i would say 70% of them are guys. youre probably wondering what the problem is right? Well the problem is, i have a tendancy to fall in love with my guy friends because they are so sweet and the perfect boyfriend material type for me. Sometimes i think they like me by how they act around me, but then i find out they only like me as a "friend" I'm sick of being just the friend and i want to show the guys i can be more than a friend...how can i should my guy friends that i can be more then just friends with them? That i want to be seen as girlfriend material?
Well I was the exact same as you. I hang out with all guys i had maybe 2 girlfriends and when i was younger i used to fall in love with them too. Its kinda hard when your seen as a friend to the guys to become more then that but it can be done. Try just simply reminding them that your a girl. My guy friends used to say gross guy stuff like "that chicks hot" and dumb stuff like that. When they say something like that just simply say "hello, im a girl you know". That usually gets their attention. Try dressing really cute and girly around them. If all else fails just make a move! tell them you like them, or even try just kissing one of them, although if your 13 thats kinda young to be just kissing people but the dressing cute and reminding them that you are in fact a girl should work.
Good luck!
hi i was the one you just asnwer about tell my ex that i still like him.. well i don't know .. its too big, i don't know if i can do it.. i'm sry .. to be honest i'm too afraid.. pls if u are telling ur ex tell me how it goes!! ..answer here or whatever .. if u can tell me ur story i'll appreciated..thanks again ..
I will be more then happy to share my story with you. Ill leave you a message later tonight after i talk to him. :)
Hello .. Its just some simple questions .. they say Its easier to give out great advice than to actually follow it urself.... now I like my ex i was the one who broke things off (2 times).. i do know for sure he still has feelings for me but what i don't know is whether he would like to "go back" and try to see if it works (again).. i'm not going to tell u guys my whole story but when i say its complicated TRUST ME... so here are my questions.. pls be COMPLETELY HONEST.. answer them as if u were the one following the advice..ask urself "would I do it? REALLY?" ..
1.
Would tell ur ex u still have feeling for him? (even though he is still mad at u cus u broke things off (2 times) )
2.
would u give up and try to forget about him? REALLY?
3.would you tell him u still have feelings for him even though u r not sure if u want to go back until u fix some "issues" u have?
this is really imp for me cus i feel like i´m running away from something real..so pls if u canjust advice me with this ..or if u can leave a little note i´ll write into ur personal column.. thanks so much .
I will answer yes definetly to questions 1 and 3. I answer definetly becasue i am doin exactly that tomorrow. If you dont tell him then you will never know what could of happened and you will regret it forever i promise you!
As for question 2 if you tell him and hes not interested anymore then yes you need to forget about him and move on. If hes not sure then you need to give him time to think about it a bit (if you think hes worth waiting).
The worst that is going to happen is he will reject you, its not the end of the world. It cant be all that bad.
How are you planning on telling him cause i need a few ideas myself. I know i want to tell him i still love him i just dont know what to say.
Feel free to share any ideas you have.
Hope i helped :)
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My boyfriend is at war, and I miss him very much. I need advice on how to get through this tough time without him at home. The kids keep asking about him and I haven't answered them yet. I'm not sure what to tell them when they ask why they're Dad is over in Iraq. Can you please help me so I know how to answer my kids' questions when they are upset and ask for their father who hasn't been home in over 4 months. Thank you!
Depending on the age of your kids its best to be honest with them.
My friend is at war and his little sister always asks where he is and this is exactly how we explain it to her:
"There was a man in iraq and he was very mean, he hurts lots of people and isnt very nice to the people in his country, the army was sent there to help all the people in iraq and they arrested the bad guy. Now that he is in jail your brother is over there with the army trying to help everyone get their country back so they can be safe now."
We try to keep the major details out of it and just basically say that hes helping people over there, it seems to work pretty well and its mostly true. shes 6 and think he brother is very brave to be helping people. We just tell her to pray and not worry her brother will be back soon. Try not to make it sound like its a bad or scary situation for him.
