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Hi There,

I am a English male of Part Jewish non orthodox & Part COE (Church Of England) Blood, and am in love with a Muslim girl from Saudi Arabia. Even thou she isn't in an arranged marriage & her parents have given their blessing to a marriage of her choice providing the groom is an Arab or Muslim, I understand that the only way I would be allowed to Marry this girl is either me turning to Islam or by Mahr, as I am non religous I am very confused on what to do. I am deeply in love with this girl & want to provide her with the love she deserves.

Any advice you can give would be surley appreactied.

JR

if you really love her then you would have no problem converting for her.

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there is this one girl danielle i cant stop thinking about we used to be friends and went out but we broke up then we stoped hanging out for a while but then some guy hit her and i relized how much i still liked her so i went and beat him up pretty bad (concussion hospital) but that led to some consequences like got arrested suspended broken knuckle suspension from school lawsuit but i liked her in such i way i didnt care what happened and then we were real close for a while but one day she stoped talking to me and ignored me pretty much and i thought i was over her but then the other night i had a dream about her that made me relize i still had feelings for her i dont know what i should do i cant stop thinking about her
can some one please help me
14/m

call her up and talk to her about it. Also tell her how you feel about her and make sure she understands how much you care for her. If she doesn't want to go out with you, then ask her if ya'll can be friends. if ya'll are friends again she may grow to like you as more than that in time.

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What do people mean when they say "opposites attract"? Is this statement true?

i dont' think it is true. if your polar oppostites with someone then ya'll will never get along. However, if ya'll like the exact same things and have the same interests.. then that gets boring. It needs to be somewhere in between.

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hey i really like this one guy and when it comes to talking to him and hugging him, i turn red and i get nervous. he asked me last week online who i like and i said him and he said " like me enough to kiss me?" and i said yeah. and he has been bugging me about it in school ever since. i am too scared to because i dont know if he likes me back. his best friend is saying he has mixed feelings for me. i really want to kiss him, but i always back out. is there anyway i can with out backing out?

Thanks,
Steph

i had the same problem. But i liked the guy a lot and just gave in. You might as well just jump in and do it and then after that you should be able to figure out wether or not he likes you.

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ok im 13/f and theres this guy that i really like we'll call him bob. i think he knows that i like him but im not sure. i love hugging ppl and when i hug most guys to me it seems like im hugging an older brother. but when i hug bob he naturally puts his arms around my waist. he compliments me about stupid stuff sometimes but..i dont know!!please help! thanks in advance!!

he obviously likes you. If he's gonna put his arms around your waist when you hug... then he definitely likes you. Tell him that you like him and see where it all goes from there.

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so my guy asked me out on MYSPACE...
and now we dont even see eachother..
my ? is how do i ask him to hang out.
FAST PLEASE
i rate

just straight up tell him that you want to hang out with him. I suggest inviting a bunch of your friends to the mall and then tell him about it and ask him to bring his friends. That way he may be more comfortable about the whole thing.

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My boyfriends staying the night tonight, and we're exchanging Christmas gifts, I'm extremely scared, because what if I don't like something he gets me? How am I supposed to react? Thanks. ♥

if you don't like it then just act like you do so you don't hurt his feelings. At least he thought of you and got you something... just be thankful for that if you don't like the gift because some guys don't remember to do stuff like that for their girlfriends



well.. if your a horrible liar then that kinda sux. Just try to imagine that you got something else if you don't like what he gets you. And if he feels bad then just tell him that its the thought that counts and your thankful for him and you don't need a gift to feel that and stuff like that. I think he'll get over it.

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i like a kid at my school he's really awesome..we're best friends so we hang out all the time...i love being friends with him but i would realy like to be more..all my friends are telling me he likes me..even people who aren't my friends..teachers at our school and even random people think we are going out..but the problem is..he has a girlfriend...i am pretty sure he likes me and he told his friends he likes me but he won't break up with his girlfriend for me...i'm not exactly sure what i'm asking...i guess i'm not sure if i should tell him i like him or not...i know he won't break up with is girlfriend..but he told his friend that if they do break up he's going to ask me out...i like him a lot.and his girlfriend is getting mad at him because me and him hang out so much..him and his girlfriend have also been on and off a lot so i don't think they'll last very long..sorry this is really long..i don't want to tell him and then ruin are friendship but i'm afraid if i don't tell him then if he breaks up with his girlfriend he won't ask me out...i'm so confused...please help

For now, don't tell him. Just be friends with him. If he does break up with his girlfriend, then i would tell him how you feel. If his girlfriend is getting mad at him for hanging out with you, then he does like you and she knows it. But, like i said, for now just be friends with him and have fun.

