hello my name is Jacqui & i am 17 years old. i just finished my senior year in high school and right now i am studying the field of psychology. i plan to have to my first degree in psychology by the end of 2008. in high school i have studied many different courses of psychology including collge leveled so i am very experienced in helping people. i have gone through numerous hardenings in my life as well. im not perfect & i will only give the best advice that i can give to you. i am also hardworking & dedicated.
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ok... it's quite long so please just bear with me...
There is a guy (i will call him Fred) at my school... he's in one of my lessons two times a week. I really really like him. Very badly. I think about him all the time. 3 of my girl friends know i like him and 3 of my boy friends know i like him.
We talk mainly on msn. We say hello around school but not much more than that face to face. At the end of an msn conversation he will put x's. like about 10+, so i put x's back.
I added his friend to msn. His friend shall be called Bob. Bob didn't know who i was. I said Mary (not my real name)... and then he asked what colour hair etc and then realised i sat in front of him and the boy i like on a History trip. He asked if i was the one that wanted Fred's no. so i said i asked him for it yes. Then he said u fancy him. I didn't want to deny it but also didn't want to admit it, so i just put a thinking smilie. He then said you fancy FRED HAHAHAHA. The next day at school Bob grabbed my bag and said (so Fred could hear) Fred this girl fancies you. I didn't know what to do so just put on a confused face. He did it again that day.
The other day (Sunday if you're that interested), I saw him in his Dad's car. He saw me. When i went home and went on msn he said he'd seen me. I felt happy b'cause he'd noticed me.
Yesterday, i felt i had to tell Fred how i felt because it's starting to take over. So on msn i said, "right... can i tell you something?" he replied saying yep. I then got nervous and said, (a thinking smilie picture) i want 2. My friend then was downstairs so i said, "hang on Betty (also not her real name) is downstairs. brb.
When i came back he was no longer online... Now im confused...
1. How do you think he feels about me?
2. Do you think i should tell him i like him?
3. What else should i do?
BTW: I am 14, a girl, never had a boyfriend before. I know where fredlives and vice versa. Please help me im going insane (link)
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I will answer your questions one at a time
1. I think he likes you. You didn't say anything about him but if Bob was embarassing you like that and Fred didn't have any reaction thing might be is he feels the same way.
2 I think you should tell him how you feel.
3. When you tell him try not to blurt it all out at once. Be like I have known you for a while and we are close...Some where drop a line that you like him and you were wondering if he could give you a chance for you two to be an item together. Good Luck. XoJacXo
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I like this guy, hes my friend, and I wanna know if he likes me back. I wanna kind of ask him out, but not REALLY ask him out.. Like i wanna give him hints and see if maybe he will ask me out or something. I'm afraid that if he finds out I like him or if I ask him out and he rejects me, then things will be akward between us and our friendship will be different. And I couldn't stand it if I wasn't able to talk to him afterwards. So how do I ask him out.. or give him hints.. in a VERY subtle way, so that if he doesn't like me, it will seem like I never liked him in the first place? (link)
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Maybe ask a friend is he is interested in you. If he says yes drop hints in a very subtle way. If he responds to those hints then he's interested and it is a go ahead, if not then I suggest leaving it alone. It's obvious he only wants to be friends. XoJacXo
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Ok i am DAting this guy and i am like the kind of girl who likes to take things slow and build up are relationship first and on or third date hoe is already wanting to kiss me i dont want to hurt his feelings but i do want him do be my boyfriend _HELP_
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Talk to him. Telling him that you want to take things slow will let him know how to respect you! And if he's one of those guys who doesn't respect you or treat you right...DUMP HIM! XoJacXo
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my freind and i have been flirting so much and people would tell us oh why don't you two go out already! well i told him i liked him and he told me he wasn't ready for a gf right now and i'm kinda waiting and yet i'm kinda forgetting about him! we talk more then we have done in the past! does this mean something? (link)
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It might mean something. Try asking him again, maybe he was still hanging on to something last time you asked. You can never be too sure with guys, they are tricky in most cases. But you can try to do your best! Seems like you have more communication open with yourselves now too, and that's a good start for any new relationship. XoJacXo
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ok, i like this guy named bob. bob and i went out before but broke up. then theres collin, i went out with collin for a few weeks and then we decided that because my grades were suffering poorly and i was grounded for a very very long period of time that we would break up, plus we never got to see esch other. then the third guy, josh is very sweet but i don't like him. the reason i can't learn to like him is because he likes a different girl every week or two and he'll soon brag about going out with me if i say yes because everyone knows what kind of guy he is and doesnt want to go out with him. i know this isnt right but also, he is shorter than i am and considering im very short, i dont like that. i cant stand it! my question is: do i try to go for bobby again? since he's the one i like the most and miss him. do i go with collin again? i know he cares for me alot and would stay with me for a long time. or should i bite the bullet and go out with josh even though he is shorter than i am. ? please help me! (link)