Hope all goes well :)
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I've liked this guy for over a year now. He's an awesome friend, but once you do one thing that makes him mad, he's really rude! I've been told COUNTLESS times to get over him, but I just can't!! He means the world to me... and I just want to show him that without scaring him off or anything. We went out like a year ago for a while, and he was great, but I made the mistake of breaking up with him. I want to go back out with him, and I don't want to get over him. I'm not looking for an answer to get over him!!! I just need help on what to say to him!
Tell him you think you made a mistake and you still have feelings for him. Just be completely honest with him and im sure you'll get what you want.
Hope I helped :)
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im goen out with this kid who is older than me and i really like him he says he likes me alot too but my problem is like that for example today we were going to meet eachother somewhere and i went there and he came in after me and didnt c me at first so he started talken to a bunch of his friends...girls and guys..and in since they r older n all i dont wanna look annoying or clingy and go over and say hey but after a while i did and he was saying like, "hey u were here this whole time??" and stuff like that and i feel stupid if i dont say anything too cuz ill be like in the same room of w.e and hes over there and we arent talking or anything or if i say hi i feel dumb too. please help me if u can, thank you
Dont feel dumb and annoying. Just think about this. If he thought you were dumb and annoying he wouldnt be goin out with you. Your his girlfriend. Girlfriends are allowed to say hi to their boyfriends!
Hope I helped :)
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i have a seriouse problem with keeping a boyfriend. I have never been dumped because i always dump them so quickly! its so hard because i always wnat new guys, im never happy with just one, and i never want to hurt anyone or cheat on anyone! i have a boyfriend right now and i like him sooo much, he is perfect for me, but for some reason i want to dump him, its so hard and confusing, what should i do!
I have the same problem. Maybe your afraid of commitment. Or maybe youve been hurt in the past and you dont want to get hurt again so you push people away before they have a chance to hurt you. You could be waiting for this one particular guy so you dont want to tie yourself down cause maybe subconsciously you think you'll get him.
You need to just hang on and not break up with people so fast. If you find yourself getting frustrated and you want to break up with them maybe just take a breather, dont see him for a few days, think about all the things you like about him and if you know you have feelings for him then dont let yourself break up with him!!
If none of that works then do what I do, talk to friends/family about it, you could even try talking to the guy about it. If all else fails, go to counselling. It works pretty good.
Hope I helped :)
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when i made out with my bestfriend and my boyfriends cousin ....i asked him the today why he did it and he said "i dont know" and it was after school but like everyone was around and we were leavin so we werent around any of our friends sooo does that mean he wont give me the real answer til were alone again or am i supposed to believe that he dosent kno why he was holdin my hands and cuddling and kissin me?
please help im really confused!!
Thats crap! He knows why he did it hes just too scared to say it!
Ask again!
*princs
c im a 14/m and ive neva been kissed. it duznt bother me much it s just that im not ready 4 ne kind of commitment and cuz my parents dont like me gettin close 2 girls. i hate them so much i almost killed them and ran away once. i just wanna get w/ a girl and b friends that arent bf and gf but kiss alot and otha stuff. how do i do that?
Its ok to want to kiss girls when your young but just be careful. Wait until the right girl comes along. You dont want to look back at your life and see that you kissed 100 girls that didnt mean anything. Wouldnt you rather look back and think of your first girlfriend being the first person you kissed and really liking her. I know guys that are 21 now and wish they hadnt kissed anyone until they were like 16-17. A kiss is sooo personal and means sooo much, do you really wanna waste it on a girl who means nothing to you?
Sorry if i wasnt much help :)
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ok i made out with my bestfriends cousin and like i was actin like nothin because we dont want my bestfriend to kno but now hes actin like nothin happend and i really need to talk to him about it but i dont know how to approch him...any ideas would be grreat!! i need to know if he likes me and why he did it because i like him alot and we went out b4 but didnt do anything and now that were not goin out hes kissin and cuddlin and holdin hands with me...plz help me!!
Call him up and just talk to him. Tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels! Just come right out and say it! Whats the worst that could happen? Say it with alot of confidence. Guys like a girl with good confidence! Dont be scared just do it! Like a band-aid, one motion, RIGHT OFF!!!!!
