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13/f
I have 2 "bffs". They are sorta mean to me, but not all the time. I tried to talk to them before but they call me the mean one, which they have no right to do cuz I am sooooooo nice to them. I don't really wanna be friends with them anymore. I have some really close friends who are guys and i want to be really good friends with them. They are so much nicer to me.How do i get rid of my old bffs without being mean? And how do I become bffs with guys without looking like an idiot?? THANKS
R☺chee

if you really dont want to come straight out and say "hey, i dont wanna be your friend anymore" or anything like that, just kind of "drift", if you know what i mean. start hanging out with other people, and whenever your old 'friends' ask to hangout, just tell them your busy, or you cant, or something. then it wont be like you guys are enemies, you just wont be realrealreal close anymore. youll be more like aquantances. however you spell that. (:


hope i helped. (:
xoxo

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okay so i just got my braces off and i have a permanent retainer behind my like 5 bottom middle teeth and behing my two front teeth on the top. you can't see the retainers because theyre like inside my mouth, behind my teeth. do you think it's going to be a problem when i'm making out with someone. like do you think they'll feel it?

flat out no.
haha trust me.
i have those too.
i asked my boyfriend and everything.
he had no idea i had a perm retainer.
no worries.

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kay so like.. i really need some ideas on something to wear when im going on a date. like ive been on about 3 dates with this guy.. and like im running out of ideas on what to wear ahah. even though i have a ton of clothes im just like so confused. any ideas??

let me just tell you, no matter who you are going with, or where you are going, your guy will TOTALLY love it if you just wear a very simple shirt and jeans. if you have a classic rock band tee, that even better.

guys go CRAZY if you are just laid back.

hope i helped. (:

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I have a bad probelem. Ok. so I have been datting this boy for almost 9 months. And three days ago I have started talking to this new guy. he used to be really mean in school but now he is all sweet. and he told me that my hair is beautiful and he give's out a lot of complements. and he is so sweet and told me changed. and we talked on the phone last night tell 4:00 in the morning. and talked about people in our school who we would make out with. and I aksed him this girl and me and he said me. so.. I like this guy a lot but yet I love my boyfriend.I just kinda want a change beucase I have been with this kid for 9 months! and I dont know what to do. Im scared if me and the new guy go out and then he will dump me and I will miss my old boyfriend. I just really dont know what to do. Please help me !

Thankks a lot
xoxoxox
Fe-male 13

well, this may not be what you want to hear,
but TRUST ME. if you are even considering
dumping your "9 month guy", you should.

i was in a similair situtation,
and i didnt break up wit hmy boyfriend (for other reasons), and it just seemed to drag on and onnnn.

and your only 13.
so look at the bright side.
if you do take a chance
by following your heart,
and it DOESNT work out with the other guy,
you still have your whole life to live.

just do what you think is right.
what have you got to loose?
you havent even lived a 3rd
of your life yet. just try to have fun
dont stay in a relationship if it is forced
and uncomfortable. (:


i hope i helpeddd.

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okay, i've liked this guy since like the beggining of 6th grade. were in 9th grade now, so about 3 and a half years. we have gone out before and he told me i was the only girl he ever loved..but he has only gone out with one girl since we broke up. he knows i sitll love him b c i tell him all the time but like thursday? night he asked me if i would be mad if he got a girlfriend, i said no, because its his choice and not mine & even though he'll get a girlfriend, ill always love him he said alright. then i just bursted into tears. i have no iudea what to say. i love him with all myheart. what should ido

well i agree with everything the last girl said EXCEPT for the last part about meant to be.

i beleive that some things are meant to be, but they dont just happen with out you try. you can just be like, "well i believe in god and he wont elt me go poor" and sit on your butt. cause if you do, YOU WILL GO POOR! you understand where im gonig wit hthis?? you have to work for it.

let him know how you feel. calll him one night and, very casually, tell him how you feel.

i was going through the same thing but i said something, and found out we were both feeling the same thing! he's my everything.

you should really just speak up! GOOD LUCK!



xoxo(:

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Ok so i got a boyfriend yesterday and 5 of my friends like him and before i said yes i talked to them the 4 were all fine but cut but they toild me to do whats right and they were so nice then my bestfriend ii asked her and i told her if you dont want me to il just so no but she was so happy and she was like YEH go for it but she told that she had gotten over him ok and she was like go for it yay then when i said yes she started crying now shes mad at me and i dont want to dump him what should i do =[=[ ??