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bob. He seems like the one that you can see alot, and you relate to him. Collin is not a good choice because you never seem him and communication is a key term is many relationships so I doubt that that particular boy would work. And I don't believe in going with someone whom you don't seem to be attracted too, in your case Josh, and he brags too much. I think your best with Bob. Good lucks. XoJacXo
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Theres this guy who've i've gotten really close to recently, and i'm kind of starting to like him. hes a 3 years older than me, but we realte to each other so well. i know this sounds cliche, but i reaaaally don't wanna ruin a friendship, since we can talk so easily with each other. should i leave it alone, or drop some hints and see if he catches on? (link)
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I think it is a good idea that you should drop a few hints and see if catches on. If he responds back to those hints, he's interested. If he doesn't and feels uncomfortable then I suggest leave it alone so you don't ruin the friendship and you both can still be good friends. Since you both relate to eachother and talk so easily I think it has a good chance of working out, if not there's more fishies in the sea. XoJacXo
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Ok, i like this guy, lets call him Ryan. And im positive that he likes me back. But i get really nervus around him. I'm not shy to call him but i sound all shaky when i talk because of the nervusness. (sp?) Should i ask him if he wants to go to a movie with me and my friend to get to know him better? (link)
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Oh yes defidently. If you ask him, it will let him know that you do like him and possibly break the ice so he can ask you to go somewhere next time. I think it is a brave move, and you should bring a friend to if your nervous and maybe ask him to bring a friend too. Hope you have a nice time. XoJacXo
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i have been going out with my boyfriend for a little while now.. we were really good friends before we started dating and he is so awesome. he lives down the street from me and comes over alot and my parents like him. but they are really overprotective so i havent told them that i am dating him yet. im really worried about what they would do because i dont want them to stop letting him come over and stuff.. i meet his parents the other day and they think im a good person & his mom want to take us to a movie. but im afraid that when she meets my mom she will tell my mom that i am datin her son. so i dont no if i should tell my parents or not? what do yall think? i will rate 5's
ps. my sister knows that we are goin out but is waiting for me to tell them. (link)
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I think you should tell your parents. Because if you don't and his mom does tell your mom it could be bad because you didn't tell them yourself. Your parents seem to like him a lot too so if you do go out why wouldn't it be ok. So I do think you should spill the beans. XoJaxXo
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I really like this boy and he says that he really likes me, however he has a girlfriend and doesn't want to hurt her by dumping her. He is always with me and he tells me that he cares and wants to be with me, but I don't want to get hurt. It hurts me enough to know that he has a girlfriend, I have never loved like this before. Everytime he kisses me I seem to melt. I want him so badly, but what about his gf. he is afraid and so am I? (link)
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That's not possible, he needs to make a decision and choose one of you. The more he holds this off the more hurt you and his current girfriend will be. And since he does have a gf this is clearly defined as "cheating." And you don't know if he will "cheat" on you if and when he does dump his gf. I think you to need to talk, tell him you are scared and don't think it is right to do it behind someone else's back. If he likes you as much as you say he does, he needs to tell his gf that he is letting go. Come the time she finds out about you, it's going to hurt him by not telling her and he is going to be heart broken and not ask you out. XoJacXo
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There's this guy at my school that I really like, and think I am in love with (I have thought this for YEARS). But I'm afraid to start anything with him because he has kind of been the center of many jokes between me and my friends, and he's not exactly the hottest guy on earth lol. He is kind of short, in fact, I think I'm taller than him. But he's kind of cute in a way and I really like his personality. I know I could probably get a hotter guy, but for some reason I feel like he is the only one I could be happy with. But I am afraid of what my friends will think if I tell them I like him. So what should I do? (link)
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Don't listen to what your friends say. Just listen to your heart, remember I am sure your have heard this a lot its not what is on the outside that counts its inside. He may not be a hottie but he is sweet and affectionate and if you reject him then some day down the road your gonna have a hot boyfriend who treats you like shit(sorry for the language) but its the truth. Then your gonna wish that you hadn't rejected this guy and your gonna hate yourself. So follow your instincts not your friends. XoJacXo
