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Hey guys! I'm Kaylie. I will be as straightforward, and honest as I possibly can. Feel free to ask me anything!
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Okay my husband is in the Navy. He wanted me to come out for Thanksgiving since he has Wednesday to Sunday off. Well I tried to get it off and I couldn't. I just feel like I didn't try hard enough to get that time off. I feel so horrible about it. We've only been married for about 3 months and I've seen him once. And he understands that it didn't work out. He gets to come for Christmas though. I just don't know how to stop feeling guilty.
I get that you would feel guilty, but I think that if he understands that you can't get those days off so you can see him, then you can't let it bother you. Everybody has a hard time getting certain days off. The most important thing is that even though you won't see him for Thanksgiving, you will see him on the most special holiday of the year.
I hope I helped. Good luck!
-Kaylie
if your x boyfriend kisses you months after we break p and says he wants you back what should i say?
I think that it all depends on you. How does the idea sound to you? Do you feel like you should give him another chance? Like AdviceMistress, how did it happen? Did he do something to you(that's something to consider)? What about you? Did you do anything to him? I'm not accusing you or him, but say for example you did do something to him, and he's willing to forgive and forget. If that's the case, then he sounds like a great guy.
Like I said earlier, it depends on you. Think of how you feel with him. Maybe that will help you make your decision.
i have now discovered that even though girls say they want genuinely nice guys they chase after assholes, who do nothing but treat them badly. but why do girls still do it.
I think the main thing is that girls are insecure about themselves. They say they want a nice guy, but they always go for the bad ones because they don't know how to get nice guys. I had a hard time with something like that, but then I realized that he wasn't the kind of guy I should be with, so I just let him go, and went to go find better guys. Hope I helped! :)
-Kaylie
i had to go away from the country so the guy who i was with he refuse to say goodbye to me......he just turn his back and stop talking to me....and i wonder why???
I agree with Athena. He didn't want to say goodbye because he really does care about you and doesn't want to see you go away. Just give it sometime, and give him a call when you are fully moved in. Good luck!!
-Kaylie
I'm not racist by any means, but the area we live in is very much a white place. My daughter, 18, has begun to see a young man who I believe is in his early 20's. He seem's nice enough, he works and treats her well but he is an immigrant from the Caribbean, and we all have heard the stories about these types of men, I don't mind her being friends with him but I think she should not be seeing him on an intimate level, how can I tell her to not be with him without her resenting me? I am currently the only person she has told within the family about their relationship and if others find out I'm afraid they will disown her.
It sounds to me that you need to give him a chance. I don't know if you've seen the two together, but I think that you should allow him to come and get to know the family, and hang out with them. You just might feel more comfortable once you actually get to know him. If you don't like him after you learn more about him, then you should let your daughter know how you feel about him. Not knowing how she'll respond toward that, just be there for her, and give her time to let that sink in.
Hope I helped. Good luck!
-Kaylie
So, there's this guy who's extremely attractive (he's a senior and I'm a sophmore) and he would always stare at me in the hallways. One day, he came up to me and told me he loves the way I dress. After that, he kept asking my friend about me, but he wouldn't say anything to me. He even told her to tell me to walk him to class. Then he asked her why I never speak or whatever. Whenever he would say hi to me, it'll be just awkward...to me atleast. He even asked my brother who I was when I walked passed them once (he didn't know that was my brother.) Does he like me or am I just over reacting?
It could be possible. When guys compliment girls, that usually means that they want to get to know you. If you like him, then go up to him, and start up a conversation with him. Even though guys are supposed to make the move, sometimes it's even better if the girls make the move. Guys like that. I hope this helped. Good luck!
-Kaylie
In your personal opinion, do you belive it's ok for a 13 year old girl who is trustworthy and gets excellent grade to have a boyfriend?
I think that if you focus on your grades more than your boyfriend, then it's ok.
Personally though, having a boyfriend at age 13 is not a good idea. I had a boyfriend at that age, and now, he just uses me, and I don't really care for him anymore. My suggestion to you, wait, until you're in High School because you will be so much happier if you do. I hope I helped. Feel free to inbox me if you need anything. :)
-Kaylie
15/m i'm in high school and i want to know what girls like in a guy. like what kind of traits, and also, how do i start a conversation with a girl i like. please help! :)
Honestly, when a guy wants to ask a girl out, the best thing is to be who he is. When a guy is acting like he's not, a girl can tell, and then they end up not liking the guy. I know from experience. I will also say that I really like it when guys are sensitive to girls and their feelings. Also, a sense of humor is always a plus.
As for starting up with a conversation, just start out by saying "Hi, how are you?" and just go from there.
Good luck, and I hope I helped.