i only have one thing to say.
chicks before dicks.
guys can come and go but do you really want t olose a bestie over a stupid boy.
if you really like him that much,
tell him WHY you cant go out with him anymore.
say soemthing like "my best friend really has a problem with us going out and i dont want to lose
her. im really sorry." im sure he'll understand.
but if he gets mad, then maybe he doesnt deserve you, you know?

hope i helped.
xoxo (:

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hey. i have liked this guy for a while..last year i liked him and everyone thought he liked me but i wrote him a note asking him if he did and he never wrote back & my friend would bother him about me ( which i didn't really like.) we're both shy & even though he is popular he is pretty quiet and is kinda known for not showing alot of emotion. this year, we still look at eachother and make eye contact alot and one of my best friends thinks he might still like me. me & the guy never really talked so i don't know what to do. how can i tell if he likes me? last year i thought he did but then some stuff happend and i kinda gave up..but i still like him and i need some advice on what i should. thankss ♥

well if youve liked him for so long, you are probably getting impatient. hahah i understand. but i wouldnt be so concerned RIGHT NOW with if he likes you or not. just start talking to him more in the halls or in class (if you have any classes together). then once you guys start talking more, maybe invite him to go hang out at the mall or go see a movie. if you arent comfortable going to the movie/mall with JUST him, invite a big group of you/his gal friends and your/his guy friends. that way theres kind of an insurance that there will be no akward moments. haha. but if he rejects you right off the bat, dont give up hope, he may just be too nervous or honestly busy. (:

then after all that if over and done with, you will probably have some idea about if he likes you or not. but if there are no DEAD givaways, then ask him. seriously, guys dont mind. but, if you, like e, dont have the courage to do that, check out his sight for some signs that he likes you. www.links2love.com (:





xoxo
(:
hope i helped.

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i have this friend(she really is a friend) whos likes this guy..he liked her at the begining of the year and asked her out alot!!....but she rejected him everytime b/c he did'nt like him then...now she likes him alot...and he likes her friend...he calls her alot and ims her to get info about her friend...everytime he does that she gets more and more jealous...i want him to go back to liking her...is there anything she can do??...she flirts with him and everything..but i don't know wat she can do??

well i feel terrible cause honestly, there is nothing she can do. you cant really FORCE him into liking her, cause it wouldnt be sincere. you know? well all i can say is just get her to go to partys and socials and stuff to meet new guys... or if she really doesnt want t ogive up on liking him, just let her keep flirting. he may like her you never know, he may just think she doesnt like him because she rejected him last time...

hope i helped
xoxo (:

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theres this guy and i have a class with him...he's really cool and stuff..i like him alot...he talks to me sometimes but most of the time it's about english hmrk...i flirt with him sometimes...but i don't think he knows..he's really quiet..

theres this girl named H and this is his childhood friend...there always talking..i know they don't like each other but i don't know wat to do...sometimes i wish she would just get out of that class...but she's really nice and has a bf...

i try to have this guy talk to me more but i don't know wat to do??...i flirt with him but i don't think that's enough...i want him to find out hiself that i like him...

i also think he's the independent kind of guy the one that does'nt have a gf....i don't know wat to do

plese help

14/f

okay well i have have a BEST FRIEND who is going through the same thing as you so i hope what i have to say can help you...


to put it plain and simple, you just need to be outgoing. not to the point of annoyance, but just enough to make him start thinking "i think she likes me, but im not quite sure" yeah?

try asking to hang out and stuff. but not like a date. make it so theres a couple of your friends and a couple of his friends and just see if he wants to "tag along". or come to a sport meet of his and just tell him he did a good job afterward. its a great way to start conversation.

i know these things sound chessey. but seriously, guys dont mind.

hope i helped.
xoxo

OH and also during class, if he keeps asking you things about hmwk and he doesnt sit right beside you (which he might idk) but if he doesnt then he might just be using that as an excuse to talk to you...

GOOD LUCK and just take a breath and talk to him. (:

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ok so im in 7th grade, and everyone has a boyfriend, it seems like, besides me. I try being outgoing and stuff, but it doesnt work. I already tried asking like 5 billion guys out and they all said no. I know im not supposed to change and stuff, but i dont want to end up 20 and only have 1 boyfriend in my whole life. Can you help me?

PS.. Me and my friend share this account, so not all posts are gonna bve from me

well, just bare in mind, this is going to be long.


heres some tips/tricks;

*dont be so concerned with getting a boyfriend. its great, yeah, but also brings on a lot of stress and pressure.

