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ok.......theres this guy that i've been friends with benifits for a while. i've done things with him twice. the first time he said he used me but the secind time he dint bcuz he was thinkin bout askin me out. then a couple weeks later he goes out with one of my friends but still says he likes me. they broke up a couple days ago and now he wants to get together(hint hint). i like him alot, so much that i feel like im in love with him...lol. but what should i do? should i keep messin around with him or tell him that if were not gunna have a relationship then im not gunna be friends with benifits???? please help
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Its another classic game of which door to go through. The door of friends with benefits, the door of relationship, and the door of not being friends. I would definitely not go through the not being friends door, bc what is the harm in being friends with the guy? Now for the other two you got to decide what you want. Do you really want to be with him all the time and be his girlfriend, or would you rather just be his friend and mess around with him? If I was a girl, I'd choose mess around bc sometimes its better than a full fledged relationship.
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I think that this guy is keeping you on the side lines for a quick make out session. If you are sure he really likes you, go for it, but in my eyes, it looks as if this guy is keeping you on a string so that you will be available anytime he feels horny.
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If he said that he used you the 1st time chances are thats what he's doin now! Hes a boy... and boys want to have "fun", but if you just let him use you in that way it will only make you feel and look bad. If you keep it going not only will you still be falling for him, he might go off to his friends and tell them "hay i can get so-n-so ne time i want" and then later on ppl could find out and try it out to! It might sound like fun in short term... but in the long run... its not a smart idea!
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if he was usin u the first time and he told u that kinda makes me think like he is still usin u sorrie! i think u should jus wait awhile and not do anything with him to see if he really likes u or not if he does then it won't matter that u guys aren't makin out
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well i think that he mayy be using yooh nd if yooh tell him that no more frineds wihth benefits thats wen yoohll really see if is tru or .not so good luck i hoope i helped *megan
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yea i think you should just tell him that if you two aren't gonna have a relationship then you could just be friends but not with benifits cuz then he will think that he can do wat ever he wants with you and be like his "hoe" or "bitch" or something.... ive been there... trust me im not trying to be mean or anything but if you guys do end up dating then you ask him if he really likes you or if he just wants to do stuff with you...
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ok hun i can tell you this from experience. DO NOT fool around with this guy anymore unless he is willing to have an actual relationship with you. especially if you think your in love with him cause youll just get hurt in the long run.
i did the same thing with a guy i was friends with and it lasted a few years, he kept going out with other girls and kept telling me he had feelings for me but didnt want to ruin our friendship by having a relationship so we were just "friends with benefits". he kept telling me that one day we will be together and now we dont talk. i lost the best friend ive ever had.
i dont think you should risk losing this guy all together if you really love him. Just tell him that unless he wants a relationship with you, you cant being doing this with him cause it hurts you too much. if he really has feelings for you then he will give you the relationship you want. if he doesnt then hes not even worth your energy.
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Hey..it depends what you want. If you feel you want a relationship..then dont settle for anything else! But if your happy with just friends with benefits..then stay with that. This guy seems like he switches a lot with girls..(just what i see but i could be wrong) just be careful and dont get hurt. You should sit down and think about what you want..whether its a relationship or friends with benefits. If your comfortable with FWB then go for it..but if you want a relationship..go after it and dont back down. Dont let anyone use u hun! :) Hope I helped-melissa-
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being 'friends with benefits' always leads to someone getting hurt. ppl myte think thats all it is, is fun, but in reality one person myte fall for the other, but the other myte not feel the same way. so it might be best if you do go for the relationship, and see how it would work between the two of you... or if you decide to stay friends then dont be friends with benefits. i hope i helped
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okay i think that with your case you need to lay the law down with him... ask him wahts goin on ask him if your ever goin to have a relationship and no more kissy kissy no more touchy touch no more nuttin... see how he feels about that if he gets madd then he just likes to get with you if he dates you go like a week before you start doing things again you just have to see what the results are with all those it all depends...
hope i helped if you need anymore help just drop one in my box! tell me what happens so i can give ya some more advice!
-Kati
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