-Kaylie
this guy at school i like asked me out. but i am not sure if he is kidding or not. should i say yes?
Of course!! It's always good when the guy asks the girl. But, I will say this...if he is kidding, you will find out soon enough. I do think that you should just trust what he says, and say yes. Good luck!
-Kaylie
Okay, so let's start by saying that I'm a 17 year old female and my main problem is that I've never been kissed before. I've never even had a boyfriend before nor have I been kissed and this worries me. I'm not socially awkward or anything, and I get along well with other guys, but apparently not on a romantic level?
What should I do? Should I stop worrying so much about this, because it really does bother me. :(
I'm 16, almost 17, and I've never been kissed either. Don't worry about it. I know that someday, when you will get kissed, it will be amazing.
As for guys, just be yourself. Flirt with them the way you would flirt with them. Hope I helped. Good luck!
-Kaylie
In past relationships I have been sexually abused, and hurt by them. I have met someone new and i have been single for 8 months and I feel that I am ready. I know for a fact he isn't going to hurt me because I want to be a police officer in the near future, and he graduates from the academy in november. He tells me I am beautiful, and cute, and smart. How do I keep myself from getting so caught up in the situation and falling too fast because I don't want to ruin this because of how i feel!
Because of past experiences, I suggest that you should take things slow with him, and explain to him why. Start out by holding hands and hugging. Get to know him really well because then you will know if he is who he says he is. Give it some time, and you will feel comfortable with him. Good luck!
-Kaylie
My boyfriend and I only see eachother once or twice a week. Sometimes, on those days I see him, he wants to hang out with his friends. He doesn't have many, but when we do hang out with some of them, I get very uncomfortable and I barely talk. I'm not even sure why. From my perspective, I think it's because we both come from different "worlds". ME: 18, just graduated high school with high honors, college plans, looking for a part-time job, have a similar group of friends that have the same goals as I do, not too much of a partier (very rare, but I do..). BOYFRIEND: 20, dropped out of college for now, has a job that pays decently, likes to party but doesn't that much anymore, smokes marijuana daily, and has a group of friends that do the same exact thing....put it this way, we're complete opposites...It's just that, whenever I'm around his friends, I feel so out of place. I always have since we started dating. I'm just not used to hanging around those type of people and it makes me feel like a misfit around them. So, when he mentions hanging out with them, I really don't want to :/ they talk about memories, marijuana, drinking, partying, etc. None of which I can relate to :/. We live so far away from eachother (which is why I don't see him often) so we have no mutual friends. And I can't just call up my friends to head over all of the time because it's an hour drive. Also, I would prefer just to hang out with my boyfriend when I see him, since I don't see him much. But, don't get me wrong, I always give him his "bro time", he can see his friends whenever he wants. He, in my opinion, should be able to just hang out with me and not NEED to be around his friends one/two days a week for a few hours. Please give any advice you guys can :/ thank you.
Snowboardbabe is right. Don't chase after the guy. Knowing from experience, it always goes down the drain. It's just not a good idea.
My aunt told me that opposites DON'T attract. Find someone who likes the same things as you. Find someone who cared enough to finish high school, go to college, find a job, and who actually want's to succeed in life. Please don't waste your time on a guy who would rather hang with his buds. Good luck!
-Kaylie
Well its not that i don't want to go out with him its that im like , worried of what might happen. But i guess i shouldn't focus on the bad and be happy with the good things...right?? I'm actually clueless :/
I totally understand. But don't feel like you have to chase him (does that make sense?) because chasing after a boy is not going to turn out well. I know from experience.
Like you said, don't focus on the bad things. If things turn out great, then you shouldn't be worried. :)
-Kaylie
Okay so yesturday i had a question about my dream that i had about my ex-boyfriend , who is no longer an ex-boyfriend as of today. Well my question is am i making the right decision? I mean i really like him and i want to go back out with him but the way i see it is that there are a couple ways that this can turn out to be. 1. we break and it ruins our friendship that we've had for 3 yrs. But if we break up it could make our relationship even stonger / will be closer to each other , after all we are bestfriends. Just please help , i really need some guidience.
Let me ask you this: does it feel right to be with him again? Because if it does, then you are ok. But if it doesn't, then you need to think about if you really do like him. Just keep going with him, and find out if it's really worth getting back together with him.
