about

I'm 16 years old. I'm in 11th grade. Most of my friends that I give advice to have done pretty well.. either they took my advice or I made them think about things they haven't thought about b4.
I'm good at answering questions about sex. not that I'm like a fein.. but I like to know about it so I can be safe, and now if you ask for advice you can be safe and informed too.
I'm also good with frienship issues.. or anything in that matter! I'll be straight with you and tell you what you need to do or what you should/shouldn't do if its that type of question. I won't hold back.
I'm also not going to judge you, if you're 13 and having sex.. HEY! that's your business! I'm just gonna make sure you know EVERYTHING ABOUT IT!! or if you cut or something going on with ur family or watever, I'm not gonna make you seem like you have a disease.
I hope you all can trust me and leave me one in my inbox and I'll hit you up with the best advice and information I can.
Love Always,
!~$*AMANDA*$~!

advice

y do girls stereotype guys so much? I mean, we may think about "stuff" some of the time, but girls always jus automatically assume thats wat guys r thinking about 24/7. And u also always assume that in a relationship, the guy is always wanting one thing and he will always make the first moves towards it. And another thing that bothers me is y girls are such feminist. ok, back then guys were thought to be superior to girls, but now days we r equal. however, lots of girls are always arguing how they have to go through so much pain, or how they have to endure so many more hardships. it really annoys me. And also, y is it always sexist if a guy does something or says something to a girl, but no one cares if a girl does or says something about a guy? i mean, a male teacher can favor guys and not pay much attention to girls, and automatically he is sexist and fired....but a female or male teacher can favor girls, and no one cares b/c no one thinks that is sexist except the guys who are on the short end of the stick. i jus want to know y.

i think alot of girls are how u explain them. i think we do indure more hardships and its a guy world!!! we have to have a period every month we have to carry the ababy around 9 months then go trhrough the pain of having it. but to be honest alot of girls make generalisations about guys bc they been through things. like the trust issue. a girl may not trust a guy ever again bc the last bf or w/e lost her trust and hurt her. or they think sex is on a guys mind 24/7 bc thats what she has come to learn about guys she knows.

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Well... last night I was at a football game with my best friends. We ran into one of their ex-boyfriends. She has been trying to set me up with him.. but I had never met him before that.
Him and I really hit it off. One of my best friends went to watch the game (his ex) so I walked around with my other friend.
The guy and I were first talking.. and then he gave me a hug and we were walking around with our arms around each other. My best friend left with some other girls to talk to someone.. and left me alone with this guy. While she was gone, he kissed me... Well.. we were kissing when she came back.. and she got mad. I went to find out why she was mad... she said i could do better than a guy like him.

Before I left the game.. I asked him if he wanted to go to our school's homecoming dance with me. He said yes to me.
During the car ride home.. my friend told me I shouldnt go with him because he is white trash. She probably knows him better than I do.. but I really like him. Should I listen to her and tell him I dont want to go to the dance. or go with him and get to know him better?

you know some things u need to find out for urself. maybe ur friend still likes him.. or maybe shes just looking out for you bc hes not all that greaet. but maybe hes grown up a bit in his actions that hes not who he used to be. but personally i think u might just have to find out for yourself what this guy is like.

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I have this boyfriend, whom I cheated on 3 times already. (He lives 14 hours away from me, he moved). I love him so much, but sometimes I just get lonely of not having him here and I go out and do stupid things. I love him to death and everytime I cheat on him I tell him. I hurt his feelings so much but he always takes me back. I don't know what to do... it's just sometimes, he doesn't even get mad when I tell him I cheat on him. (Or maybe he just acts like hes not mad, but he really is). I've been with him for almost a year, we BOTH love eachother so much.. I just don't know why I'm always cheating on him if I "love" him... help?