Hope I helped :)
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okay this guy i love him truly with all of my heart and i really wanna marry him we were together for over 2 yrs. and well we broke up last thursday.. and well he told me that he truly loves me that he wants to be back with me but he dosen't want me 2 hurt him anymore which i admit that i've done some stupid things but i'm truly srry for them and it would never happen again. but the thing is their's this other girl that sorta like him and he likes her a little bit but i can't stand seeing them together and i told him that i can't seeing them together and well he said that' he's doing it for us to see that i'm really the one for him i don't know what to do
and to make matters worse i think i'm pregnant
First off you need to take a pregnancy test to find out if you really are pregnant. If you are dont tell him right away becasue he might think youre saying that to get him back. Try talking to him or write him a letter telling him how you feel. Explain that youve made mistake and your truly sorry for them. Its ok for him to see other people to make sure your the one for him. With any luck he will realize that this other girl doesnt even remotely compare to you.
If it ends up that you guys dont get back together dont worry, after a while life will go on and you will get over it. It might take a while but in the end you'll be ok. Now if you are pregnant then thats a whole other story. Find that out first and get back to me if you need anything else!
Dont worry hun it will be ok.
Hope i helped :)
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Besides identifiable sexual attraction, how can one tell the difference between a crush and great love for a friend? If a friend really wants physical contact with another friend, but not necessarily sex, what is that?
Please answer. I really will rate.
A crush is when you get all fluttery when your around the guy. You get shy, embarassed and giddy. A crush you usually get over in a month or 2.
Love is completely different. Great love you will never get over. When your in love you want to be with the person all the time and you think about them all the time. Love makes you feel completely sick every time you think about or see the person. Love really is the worst feeling ever. Haha. Trust me if your in love you'll know it!
Hope I helped :)
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i have had sex with my boy friend 5 times and it was long and all buh i never had a orgasim is there something rong or is it still too soon? sumone help me
Nope! Theres nothing wrong with you. It all depends on your age. Some girls dont get their first orgasm till there in their late 20's. It all depends on the person. Some girls will never get an orgasm. Dont worry its totally normal!!
Hope i helped :)
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I am 15 years old and have never had a boyfriend. Is that normal?
Its totally fine. I never had an actual real boyfriend until i was 18. Just the dumb people you call your "boyfriend" when your like 13 or 14 cause the relationships you have when your 13 dont really count as "boyfriends". That special guy will come along soon enough. I think its basically pointless to go out with someone just for the sake of saying you have a boyfriend.
I would much rather have 1 or 2 realationships that really mean something then 10 that meant absolutely nothing.
Dont worry about it. Guys suck until there 17 anyways, lol.
Hope I helped :)
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well i was dating this guy for a while...then things kind of fell apart between us. nothing bad really...he was really busy with work and we kind of just drifted. anyway we just started talking again and he explained everything he was thinking and all that. but while we talked i never really got to say everything i wanted or ask him what the deal is with us. i talked to him online tonight and i had to leave but i thought we would talk when i got back. but he hasn't come back online, and i know he's really busy so i dont want to bug him on the phone. so my question is, should i email him...say what i have to and ask him where things stand, or should i just wait until i talk to him again? i'd appreciate any advice...i really dont know what i should do!
i think asking serious questions like that through e-mail is a bad idea casue it doesnt seem like real life. I think you should just wait until you can talk to him again. I wouldnt worry about bugging him, its just a call and will only take a few minutes.
to start off with, i'm sorry this is so long
Alright, i fell in love with this guy who it would never work out with (like really really never work out no matter how hard we tried if we wanted to). He never said he loved me or anything, and he never came onto me, and i'm not angry about it or anything like that. i miss him infact. I told my few very trusted friends about my feelings (they got kinda creeped out) and my mom said i would just move on and i'd feel this way about some one else some day (but i know i won't). I don't want to move on. How do i tell my friends and family that? I understand that they're just worried about me and stuff like that. i know that they just want me to feel better again, but i know that with out him in my life, i'm never going to feel like this again. i don't want to get over him. he makes me so happy even when i'm not near him. i love him too much, but i'm afraid of what my friends and family would say to that. i need mental help, but advice would by nice too.
