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Hey. I love giving advice. I enjoying giving advice about the sexual things, I've been thinking about getting a degree to be a sexual education teach or, or a sex therapist. I my second best would be friendship[s] and relationship[s]. I am 21yrs old. I have a pit bull named Zip. I work at a middle school as a nutriton assistant. I have 4 god children, 1 boy, 3 girls.
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Alriiiight. So I'm fifteen and my ex is sixteen but I was fourteen while I dated him. Since we broke up (he dumped me) I've left him alone, been a good girl, ya know, didn't cause drama. But he's telling everyone I gave him a BJ, which... yeah I did. I really regret it cause Jesus I was fourteen, but while we were dating I let him walk all over me... I was definitely whipped. He made me feel so guilty saying I should do it if I loved him and stuff like that... I know I know, please don't tell me it was a mistake because you'll only be telling me what I already know. And you wouldn't understand how it felt unless you were in my place... and I got dumped four days later in a text message so I think I got my punishment. Anyway it was my understanding that something like that is supposed to stay inbetween you and your boy (thats what he promised me at least...) but yeah he told the entire baseball team, who told the football team, who told the basketball team... I don't know why only guys are hearing this... Well anyway my ex ALSO started telling people that we had sex which ISN'T true. He's saying digusting things too. Like "When I was on top I was scared I was gonna break her cause she's so tiny." and "She let me do whatever I wanted, I bet I coulda stuck it up the a$$ if I wanted to." And now all the guys think it's real funny to come up to me and put their finger up my butt. Ha-ha, right? It's been two months and these rumors HAVEN'T faded... I even went away for camp for a week and when I came back WORSE things were being said. I don't know what to do. Our school is so small... and my repuatation before this has been "goody goody two shoes" now people are looking at me differently and guys have been saying all these gross things to me... I told my ex that I don't deserve any of this because I never did anything to hurt him... Everytime I tell him about this he says he's telling people he was lying... but he's not. He just doesn't care he's being an ass... he doesn't care but I do. How can I just make this all go away? I have super supportive friends but I can't handle this anymore.
I had things said about me when I was your age before I even knew what sex was. But just look past it, that is what boys do they run there mouth they like to be the "big guy" around..it's like a compation on or something with them. Just look past it, but sometimes things like these can get out of hand, if you feel that it is, you need to go to a teacher or something to stop the sexul herasment, don't worry about what people are going to say, your safty is more important then being popular.
Your not going to be able to "make it go away" just act like it doesn't bother you and go on threw the day. That's what I had to do. I have become a better person for not listening to those kids of things. In time it will stop, another girl will get involved with him, and she then will be the talk of the school.
If you ever get your self in another relationship like that, get out, or don't stup to that level. Love is a strong word, she someone say "you'll do it if you love me" your response needs to be, "if you love me you want care that i want". I've been there i've done this sweetie.
If you need any other advice or would like to further talk about what I have wrote you, you are more then welcome to msg me on here! :)
take care.
my boyfriend just recently moved to houston. i live in virginia. we have been dating for 2 years and are both in 10th grade. the thing is, i really want to visit him so badly but my parents wont let me. i want to know if i can buy a plane ticket and secretly go and visit him? can 16 year olds buy plane tickets? also, i want to move out to houston with him when i turn 18. i dont have alot of money though so i dont know if going to an out of state college is part of my options. but maybe if i live with him and his mom it wont be considered out of state? i just want to do whatever i can to be with him. can someone give me any tips of reassurance? i really need help with this
I was in the same shoes when I was 16 also. But my mother got me a ticket to go visit the boy i was seeing, but he ended up breaking up with me the next day, so my mother wasted her money. So i would advise you to wait about a month or so before you decide to do ANYTHING. Some people can deal with long distance relationships and there are others that can't. Your young, don't tie your self down right now like that, but also don't give up if you truly think in your hear things will work. And moving out there to live with him and his mom, might not work out either. I know when i stayed with my present boyfriend at his moms house, it was HELL for me at times. It's better for it to just be you and him. But like i said wait a while before you spend all kinds of money to go out there to him.
ok so im a bisexual female (18) and i've only had one girlfriend before my current one. I love her so much and we havent done anything sexual yet we are taking our time. I was wondering where i can go for free information on how to pleasure her. I have to keep up with her boyfriend and i feel a little insecure about it. please help me out
There are plenty of web sites you can go to. Just go into Google and type in pleasuring a woman or something around that line. Also your a woman you know what gets you going and what doesn't, try some of the things you like on her and see if she enjoys them too. And i wouldn't be so insecure and thinking you need to keep up with her boyfriend, you have something TOTALLY different then what her boyfriend had, and also you know what you like and most girls like that same thing, you get what I'm saying? Also, just to throw something out there, have you talked to her about a 3some, that might help with your "keeping up" with the boyfriend feeling. that gives you all 3 a chance to see how each other are and see what he does to her that you can learn how to do better. hehe. good luck!
I know this sounds random but I have been thinking about sleeping with My boyfriend and he would be My first.
The thing is he has told Me he is also a virgin, but for some reason I can't quite believe him, I trust him about everything else but I just can't get My head around that he is a virgin, because he isn't the type of boy who appears to be and his mates are always going on about who they have recently slept with.
