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Is it worth embarking on a long distance relationship?
I've recently reconnected with a guy I met at school who I have always had a thing for. We are both from the same city but are in different places for university. We have always stayed in touch and been friends but recently we have been talking everyday and although nothing has actually happened yet, it's pretty clear that it will do. We have arranged to meet up when we are both back in our hometown which will be in a week or so.
The problem is not only do we live really far away from each other during term time (our universities are about 6 hours apart) but at the end of June I am going to work in another country for nearly three months over the Summer.
I don't know whether it's sensible to get more attached and start a relationship with him if I'm going to leave and only be able to see him during breaks after that. I struggle with insecurities and homesickness as it is and I worry that being in a long distance relationship will exacerbate things. What do you think?
I'm 19 and he's 21.
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Dear Long distance Relationship,
I've gone through a long distance relationship with a guy two cities away, and it didn't work out for more than a week, though, this was because i didn't feel he was making any effort. However, i see what kind of relationship it is. He is 21, he can drink and party, if you trust him enought to let him be in another country while you date, then i say date the guy because he seems amazing. And, if you don't i'd say it's a new country, meet new guys, and it will all work out :) I wouldn't get attached.
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Have you thought about just keep the relationship part in the back of your mind till the end of this summer. Spend the time learning a lot about each other making sure he is a guy you can really see your self being with.
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Long distant relationships are extremely hard to maintain and they take a lot of hard work and commitment.
I'm going to be honest with you, 6 hours apart is exhausting. You also mentioned you will be working in another country for 3 months. Now here is the tricky question: Can you handle the stress of being apart that long if you two were to have a relationship? Are you able to financially make arrangements to see him frequently?
Now before you answer that one, I would like to share something with you...
I was in a long distant relationship for 5 years, The travel wasn't 6 hours it was 3. At first everything seemed perfect the traveling wasn't much of a hassle as I tend to enjoy it. However, After awhile the traveling became draining and stressful...Money was tight and traveling prices were on the rise and our relationship began to take a toll.
This is all up too you but I think you pretty much answered your own question to whether it will really work out or not.
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