I know everyone tells you that you'll get over him and youll find someone else but the truth is, if he was your first love then you might not ever truly get over him. But you will be able to move on with you life and kinda just push him to the back of your mind. This doesnt just come overnight, it comes with time and you need to be ready to let go. No one can tell you what to do you have to be ready to do it for yourself. Its alright that you cant get over this guy, just dont give up opportunities with other guys cause your hoping it might work out one day with this guy. If you get the chance with another guy GO FOR IT. You said you know you will never feel this way again and its true you wont because you only get your first love once and it feels completely different than any other kind of love!
Good luck sweetie and I hope I helped.
Let me know if you need anything
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hey well I really like this guy and he likes me too but we know it cant work out. (long story) But I asked him what he didnt like about me..and he said I was flakey..i didnt wanna seem dumb and be like what the heck is that so im like ohh ok and i changed the subject lol....so thats where you advice ppl come in..whats flakey? haha..
To say someone is a flake means that there eccentric, kinda an oddball. Basically means someone is weird.
ok me and my boyfreind have been going out for over 2 months now and we are truely in lovewe both think. and he promised he would marry me.. but then he was just on vacation like 1 week ago and when he got back i told him that i would nevr break up with him no matr what and then he tells me when he was on vacation some girl started puttin her hands down his pants and gave him a handjob.. and then he asked her out when she was done with the handjob and he sayd ok (not saying yes or no)..and then later they were on the couch and she was all over him and hes like what are you doing and shes like ur my boyfriend and hes like no im fucking not and then she called him when he got back but he just hungup on him... I SO NEED HELP! really really i do !!! i rate really really high!! ~thanks~
ok hun he let another girl give him a hand job. that constitutes cheating!!!!! and he did it after only 2 months?!?! everyone deserves a second chance so i say you talk to him about it and tell him how he hurt you. keep an eye on him and if he messes up again kick his ass out!!!!
hope i helped!!
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I've been in love with my best guy friend for years. We tried going out when we first met but he didn't have strong feelings for me, so he dumped me and later on we became really tight. I'm still deeply in love with him and he has a GF who I'm close with too. No one knows how I feel and I know for sure he does not feel the same way. How do I get this wonderful, funny, perfect guy out of my head? What should I do?
I know exactly how you feel. I was in that same situation for a few years, and its really hard. No one can really tell you what to do it all depends on the person. You could ask him if theres ever a chance for the 2 of you, you know give you some kind of hope. In my situation there was never gonna be a chance for us so i did the hardest thing ever and i had to stop being his friend. It was just too hard for me, i couldnt be around him because i just loved him more and more every time i saw him. I suggest you need to take a break from this guy.
Think about this.....If you werent in love with this guy would you still be his best friend? If your answer is no then i say take a break from this guy and move on. If your answer is yes then keep being friends with him and you'll just have to accept the idea that you might never get to be with him
ok.......theres this guy that i've been friends with benifits for a while. i've done things with him twice. the first time he said he used me but the secind time he dint bcuz he was thinkin bout askin me out. then a couple weeks later he goes out with one of my friends but still says he likes me. they broke up a couple days ago and now he wants to get together(hint hint). i like him alot, so much that i feel like im in love with him...lol. but what should i do? should i keep messin around with him or tell him that if were not gunna have a relationship then im not gunna be friends with benifits???? please help
ok hun i can tell you this from experience. DO NOT fool around with this guy anymore unless he is willing to have an actual relationship with you. especially if you think your in love with him cause youll just get hurt in the long run.
i did the same thing with a guy i was friends with and it lasted a few years, he kept going out with other girls and kept telling me he had feelings for me but didnt want to ruin our friendship by having a relationship so we were just "friends with benefits". he kept telling me that one day we will be together and now we dont talk. i lost the best friend ive ever had.
i dont think you should risk losing this guy all together if you really love him. Just tell him that unless he wants a relationship with you, you cant being doing this with him cause it hurts you too much. if he really has feelings for you then he will give you the relationship you want. if he doesnt then hes not even worth your energy.
hope i helped :)
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