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im a guy in high- school. And before you read this, im letting you know that this is a serious question.
I know you might think im weird, but me and my friends made a bet on the last NBA playoffs game. And i lost, and i bet against 3 of my guy friends. So i lost.
Now, they are making me do something....
Theres like this really hot girl in my class, shes a rich girl, spoiled, cheerleader, hot, big tits and ass, fake tan, you know how it is. Anyways, i dont even know her at all. Ive never even spoken to her, but i stare at her ass all the time.
Anyways, my friend that i lost the bet to is making me slap her in the face randomly in class when nobody is looking. Im being serious. My friend doesnt like her , from some other reason, and he wants me to slap her. Not punch her in the face or kick her or anything, but just smack her like upside the head. Or he offered for me to grab her ass when nobody is looking. Hes making me do either one since i lost the best.
The thing is, even though it sounds messed up for a friend to make me do that, i kinda WANT to do it haha.
What should i do? (link)
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You should seriously try to explain to her what's going on. If she's cool with it, (you never know) then go for it:) tell me how it works out
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My freshman year in college I got pregnant and end up having an abortion. I don't really have any regrets about the abortion because I felt it was the right choice for me. When I told the guy about it he agreed with the abortion so there wasn't really any hesitation, but anyone, me and this guy were not dating and I chose not to ever have anything to do with him, such as cutting all ties and communication with this guy. Two years have passed and I'm old enough to realize that it was silly to not speak to him when I see him occasionally. I've also realized I need closure because we've never spoke about what happen and I feel like I just need to have a conversation with him about it. I don't hate the guy or anything, I see it as the past and to move on in the future. So recently we've been talking to each other but haven't gotten the chance to talk face to face. I feel like I'm stirring up my past, and I have these feelings for him but I'm telling myself I shouldn't! First off, he only texts me when he has the time or want me to come by late after hours and I just don't like that, especially the after 10pm text (booty call). So we're suppose to get together this weekend but I'm not sure if I should or not!?? Help!! Need advice! (link)
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Let him know you aren't the girl you used to be, and that you're not going to do the same things you used to. You should go, and have a good time, with your clothes ON. Tell me how it works out
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I'm talking to a guy who is a little bit older than me, and I am astonished. He and I live in totally different states, but I feel like we have a good connection. He's really playful and goofy and immature, just like me, and he always makes me laugh and has such a sweet, romantic side. I really think I'm beginning to like him a lot. He has told me he likes me a lot and whenever I get scared or insecure of screwing up he assures me to relax.
I just recently got my phone service cut off and a few days ago it got turned back on. We didn't talk for a couple days, and he has said he's been busy, but still texts me back. I took that as a sign to text him. But today he told me I don't understand how busy he is and I got pissy and he told me he doesn't appreciate my passive aggressiveness and if I can't handle him being busy, then he doesn't know what to say. I realize what I did wrong. I got upset for all the wrong reasons because he has a less laidback life than I do and I can't accept that he has other things besides me. I apologized but he never answered. I really feel like I screwed us up. I feel like I made him mad and he'll remember it and not want to talk. I just like him so much I don't know what to do with myself! He's a really amazing guy and it overwhelms me that I could get such a sweet sexy guy. I plan on sending him an apology later on before I go to bed, but now I just feel so upset because this all my fault. Any advice? (link)
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My advice would be to just text him and tell him your sorry, if that doesn't work you can call, and if all else fails go to him and tell him. Nothing like an old fashioned movie ending to get a guy back. Tell me how it works out
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I've been daring my boyfriend for almost 9 months. He's madly inlove with me and a few months ago pressured me into saying "I love you too". We say it daily but I know I don't mean it. The thing is I'm in high school and I feel like I shouldn't be tied down to one person. I just know we aren't right for each other but I DO like him. I Know he'll never break up with me. Atlases not any time soon. Our families are different, he is rude to me severly sometimes, he has no desire for planning for his future, nothing about us is the same. What do I say that sounds not so much like an excuse? (link)
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You make the breakup clean and easy, like peeling off a band-aid. You tell him that you just don't think you two are good for each other anymore, and that you have your future to think about. THis is not an excuse, it's a legit reason. Tell me how it works out!
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I've been dating this guy for close to a year and two months. Currently we are broke up because all we do is fight constantly over anything possible. I know in my mind, its 100% best to move on, we both know it, but we both can't. We love each other so much and we can't stand the thought of being with someone else.
He really isn't all that great of a boyfriend because he doesn't treat me the way he should. It literally is all about him, we do what he wants. He never does anything for me either, he doesn't try or anything to make me feel appreciated or nothing. He says if we get back together, he will try and make everything right again.. But I've heard all that before.
Our relationship use to be GREAT. Last summer was probably the best months of my life that I have ever had. He was amazing and our love couldn't have been stronger, but when school started back our relationship took a turn and now at this point in time, its hit rock bottom.
I want to let him go, but its so hard because we were close bestfriends for over a year before we got together. We were each others first partner. We were in love before we even got together. I don't know what happen to us.