I'm always cheating on him if I "love" him... help?

y did u put love in quotations?? i have a big trust issue with guys bc of things ive been through with guys and what i seen my friends and moms go through. ususally its the guy cheating. but see i think if u truly love the person u wont do it. but i think ur right about that lonley thing. if u dont want to hurt him break up with him bc its not fair to him even though u tell him it happens. wats the point of a relationship where "love" in ur words isnt there? or even the lust?!!? ur hurting him and u see that! i dont get how u can still be with him. and plus u never see him. 14 hours!? long distance never works... and if it does usually they are able to see eachother and they both fgeel the same for one another. im not gonna call u anything bc u are cheating on him. but i am going to say this: if u kno ur hurting him why stay with him? even if he keeps taking u back... its not good for u or him! this guy must really love u to have taken u back. and if hes gonna take u back, are u going to hurt him again? and then tell him and he still take u back and its the same thing repeating itself? wat got me in ur responce was the word LOVE in quotations. i thought when i read that.. "she dont even THINK she loves him" love is not only a feeling its a decision. u choose to love. u have to make the decision to be faithful and LOVE that person. other wise its jus a FEELING that isnt fully there. and right now u havent made the decision to love him. u only feel it. bc if u made the decision to love him, u wouldnt do what u do. u made the decsiion NOT TO LOVE him.. but U FEEL IT.
Manda

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Are you a lesbian?

strictly dickly!!! LOL
IM STRAIGHT.

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i was at my friends house with a bunch of other friends and we got drunk. the whole night i was hanging all over the kid i liked ( who happens to be a good friend) and i refused to talk to anyone besides him. i tried to kiss him when i was drunk but he wouldnt kiss me. does that mean anything besides he only likes me as a friend?

i think it just means he didnt want to kiss u when u were drunk bc maybe he thought that that is the only reason why u were tryin to kiss him... cause u was drunk. he might like you so he might want u to be sober so he knows that u kno what u are doing.
Manda

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i have a bf and i really like him and we have been going out for about 9 monthes. but this past day i went over to friends house and she has 1 brother and he is really cute and i like him as well as my bf....so what im saying is what should i do should i break uo with my bf or stay with him!! HELP!!!

well i dont want to see you dump ur bf of 9 months and try to get this other guy when this other guy may not even like you. then u take the chance of ending up alone and wishing u had ur old bf back. so try to figure out if this other guy is really wat u want and if he likes you.. and if hes looking for a girlfriend.
Manda

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how do i get a girl friend

just be urself. u dont want to act like someone ur not and then make the person think ur that person and then it gets totally ruined!!! i think if u be urself and u find a girl that likes you for you then shes a keeper.
Manda

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Ok me and my boyfriend just broke up on Friday. then on Monday some guy i like asked me out, but i still like my ex-boyfriend what should i say to the guy that asked me out?

i think itd be wrong to say yes to this other guy bc u still like ur ex. ud be cheating him outta gettin the whole u. and u wouldnt want him to think ur using him as a rebound. i think u should wait a while untill u figure things out about ur ex and this new guy. and wait till ur sorta over ur ex.
amanda

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Me and My boyfriend have been going out for awhile but we haven't seen eachother sence we started going out because I had cheerleading and he had football..we talk on the phone all the time but I wanna do something together with him..should I just ask him one day on the phone to do something or wait till he asks me?

u can ask him first.. ask him to go to the movies or hang out with u at a park or someting.

Manda

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okay well theres this guy who has asked me out about 10 times and he wont stop asking me, and i keep saying no with excuses, how kan i tell him NO but in a nice way 2 get him2 go away? lol thanks.

i think u should just be like "dude i dont want a boyfriend right now. can u please stop asking me to go with you. we can be friends."
i think i would go off on him if he kept asking me. lol but thats me
Manda

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ok.. Ive been going out with this guy for a while and i just talked to his best friend and told me hes been cheating on this other girl with me.. I have heard her name b4 from his brother and i asked his best friend if that was the name and he said yeah, i really dont wanna lose him, but the bad part about it is i lost my virginity to him and he said he lost it to me, well his best friend told me out of the blue that he wasnt a virgin.. I don't know what to do, i actually fell for him and i know he is going to give me an excuse or make up a lie when i go and try to break up with him !! I dont know what to do!!!I will rate 5's for the effort!!!