I really don't know what to believe.
Secondly if I was to sleep with him and he was a virgin, would he know what he was doing because I personally don't have a clue, I'm shy and easily embarrassed. I've been in a relationship with him for a while but still don't feel I know him that well.
Female - 17
If you don't believe him and feel like you don't know him that well I would not lose my v-card to him. Also, if he is telling the truth about being a virgin then there is going to be an awkward moment when yall do start having intercourse. Sex for the first time is scary sometimes painful, so make sure you are having it with someone how is going to consider your feelings and do his best to make sure he is not hurting you to bad (if it does start hurting). But if you in any way second guess ANYTHING I would say not to have sex with him right now.
So, my best friend forever is a little opinionated, close minded, and loud. Picture Paris from Gilmore Girls, for example. She's a lot like that but a little more feisty, if you will.
My boyfriend is opinionated about peoples opinions. He made her cry today by bringing up a past relationship problem.
We were hanging out today, the three of us, and she's really trying to be his friend. She even gave him one of her birthday cupcakes! But she's probably given up by now.
He almost didn't kiss me goodbye after I walked him home.
I just feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place here.
he's my first real boyfriend, and we haven't fought so far--its been a month and a half.
Any ideas? :/
I think when it comes to relationships I'm a little old fashion. So first off, you shouldn't have walked him home!!??
But its hard when your in a relationship & have best friends [not saying don't have a BFF or BF]
You say its your first real boyfriend?
well look at it like this, if you hang with your friend all the time he is going to get jealous your not around with him, just like if you chill with him all the time she is going to get jealous yall aren't hanging out....
Talk to him about how he acts toward your friend, see if you can get to the "real" issue, like maybe she said or did something he didn't like a while back and hasn't gotten over it, if you 3 are always hanging out they could cause problems and conflict between everyone. its really hard to have to chose. you didn't state your age, but just think a head, is he going to be there for the rest of your life? or is your friend going to be there?
just give it time and see how everything goes, it may surprise you and they become good friends and every is happy, or they comments and will keep coming & u will lose both....just speak to him & take your BFF opinions, they are your BFFs for a reason right?! =)
what are ways to find out if someone likes you?
There really aren't certain ways you can find out if someone likes you, cuz you have some people that are really good at showing they have feelings for you, and then you have the ones that are ex termly shy and don't know how to show them. If there is someone you think might have a thing for you, just ask them, its a lot easier and you don't have to play the guessing game.
I dont want to break up with my girlfriend, because I dont want to be known as the jerk by all of her friends. To prevent this, how do I get my girlfriend to break up with me?
Well if you actually care about her you should work on the "jerk" part her friends are saying. And if you make her break up with you then you really will me known as the "jerk". Just start doing cute sweet things to her around her friends, that is if you want to keep her around. Being with someone who takes in what there friends say is really hard, but its all part of being in a relationship. Sit her down, talk to her, if she points out what they think is the "jerk" part and she doesn't see it, then just work on that around her friends. But like i said, if you truly want to keep her around do that, if you don't want a relationship with her anymore, then break it off in a nice way.
I have a crush on this girl in school, but I no that she doesn't feel the same way about me(she has a boyfriend already). How do I get her to love me instead of him?
I agree with Trauma and also look at it like this, if you just so happen to get her to "fall" for you, then obviously it want be hard for another guy to come around and sweep her off her feet. Just well i guess find another girl. If your her friend then just be there for her, girls need that more then just a boyfriend. But don't be the "jerk" type and take her away from someone who she might actually have feelings for.
I'm 13(m) and I have a crush on a girl in school. I have been trying to give her signs and I have been flirting with her, but she never seems to notice. How do I get her to notice?
I am a very blunt person, you should just tell her. Get her a nice flower or something and let her know what you think about her and that you have a crush on her and see where it goes from there. If your to shy to tell her face to face, come up with a cute letter or something but still stick with the little flower idea, it will show her you are true about actually liken here. So run with that. =)!
Hey- I really love my girlfriend and she loves me too and we haven't seen each other lately- but that's not the problem- I want to kiss her (just a kiss on the lips) but I'm not sure how to come across it... Is there something I can say to hint that I want to kiss her? please help
P.S. we are meeting tomorrow! I need advice soon!
just kind of do that cute movie thing with your hand on her face thing an pull her towards you and give her a kiss. if you love her it shouldn't be that big of a deal. plus that way you can make it a lil romantic. or if you don't wanna do the hang thing. just hold her close to you and give her a kiss.
hope i helped good luck hun!
I havent had a boyfriend for like 3 months but it seems likes it been forever. I want a boyfriend bad. Is that a bad thing?
no it isn't. but don't stress over wanting one. just let life takes it's course. i get upset and cranky if i don't have a boyfriend with in a week. being single is a good thing sometimes it gives you time to realize who you are and what want from the next guy your with. so just chill out and have fun being single right now. cuz most likely when you get with someone your going to wish you where single.
