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I feel uncomfortable around his friends :/
My boyfriend and I only see eachother once or twice a week. Sometimes, on those days I see him, he wants to hang out with his friends. He doesn't have many, but when we do hang out with some of them, I get very uncomfortable and I barely talk. I'm not even sure why. From my perspective, I think it's because we both come from different "worlds". ME: 18, just graduated high school with high honors, college plans, looking for a part-time job, have a similar group of friends that have the same goals as I do, not too much of a partier (very rare, but I do..). BOYFRIEND: 20, dropped out of college for now, has a job that pays decently, likes to party but doesn't that much anymore, smokes marijuana daily, and has a group of friends that do the same exact thing....put it this way, we're complete opposites...It's just that, whenever I'm around his friends, I feel so out of place. I always have since we started dating. I'm just not used to hanging around those type of people and it makes me feel like a misfit around them. So, when he mentions hanging out with them, I really don't want to :/ they talk about memories, marijuana, drinking, partying, etc. None of which I can relate to :/. We live so far away from eachother (which is why I don't see him often) so we have no mutual friends. And I can't just call up my friends to head over all of the time because it's an hour drive. Also, I would prefer just to hang out with my boyfriend when I see him, since I don't see him much. But, don't get me wrong, I always give him his "bro time", he can see his friends whenever he wants. He, in my opinion, should be able to just hang out with me and not NEED to be around his friends one/two days a week for a few hours. Please give any advice you guys can :/ thank you.
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By what you have said, you are pretty much in a one sided relationship. You are going out the way to please him, you hang out with his friends and feel uncomfortable, and this is also how you feel about him. Please excuse me for saying this, but this relationship is bad for you. You go out your way to visit you and he never returns the favor. It is true that opposites attract but in this case, I doubt it. Your plans for life and his plans for life are completely different. You have your college career to care about and as for your boyfriend, he has his marijuana buddies and his job. He basically is treating you like one of his buddies except you don't smoke and have static plans for the future.
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Snowboardbabe is right. Don't chase after the guy. Knowing from experience, it always goes down the drain. It's just not a good idea.
My aunt told me that opposites DON'T attract. Find someone who likes the same things as you. Find someone who cared enough to finish high school, go to college, find a job, and who actually want's to succeed in life. Please don't waste your time on a guy who would rather hang with his buds. Good luck!
-Kaylie
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What do you know.. opposites attract eh.. but wow.. you sound like a great girl... graduated highschool with high honors..plans... goals... him? REALLY? Smack yourself with a tuna fish..GIRL! PLEASE... he is not worth ANY of your time.. you guys live apart... HE should be spending quality time with YOU... but obviously HIS ''BROS'' are more important then anything.. really? do you do drugs? it seems you don't , please don't waste your time.. you go to college and you will find someone SO SO SO much better.. trust me my advice is DONT talk to him again.. hes really going to lead you on the wrong road if your going to keep this up... how do you know what hes doing? you have no friends with his... you don't know... yeah he can see whenever he wants his friends.. but listen to yourself HE CHOOSES THEM OVER YOU... always wants to hang out with them... he doesn't want to hang out with just you... girl you need to look at yourself in the mirror.. this man should be running after you.. not you after him. Definatley talk to him about it or its going to haunt you.
Good luck
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