wow that really sucks.. but here's wat im going to ask you.. do u trust this guy (ur bf)? and it cant be a yes bc u lost ur virginity to him. answer that to urself honestly.. and when u come to an answer then make up ur mind on whatu want to do. if u believe u trust this bf of urs ask him about what uve been hearing.. and then take wat his answer is wether its "its not true" or "yeah it is" and go from tehre. i cant tell u to break up with him i cant tell u to stay with him. u need to decide on ur own.. if he tells u its a lie, then u have to figure out if u can believe that and if ur strong enough to deal with ppl talking about him cheatin on you. to me.. if u wanna stay with him bc u love him and dont wanna loose him and u hear about him messin around on you u wouldnt be like some would call u "stupid, weak, a fool" bc 1st off ur not stupid bc u hear whats going on and u choose to stay by his side bc u love him. and 2nd off ur not weak bc most would leave the situation bc its too hard to deal with. ur more strong bc ur able to deal with the shit and do what YOU WANT TO DO and not what everyone is tellin u to do. and 3rd off ur not a fool. we all fall in love whether we want to admit it or not and love will make us all do crazy things. but one day.. when it comes.. u will jus have enough and will be able to take the risk and loose the one u love and not get hurt anymore. and u will NEVER kno if him cheatin on you is the truth or not.. u just have to decide if u can believe him or not. and if u choose to believe HIM then dont work urself up about everyone sayin shit. let them think what they want. ur the one dealing with it not them! i went through this.. so if u ever EVER need someone to talk to IM me on MSN or AIM or leave one in my inbox. softnsexy489

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What's a polite way to get off the phone with someone. I'm not annoyed with this person, in fact I'm completely in love with her, but I just don't want to turn into one of those 4 hour conversations every day kind of couples.

lo lwhat i do is say "hold on someone is on my other line" and then push like the flash button or the button that hangs up that wil llet u go to the other line and i click it again to the perosn im talking to and say "hey thats for my mom (or anyone!) i gotta go ill call ya later."
manda
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okay well last night me and a bunch of friends were at the mall and we were just hanging out and this kid i thank i kinda like was there we were hanging out and stuff and i guess you could say we were "flirting" and 3 of my friends came up to me at the mal and were like he likes you you should go out w/ him hes really pretty you should but i really dont know if he likes me or not and im not to sure if i want a boyfriend rite now im so confused

girl follow ur heart. if u dont want a bf right now keep it on a friends basis. then maybe u will have that turn into a bf/gf relationship. just cause ur friends are telling u u should doesnt mean u have to.
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MAnda

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See I was goin out w/ this guy for lyk 2 months then one day he broke up w/ me...but the thing is i don't kno if he really broke up w/ me or if it was his brother that i think likes me to (they r the same age...my bf/x bf was adopted) but idk if my bf did break up w/ me or not my friends said that in his profile it still says that he loves me n i kno that he doesn't forget to take things like that out of his profile...but idk wut am i suppose to do i dont want 2 call him bc it will b to awkward n he is like never on IM so idk n if he did break up w/ me i want 2 kno why but i just feel way to weird tlakin 2 him on the phone n askin him that...plz help me wut should i do????

girlie, i would call him lol. i mean u can just say "look im not really sure if we are together or not and i would like to know whats up. so that way i can leave it alone. if we are still together great, if not thats too bad but then ill kno." i think u should call him and say something like that to jus find out the answer. so u wont have to wonder anymore.
Manda

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whats a good way to ask a someone to hang out? especially when they are extremely unpredictable, and you dont know what they would say. also im very shy. oh, and you have asked them before to hang out, but just could never a good time. lol thanks

yeah id take kevin1986's advice.. just go for the kill! ill be prayin for ya!