If we were to end it, what if I never get happy and I'll be alone? Like what if I was making the wrong decision? I don't know if I could handle seeing him with someone else. I also want to know how soon after a break up, would you date somebody else?
Thanks. (link)
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If you do end it, you won't be alone for the rest of your life. I know it feels like it, but it just doesn't happen. You have your whole life ahead of you, and this guy isn't the only one out there. You aren't making the wrong decision to walk away from a bad relationship, when a relationship dies, sometimes the feelings from when it was alive still exist, but we just don't know how to put them away too. After a breakup, it's suitable to wait a week to let yourself get over it, any sooner and you will only want to compare the new lover to the old.
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Sorry this is long...hope you like novels :P
I was going out with her for 9 months but it was the slowest relationship ever! We enjoyed each other’s company but we were so shy. We hardly ever went on dates and never got very far, it was a bit pathetic really. By the time we got to the point where we could have had a normal, awesome relationship she’d lost interest and we broke up a couple of months ago. Of course we said “we’ll still be friends” but that’s always just the nicest way of saying “I want to break up with you”. Stupidly I took this to mean that we both just wanted a break (that’s how I felt anyway) so it was pretty heart wrenching when she got a new boyfriend about a month ago. I’ve spent the last 2 months trying to get over her, forget her etc but I can’t seem to do it. I spend every moment at home trying to convince myself that it’s over, it’s for the best and I don’t love her anymore etc but as soon as I see her again at school that all goes out the window. I’m always daydreaming about her coming back to me or about how I could have done things better and stuff and then I realize how pathetic it is that I’m still doing this after 2 months, snap out of it and get really angry with myself. Then 10 minutes later I’m doing it again, it’s tearing me apart and becomes a huge distraction (I’m meant to be doing an art assignment right now :P) I love her but I guess I have 2 options:
a) use advice from you guys to move on (realistic)or
b) use advice from you guys to get her back (desired)
Thanks soo much :)
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If the girl has a boyfriend then there is just no way right now. Try being the best friend you can be, but don't tell her you still like her now. When and if they break up, then you do the sweetest thing ever, the thing every girl dreams about. You show up at her house that night with flowers, and tell her that you love her, and you're sorry it took you this long to figure that out. That you need her and want her, and she doesn't have to make her mind up now, but you just needed to say it.
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in 6th and 7th grade this guy would follow me home and stand out side my house it turns out he goes to my school so i told the principle and she didn't do anything but she told me that he was bipolar and that he would eventually stop it kinda did but now when im walking my dog i always always see him and in the hallways he gives me this creepy smirk and watches me all the time what should i do i know she said it would stop but its been 3 darn years and its fudging scary (link)
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Confront him. IN SCHOOL NOT ALONE. Odds are if he hasn't done anything in 3 years, he won't, but talking to him about it creeping you out should put an end to the madness.
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Is it a sin to sleep naked with the one you love? (link)
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If you are married, no. If you aren't yes.
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Theres this one spoiled biznatch in my class who text all the time, and she looks lilke miss queen B when she is texting, and it bothers me.
What do i do (link)
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I'm not really sure what you're asking. Why does it bother you or what do you do. So i'll answer both. It probably bothers you because you're jealous. It's a natural feeling, but try understanding that she just might want to text? You don't do anything about it except ignore it like other people i'm sure do.
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I have a crush on two boys and can't decide which one I like the most.One does martial arts the other loves something else.They both do archery and so do I.Which should I love most?? (link)
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Think about which one you have more feelings for and know the best. The one that you don't fight with, and has never said anything bad to you, and lastly the one that you could actually see marrying. That's usually where i decide i want a boyfriend is if i could see, one day, marrying them
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well , hello im a female early teenager . So there's this boy name kyle, when i first met him i only thought he was cute but than things start tn change about two weeks ago . You guys might say this is childish but im so confused right now . So just last friday i went to a party and he was there and he was there so toward the end me the party people start to leave . So me and my friends start to talk to him and a group of his friends that was your real first conversation with me and him, but people came tn ruin the circle . So later i asked him to dance and he was like no i don't dance that's what his friend said but i could tell he wanted to .. fifteen minutes Later i left not because of him just because my mom was there ..... Soo today i seen him au school i walked right past him && nothing happened ... So this weekend there is suppose to another party and what am suppose to doo ... i really like him , he also does NOT know . (link)
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Dear HUGE CRUSH,
Well, there are a lot of things you can do. I know people say just ask him out, but your a girl, you shouldn't have to. I did my research for you, and found some things that should work!
1. DO NOT BRING A CAMERA OR IPOD TO A PARTY- an ipod says that you aren't open to a guy and you're bossy. A camera says you're not confident, if you must though, ask him to be in the pic.!
2. DON'T WEAR A MINISKIRT- it shows that you are insecure, instead, vow to approach him that night (without worrying if your butt is hanging out!)
3.Sit next to him!- you may not think he notices, but he does! a sweet smile his way gives guys the confidence to speak up.
hope this helps!