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Well i like 3 guys and they all like me back and i am friends with them all. Well also they are all sweet but guy #1 will say he loves me and then stare at other guys my friends don't like him.he is not affection Guy #2 is in 9th grade he is so funny and nice he has also called me once and we talked for 2 hours but her likes another girl in 11th grade.And we dated once and kissed on the lips once and held hands and he ALWAYS flirts with me and waits for me by my next class and i know he still likes me and he said he will go with me too the 8th grade dance thing. Then there is Guy #3 he is in 12th grade which is so sweet and nice and he says he loves me and gave me a hersey kiss because he cannot give me a real one. my friends don't like him and he also like other girls after he says that. he and guy #2 are frineds and he wait for me too. So what guy so i date or wait for or should i forget them all? i am so confused. PLEASE HELP (link)
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I think you should wait to see who makes the move. All three of them like you, it is just a matter of time on which one will ask you out. It is up to you which one you date because they all seem to have special qualities and totally dig you but it takes time and you just have to wait. For now, enjoy the company that you have and see what happenes for you in the future. Good Luck XoJacXo
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Okay... Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months... it will be 3 months on the 6th of january..! Well see my friend and her boyfriend have been going out for not even 1 month and they have already kissed (tongue) and held hands and more! Me and my boyfriend have kissed but it seems that we are never alone because of this girl that likes him... she is always there, she won't just leave me and him alone for just a little bit! What should i do? it is bothering me so much that my friends are afraid of me breaking up with my boyfriend over this girl always being there! (link)
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Tell her that she should back off and that your his girlfriend and you deserve some alone time with him. Go over his house or have him come over your to watch a movie with some popcorn. Or go out to dinner or a movie theater one night when she doesn't know you are going out together. About your friend, she is different that you and she has different morals. Maybe her and her boyfriend have a more deeper relationship than you and your boyfriend. Good luck hope everything works out
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ok well im 13/m and i have feelings for my friend. The problem is that she has been going out with her boyfriend for a long time (year and like a month) andso i've been trying to be there for her and be her friend but now her and her bf are going through some rough times and she doesn't think he likes her anymore. I want to make a move but think that might be taking advantage of her and her situation. Should i go for it? Is it taking advantage of her current situatuion? (link)
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No don't make a move just yet. Keep by her side thing is if they are going through some tough times, then their relationship will probably end then. Tell her that you will always be here for her and drop subtle hints from time to time, like if she's down flowers help. Soon she will realize what she has wanted was right next to her all along. *good luck* XoJacXo
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There is this guy i have liked for a while, but he thinks of me just as a best friend. When i see him do things with other girls i tend to get pretty jealous. He asks me for advice with girls he really likes sometimes, and that kind of hurts my feelings because i like him. I try to make that clear but he just doesn't seem to be getting it. We are both fourteen so i guess i'm not ready for something extremely serious, but i want to go out with him. what do i do? (link)
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Try telling him again that you do like him and that asking about other girls is not something he should be doing so throw on your million dollar smile and start flirting with him. Maybe get his number and call him. Fourteen is a young age especially for a relationship but its still ok, just as long as you keep it clean. If he doesn't take this into consideration and still asks you about girls chance is he doesn't like you and is not interested. *good luck* xoJacxo
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There is this guy at my school Rick who asked me out 2 years ago (and told me he loved me), and i rejected him. But now, I think I am in love with him. I have been in love with Rick from the moment I rejected him, and I don't know what to do about it. And if I go up to him and be like "Hey I love you" then that will just be really akward and he'll be like wtf? I talk to him at school sometimes, but never about dating or anything. It's just casual conversation. And the conversations usually only last about 2 minutes or so, because then we have to each start heading different ways for our next classes. (And I look forward to those 2 minutes every day.. they are the highlight of my day, they are what I wake up for.. hah i know that sounds corny but it's true!!) What can I say to Rick, but make it sound casual? And also, I'm not sure if he still likes me or not. Sometimes in the halls he will catch up to me and talk to me. But I can't tell if he likes me or not. Please help, I don't know what to do, but I know I need to do SOMETHING. Please don't delete this!! (link)