*dont change yourself to get a guy. if a guy is meant for you, then you wont need to chase him. he'll come to you.

*you're only in 7th gradetake a second to ask yourself, "what relationship last through middle school, through high school, through college, and they live happily ever after". MAYBE one in 3 billion. but only maybe.

*dont ask the guys out. i know people will tell you "fight for what you want!". but honestly, guys love a challenge. that turns them on about a girl. im not saying play hard to get. dont be IMPOSSIBLE. just flirt with him a lot. be sweet. but also follow the next tip.

*guys love a mysterious girl.


if there happens to be a guy you have your eyes on, keep these thing in mine;
*dont always answer his phone calls.
*dont tell him your deepest secrets.
*dont ever atempt a real conversation
while he's with his friends. you'll get
slammed. trust me. thats how guys are
*dont get mushy with him in front of his
friends either.
*phone calls should be no longer that 30
minutes. 15 minutes is even better.
*dont except a quikie date
*a quickie date is a date that is last
minute. they decide to ask you because
they have nothing else to do. make him
give you a couple days notice.

i think this message has been way past long enough. if you need anything else, please ask. or if you want me to explain something.

if its private you can always click the link on the page to email us.


xoxo

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I hang out with this guy a lot, like we go to each other's houses and we always cuddle and kiss and he makes me feel so happy when I'm with him. He also hugs me whenever he sees me in the hall at school.. and I really like him.

BUT he is a very flirtatious person and has lots of friends who are girls and flirts with them at school.

Do you think that he genuinely likes me or is he just using me and thinks of me as 'just another girl'?

it sounds like he truely cares about you. ask him to go to the movies or out to eat or something. if he says yes or at least wants to, that shows something is deffinatly clicking in this relationship.

xoxo

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theres this guy i like.. and im kind of a shy person, but i act differently outside of school. or unless im good friends with you. im outgoing and junk, but only to people im comfortable with and good friends with. how do i become more outgoing? or should i just accept the way i am? or.. i dunno. cause theres this guy i like whos pretty popular, and im not a loser not popular either..... soo yeah. and alot of times im kinda shy to talk around him or may say something stupid. and sometimes i give him side glances in school.. maybe i shouldnt do that but hes so fun to look at! anyways, what can i do to get him to like me? or any guy, in general. hes pretty nice to me now, but i havent really had many full conversations with him or anything. i guess its also because im shy, and i want to go away from him but at the same time be around him. ackk and we both do sports.. like today i saw him at a bball match and i saw him and im like "omg!" but i didnt say hi or anything.. cause what if he found out i like him! arrg an sometimes i dunno what to talk about when theres nothing really going on. soo.. any suggestions to anything i said? thanksss!

this sound like me. aha

seriously just take a deep breathe and go talk to him. and if you are worried about him not liking you, well if he doesnt thats the end. there are sooo many other guys. you just gotta wait for the right one to come along.

the thing is you said you are comfortable around peole you know well. if thats the case, then just get to know this guy and then youll be more comfortable.

its funny this is exactly how i was with someone at my school, and now we are dating. :)

xo


p.s. dont force a relationship. just let it happen.

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Okay I like this guy and I think he might like me. Does anyone know what boys give as signs that they like you?

oh yes. here are some my bf used on me.

+talks to you in b/t classes
+teases you
+if he sits in front of you, he always turns half-way around in his desk... not all the way - its not ovious
+he evesdrops on your conversation
+he is constantly sending you IMs on aim
+he does stupid little things to impress you
+he notices little things about you that have changed ex-painted your nails
+tickles you like crazy

there are many more. let me know what they are. it is usually easy to tell if a guy is flirting.
:)


btw. hope its turns out well for ya.

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okay i broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago and to be honest, i didn't even miss him..he had hurt me really bad and i was just glad to be free. well, yesterday i went to his house to talk in person and i felt so happy..i felt like i loved him i had the most amazing time and i also felt guilty because i had been so mean to him after we broke up..but NOW i regret going over there because hes treating me like we're back together and i only feel like i love him when i'm with him and i like being single it bothers me to have him talking to me all the time! should i tell him to back off a bit? or would that hurt him too much? he loves me alot by the way.

so of course i don't know the complete story but, from what i can tell, he hurt you enough for you to relize you couldn't trust him (or somthing along those lines). if he just would have been loyal or w.e this wouldnt have happened. there are many other fish in the sea and i think, if anything, you should wait a while before you begin a new relationship with him.hope this helped. xo

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