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I've recently reconnected with a guy I met at school who I have always had a thing for. We are both from the same city but are in different places for university. We have always stayed in touch and been friends but recently we have been talking everyday and although nothing has actually happened yet, it's pretty clear that it will do. We have arranged to meet up when we are both back in our hometown which will be in a week or so.
The problem is not only do we live really far away from each other during term time (our universities are about 6 hours apart) but at the end of June I am going to work in another country for nearly three months over the Summer.
I don't know whether it's sensible to get more attached and start a relationship with him if I'm going to leave and only be able to see him during breaks after that. I struggle with insecurities and homesickness as it is and I worry that being in a long distance relationship will exacerbate things. What do you think?
I'm 19 and he's 21. (link)
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Dear Long distance Relationship,
I've gone through a long distance relationship with a guy two cities away, and it didn't work out for more than a week, though, this was because i didn't feel he was making any effort. However, i see what kind of relationship it is. He is 21, he can drink and party, if you trust him enought to let him be in another country while you date, then i say date the guy because he seems amazing. And, if you don't i'd say it's a new country, meet new guys, and it will all work out :) I wouldn't get attached.
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Okay so my dad doesnt like my boyfriend I'm 16 and he's now 17. I've been dating and we have been together for almost 3years. The problem is my Mom put this restraining order against him and the restraining order is only for me and my two sisters.My boyfriend didnt do anything for the restraining order to be agianst him. I was 13 and he was 14 when we first met. Well recently my boyfriend got out of jail because of the restraining order and he wants to try talking to my dad, but I dont think thats a good idea. But I want to see what other people think. Would this be a good idea to meet and talk to my dad and possably see if we can be a couple with out sneaking around.If so where would he talk to my dad? Should I try talking to my dad about geting the restraing order off? How would I start off? (link)
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Dear Parental Problem,
Okay so there is a lot to adress here. Firstly, how was he in jail if he is only 17? Second, I don't quite understand why your mom put up a restraining order for no reason that, in my opinion is overreactive and a little psychotic. Talking to your dad seems like the best idea. I think it's better for him to talk to your dad instead of your mom, since she clearly doesn't like him, and are your parents divorced? This makes a reasonable difference in the matter. If they are, it could cause more dammage so i'd say no, but if they're not then i'd say yeah go to your dad and ask him first. If you and your dad are close, he will probably take the restraining order off, and here is how you would start.
"So, dad, i know mom doesn't like ____(bf's name), but i really do, and I'd really like it if we could date, without a restraining order over us."
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Alright, sooo I think I might be falling for my best friend. I don't even know it that's how I feel (I never really do) but that's where it seems to be going. The thing is, I promised myself I would try my hardest not to feel that way towards somebody until I'm out of high school (I'm 16, junior in high school). I've almost always had crushes on guys, pretty consistently since the fifth grade. The feelings have pretty much never been reciprocated (apart from two instances but I don't even count them) and it just adds too much unneeded stress and emotion to feel that way towards somebody. High school relationships are sort of pointless in my opinion. But anyways... another thing, we've been best friend for almost five years. I don't get why these feelings are just coming up now. Maybe it's because we've become closer friends lately, and it's just the closeness I'm feeling?? I don't know. And lastly... she's a girl. As am I. I've never had crush on a girl before (if that's even what this is), so I feel kind of weird. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against girls liking girls, I truly don't. I just never thought I would like a girl like that. And I don't know if her opinion on that matter is the same as mine, and I'm pretty sure her parents aren't. And, she has a boyfriend. I don't want to tell her and creep her out or make her feel uncomfortable, especially if my feelings aren't really what I think they are. I don't know. I'm just confused about a lot of things right now. Any kind of response to this would be much appreciated. Thank you (link)
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Dear Falling for my best friend,
So, i'm sort of homophobic, but i've come to realize it's just the way some people are,it's not gross, it's just them. So i do have some help!
the signs are as follows: you think of her 24/7 or you want to be physically close to her when she is around.
Since she isn't open to dating girls, you might want to weigh the fact that she could not feel the same way, and then see if it's worth keeping the friend.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost four months. He never ever pressures me, and even though he jokes about some things, he is very patient and understanding.
The farthest we have gone is kissing. Sometimes I sit in his lap, but we do cuddle and hold each other a lot. I really do like him, and I know he really likes me or else he wouldn't stick around through my insecurities and teasing. I think we really connect as a couple and it's really great to have a loving, open relationship after so many heartbreaks.
Anyway, I feel really ready to go a little bit further in our relationship. I'm waiting to have sex and all that, and I am grossed out over tongue kissing, so I definitely am skipping that. So now I really want to show him my breasts. He used to say he wanted to but I told him to wait and he did so without protest. I'm a little nervous about showing him but I feel really ready.
So what do you think about this? And how should I go about showing him without fully taking my bra off?
Thanks! :) (link)
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The idea is the for him to like you, not your boobs! So keep evreything under wraps or you'll seem mega-desperate! Besides, if you ever do breakup, boys will make up things to tell to his friends about when you showed him, even if they're not true, so his guy's won't like you either. So show him that you respect yourself, and he had better! Please tell me how this works out!
-missindependant-
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