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I feel ready to go further in this relationship. Advice?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost four months. He never ever pressures me, and even though he jokes about some things, he is very patient and understanding.
The farthest we have gone is kissing. Sometimes I sit in his lap, but we do cuddle and hold each other a lot. I really do like him, and I know he really likes me or else he wouldn't stick around through my insecurities and teasing. I think we really connect as a couple and it's really great to have a loving, open relationship after so many heartbreaks.
Anyway, I feel really ready to go a little bit further in our relationship. I'm waiting to have sex and all that, and I am grossed out over tongue kissing, so I definitely am skipping that. So now I really want to show him my breasts. He used to say he wanted to but I told him to wait and he did so without protest. I'm a little nervous about showing him but I feel really ready.
So what do you think about this? And how should I go about showing him without fully taking my bra off?
Thanks! :)
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The idea is the for him to like you, not your boobs! So keep evreything under wraps or you'll seem mega-desperate! Besides, if you ever do breakup, boys will make up things to tell to his friends about when you showed him, even if they're not true, so his guy's won't like you either. So show him that you respect yourself, and he had better! Please tell me how this works out!
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It sounds to me like you don't want to have sex yet.
If you don't want to have sex with him, then you really shouldn't show him your breasts in any way. All that is going to do is make him sexually excited and he's going to want to have an orgasm. He'll be frustrated if he can't have one and this might lead to some mixed messages to him. If a guy sees and feels a his girlfriend's breasts, he's naturally going to assume that sex is forthcoming.
Sex is an awkward thing to talk about with your boyfriend or girlfriend. However, if things are getting to the point where you're going to show him your breasts then it needs to be discussed.
If you want to show him your breasts but do NOT want to have sex, then you should tell him this.
Then, you'll have to be prepared to stop it if it goes too far.
You're really kind of playing with fire here, though. If I were you, I'd cool it with the intimate contact and focus more on having fun in other ways with him like the both of you going out with friends on group activities.
It may be that he's looking for a sexual relationship. If you're not prepared to give him that, then you need to tell him this right now so he won't have any false expectations out of where this relationship is headed.
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