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what do i do if i really like this guy that might like me but really likes this other girl??

tell him that you like him and talk to him about how he feels about you. And ask if he likes the other girl more than you.

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13/f/oh ok so i am going to have a date with my boy friend and i dont know how to signal that he should make a move i feel like i am makeing all the moves and i know hes comfortable he doesnt seem nervous and i like him so much and i dont know what to do we are watching a movie some time this week at my house thanxs

just start feeling him up during the movie and get real close to him and if he can't take that hint, then he's stupid.

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ok i really need help ok theres this guy that my friend talk to saying that i like him and she said that he said that he likes me two but than i see him flirting with my friend that talk to him and he flirts with other people and i even hinted that i like him and shit and dont get wrong he flirts with me two but i always feel like hes giving me mixed signals and i need help pleaze im lost

he does like you and he probably is flirting with other girls like your friend to make you jealous, that's a guys way of finding out if he l;ikes the girl and if she likes him. he's just playing the field in case you don'yt like him that way he has back up.

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My boyfriend who I truly love just broke up with me. It was because I told this one guy I was going to break up with my boyfriend but soon I realized how much I loved my boyfriend. I apolozied so many times but he said he doesnt believe me. He still loves me. My question is how can I get him back? I love him. Dont say "Move On" because I am not giving up hope plus my school is really small and only has 50 people I already dated 3 guys and dont want to look slutty moving on so fast plus I love my ex. I will rate high for good advice
!Lilcutie1212!

show him how much you love him. And tell him all the time. Talk to him about why he doesn't believe you and keep trying. Eventually he should come to realize how much you care about him. if not, then you have to move on... not neccessarily get another boyfriend but just give him his space if he won't listen to you and try to be his friend.

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Ok, skip the whole. "oh my god, you are so stupid for breaking his heart" stuff. I just need help, I know what I did was wrong.

Ok, first off. I'm trying to get my ex back. I dumped him for another guy, who turned out to be an ass, and i realized what i did was wrong. i miss him a lot and i would do anything to have him back. I have talked to him about this before and he said it was not going to work out. since then we have been good friends, but now im starting to like him again, and he knows. he told me to call him on december 23rd when he gets new minutes on his phone so we can talk about it and i can tell him why i want him back so badly. he is afraid to get back together because he doesn't want me to break his heart again, and i swore on my life i wouldnt. because i won't. i just really miss him and like i dont know if he wants me back or not. im not afraid to call him, just afraid that its going to be a blunt "NO" answer. but why would he make me wait that long for a simple "NO"?

If anyone can help, it would be greatly appreciated. thank you! i give 5s if anyone helps me.

well, if he wants you to call him and talk to him about it then he obviously is not going to give you a blunt no answer. he probably does still like you and even though your scared to call him you have to because if you don't then he will think you didn't mean it and will make things even worse with him. When you do call him, make you sure you tell him how much you like him and why. Also, be sure to tell him that you made a huge mistake in leaving him and that you wish you never had. well, i hope this helps you.

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My EX boyfriend flirts with me. I Think becuase he walks me to my bus (which is odd) and he talks to me more now. We play fight and stuff. And I still like him ALOT. I Dont know what to do or say to him. Please dont say "Talk To Him About it" Thanks Smarts Will Be Reported!

I think he may be flirting with you because he still likes you. Just flirt back with him a lot and send him the message that you do still like him. He may figure it out and ask you out.

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Ok, so I kinda like this guy, and he's one of my friends. We aren't that close, but I talk to him when he's around (I couldn't just walk up and start talking to him, but that might be because I'm a bit anti-social). He asked me for my phone number once, but I didn't give it to him becuase I had absolutely no idea why he wanted it; I was in denial that he might have liked me. When he asked that, I did like him then, but I was a little paraniod, and somehow we dropped the subject. I probably gave him the wrong impression. I feel really stupid, and now we don't talk as much as we used to. Is there any way to fix this? Or should I just move on? (Please don't tell me that I'm stupid for doing this, I already am well aware of that)(He's also been dating a few people, which doesn't make me jealous, but I thought I should include that.)

