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My Parents hate my boyfriend I need help on what to do!!!!
Okay so my dad doesnt like my boyfriend I'm 16 and he's now 17. I've been dating and we have been together for almost 3years. The problem is my Mom put this restraining order against him and the restraining order is only for me and my two sisters.My boyfriend didnt do anything for the restraining order to be agianst him. I was 13 and he was 14 when we first met. Well recently my boyfriend got out of jail because of the restraining order and he wants to try talking to my dad, but I dont think thats a good idea. But I want to see what other people think. Would this be a good idea to meet and talk to my dad and possably see if we can be a couple with out sneaking around.If so where would he talk to my dad? Should I try talking to my dad about geting the restraing order off? How would I start off?
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Dear Parental Problem,
Okay so there is a lot to adress here. Firstly, how was he in jail if he is only 17? Second, I don't quite understand why your mom put up a restraining order for no reason that, in my opinion is overreactive and a little psychotic. Talking to your dad seems like the best idea. I think it's better for him to talk to your dad instead of your mom, since she clearly doesn't like him, and are your parents divorced? This makes a reasonable difference in the matter. If they are, it could cause more dammage so i'd say no, but if they're not then i'd say yeah go to your dad and ask him first. If you and your dad are close, he will probably take the restraining order off, and here is how you would start.
"So, dad, i know mom doesn't like ____(bf's name), but i really do, and I'd really like it if we could date, without a restraining order over us."
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It's a bad idea that probably ends with him in jail.
Contrary to Rahzie's experience, I know that severely overprotective helicopter parents can and have taken restraining orders out on guys for no other reason than "stay away from my little girl you worthless asshole" style prejudices. And going to jail for violating it isn't all that unimaginable when you're dealing with teenagers.
I don't know what else you can do about it. You're still a minor, I don't know that you could get the order lifted yourself. Talking to parents willing to take one out isn't likely to do much for you either.
Why were your sisters included? Is there some motivation behind the order besides overprotective parenting? I could see it going either way at this point, you ought to clarify that part of the story.
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Hun, no one is going to believe you if you tell us this guy did NOTHING and get a restraining order (not just for you, but for your sisters as well) and that he did NOTHING and went to jail.
That's just amazingly, ridiculously, unlikely. People will be able to advise you better if you give the full story - even if you don't like or agree with the full story.
A good idea would be for you to talk to your dad yourself honestly about your troubles and disagreements with your mother.
Your dad can't magically make the order the disappear, or give you and your boyfriend permission to ignore it.
If this boy is serious about behaving as a person who doesn't need a restraining order against him, then he needs to appeal directly to the courts, and convince them that the order is no longer necessary. Your dad has almost no influence in this issue at all.
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