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ok, my boyfriend dumped me. but i have no idia why. he told me that he just didnt want a girl friend.. but i know thats not the reason. ive herd that way to many times before. i cant stop thinking about it. his name is all over my binder in sharpie.. i dont no what to do. im lost. it seems like there are no guys on the earth but him. does anyone know any ways to get my mind off him, or get over him?

gosh. i feel so bad. i kinda feel that way about my bf, i dread the day we break up.. neways. i would say surround urself with good people. ur friends ect. do things to pass the time and start talking to other guys... or if u want to take some time b4 u do that then have fun. dont go into this big depression stage and cut everyone else out because of him. keep ur head up its gonna be tough but u can do it.
Hope i helped.
Manda

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ok heres the deal sorry if it's kinda longg..

well my boyfriend one day got into a fight and i was so like depressed nd shit that i cut myself and yeah but then we got the fight resolved, and like we went out for a week after skool ended and then he dumped me cuz he felt guilty for being my boyfriend and not being able to see me..and he went out with this grl nikki from his camp, then after that we got back together and then after like 2 weeks he dumped me again same reason diff. girl her name is lauren (also goes to his camp) then dumped lauren and went for another grl katilin who came to vist from maryland for a week and then dumped her and now were going out... notice the pattern and i think he does love me on some extent but he also has to be with other girls oh and b4 katilin i went to bahamas for a week and didnt have fone service so i didnt get 2 talk to him and my bff told me that while i was gone he hit on her and told her he loved her nd everything and also now wen were going out he still sometimes tells her that even though shes not interested and like he told me that during the yr. he has to dump me and go out with this gurl nicole to help her make her ex boyfriend jealouse cuz he cheated on her but she likes my boyfriend (whos name is charlie by the way)!! ?? help!!!!!!!!! is he just desparate?? lost intrest?? cheating?? does he really love me??? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! or

OK!!! 1st off:
this guy seems pretty lame..
2nd off: u dont need that from a guy..
3rd off: he knows that u'll always take him back.
hes dumped u then went with another girl then to you then back.. girl u need to end this for good. i dont think he really loves you. sry to say. but maybe he does. but u need to see what hes doing!! u shouldnt waste ur time. to me it seem like he thinks to himself "well i kno no matter what she's (you) gonna be there." i think u need to break it off. and quit taking him back....
hope i helped. :/
Manda

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ok its me!me and my boyfriend are really really strong we both love eachother very much! except theres a couple other guyz that i think are major hot there are 3 other ones... brent, karl, and jake.. they are totally hot!! and i had a dream about jake.. me and karl are like totally real good friends and brent and me are good friends 2 .. and they all think im hot 2!! but i dont kno what to do cuz ive broken up with brooks once and we just got back together the next day cuz i was dying without him!i really like jake and karl the most but idk what to do!! HELP ME PLEZE

ok now i cant give u jus a YES or NO or DO THIS answer... u have to think if ur really ready to be with your boyfriend and handle the temptations that come your way. if u really love your boyfriend u'd be able to handle the fact that these three other guys are hot but in ur eyes ur boyfriend tops it all.
Hope I helped... Let me know what happens.
!~$*Manda*$~!

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ok i have a friend who lives across the country. well he keeps tellin me he likes me and today hes like, wut if i called my g/f up and broke up with her and asked u out? well long distance relationships dont do anything for me. anyways he keeps askin me out(which is really dumb) and stuff like that. then he was saying i love u and when he was getting off he said i love you like a sis. i dont get it! he wants to go out with me but loves me like a sister! i dont really care about relationships, im only 13 and sos he but i mean come on. wut should i say to him or do to just make him realize wut hes saying. we have been friends ever since we were born and i dont want to ever lose him as a friend and i do like him he is just driving me insane. will someone pls help?

say to him what u told us here... that long distance relationships do nothing for you and that u'd rather just be friends... hopefully he unbderstands.. u cant lead him on to think u really want to be with him.. u have to let him know that ur 13! and that ur not ready to be that serious with a guy as to say having a long term relationship.. say u jus want to stay friends and not loose what u guys have as friends and keep it as that.
Hope it helped.
!~$*Manda*$~!

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how long should i wait b4 i tell a girl how i feel about her after she breaks up with someone she really loved.the only reason they broke up was because he was moving to another state. thanx
dan

dan,
im not sure when to tell u when the time will be safe to tell this girl how u feel.. but id rather u go for it instead of holding back and live in what could've happened. (ill tell u its not the grratest feeling) tell her when it feels right in your heart.
Hope I helped.
Manda

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