Oso there was this guy I used to like. He does'nt like me now. I was getting emails on how to win guys over and it never worked with him. It's ALMOST final he will never like me like that. Next year is another year with new guys. Should I delete all the emails and pursue someone else without help, read all the emails and pursue an new guy, delete all the emails and pursue the old guy, or read all the emails and go after him still? Please help me this is soo stressful for me
screw the emails. be your self. don't try and be what the emails say. be your self around all the guys. don't try. they will come to you. the harder you try the harder it will be to get him. or any other guy. just got with the flow of things. don't stress your self out over guys. its not worth it.
hey im 14/f and my bf is 19/f i dont have a problem with it but i just wondered what do other people think? Well that isnt really my problem. The thing is i havent actually met him. When we meet we are gonna sleep together, he is gonna come such a long way to come see me and im not sure if im gonna do it because i want to or because i feel like i have to because hes gonna come all this way, i dunno the next time ill have a chance, but i do want to, I love him, What do i do? I really like this guy. What do you think about my situation, and what should i do?
HOLD UP LIL ONE!!! you are 14 years old. he is 19 (so he says) 9 tims outta 10 you meet him on my space.
don't even do this. one you don't love him you never really meet him. there is no way sweetie. i'm worried about this one.
how long have you "talked" to his guy? not that long.
what are you going to do when he comes down you guys have sex and then you get pregnant is he going to be around...NO HE IS NOT!
think before you do this. wait let me change that..DON'T DO THIS.
how about this. ask your mother what she thinks about this. if you can't ask her or talk to her about it. then it's wrong!! trust me
Me and this guy have been seriously talking latley. We hang out, go to the movies, and flirt a ton. The thing is i am 17 and he is 32, and people seem to have a problem with that. We havent done ANYTHING that can get any of us in trouble, so whats the big deal? Besides, i will be 18 in 2 months.
ok he may not be tha same age as your dad. but that could seriously be like your dad. it's just a lil werid. i really don't wanna be judgmental on you. but i totally don't think you should be doing this...sweetie ask your self this. why is he with a girl that is a billion years younger then him. something just doesn't seem right. i'm 18 and i think 25 is to old. just be careful and don't have any sexual thing with him cuz that might be what he is after. i could be wrong. but if you stay with him it'llbe like you haveing sex w/ Hugh Hefner. so think about this.
whats a player means? if you flirt a lot it means ur a player? cause my friends are calling me when they see me talking to the guys...
player. knows how to talk with people and can move from one person to the next. you flirting really ain't player materal.
you date a guy. two days later you got another one on your lesh....don't hate the player hate the game. ever herd of that. the game is how you sweet talk and get them in and wrapped around your finger. most girls really ain't players they will call you a slut before they call you a player
Well, Im a freshman and my boyfriends a senior. [Except were only 2 years apart]. He got a scholarship to go to away to college before we'd gotten together. So I knew that he'd be leaving when we started going out. [3 1/2 months ago] I love him very much, and Im going to hate to see him leave. He says that he might only stay one simester because he'll miss me too much... :/ but i dunnooo. anyway.. i was just wondering if you think I should break up with him now.. so i don't get more attached when he leaves, or wait until right before he leaves for college?
i would say now. or a lil between the time. cuz he is a senior he will be around other girls and there will be major temptations. TRUST ME. yeah it's hard to hear. but it's true. plus it's his freshman year at college away from his parents and able to do what he please. i don't know him personaly but he might end up partying and all that. so i think you should break it off to save both of yall the stress and cheating.
any tips how to talk with my crush?
be your self. don't play fack. talk about what your crush likes. ask em random nice questions. and flirt alil and if you want. say random things to em to hit ya got a crush!
me and my boyfriend broke up today because another boy blew a kiss at me and i laughed -- which he considered flirting i didnt do it on purpose so we broke up and today after school he told one of my friends he was just made and he wants to get back with me as all day at school he screamed and yelled at me and told me he didnt want to go on our class trip with me any more and we always fight and argue is it worth the troubles? should i get back with him or not? i love him but i dont think i can handle this anymore. Should i move on to see if theres better things or stay with the person i love that always hurts me? some one please help me!
babygirl move on. you need better. if he is going to flip over some guy blowing you a kiss then he aint worth it. he should know that your his and he should have taken that as a complament cuz someone else thinks you look good and should make him feel good that he has you. and if yall always argue then it isn't health yeah it's going to be hard to move on trust me been there done that. but you'll soon meet someone else. trust me arguing and stupid fights are just the start of it. cuz who knows how one of your fights could turn out. not trying to scare you but i'm just saying you really never know. you may love him but if he always hurts you then he truly doesn't love you. and love is a VERY strong word. so please becarefull how you use it. MOVE ON SWEETIE!
Me and my GF have been going out for alittle, like 3 weeks, and this is my first like real GF, I just wanted to know... how do i start a kiss?
sorry if i'm late on this.
but it'll just happen.
that's really the best i can think about giving you right now.
I feel so weird asking this but i have no idea how to make out like does it come naturally or what?....female
comes natural. i mean its a very nervsing thing at 1st. but i made out w/ my best friend(guy) one time just for him to help me learn. and now all the guys think i'm really good. lol. but just go for it don't be nervous.