You should start talking to him more often. Even if you are anti-social, just try to work past that and just walk up to him some time and talk to him. You not doing this may be sending him the message that you don't like him that much. Also, if ya'll get to talking enough, ask him for his phone number so ya'll can chat outside of school sometime and get together.

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ok i like this girl lets call her jade,she's really pretty but my best friend always flirts with her when i talk to her for instance i broke up with this girl like a month ago and he always flirted with her and now jade flirts with him to should i ask jade out or should i shutup him up cause he really's funny and i'm just as funny as him but he flirts and it makes me jealous,so should i ask her out or shutup him up.
signed,
jealous friend

well, I think you should flirt back. It's a competiton. But, don't take it too far casue no girl(or guy!!!) if worth fighting over with a friend. Because friends are there for you forever, gf/bf will just leave you. While flriting with her, look for signs and see if she flirts back. If so, then yes, ask her out. But, you might want to make sure its okay with your friend first, because he might like her and it could start a problem. I'm not saying that you shouldn't go out with her if he likes her, its his problem if he gets jealous. Just, let him know, because at least he will have a warning and maybe won't get as mad. Well, hope this helps you!
lalathepinkbunny

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my family is very religious. so when they found out that i had sex with my ex boyfriend a while back they went crazy. i promised that i wouldnt do it again, but now that i am seeing someone else it's getting harder and harder to say no. i'm only 17, i know thats young, but should i wait until i am married for my family? or should i just give in for myself?

Hun, if you would be waiting for just your family, then your morales/values are a little out of whack! I'm sorry if you think I'm being mean, beut its true. Sex is supposed to be something saved for marriage, its supposed to be between a husband and wife. It's very wrong to do it beforehand, ezpecially with all the risks. You could get an STD, or get pregnant. You may be thinking you can just use protection or take the pills, but there is no such thing as safe sex. Well, its really up to you. The right thing to do would be to wait, but it all comes down to what you think and want in the end.

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Ok, i like this guy, let's call him Jim. I flirt with him CONSTENTLY and i think he likes me too. But then i was talking to his friend and he said that Jim raped someone. I didn't believe him at first and i askeD Jim about it. First he said "i'd never do that!". So i got his friend to come over and he said "Yea you did, remember? On my couch last summer?" And Jim said "O YEA!"
I dont want to like a guy who raped a girl. Plz help me, i dont kno what to do!

He might just be teasing you. But if not, then you really ought to tell the police or something, ecase that's serious and he coudl do it someone else too, including you. There's nothing you can do about liking him, you can't control liking someone. It's your feelings and it just happens. The only thing you can do is try to move on and forget about him and maybe look for some one new to take your interests.

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Theres this guy. and hes my close friend and he tells me he likes me and thinks about me alot and loves my eyes.Then he goes out with my friend. But he apologized to me 7347 times and said hes goin out with her for the wrong reasons and that when we were with her the one time that all he could think was me and how he hurt me. And he still tells me he wants to be with me and that he likes me a lot and even told some of his friends he might break up with my "friend" n get with me. But then today on my advice page he asked me a question about her n how he still likes her n how he heard shes gonna break up with him n he doesnt want to ruin the relationship by doin it first if its not true. It hurt to read that and i dont want to ber mad at him because its not in my nature.idk if i should wait for him or should i jus move on?? please help when i ask him about it he says " ur paranoid i like u"

That has happened to me before too, that exact thing.What I finally realized is that he didn't really like me. So I just moved on. I know it sounds hard honey, but my friends helped me through it. I hope things work out for the best.

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Ok, well, let me start off by saying i'm a 7th grade girl. Today at lunch this kid named derek passed me a note and said it was from my friend brian. I took one of my girl freinds, tara, to the bathrooom and read the note. It was really orny and soft....it read, "Roses are read, Violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you......will you go out with me?". My friend tara started cracking up while i was numb and shocked from the note. I threw it in the trash and ignored brian the whole day. Now, me being quite popular (not rele popular, but popular as in knoing everyone in our grade and tlk to them and hang) and brian being shy and non-social. It's really weird and almost gross that he asked me out.....i rele don't know how to tell him that i don't want to go out with him at all so that he on't get embarrased and i won't get embarrased. Pleask tell me what i can write to him so he on't get hurt.
Thank-you so much for the help

I would not write him a note. Anyone could see it. Try calling him and telling him that you don't know him well enough to go out with him and that you just want to be friends so ya'll can get to know each other better. Hope im of help!!:)

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