Good luck! Inbox me if you need anything. :)
-Kaylie
I'm 19 and my boyfriend's 21. We've been dating for 4 months. We live about an hour away from eachother and he works a lot so I only see him once or twice a week. The problem I have is I see him when he either has off from work or has time before/after work to hang out. But lately, I've been getting annoyed with him because he wants to hang out with his friend and drink or play video games or whatever they do. Last week, when I was with him, he tried to make me go over there with him. I dont drink, so it would be boring for me! We ended up getting into a fight and he wonders why I don't want to "hang out with people when I'm with him". He barely hangs out with any of my friends because we're usually ALWAYS out by where he lives. So, when we hang with his friends (which I don't mind, sometimes...), it's boring for me because my friends are so far away and I have no one to talk to except my boyfriend, who's always tied up with his friends when that happens. Whenever he comes to me, I always make sure it's just me and him. So, I guess my question is, is it so wrong, since I only see him once or twice a week, that when I do see him, I only want to hang out with him and him ONLY? He has so many chances to hang out with them. Is it wrong of me?
Thankyou..
No, it's not wrong. My suggestion to you is that if you want to spend time with your boyfriend and he wants to also hang with his friends, then go on a group date. Get a bunch of friends together and go have fun.
Who knows? Maybe after a couple of these, then maybe your boyfriend will want to spend time with you and only you. :)
Hope I helped! Good luck!
-Kaylie
ive had a huge crush on this guy all year. (i'm 13) his friends all told me to go out with him, and that he liked me a lot. in person we are such good friends, and i can be myself around him. during school we'd hug and be cute to eachother but its summer now and we've barely talked. i feel like if he liked me, he doesnt anymore. i miss him. i text him sometimes and he only answers when i ask him something. is that weird? when i just say hey he wont answer. i'm so confused. someone please tell me whats going on.
Well, it IS summer, so it's really hard to talk to your school friends. Don't let it bother you. But, if he did like you, I'm pretty sure he would find time to talk to you. But, then again, he could be on vacation, or he could just be busy. Ask him about it when school starts, and hopefully he'll give you a reasonable answer.
I really like this guy, and i wanna start flirting.... How do i not make it obvious that i'm flirting? Please help
To be honest, just be yourself. There isn't a guy who doesn't like it when a girl is herself. That's what starts so many relationships is people being themselves. Once that happens, it'll be totally worth it. Also, if a guy you like doesn't like the way you flirt with him, then it's his loss, and you could find a new guy to flirt with, and who will hopefully like you for you.
why does my boyfriend of 1 and half years always calls me,''dear''? he just rarely calls me my name probably because he's older than me. he's 45 and i'm 31. or is it just a terms of endearment? thank you guys.
Honestly, it's just a cute nickname that people give each other. It doesn't necessarily mean that he's cheating on you. It could just mean that he's really into you. Don't let it bother you, just go with it, and give him a cute nickname. Good luck!
There is this guy that I really like and I think he liked me back but he moved to Canada (I live in Australia), I thought he was moving in a month and I was trying to build up the nerve to tell him how I feel but he had already left. I cant stop thinking about him and I cry all the time over how much I miss him and how pathetic I was for not telling him how I feel. I don't know any of hie friends to ask for his email address and I have no way of talking to him. I miss him so much and cant stop thinking about him. I think I am in love with him. Please help!!!
I'm 13 and I'm a girl.
Don't take this the wrong way, but it is only a crush. It's not like you're not going to find someone else to like. Trust me, when I was 14, I thought I was in love, but the whole relationship whent down the drain, so don't let this guy's move ruin your life.
I can understand the whole "I can't stop thinking about him" thing. It's hard...I get it, but you have to find a way to stop thinking about him so much. My suggestion, call your friends, find time to hang out with them and just let your mind get away from all the pressures of your life.
This is why you have friends. They're there to help you with these certain situations. I hope I helped.
-Kaylie
I have a really big crush on this guy I know,
but the problem is one of my really close friends has a huge crush on him too.
She says she has liked him ever since she first saw him
but i have only started liking him two,three maybe four months ago.
Recently i have told her i like him too after telling her to go for it as a good friend
should do but she was upset that i liked him
so instead of saying i liked him a lot i only said i like him a little bit to comfort her,
she does not know i like him a big amount
and will be upset if i tell her this.
He and i are close friends and hang out alot but i am not sure if he has feelings for me.
If she knows i like him this much and i tell him how i feel and he like me back,
she will hate me and think i am stealing him, if he ever asks me out
i would say yes before asking her because i dont like to be mean by turning people down,
but then she would surely hate me but i would tell her he asked me
and see if she was ok.
She says before i ask him out or tell him how i feel i should consult with her
but she wouldn't consult with me because she thinks she likes him more then i do.
I think that a lot of girls can relate to that, and honestly, if your friend is going to hate you over a guy, then she's not really a good friend. If the guy you like asks you out, then go for it, but don't let your friend's attitude ruin it. If he asks your friend out, then you should support her like any true friend would do. Show her that it's ok to like the same guy, even if one of them is going out with him. Good luck!
- Kaylie