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I think one day you should go up to him and tell him that in middle school you didn't know if he was being serious when he told you that "he loved you" because you thought that middle school was a young age to be in love. During the day when you both have time or on the phone (but its better face to face for eye contact) you should tell him that you still like him, even after all these years, you just were too young in middle school but now since your older and more mature ( i hope) you can handle something like this. If he still likes you he will accept, then go out for lunch or go to a movie. It will bring you two a lot closer and a relationship will start to form again. Hope i helped :) xoJacxo
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Ok I asked a question last night....if you didn't read it you can go back and do that. Ok so I haven't tried talking to this guy because i'm kinda afraid of what i might hear. but he avoids me and supposedly he's heard stuff about me thats not true which could be the case to the break up! I was at his basketball game and it made me think about him even more....my friend thinks i should just move on for now and wait til later this year or something because she thinks were meant to be together....just wanted to know what you guys think? (link)
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I think you should confront him about it, and see if he has heard stuff about you. If he has explain to him that they are rumors and they are untrue. He will come around to where he will believe you, this is best because if he finds out that they are untrue then he won't avoid you any more and a relationship could start to form. I don't think hiding from what he might say is going to solve anything. Because if you hide from it, then the year is going to be over before you know it and things still wouldn't have changed. It's better to do it now than later. Hope i helped :) any other questions pop on in the inbox. *good luck* xoJacxo
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My best friend and I like the same guy. The thing is, he is dating my best friend. But she and he both know that he likes me also. He wants to be with both of us, but I don't want to hurt my best friend so I think I should back off. What should I do?? Thanks!
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First off the back I think that the guy is a jerk. Even though he's not dating two girls at the same time he wants to date both of you. In the end this could come out to be some serious dramam with you and your best friend. I don't necessairly think you should back off, you can still like him, but maybe you don't want to shove it in her face that you still have feelings for the guy, because in the end that could hurt your friendship. The best advice comes in the end, is this guy worth losing your best friend in the end. Hope i helped :) if you have a question pop on in the inbox. *good luck* xoJacxo
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ok my bf and i have been going out for 8 days and we went to the movies he didn't act like he was going to break up with me, but he has not called me today and he calls me everyday. what do i do? I have tried calling him and he didn't anwser on either his cell or home phone and i don't want to seem like an obessive gf so i don't want to call again what do i do? How long do you think i should wait b4 calling again? plz help i rate!!!! (link)
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Looks like he is really into you. If you tried to call him today there is no need to worry about it hun! Either he is not home or he is busy doing something maybe for school or a chore. If you tried calling and don't want to seem obsessive try calling once or twice every hour. Or maybe try again later that night when you know whatever he is doing he will probably be about done. No need to panic, and when you do get to talk to him, you'll feel like nothing ever happened at all. Any other questions pop on in the inbox *good luck* xoJacquixo
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ok my bf and i hav been going out for out for 8 days and we went to the movies he didnt act like he was going to break up with me but he has not called me today and he calls me everyday so what do i do i have tried calling him and he didnt anwser on either his cell or home phone and i dont want to seem like an obesive gf so i dont want to call again what do i do and how do you think i should wait b4 calling again plz help i rate!!!! (link)
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Looks like he is really into you. If you tried to call him today there is no need to worry about it hun! Either he is not home or he is busy doing something maybe for school or a chore. If you tried calling and don't want to seem obsessive try calling once or twice every hour. Or maybe try again later that night when you know whatever he is doing he will probably be about done. No need to panic, and when you do get to talk to him, you'll feel like nothing ever happened at all. Any other questions pop on in the inbox *good luck* xoJacquixo
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well there this guy at school and well he like likes me he ask me out and i thought i liked him and i told my sis that i did then my sister had told him i said yes then like i broke up with him then like he is trying to give me money and expensive gifts and well i havent excepted them but im confused what should i do. (link)
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I can totally relate to this kind of problem. If your confused maybe you should confront him. Tell him that you thought you liked him but you never quite gave into an answer yet and that your sister didn't know the real answer. If you start to think that maybe you do like him, then think about it, if this guy is giving you money and gifts after you broke up with them then maybe he wants you back or more importantly he wants to be with you. Everyone deserves a chance! xoxoJacqui
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